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    #3392
    That_Guy
    Registered Users Posts: 51,342 ✭✭✭✭That_Guy


    Question actually.

    Do many of ye ladies make the first move and message guys or do you wait for the guy to do it?


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    #3393
    smurfy89
    Closed Accounts Posts: 173 ✭✭smurfy89


    Ruben Long Historian wrote: »
    How do you know when someone is a boardsie, is there a secret code?

    If people put it into their interests you can go do the interests search thingy then! :)


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    #3394
    The_Morrigan
    Registered Users Posts: 9,368 ✭✭✭The_Morrigan


    That_Guy wrote: »
    Question actually.

    Do many of ye ladies make the first move and message guys or do you wait for the guy to do it?

    I often send mails to guys, most don't bother their hole replying though :rolleyes:


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    #3395
    Pyr0
    Registered Users Posts: 5,967 ✭✭✭Pyr0


    Ruben Long Historian wrote: »
    How do you know when someone is a boardsie, is there a secret code?

    You can feel the nerd oozing from the profile picture.


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    #3396
    That_Guy
    Registered Users Posts: 51,342 ✭✭✭✭That_Guy


    Pyr0 wrote: »
    You can feel the nerd oozing from the profile picture.

    12657296111596.jpg


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    #3397
    flatnn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 117 ✭✭flatnn


    Think I saw your profile there Smurfy, I'm now going to write you a big message, and I don't make this kind of effort for Just any girl...


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    #3398
    smurfy89
    Closed Accounts Posts: 173 ✭✭smurfy89


    That_Guy wrote: »
    Question actually.

    Do many of ye ladies make the first move and message guys or do you wait for the guy to do it?

    I would rarely send the first message to guys.
    Only if I the guys profile really stood out and I thought they were hot ;)
    Last guy I dated was from POF and I had messaged him first.. one of the very few I had messaged first :)


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    #3399
    101001
    Registered Users Posts: 1,071 ✭✭✭101001


    It took me three days but i finally did it... Every single post read and let me tell you... Of all my years on the internetz I have never had the privilege to meet (this should read: read posts from or by) some of the most honest, genuine and helpful folks.

    I laughed, I cried... I even think I fell in love.

    you all deserve the sincerest of thank yous.


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    #3400
    mrpink6789
    Registered Users Posts: 830 ✭✭✭mrpink6789


    I just joined POF on Sunday, second time I have been on it in the last couple of years. Surprised to have gotten a good few messages already, unfortunately not interested in any of the girls that have messaged me(yes I know I'm being a ****). Have messaged a good few girls and did the usual mak references to their profile, so far only 1 response!


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    #3401
    Pyr0
    Registered Users Posts: 5,967 ✭✭✭Pyr0


    I used to have a really creepy tag line for the lolz but decided to change it after a bit, y'know to "look mature" and all that.

    Funnily enough, I've had loads of people view my profile since I changed it to me in a Halloween outfit, obscuring my horrible disfigured face of course.


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    #3402
    stupidusername
    Closed Accounts Posts: 14,762 ✭✭✭✭stupidusername


    Ruben Long Historian wrote: »
    Fair play, might add somethinglike that myself :D

    What di ye make of these people who have had 7 year long relationships, baggage?

    it wouldn't make me think that at all. tbh the profiles with a longest of 1 year kinda puts me off a little. i'd still contact him but would be curious about it.
    That_Guy wrote: »
    Question actually.

    Do many of ye ladies make the first move and message guys or do you wait for the guy to do it?

    used to do it all the time. i'm so feckin picky I had to!
    101001 wrote: »
    I even think I fell in love.

    was it me? It was me, wasn't it? go on, you can say it. :cool:


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    #3403
    That_Guy
    Registered Users Posts: 51,342 ✭✭✭✭That_Guy


    101001 wrote: »
    It took me three days but i finally did it... Every single post read and let me tell you... Of all my years on the internetz I have never had the privilege to meet (this should read: read posts from or by) some of the most honest, genuine and helpful folks.

    I laughed, I cried... I even think I fell in love.

    you all deserve the sincerest of thank yous.

    Every post? Wow. I don't think I'd have that patience.


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    #3404
    ToniTuddle
    Registered Users Posts: 8,964 ✭✭✭ToniTuddle


    Pyr0 wrote: »
    Don't worry, I tend to talk complete b*llocks when I'm bored in work and actin' the arse.

    Yeah sure you're just a fuzzy teddy bear really! :pac:


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    #3405
    Pyr0
    Registered Users Posts: 5,967 ✭✭✭Pyr0


    ToniTuddle wrote: »
    Yeah sure you're just a fuzzy teddy bear really! :pac:

    *gasp* WHO TOLD YO..

    I mean, thank you..

    >_>


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    #3406
    101001
    Registered Users Posts: 1,071 ✭✭✭101001


    stupidusername wrote: »
    was it me? It was me, wasn't it? go on, you can say it. :cool:

    You're definitely up there. But its the love that dare not speak its name ;)
    That_Guy wrote: »
    Every post? Wow. I don't think I'd have that patience.

    Oh, so worth it. Its a bit frustrating when you want to chime in although it gets awesomely pantomimey shouting at the screen 'he's behhhhind you' 'thats not what he said'... but it always works out


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    #3407
    parker kent
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,289 ✭✭✭parker kent


    Speaking of every single post, I wonder how often the same points have been made? There is a thesis for somebody...start coding this thread!


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    #3408
    cyrusdvirus
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,752 ✭✭✭cyrusdvirus


    parker kent wrote: »
    Speaking of every single post, I wonder how often the same points have been made? There is a thesis for somebody...start coding this thread!


    back to the reply/don't reply then!! :D


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    #3409
    parker kent
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,289 ✭✭✭parker kent


    gatecrash wrote: »
    back to the reply/don't reply then!! :D

    Would be interesting though to track the trends throughout the thread. See what men say the most, see what women say the most (complain I imagine :pac:), track general grievances and happiness etc.


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    #3410
    cyrusdvirus
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,752 ✭✭✭cyrusdvirus


    parker kent wrote: »
    Would be interesting though to track the trends throughout the thread. See what men say the most, see what women say the most (complain I imagine :pac:), track general grievances and happiness etc.

    Well as the opinionated newbie to the thread i certainly can't be trusted to figure it out!!


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    #3411
    Misticles
    Registered Users Posts: 13,746 ✭✭✭✭Misticles


    gatecrash wrote: »
    Well as the opinionated newbie to the thread i certainly can't be trusted to figure it out!!

    general grievance seems to be: reponse method, lack of women in some areas, non responders :rolleyes:


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    #3412
    parker kent
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,289 ✭✭✭parker kent


    gatecrash wrote: »
    Well as the opinionated newbie to the thread i certainly can't be trusted to figure it out!!

    Would you call yourself a gatecrasher? Oh yeah...:pac: From memory I'd say these are the main issues:

    Men: Lack of responses, same girls always online, lack of options, all the girls are in Dublin, girls who say "dunno wot 2 say ere. just luv ta spend da wkend wiv me girlies lol"

    Women: Too many emails, too many sexual emails, one liners, shirtless men, copy & paste emails, nice guys lost in the amount of emails.

    But I just think threads like this would actually be useful to study properly. I'm letting my inner research nerd come out here!


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    #3413
    101001
    Registered Users Posts: 1,071 ✭✭✭101001


    Misticles wrote: »
    general grievance seems to be: reponse method, lack of women in some areas, non responders :rolleyes:

    Oh thats the biggy alright. Followed closely by 'best method of ensnaring member of opposite sex in my profile web'. That is a good one though


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    #3414
    kingtut
    Registered Users Posts: 6,487 ✭✭✭kingtut


    You know with there being so many of us boardsies on these dating sites I'm tempted to set up a facebook group for us to join, who knows how many couples will form :D

    Wait...no...that's a crap idea right :o forget it :o

    A couple developed from one of the meetups I organised and they recently had their first baby :o

    So anyone willing to admit that they came across me while browsing POF or OKCUPID ?


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    #3415
    The_Morrigan
    Registered Users Posts: 9,368 ✭✭✭The_Morrigan


    kingtut wrote: »
    You know with there being so many of us boardsies on these dating sites I'm tempted to set up a facebook group for us to join, who knows how many couples will form :D

    Wait...no...that's a crap idea right :o forget it :o

    A couple developed from one of the meetups I organised and they recently had their first baby :o

    So anyone willing to admit that they came across me while browsing POF or OKCUPID ?

    I think we have all stumbled across a few :D
    I keep gettin matched with boardsies lol


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    #3416
    FewFew
    Registered Users Posts: 12,746 ✭✭✭✭FewFew


    smurfy89 wrote: »
    So... decided today to go back on POF after a while and already getting annoyed at some of the people on it :o

    This one guy who sent me a message starts off by saying he never sends long messages but he wants to make an effort for me .... then followed by a big long message about himself.
    Now usually that would be nice, except for the fact that I have definitely gotten the exact same message at least twice before from this guy :rolleyes:

    Why do some people think it's ok to send copy and paste messages and not bother making an effort? :confused: Annoying!

    This makes me wonder about something... if somebody messages you more than once, is it just annoying? I don't mean message - no reply - message again... that's a bit desperate, but I mean if you message a girl, get no response, forget you messaged her and then came across her a few months later. Stupid sent mail doesn't save all your mails and it's hard to keep track, especially since I bookmark pages where I think the lady needs some more thought because she's especially interesting... but then I can't remember if I've actually messaged her. Damn. I bet that actually is irritating, even though they'd never be a copy&paste job. Gah!


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    #3417
    kingtut
    Registered Users Posts: 6,487 ✭✭✭kingtut


    The_Morrigan wrote: »
    I think we have all stumbled across a few :D
    I keep gettin matched with boardsies lol

    I only saw one boardsie on it but that is because she sent me a private message and I recognised her....I know what a lot of boardsies look like just have not spotted any yet apart from the one I mentioned..


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    #3418
    The_Morrigan
    Registered Users Posts: 9,368 ✭✭✭The_Morrigan


    kingtut wrote: »
    I only saw one boardsie on it but that is because she sent me a private message and I recognised her....I know what a lot of boardsies look like just have not spotted any yet apart from the one I mentioned..

    I think cos I'm in Dublin I also probably have a bigger scope on users


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    #3419
    smurfy89
    Closed Accounts Posts: 173 ✭✭smurfy89


    Fewcifur wrote: »
    This makes me wonder about something... if somebody messages you more than once, is it just annoying? I don't mean message - no reply - message again... that's a bit desperate, but I mean if you message a girl, get no response, forget you messaged her and then came across her a few months later. Stupid sent mail doesn't save all your mails and it's hard to keep track, especially since I bookmark pages where I think the lady needs some more thought because she's especially interesting... but then I can't remember if I've actually messaged her. Damn. I bet that actually is irritating, even though they'd never be a copy&paste job. Gah!

    No, don't think that's annoying. Especially seeing as some of the time I might read a message and might intend to reply to it but end up getting distracted and never come back to it. Am awful for that :o

    If you're messaging the same person more than 2 or 3 times in a month then I'd say you could give up though ;)

    There's one guy I've had block cuz he was sending messages every ten minutes asking me questions and asking why I wasn't replying :confused: .. I actually knew of this guy from girls in college and turns out his ex has a restraining order against him. He's an awful creep. Thankfully I haven't had to block too many people.. just yet anyway :pac:


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    #3420
    FewFew
    Registered Users Posts: 12,746 ✭✭✭✭FewFew


    smurfy89 wrote: »
    No, don't think that's annoying. Especially seeing as some of the time I might read a message and might intend to reply to it but end up getting distracted and never come back to it. Am awful for that :o

    If you're messaging the same person more than 2 or 3 times in a month then I'd say you could give up though ;)

    There's one guy I've had block cuz he was sending messages every ten minutes asking me questions and asking why I wasn't replying :confused: .. I actually knew of this guy from girls in college and turns out his ex has a restraining order against him. He's an awful creep. Thankfully I haven't had to block too many people.. just yet anyway :pac:

    Nah, I'd never deliberately message someone twice, I'd take the hint after the first no response.

    Wow, that guy does sound creepy, tis a good excuse to play the messaging game for a wee bit longer than the one week rule one of the lads had earlier. Surely a psycho would reveal themselves given enough time.


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    #3421
    smurfy89
    Closed Accounts Posts: 173 ✭✭smurfy89


    kingtut wrote: »
    You know with there being so many of us boardsies on these dating sites I'm tempted to set up a facebook group for us to join, who knows how many couples will form :D

    Wait...no...that's a crap idea right :o forget it :o

    A couple developed from one of the meetups I organised and they recently had their first baby :o

    So anyone willing to admit that they came across me while browsing POF or OKCUPID ?

    Would be a good idea in theory... but I know well I wouldn't want all my facebook friends seeing I had joined a dating group :P

    The last guy I went out with I met online. Only told one or two people about it.. wouldn't be very open about the whole internet dating thing :o


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