Advertisement
If you have a new account but are having problems posting or verifying your account, please email us on hello@boards.ie for help. Thanks :)
Hello all! Please ensure that you are posting a new thread or question in the appropriate forum. The Feedback forum is overwhelmed with questions that are having to be moved elsewhere. If you need help to verify your account contact hello@boards.ie

Online Dating

Options
1…119120122124125…330

Comments

  • Options
    #3632
    Denisejcc
    Registered Users Posts: 1,060 ✭✭✭Denisejcc


    Gillo wrote: »
    Great, whats your number, once weeks texts and then a date:cool:

    Ha ha , thats about right, one week of texts is fine, or even 2 !


  • Options
    #3633
    parker kent
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,289 ✭✭✭parker kent


    Denisejcc wrote: »
    Good, I was beginning to think nobody was getting my point :D

    I got your point! It's annoying and it happened me with a girl on OKC. It was actually pretty similar to your story. Was sort of like having a pen pal! Then one day she just randomly deleted her account. I presume she was dating other people and just liked to chat with me.


  • Options
    #3634
    Gillo
    Registered Users Posts: 5,566 ✭✭✭Gillo


    2 weeks you say??? see that brings you up the beers here, first date and you bring a crowd from here for back up- talk about first date nerves:eek:


  • Options
    #3635
    cyrusdvirus
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,752 ✭✭✭cyrusdvirus


    Denisejcc wrote: »
    Ha ha , thats about right, one week of texts is fine, or even 2 !

    depends.

    Normally I wouldn't like it to go that long.

    If there is a mutual interest, then go for it. Rather than invest too much time in something that may not have a future when you meet and know you are not matched


  • Options
    #3636
    Amalgam
    Registered Users Posts: 6,026 ✭✭✭Amalgam


    Sorry for this, I don't know where to ask, I recieved a voice message from m*ybefriends.c*m, congratulating me on joining their site, is this normal practice for that site?

    I've not used their services, ever, someone has obviously signed up and used my number as a contact detail.

    Do they send out a voice message on signing up?


  • Advertisement
  • Options
    #3637
    Denisejcc
    Registered Users Posts: 1,060 ✭✭✭Denisejcc


    Amalgam wrote: »
    Sorry for this, I don't know where to ask, I recieved a voice message from m*ybefriends.c*m, congratulating me on joining their site, is this normal practice for that site?

    I've not used their services, ever, someone has obviously signed up and used my number as a contact detail.

    Do they send out a voice message on signing up?

    I have only ever received emails from them, never a voicemail but I have never recorded my mobile number with them so that could be why


  • Options
    #3638
    cyrusdvirus
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,752 ✭✭✭cyrusdvirus


    wasn't ever a member, but AF only ever send out mails


  • Options
    #3639
    FewFew
    Registered Users Posts: 12,746 ✭✭✭✭FewFew


    Denisejcc wrote: »
    Awww thats so nice :o:D
    Sounds like a quote from a movie :P

    Ah I'm just feeling awfully creative and content after nyoming on Elephant&Castle chicken wings :)


  • Options
    #3640
    Denisejcc
    Registered Users Posts: 1,060 ✭✭✭Denisejcc


    Fewcifur wrote: »
    Ah I'm just feeling awfully creative and content after nyoming on Elephant&Castle chicken wings :)

    Their chicken wings rock! The only thing I actually like on the menu:D


  • Options
    #3641
    FewFew
    Registered Users Posts: 12,746 ✭✭✭✭FewFew


    Denisejcc wrote: »
    Their chicken wings rock! The only thing I actually like on the menu:D

    The menu is pretty amazing, but nothing can beat the joy of those wings. Damn.


  • Advertisement
  • Options
    #3642
    Denisejcc
    Registered Users Posts: 1,060 ✭✭✭Denisejcc


    Fewcifur wrote: »
    The menu is pretty amazing, but nothing can beat the joy of those wings. Damn.

    Im more of a chinese/thai fan myself, always my first choice!


  • Options
    #3643
    FewFew
    Registered Users Posts: 12,746 ✭✭✭✭FewFew


    Denisejcc wrote: »
    Im more of a chinese/thai fan myself, always my first choice!

    Well it's hard to say a bad thing about that choice, to be honest.


  • Options
    #3644
    epgc3fyqirnbsx
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,228 ✭✭✭epgc3fyqirnbsx


    I just went to send someone a message and got "such and such does not wish to talk to you and is not what you are looking for"

    Does this mean that I was blocked because I am certain I never even sent her a message!?...


  • Options
    #3645
    Denisejcc
    Registered Users Posts: 1,060 ✭✭✭Denisejcc


    Ruben Long Historian wrote: »
    I just went to send someone a message and got "such and such does not wish to talk to you and is not what you are looking for"

    Does this mean that I was blocked because I am certain I never even sent her a message!?...

    I dont know maybe its related to her choices at the end of her profile

    Mail Settings
    To send a message to XXXXXX you MUST meet the following criteria:
    Male (edit)
    Must not have messaged users looking for intimate encounters or sex. (edit)
    Must not be looking for Friendship
    Must not be looking for Activity Partner
    Must not do drugs
    Must not be married


  • Options
    #3646
    epgc3fyqirnbsx
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,228 ✭✭✭epgc3fyqirnbsx


    when that happens though, as it often does cos I smoke, it will tell you why


  • Options
    #3647
    FewFew
    Registered Users Posts: 12,746 ✭✭✭✭FewFew


    Denisejcc wrote: »
    Im more of a chinese/thai fan myself, always my first choice!

    This is also the point where, if this was PoF, the cheeky boy should ask out the pretty girl for Thai food.

    If only every site was as comfortable to be in as boards. :P


  • Options
    #3648
    cyrusdvirus
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,752 ✭✭✭cyrusdvirus


    Ruben Long Historian wrote: »
    I just went to send someone a message and got "such and such does not wish to talk to you and is not what you are looking for"

    Does this mean that I was blocked because I am certain I never even sent her a message!?...

    i got that last night. Figured out while i was looking at her profile that she saw her who's looking at me and blocked me!! lol


  • Options
    #3649
    Denisejcc
    Registered Users Posts: 1,060 ✭✭✭Denisejcc


    Fewcifur wrote: »
    This is also the point where, if this was PoF, the cheeky boy should ask out the pretty girl for Thai food.

    If only every site was as comfortable to be in as boards. :P

    No site is as comfortable and friendly as Boards unfortunately!


  • Options
    #3650
    epgc3fyqirnbsx
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,228 ✭✭✭epgc3fyqirnbsx


    gatecrash wrote: »
    i got that last night. Figured out while i was looking at her profile that she saw her who's looking at me and blocked me!! lol

    wouldn't be surprised you know, some princesses seem to get more of a kick out of rejecting than accepting :rolleyes:
    Little does she know I have land and a couple of bogs. Joke is on her!


  • Options
    #3651
    The_Morrigan
    Registered Users Posts: 9,368 ✭✭✭The_Morrigan


    Ruben Long Historian wrote: »
    wouldn't be surprised you know, some princesses seem to get more of a kick out of rejecting than accepting :rolleyes:
    Little does she know I have land and a couple of bogs. Joke is on her!


    Oh that's so funny :D


  • Advertisement
  • Options
    #3652
    FewFew
    Registered Users Posts: 12,746 ✭✭✭✭FewFew


    Denisejcc wrote: »
    No site is as comfortable and friendly as Boards unfortunately!

    True, it's like Cheers


  • Options
    #3653
    stupidusername
    Closed Accounts Posts: 14,762 ✭✭✭✭stupidusername


    Ruben Long Historian wrote: »
    I just went to send someone a message and got "such and such does not wish to talk to you and is not what you are looking for"

    Does this mean that I was blocked because I am certain I never even sent her a message!?...

    that's so weird. and arrogant.
    Denisejcc wrote: »
    I dont know maybe its related to her choices at the end of her profile

    Mail Settings
    To send a message to XXXXXX you MUST meet the following criteria:
    Male (edit)
    Must not have messaged users looking for intimate encounters or sex. (edit)
    Must not be looking for Friendship
    Must not be looking for Activity Partner
    Must not do drugs
    Must not be married

    ah, that's a good explanation.
    Ruben Long Historian wrote: »
    wouldn't be surprised you know, some princesses seem to get more of a kick out of rejecting than accepting :rolleyes:
    Little does she know I have land and a couple of bogs. Joke is on her!

    ah but do you have road frontage?


  • Options
    #3654
    cyrusdvirus
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,752 ✭✭✭cyrusdvirus


    I thought Slasher McGurk was scared stiff of work?
    And a man from Westmeath called Malone


  • Options
    #3655
    epgc3fyqirnbsx
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,228 ✭✭✭epgc3fyqirnbsx


    I have road frontage. 'Cept the aul man sold the site with the view. I also get a lot of kudos at work so if anyone likes kudos I have it in abundance

    Anyways, I think pof is a little like facebook. I ment a couple of girls a long while back and while I did meet one last weekend, I was logged in nearly every day. It's impossible not to nose about. And you kind of need to keep that in mind, that a lot of peole are doing likewise, unless you can really hit it off

    Ah, like anything, expect nothing and sure if something happens its a bonus


  • Options
    #3656
    parker kent
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,289 ✭✭✭parker kent


    Ruben Long Historian wrote: »
    I just went to send someone a message and got "such and such does not wish to talk to you and is not what you are looking for"

    Does this mean that I was blocked because I am certain I never even sent her a message!?...

    Nah you are just outside her criteria. She will have set up that she doesn't want to receive mail from certain categories of people. Or in other words, this:

    Denisejcc wrote: »
    I dont know maybe its related to her choices at the end of her profile

    Mail Settings
    To send a message to XXXXXX you MUST meet the following criteria:
    Male (edit)
    Must not have messaged users looking for intimate encounters or sex. (edit)
    Must not be looking for Friendship
    Must not be looking for Activity Partner
    Must not do drugs
    Must not be married


  • Options
    #3657
    Denisejcc
    Registered Users Posts: 1,060 ✭✭✭Denisejcc


    Night all its been fun, I will report back as soon as I have any sort of update on this tangled web of intrigue :D:D


  • Options
    #3658
    fee fi fo fum
    Registered Users Posts: 120 ✭✭fee fi fo fum


    gatecrash wrote: »
    Once upon a time i worked in a shopping centre on the northside. There was an absolutely STUNNING looking girl working in a hair salon in the centre. We are talking HOT HOT HOT.. until she opened her mouth to shout the full length of the main aisle one night when the place was closed and everyone was locking up

    MAAAAAATCHHHHEWWWWWW (i think the guys name was Matthew) COMEEEEAAA (come here)


    Your post just made my night. I'm howling with laughter. :D


  • Options
    #3659
    kuro2k
    Registered Users Posts: 571 ✭✭✭kuro2k


    newbie on pof, only signed up yesterday..... Whats the story with the "meet me" page?


  • Options
    #3660
    stargazer 68
    Registered Users Posts: 5,117 ✭✭✭stargazer 68


    kuro2k wrote: »
    newbie on pof, only signed up yesterday..... Whats the story with the "meet me" page?

    Wouldnt pay much attention to that page. They click on meet you and the never mail you!

    Logged on the this morning to find 2 messages.

    1 - Mmm your hot! This guy is in his 40's so you would think he could come up with something better than that!

    2 - Like your profile. Will be in the **** hotel today at 1pm. Meet me there - you won't be disappointed. This guy is almost 50!

    Seriously - and you wonder why we get fed up and dont reply to messages!! Im 43 by the way.
    :confused:


  • Advertisement
  • Options
    #3661
    Lon Dubh
    Registered Users Posts: 227 ✭✭Lon Dubh


    I have been following this thread for a while, and thanks to everyone for their contributions as I have picked up a lot from it. I am new to this online dating scene so have a question.

    Did anyone feel after their first date or two that it was almost like a job interview? That the other person had a list of boxes they wanted ticked, and if you didn't meet up to expectations you were going to be passed over?

    I am wondering to what extent the online dating scene lends itself to this on the first date, or whether this person is like this generally?

    Obviously it is sensible on the first date to try to get a sense of who the person is, their interests and general outlook on life. Obviously people need to weed out the weirdos. And with online dating the people are new to one another, so don't have background information in the way that they would if they met someone, say, at work or through friends, so there will be more questions. And this person has been on the online dating scene for a while so might be more directed in their approach than me.

    But I am left feeling that though initially I thought the date had gone very well, (we have had 2 dates in quick succession, and a third planned) after the dust has settled I am starting to wonder to what extent this sort of behaviour is part of this person's personality, or whether it is just part and parcel of the online dating scene? I will definitely go on a third, and maybe fourth, date before making my mind up, but I am having some niggling doubts which I did not have at first.

    I am wondering whether this person is too rigid in how they make choices (one thing seemed a bit ridiculous to me), and whether the person may be too (hastily) judgemental for my taste.

    I know it can be good that someone knows what they want, but on the other hand I think it is also good to be open to new experiences, new kinds of people, and to go with the flow to some extent. Having said that, without giving anything away, this person could have excluded me from the beginning for something which would bother a lot of people and he didn't, so he is not totally narrow minded or anything.

    I know no one can tell me what this specific person is like, and I will give this person a chance, but I was wondering how common this feeling of being under a spotlight on the first date was, and whether anyone had felt like this after the first date or two, but that it was fine after that? It doesn't help that I don't have a lot of dating experience in general (I am not young however) and have only dated people I knew beforehand, so I have nothing similar to compare this too.

    Thanks for any replies


This discussion has been closed.
Advertisement