Online Dating

magneticimpulse

Snow-Monkey wrote: »

your bashing men on pof... men who are this forum who having nothing but good intentions.

I dotn think theres a difference I havent read one Nice thing you've said about online dating....

It is a forum, it doesnt mean everybody has to have a nice thing to say about online dating. I am giving my honest opinion. There is no point having rose tinted glasses about the situation. Its not a case of one size fits all. This is about sharing good and bad experiences.

I have been online dating since 2002. Ive done paid and free dating sites. Ive spent in region €300 plus on the paid ones. I think at this stage I can safely say that if I am still single after 9 years online dating, and 100,000 winks later that it has not work. I think it is fair to share my experience with other people!!! Thats alot of emails...average 10 a day for 9 years....sometimes 100 depending on how often i use my profile.

In saying that I have been going clubbing/pub every weekend since 1998...so I can conclude both pub scene and online dating has not been fruitful experience. Just because you dont want to hear someones "negative" experience does not mean you have the right to tell them to stop sharing that experience.

Also doesnt mean that I am doing something wrong. I am an average person just like the next. I am a firm believer that you are more likely to meet a partner in work, studying same subject, same hobby, same interests. I think I would have a much higher success rate if I just wore a T-Shirt on a night out with "single and up for a mingle" or whatever.

magneticimpulse

Larianne wrote: »

I think for every weirdo/sleazy guy on POF there is equally the same amount of girl equivalents!

I've my photos private now so I don't get half the amount of mails I usually would get. Its a bit risky because some guys might not take interest due to having private pics and it means I have to contact them, but it does mean I'm more in control of it and it's definitely less hassle.

Maybe have someone check out your profile Magneticimpulse and how it's worded. It could be attracting a certain type of guy?!? I've never been sent a picture of a cock from users on PoF. :cool:

No unfortunately I gave up online dating at the beginning of this year. Like I said it has been unfruitful since 2002. So I have stopped taking it seriously. I am purely on it just for the when im bored/entertainment factor now.

magneticimpulse

Snow-Monkey wrote: »

:eek:


180 mails... do you like click block on the ones that you dont like ?


1 in 18 aint bad now


i cant get over that figure thats like insane :eek: do you have a rating system ?

it is very common as a new member to get this number of emails the 1st day you join. I was getting 100 emails a day for about 2 weeks.

G-Money

I'm on POF at the moment and I have to say it's been slim pickings since I re-joined a couple of weeks ago. I had one girl email me and we corresponded a bit but it fizzled out and I decided not to meet her.

I send the odd mail now and again when someone catches my eye but so many of the girls profiles are bland and boring, and almost a word for word copy of the previous member's profile. I think sometimes they put up a half decent pic and make no effort at the profile and sort of expect the suitors to be lining up. I guess on dating sites that works to a point in that girls will automatically get tons of messages purely because of their gender, but I often think those who put no effort into their profile are casting a fairly small net.

Larianne

magneticimpulse wrote: »

No unfortunately I gave up online dating at the beginning of this year. Like I said it has been unfruitful since 2002. So I have stopped taking it seriously. I am purely on it just for the when im bored factor now.

It can be annoying. I took a break from it there for awhile myself.

Not taking it seriously is the best thing though. Maybe you'll have better luck with that outlook!

Pembily

Larianne wrote: »

Not taking it seriously is the best thing though. Maybe you'll have better luck with that outlook!

Exactly - if you look for something you won't find it!

cyrusdvirus

As a matter of interest Magneticimpulse, what age are you?

PM if you don't want to reply on the forum.

Snowie

Pembily wrote: »

Exactly - if you look for something you won't find it!

tell me about it an envolope with 50 k in it would be sweat

jenny111111

Magnetic i'm really not trying to be offensive in saying this, but if you've been actively looking and single for so long do you not think it could be down to your approach and not that internet dating is so awful?

G-Money

jenny111111 wrote: »

I'm obviously just smokin hawwwt :rolleyes

nah I set up my profile but I only went online to check mails for a week or two and didnt reply to anyone so the mails just built up

Trying to avoid the temptation of PM'ing you for your POF username so I can have a nosey at it

magneticimpulse

jenny111111 wrote: »

Magnetic i'm really not trying to be offensive in saying this, but if you've been actively looking and single for so long do you not think it could be down to your approach and not that internet dating is so awful?

No I dont think it is down to my approach at all. I have also changed countries etc within that time and lived in places I knew were short term just for my course/career. The dates didnt work out for a number of reasons, I had nothing in common with the guy or the guy was not interested. Also it gets exhausting when people have 5 dates lined up one after the other. It turns out more to be an interview situation to be their other half. I find the real world people are less inclined to go through so many dates and approach dating in a nicer way. I find some online members can be on dating websites for years....you see the same faces male/female (im included)....people are going one from the next and not finding what they are looking for. The guys I went on dates with are still on POF/match.com.....so it works both ways!!!

When I look at my friends and see where they met their partner it was via work or the same university course. Two friends were successful with online dating, but that is out of about 400 friends. My friends are similar in personality, outlook to life as I am. It was just luck that they met their partner at work or university. The places I have worked/studied the guys were already in relationships.

jenny111111

G-Money wrote: »

Trying to avoid the temptation of PM'ing you for your POF username so I can have a nosey at it

That would shatter the dream though :cool:

magneticimpulse wrote: »

No I dont think it is down to my approach at all. I have also changed countries etc within that time and lived in places I knew were short term just for my course/career. The dates didnt work out for a number of reasons, I had nothing in common with the guy or the guy was not interested. Also it gets exhausting when people have 5 dates lined up one after the other. It turns out more to be an interview situation to be their other half. I find the real world people are less inclined to go through so many dates and approach dating in a nicer way. I find some online members can be on dating websites for years....you see the same faces male/female (im included)....people are going one from the next and not finding what they are looking for. The guys I went on dates with are still on POF/match.com.....so it works both ways!!!

When I look at my friends and see where they met their partner it was via work or the same university course. Two friends were successful with online dating, but that is out of about 400 friends. My friends are similar in personality, outlook to life as I am. It was just luck that they met their partner at work or university. The places I have worked/studied the guys were already in relationships.

Hmm to be honest I think you expect far too much of it, I've only met up with one person but it was nothing like an interview or anything and the dates were lovely, granted it didn't work out but I don't think that has anything to do with it being generated from a online dating site.


I'm sure all 400 of your friends haven't tried online dating, so that probably changes the success rate your perceiving. I think you have to take into account the way you set the tone, it's not just the men who are to blame for boring dates or dates not working out.

To be honest you seem quite bitter over the whole thing and I'd say you should take a break.

parker kent

Top tip: People online are actually the same species as those in the "real world" :pac:.

Some will like you, others will not. You will like some people, you will not like others. Chatting online is no different to opening conversation in a bar.

JamesBond2010

magneticimpulse wrote: »

No I dont think it is down to my approach at all. I have also changed countries etc within that time and lived in places I knew were short term just for my course/career. The dates didnt work out for a number of reasons, I had nothing in common with the guy or the guy was not interested. Also it gets exhausting when people have 5 dates lined up one after the other. It turns out more to be an interview situation to be their other half. I find the real world people are less inclined to go through so many dates and approach dating in a nicer way. I find some online members can be on dating websites for years....you see the same faces male/female (im included)....people are going one from the next and not finding what they are looking for. The guys I went on dates with are still on POF/match.com.....so it works both ways!!!

When I look at my friends and see where they met their partner it was via work or the same university course. Two friends were successful with online dating, but that is out of about 400 friends. My friends are similar in personality, outlook to life as I am. It was just luck that they met their partner at work or university. The places I have worked/studied the guys were already in relationships.

no one could be that unlucky not even me,
dont be so serious about it or u will get no where otherwise:):)

G-Money

I try not to text more than one girl at a time. Mostly as you can't really give people enough time to see if you really like them if you're constantly comparing and weighing them up against other people which I think is inevitable if you are contacting more than one at a time.

By all means, email whatever number you want, but I think it's better to meet up with one person at a time and don't meet others until you see what happens with that first person. Otherwise you run the risk of that whole "interview" feeling or it's just a conveyor belt of people, none of whom really get enough of your time.

Larianne

G-Money wrote: »

I try not to text more than one girl at a time. Mostly as you can't really give people enough time to see if you really like them if you're constantly comparing and weighing them up against other people which I think is inevitable if you are contacting more than one at a time.

By all means, email whatever number you want, but I think it's better to meet up with one person at a time and don't meet others until you see what happens with that first person. Otherwise you run the risk of that whole "interview" feeling or it's just a conveyor belt of people, none of whom really get enough of your time.

Very true!!

JamesBond2010

magneticimpulse

Just saw a Picture of you:eek::eek:. how are you still single!. you look like a very beautiful intelligent woman. you should have no problem in finding the right person.:):)

busyliving

JamesBond2010 wrote: »

magneticimpulse

Just saw a Picture of you:eek::eek:. how are you still single!. you look like a very beautiful intelligent woman. you should have no problem in finding the right person.:):)

Pics or GTFO:D

JamesBond2010

busyliving wrote: »

Pics or GTFO:D

the pics very nice.(being totally genuine:))

magneticimpulse

G-Money wrote: »

I try not to text more than one girl at a time. Mostly as you can't really give people enough time to see if you really like them if you're constantly comparing and weighing them up against other people which I think is inevitable if you are contacting more than one at a time.

By all means, email whatever number you want, but I think it's better to meet up with one person at a time and don't meet others until you see what happens with that first person. Otherwise you run the risk of that whole "interview" feeling or it's just a conveyor belt of people, none of whom really get enough of your time.

jenny111: Like I already said I have been on a break since March. It obviously has not changed my mind. Yes I am very bitter, I had too many horrible experiences from it.

The dates from match.com were in general nice. I just went on one date from POF and I have already gone through that experience on this thread. The date told me I should have worn a dress and shown more skin on the date and he told me I was ugly.

Another guy had 3 dates lined up the same week. He cooked me dinner at his house (i had a total of 3 dates with him). He told me the date on the Tuesday was horrible and the woman was like a man. I was Wednesday and then Thursday was another date he had lined up with another woman. He later texted to say she was way more beautiful than me.

The last guy I met from match.com wanted me to pooh in front of him on our date (again i mentioned that before on here)

The list goes on, I could write a book.

Yes I have been really unlucky! I think my guy friends see me as really independent etc and happy. Thats the way I come across to them. But I put on a brave face. I just give up really. Sure I have alot to offer, but that does not mean you will find a partner. I think people just forget I exist/I dont put myself out there more/too old and bitter because of so much bad luck??

busyliving

JamesBond2010 wrote: »

the pics very nice.(being totally genuine:))

That's why I'd like to see them;)

G-Money

Am amazed you're having so much trouble magnetic. I think you've just been incredibly unlucky.

JamesBond2010

magneticimpulse wrote: »

jenny111:



The last guy I met from match.com wanted me to pooh in front of him on our date (again i mentioned that before on here)

You Serious :eek::eek::eek: weirdo. (must look for that now)

jenny111111

busyliving wrote: »

That's why I'd like to see them;)

Search the pics thread in here....she is stunning.


So sorry to hear all your awful experiences magnetic, i'm sure someone will come along, you sound like a wonderful woman who's just had some awful experiences that have left a sour taste in your mouth. I really wish you the best!

Xios

magneticimpulse wrote: »

jenny111: Like I already said I have been on a break since March. It obviously has not changed my mind. Yes I am very bitter, I had too many horrible experiences from it.

The dates from match.com were in general nice. I just went on one date from POF and I have already gone through that experience on this thread. The date told me I should have worn a dress and shown more skin on the date and he told me I was ugly.

Another guy had 3 dates lined up the same week. He cooked me dinner at his house (i had a total of 3 dates with him). He told me the date on the Tuesday was horrible and the woman was like a man. I was Wednesday and then Thursday was another date he had lined up with another woman. He later texted to say she was way more beautiful than me.

The last guy I met from match.com wanted me to pooh in front of him on our date (again i mentioned that before on here)

The list goes on, I could write a book.

Yes I have been really unlucky! I think my guy friends see me as really independent etc and happy. Thats the way I come across to them. But I put on a brave face. I just give up really. Sure I have alot to offer, but that does not mean you will find a partner. I think people just forget I exist/I dont put myself out there more??

That's quite unfortunate, how about TGC gets you a warm fuzzy blanket, cup of hot chocolate and talks about world marvels, past experiences and the finer points of philosophy?

JamesBond2010

jenny111111 wrote: »

Search the pics thread in here....she is stunning.


So sorry to hear all your awful experiences magnetic, i'm sure someone will come along, you sound like a wonderful woman who's just had some awful experiences that have left a sour taste in your mouth. I really wish you the best!

you are def right there. some person will be v lucky to have her:)

magneticimpulse

JamesBond2010 wrote: »

you are def right there. some person will be v lucky to have her:)

I dont know if thats good or bad?? haha

Anyway, it doesnt just come down to looks. Thats why I think its better to meet people with similar interests/personality/work etc. This is very difficult to determine via text/emails/phone calls and short profile/photo. Its difficult to get rejection after a date no matter what you look like/who you are. The usual: your so nice but your just not for me reply, I am sure you will have loads of guys who would love to go out with you (thats always a kick in the stomach)....as it has not happened. (yeah yeah i know im told it will happen)

It can be also a negative thing being photogenic and looking good on paper. I find guys have maybe more expectations? I am not what they thought I would be in real life? I understand I do the same thing....it of course works both ways.

There are guy friends I would fancy in real life (they have girlfriends)...who I might not go for via profile/photo online. However in real life I get to know their personality more and look beyond their looks. The problem I suppose with Online dating I find people are very quick to judge each other after one date.

JamesBond2010

magneticimpulse wrote: »

I dont know if thats good or bad?? haha It a good thing(u look v beautiful & u sound very nice and smart) just my opinion

Anyway, it doesnt just come down to looks. Thats why I think its better to meet people with similar interests/personality/work etc. This is very difficult to determine via text/emails/phone calls and short profile/photo. Its difficult to get rejection after a date no matter what you look like/who you are. The usual: your so nice but your just not for me reply, I am sure you will have loads of guys who would love to go out with you (thats always a kick in the stomach)....as it has not happened. (yeah yeah i know im told it will happen)

It can be also a negative thing being photogenic and looking good on paper. I find guys have maybe more expectations? I am not what they thought I would be in real life? I understand I do the same thing....it of course works both ways.

There are guy friends I would fancy in real life (they have girlfriends)...who I might not go for via profile/photo online. However in real life I get to know their personality more and look beyond their looks. The problem I suppose with Online dating I find people are very quick to judge each other after one date.

thats Def true i seem to bond better in real life with people than online.

Little Miss Lady

Hey guys! Would any of you recommend Match.com.. Are the people on it more serious about dating as they have paid or is it all really the same as plenty of fish?

Thanks

G-Money

Little Miss Lady wrote: »

Hey guys! Would any of you recommend Match.com.. Are the people on it more serious about dating as they have paid or is it all really the same as plenty of fish?

Thanks

I would only recommend match if you wanted to email stuck up girls who never reply Seriously though, out of the different sites I've used over the years, that one has the most pretentiousness and snobbery about it.

Little Miss Lady

G-Money wrote: »

I would only recommend match if you wanted to email stuck up girls who never reply Seriously though, out of the different sites I've used over the years, that one has the most pretentiousness and snobbery about it.

What one would you recommend yourself then for to find an honest guy that is open to more than a bit of fun?

G-Money

Little Miss Lady wrote: »

What one would you recommend yourself then for to find an honest guy that is open to more than a bit of fun?

Well I'm on POF at the moment and I'm not just after a fling. I got an offer from AnotherFriend, 1 euro for 1 months membership but other than that, I wouldn't have signed up again for a while. MaybeFriends is ok too, but it seems to be the same girls on there most of the time.

JamesBond2010

G-Money wrote: »

Well I'm on POF at the moment and I'm not just after a fling. I got an offer from AnotherFriend, 1 euro for 1 months membership but other than that, I wouldn't have signed up again for a while. MaybeFriends is ok too, but it seems to be the same girls on there most of the time.

Ur right there it is the same old faces on that the whole time.

Little Miss Lady

G-Money wrote: »

Well I'm on POF at the moment and I'm not just after a fling. I got an offer from AnotherFriend, 1 euro for 1 months membership but other than that, I wouldn't have signed up again for a while. MaybeFriends is ok too, but it seems to be the same girls on there most of the time.

You sound nice from your posts here.
With a bit of luck I might find you on POF

ballsymchugh

Little Miss Lady wrote: »

You sound nice from your posts here.
With a bit of luck I might find you on POF

you know you can pm?!!

parker kent

Little Miss Lady wrote: »

What one would you recommend yourself then for to find an honest guy that is open to more than a bit of fun?

Now whilst I have never searched for an honest guy on it (:pac:), I've always found OKCupid to be the best site. POF gave me a headache and seemed like chav-central. Whereas OKC has always led to contact with some really nice, interesting girls.

JamesBond2010

parker kent wrote: »

Now whilst I have never searched for an honest guy on it (:pac:), I've always found OKCupid to be the best site. POF gave me a headache and seemed like chav-central. Whereas OKC has always led to contact with some really nice, interesting girls.

loads of inactive profiles on that i found

Samich

As some of you may have known I've been chatting to a girl I got chatting to from pof, who is also a boardsie, been chatting to her quite a lot recently, she's just great overall If I had to choose one word to describe her it would be cute, just cute un every way. She's really smart too, can spell and she's awfuuuuully sweet oh and she is so beautiful too I haven't met her yet but will hopefully get to meet her once she settles into college Oh and if you're reading this Megan give me some thanks :P

JamesBond2010

Samich wrote: »

As some of you may have known I've been chatting to a girl I got chatting to from pof, who is also a boardsie, been chatting to her quite a lot recently, she's just great overall If I had to choose one word to describe her it would be cute, just cute un every way. She's really smart too, can spell and she's awfuuuuully sweet oh and she is so beautiful too I haven't met her yet but will hopefully get to meet her once she settles into college Oh and if you're reading this Megan give me some thanks :P

Congrats bud Good luck to u mate:cool:

jenny111111

Samich I'm pretty sure you just scored yourself so many brownie points.



I've been chatting to a really interesting guy on pof tonight

Thinking of going back to okcupid with my tail between my legs though, I rather pretty much everything about it.

liz2

Had a fab 2nd date today

was finding it strange to be mailing someone for awhile and then finally meeting up..i was trying to get my head around seeing him in person but after the 2nd date i think its easier to be more familiar with them ( if im making any sense :rolleyes: )

just curious, has anyone else found this..

Larianne

Things seem to be going well for a few people in this thread. I like it!

(Won't say any more coz I don't want to jinx it!)

Awful_Bliss

Larianne wrote: »

Things seem to be going well for a few people in this thread. I like it!

(Won't say any more coz I don't want to jinx it!)

Just wish it'd go better for me on POF!

G-Money

Awful_Bliss wrote: »

Just wish it'd go better for me on POF!

+1

Larianne

Awful_Bliss wrote: »

Just wish it'd go better for me on POF!

G-Money wrote: »

+1

PM each other!! :pac:

G-Money

Larianne wrote: »

PM each other!! :pac:

Epic Fail Larianne, I'm disappointed in you - two males doesn't work, at least not for me :pac:

Larianne

G-Money wrote: »

Epic Fail Larianne, I'm disappointed in you - two males doesn't work, at least not for me :pac:

Wing men??

What's going wrong for you do you think? Are you getting many replies or the dates have been bad?? I think it's really luck of the draw to meet someone you click with. Very much like real life meetings.

Snowie

theres some very angry women on pof i never noticed untill today kinda funny

Total ranty like profiles its shocking...

never noticed it untill today

jenny111111

Snow-Monkey wrote: »

theres some very angry women on pof i never noticed untill today kinda funny

Total ranty like profiles its shocking...

never noticed it untill today

Angry how?




I'm stuck in a never ending "hey how are you xxxxxxxxxxoxisoicxoxioxoxoxx" conversation with someone....my own fault, I replied to a "hey xx" mail because he was a serious beaut.

G-Money

Often just no replies, no matter what you say. Short mail, long mail, funny, boring, cheeky, thoughtful, specific, or a mixture of everything and still nothing.

I found this site called Elite Dating, aimed at "successful" people. Read that it's a dating site for those who want to go out with rich people. I was tempted to sign up for the craic and pretend I was some wealthy guy to see what happened and to suss out the golddiggers