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    #512
    Dord
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,817 ✭✭✭✭Dord


    stupidusername wrote: »
    this is a constant argument i have with myself. apparently i come off like a bitch to an awful lot of people, and often get picked up wrong on boards and in general in written form.



    :( i soz

    I think it's the angry looking avatar. :p You need a happier one. :pac:


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    #513
    stupidusername
    Closed Accounts Posts: 14,762 ✭✭✭✭stupidusername


    Dord wrote: »
    I think it's the angry looking avatar. :p You need a happier one. :pac:

    she's not angry, she's sultry. :cool:


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    #514
    AnnyHallsal
    Registered Users Posts: 4,117 ✭✭✭AnnyHallsal


    Dord wrote: »
    I think it's the angry looking avatar. :p You need a happier one. :pac:

    Or a more 'laid back' one :D


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    #515
    Dord
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,817 ✭✭✭✭Dord


    stupidusername wrote: »
    she's not angry, she's sultry. :cool:

    Pssh... :p


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    #516
    cantdecide
    Registered Users Posts: 11,465 ✭✭✭✭cantdecide


    stupidusername wrote: »
    :D I like.

    anyway, I really really have to get round to deleting myself

    So how's that going for ya?


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    #517
    stupidusername
    Closed Accounts Posts: 14,762 ✭✭✭✭stupidusername


    cantdecide wrote: »
    So how's that going for ya?

    deleting myself? not too well. have to get around to messaging my regulars with my email address so i can do it then.

    pk, remind me!


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    #518
    cantdecide
    Registered Users Posts: 11,465 ✭✭✭✭cantdecide


    Galvasean wrote: »
    "I'm the most random person i know!"
    That one grates me.

    Bumped into an friendly acquaintence last night. She said 'come for a drink with me and my friends'. More and more of her friends and their friends arrived and I got separated from my friend.

    It got packed quickly and I got trapped sitting at a table of strangers :rolleyes: The girl sitting next to me turned and introduced herself and asked how I knew such and such. I said 'I actually don't know x but I'm here with y, do you know her?'

    "Oh you're random. Right!" Her friend then turned and asked my name. The first girl turned to her and said "Oh he's random" and that was the end of the conversation.

    If you're reading this- I hate you :D


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    #519
    Galvasean
    Registered Users Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    I'm always being called 'random'. It bugs me.
    "You went to the cinema on a Wednesday afternoon? that's SO random!"
    "You work in the sound department? that's SO random!"
    "You drink in gay bars but youre not gay? That's SO random!"
    "You like dinosaurs and Transformers? That's SO random!"
    It's not random! :mad:


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    #520
    stupidusername
    Closed Accounts Posts: 14,762 ✭✭✭✭stupidusername


    overall sean, you do sound a bit random, in fairness roish? :rolleyes:

    ooh just remembered, I had a dream about you the other night!! so random, right!? :D


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    #521
    Galvasean
    Registered Users Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    Last night I had a dream about movie where John Travolta played a Catholic priest whose goal in life was to bring light blue school uniforms to the masses. I think it was a musical.

    But dreams are stupid anyway.

    Back on topic (I think): Was out with a couple of mates lastnight. One of them was saying he was on match.ie (I think thet was the site) and they are organising a big speed dating meet up soon. So basically we're going to it. Never been to one before...


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    #522
    panda100
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,551 ✭✭✭panda100


    I have my first internet date ever tomorrow night. Kinda nervous,and scared it will be a bit awkward.Its my first date in a year or so, anyone have any tips....... :)


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    #523
    AnnyHallsal
    Registered Users Posts: 4,117 ✭✭✭AnnyHallsal


    panda100 wrote: »
    I have my first internet date ever tomorrow night. Kinda nervous,and scared it will be a bit awkward.Its my first date in a year or so, anyone have any tips....... :)

    This may be controversial ... not everyone will agree ... but I preferred to meet for a drink in the early(ish) evening as a couple of sips and nerves would be steadied. Others swear by coffee but a wee dram worked for me.

    Best of luck!


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    #524
    panda100
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,551 ✭✭✭panda100


    AnnyHallsal wrote: »
    This may be controversial ... not everyone will agree ... but I preferred to meet for a drink in the early(ish) evening as a couple of sips and nerves would be steadied. Others swear by coffee but a wee dram worked for me.

    Best of luck!

    Oh no il definitely be hitting the vino to calm the nerves.We're meeting in a pub so I say it will be your typical Irish first date boozing session.


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    #525
    caseyann
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    panda100 wrote: »
    I have my first internet date ever tomorrow night. Kinda nervous,and scared it will be a bit awkward.Its my first date in a year or so, anyone have any tips....... :)

    Just be your self and and dont drink like a fish :p Enjoy becareful and best of luck.:)


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    #526
    Galvasean
    Registered Users Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    Wouldn't be a fan of the 'drinking to calm the nerves' on a date. Kind of goes against the 'just be yourself' trail of thoght.


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    #527
    caseyann
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    Galvasean wrote: »
    Wouldn't be a fan of the 'drinking to calm the nerves' on a date. Kind of goes against the 'just be yourself' trail of thoght.

    One or two glasses wont do anything to their judgement or personality.However i dont believe drinking calms the nerves at all just gives false perception.


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    #528
    Galvasean
    Registered Users Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    caseyann wrote: »
    One or two glasses wont do anything to their judgement or personality.However i dont believe drinking calms the nerves at all just gives false perception.

    Me neither. When I did stand up comedy I was always told to have a drink or two beforehand to 'calm the nerves'. If anything it only seemed to worsen them. Alcohol seems to exaggerate whatever mood you're already in.


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    #529
    Mrmoe
    Registered Users Posts: 2,213 ✭✭✭Mrmoe


    Galvasean wrote: »
    Me neither. When I did stand up comedy I was always told to have a drink or two beforehand to 'calm the nerves'. If anything it only seemed to worsen them. Alcohol seems to exaggerate whatever mood you're already in.

    I don't think a couple of glasses of anything would have much effect, you wouldn't noticeable feel the difference at that stage, you just would be a bit more talkative which is good. Saying that, maybe better just to have a cup of tea instead.


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    #530
    stupidusername
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    panda get straight on after and tell us how it went!


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    #531
    magneticimpulse
    Registered Users Posts: 1,952 ✭✭✭magneticimpulse


    Had what I thought was an alright date the other night. Had been chatting on phone for about 1 month before hand. Didnt want to rush into anything on the date. However got the "Your really nice but no spark" reply the next day.

    Cant say its not knocked my whole perception of online dating. Gutted it didnt work out. Kinda had given up "serial dating" with mutiple guys in the same week and was actually making an effort with this one and concentrating on just one guy.

    Sucks when you dont give a crap, the date goes well...when you want something more, it flakes.


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    #532
    panda100
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,551 ✭✭✭panda100


    stupidusername wrote: »
    panda get straight on after and tell us how it went!

    It was without a doubt one of the best first date I was ever on. We were chatting for 6 hours and are totally on the same wavelength. His pictures were exactly like him, yet he was even cuter in real life!
    He said he'd been on two internet dates before me, but he knew within the first 10 minutes of meeting them that he wouldn't really be compatible with them. I knew within the first 30mins that he was someone I would definitely fancy and get on with.

    We are going to meet for dinner later on in the week, so I give okcupid a big thumbs up :)

    Oh and only had 3 drinks the whole evening. They did help steady the nerves but he was so easy to get on with that the drink wasn't that necessary!


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    #533
    Dord
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    Glad to hear it went well panda! :)

    magneticimpulse, I've had the same before... good dates where there's no spark for the other person. On the flipside I've been there before too.


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    #534
    Snowie
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    I've just been browsing the thread about drinking.
    On a first date.

    That's like hell to me, I recently went on a date that and I was just so not feeling it (wish I had canceled it) so she wouldn't of meet my bumbling, mumbling mess plus i liked her she was creative... any way.

    I'm akinesthetic learner and genrally if I'm doing anything, I just shake my feet figit with stuff. But I find sitting in a bar drinking is not very nice, I wouild much rather get a coffee and walk around the grounds of Trinity and kinda relax and then afterwords maybe go for a drink..

    I wish I had done that in my last date :/
    but hey you live an learn :)


    But one thing id like to say is, dont ask us to much about our past it totally knocks me :o:pac:


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    #535
    convert
    Registered Users Posts: 9,338 ✭✭✭convert


    magneticimpulse wrote: »

    Sucks when you dont give a crap, the date goes well...when you want something more, it flakes.

    Know exactly what you mean. I recently met a guy who I thought was nice enough, but didn't think much more about it. We texted for a bit, and then left things, and then decided we'd 'give it a chance' and see what happened. We got on really well when we were together, but we both weren't sure whether the other was the 'ideal' match so it was decided that we should leave things. Really, really annoying as we both liked each other... :(


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    #536
    magneticimpulse
    Registered Users Posts: 1,952 ✭✭✭magneticimpulse


    convert wrote: »
    Know exactly what you mean. I recently met a guy who I thought was nice enough, but didn't think much more about it. We texted for a bit, and then left things, and then decided we'd 'give it a chance' and see what happened. We got on really well when we were together, but we both weren't sure whether the other was the 'ideal' match so it was decided that we should leave things. Really, really annoying as we both liked each other... :(

    Yeah in your case it seemed more mutual choice not to take it further.

    In my case it was totally unexpected. Ive chatted less/got on less well with other guys in the past who wanted to marry me/spent rest of their lives with me then i did with this guy. As in we seemed to get on extremely well. So it came as a complete shock that he completely changed his mind. Seemed so bizarre, as he had been ringing me nearly everyday and telling me how attractive i was in my photos. Not like i turned out to be 50 stone...the photos were taken last week.

    Not only that he said: Well I wasnt attracted to you, because the clothes you were wearing were not very sexy and you didnt flirt enough!!!!!!! Sorry but what was he expecting on the date? A porn star? We were in a pub...i was hardly going to be wearing only a belt in a pub! The cheek! What happened to just being polite and letting things fizzle out? This guy will definitely be single forever with his attitude.

    Worse thing is, all my friends have been asking me how it went as they were really excited. When i tell them the story they cant get over how a bloke could be so rude after a 1st date (and these are guy friends who are disgusted).


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    #537
    convert
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    magneticimpulse wrote: »
    Yeah in your case it seemed more mutual choice not to take it further.

    Well, yes and no. He said I probably wasn't the 'one' for him, and I knew him well enough at that point to know that disagreeing with him wouldn't be of any benefit. Still a bit p***ed off, but given that I saw mood swings and knee-jerk reactions (which I figure his decision to end it stemmed from), maybe it's just as well and I had a lucky escape... Still ended up getting slightly burnt for the first time in a very, very long time. Though could have been much worse, I suppose.


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    #538
    Dord
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,817 ✭✭✭✭Dord


    I've noticed a few profiles on POF where the women are being misleading with regards to their height. Bad form tbh! :mad:


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    #539
    mood
    Registered Users Posts: 4,264 ✭✭✭mood


    Dord wrote: »
    I've noticed a few profiles on POF where the women are being misleading with regards to their height. Bad form tbh! :mad:

    I would think that some men lie about their height as well!


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    #540
    stupidusername
    Closed Accounts Posts: 14,762 ✭✭✭✭stupidusername


    yep they sure do! here's a link to some stuff okcupid has done about lies people tell


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    #541
    Dord
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,817 ✭✭✭✭Dord


    Yeah, I don't doubt that some people lie about their height by a few inches. One recent case was 8 inches... seriously? changed it when i mentioned it.

    I've had a few people tell me IRL that I must be around 6' 7" or something as they're x height. I know what height I am and don't feel the need to lie about it.


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