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    #5852
    El_Drago
    Closed Accounts Posts: 462 ✭✭El_Drago


    I've been on the online dating scene a few months now and I've found it to be hit and miss.It's very inconsistent,like sometimes I'll get no messages for weeks and other times I'll get several at once.Every now and then you come across a gem but more often than not it's some who either speaks in text lanaguage or sends a "Hi,how are you?" opener.


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    #5853
    billy the squid
    Registered Users Posts: 12,811 ✭✭✭✭billy the squid


    I got a nice meeting from someone that said hi. Will reply to a hi


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    #5854
    cyrusdvirus
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,752 ✭✭✭cyrusdvirus


    Damn damn damn damn damn............

    Got a mail from a girl on A.F., one who has been giving me no info at all, one who I've been mailing more out of boredom than anything else. Nothing serious or anything like that, so I'm not bothered. BUT while I was online, replying to her I noticed a newbie that had viewed my profile so I had a looksee at hers and decided to mail her.

    Now I'm sitting on tenterhooks cos I noticed she also sent a wink in my direction.

    Dammit, I wanted a few more weeks off!!


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    #5855
    discus
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,049 ✭✭✭discus


    Yous have to start being picky lads. Don't just hop at any girl who looks your direction. Maybe even brush of a few advances. Nothing puts the ego to new heights like politely dismissing a few ladies advances*.

    *Works on nights out, too. Brush off a few young wans who are obviously just playing with lads heads. See how it feels to play their game!


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    #5856
    That_Guy
    Registered Users Posts: 51,342 ✭✭✭✭That_Guy


    discus wrote: »
    Yous have to start being picky lads. Don't just hop at any girl who looks your direction. Maybe even brush of a few advances. Nothing puts the ego to new heights like politely dismissing a few ladies advances*.

    *Works on nights out, too. Brush off a few young wans who are obviously just playing with lads heads. See how it feels to play their game!

    I'm sorry mate, but this is terrible advice.

    Not all girls/guys play games.


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    #5857
    cyrusdvirus
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,752 ✭✭✭cyrusdvirus


    Ah I'm just annoyed that I logged back in and am semi hopeful. Cos she is kinda cute!


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    #5858
    Autosport
    Registered Users Posts: 22,262 ✭✭✭✭Autosport


    gatecrash wrote: »
    Ah I'm just annoyed that I logged back in and am semi hopeful. Cos she is kinda cute!

    Fingers crossed for ya hun :)

    i'm the one taking a break from it all now :rolleyes:


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    #5859
    2 Miles From Narnia
    Closed Accounts Posts: 188 ✭✭2 Miles From Narnia


    I've only a few days left on my match subscription, and have cancelled the renewal thing in advance. Reckon I should email every guy indiscriminately and go out in a blaze of glory. 30 year age gaps? Live in another country? No problem to me this week! :pac:


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    #5860
    discus
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,049 ✭✭✭discus


    That_Guy wrote: »
    I'm sorry mate, but this is terrible advice.

    Not all girls/guys play games.

    It's not a game.

    People smell desperation better than dogs smell fear. Lets face it, the number of girls you approach =/= the number of potential women you could have a successful relationship. It doesn't even equal the number of potential people you could get along with after an hours' company.

    So, cut the future deadwood. Unless you are head over heels about a girl, let her float on bye. Too many people try to force it, as if one can take some "dating tips" and "relationship advice" and make it happen with anyone. Hence the constant fizzling and such.

    I'll concede this: It's not good to shoot down people to boost the ego. That was slightly tongue in cheek.


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    #5861
    2 Miles From Narnia
    Closed Accounts Posts: 188 ✭✭2 Miles From Narnia


    discus wrote: »
    Unless you are head over heels about a girl, let her float on bye. Too many people try to force it

    On the other hand, it just genuinely takes some people longer to make up their mind if they like someone or not - I've gone on a few dates before just to see how I felt, and in one case decided they weren't for me at all, and in another grew to like the guy quite a bit.


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    #5862
    cyrusdvirus
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,752 ✭✭✭cyrusdvirus


    2 Miles From Narnia wrote: »
    I've only a few days left on my match subscription, and have cancelled the renewal thing in advance. Reckon I should email every guy indiscriminately and go out in a blaze of glory. 30 year age gaps? Live in another country? No problem to me this week! :pac:

    Hi...... How YOU Doing!!

    Seriously hoping you are neither 5 nor 65, by the way!! :)


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    #5863
    discus
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,049 ✭✭✭discus


    2 Miles From Narnia wrote: »
    On the other hand, it just genuinely takes some people longer to make up their mind if they like someone or not - I've gone on a few dates before just to see how I felt, and in one case decided they weren't for me at all, and in another grew to like the guy quite a bit.

    Really?

    I'm going to go all happy luvy duvy here, but does/did no one else get that instant "wow, she's amazing", can't-stop-looking-at-her, butterflies type thing when you find someone that yer mad about? The instantaneous hit to the brain that makes you want to spend every second with her?


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    #5864
    Panthro
    Registered Users Posts: 14,803 ✭✭✭✭Panthro


    discus wrote: »
    It's not a game.

    People smell desperation better than dogs smell fear.
    Sounds like a bit of a generalization in my opinion.
    How many lads can "smell desperation" from girls looking to hook up or whatever the intentions are on any given night out? It would be a handy 6th sense to have for manys a lad I'm sure, but I don't/can't speak for anyone other than myself here but I sure as hell can't tell the girls that are out there desperately looking to meet their "one and only" or whatever from the ones that are not desperate.

    For what its worth, I don't think girls have this 6th sense ability to sus out from which lads that approach them who the desperate ones are from those who are not either, a broad generalization here on my part would be to suggest that on a typical night out, a girl will have more lads approach them than a guy would have girls approach them, a girl's ability to sus out which lads are chancing their arm from those who are more genuine might be slightly greater to a guy's ability. Broadly speaking of course.


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    #5865
    That_Guy
    Registered Users Posts: 51,342 ✭✭✭✭That_Guy


    The enchilda's thing works again. :)

    Having a conversation with a girl who say her enchilada's are better than mine. Have her convinced that I was entered into a world enchilada cooking competition and that I won it.

    I don't like starting off a conversation on a web of lies and deceit but this is just golden. :pac:


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    #5866
    2 Miles From Narnia
    Closed Accounts Posts: 188 ✭✭2 Miles From Narnia


    gatecrash wrote: »
    Hi...... How YOU Doing!!

    Seriously hoping you are neither 5 nor 65, by the way!! :)

    5 and 3/4 actually! And if my parents find out I've hacked through their child-safe password protector thingies, I'm in big trouble. Although they might be pleased I can spell big words. :D


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    #5867
    2 Miles From Narnia
    Closed Accounts Posts: 188 ✭✭2 Miles From Narnia


    discus wrote: »
    Really?

    I'm going to go all happy luvy duvy here, but does/did no one else get that instant "wow, she's amazing", can't-stop-looking-at-her, butterflies type thing when you find someone that yer mad about? The instantaneous hit to the brain that makes you want to spend every second with her?

    It sounds nice in theory, but I tend to be a slow burner on the whole lurve thing. Lust, on the other hand... ;)


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    #5868
    billy the squid
    Registered Users Posts: 12,811 ✭✭✭✭billy the squid


    2 Miles From Narnia wrote: »
    I've only a few days left on my match subscription, and have cancelled the renewal thing in advance. Reckon I should email every guy indiscriminately and go out in a blaze of glory. 30 year age gaps? Live in another country? No problem to me this week! :pac:

    those feckers at match,com don't get me started. charged me for a second month I never wanted, am supposed to get a refund but not holding my breath.

    edit: took photos down. although having blocked half of what was on both sites I am banking on something new to come along.


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    #5869
    cyrusdvirus
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,752 ✭✭✭cyrusdvirus


    2 Miles From Narnia wrote: »
    gatecrash wrote: »
    Hi...... How YOU Doing!!

    Seriously hoping you are neither 5 nor 65, by the way!! :)

    5 and 3/4 actually! And if my parents find out I've hacked through their child-safe password protector thingies, I'm in big trouble. Although they might be pleased I can spell big words. :D

    You could be using spell check!!

    I'd better stop contacting you if you're only a kid though........ Don't want to be accused of being a paedo bear carrier, or of being in the ccarholic church!! ;-)


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    #5870
    kingtut
    Registered Users Posts: 6,487 ✭✭✭kingtut


    Just got another message that just says "hi" and with a subject of "Insert your subject line here" ........... why do I even bother if the girls who contact me don't :confused:

    Maybe it's time to delete my account :mad:


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    #5871
    2 Miles From Narnia
    Closed Accounts Posts: 188 ✭✭2 Miles From Narnia


    gatecrash wrote: »
    You could be using spell check!!

    I'd better stop contacting you if you're only a kid though........ Don't want to be accused of being a paedo bear carrier, or of being in the ccarholic church!! ;-)


    My birth cert says '82, so I'm pretty sure that makes me 5 and 3/4, right? Althought there is a slight chance that my numeracy isn't as good as my spelling...


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    #5872
    cyrusdvirus
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,752 ✭✭✭cyrusdvirus


    2 Miles From Narnia wrote: »

    My birth cert says '82, so I'm pretty sure that makes me 5 and 3/4, right? Althought there is a slight chance that my numeracy isn't as good as my spelling...


    Oh I dunno, I only learned to count past 10 when my sock got a hole in it!


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    #5873
    2 Miles From Narnia
    Closed Accounts Posts: 188 ✭✭2 Miles From Narnia


    New online dating tactic: log on, forget you're still online and wander off to read in the bath for a while, and come back to new emails from promising gentlemen.

    It really does seem to be easier to be female. :pac:


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    #5874
    El_Drago
    Closed Accounts Posts: 462 ✭✭El_Drago


    2 Miles From Narnia wrote: »
    New online dating tactic: log on, forget you're still online and wander off to read in the bath for a while, and come back to new emails from promising gentlemen.

    It really does seem to be easier to be female. :pac:


    If only it was as easy for the guy as well the world would be such a better place :P
    Have any of these so-called promising gentlemen managed to captivate your attention yet?


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    #5875
    2 Miles From Narnia
    Closed Accounts Posts: 188 ✭✭2 Miles From Narnia


    2 Miles From Narnia wrote: »
    New online dating tactic: log on, forget you're still online and wander off to read in the bath for a while, and come back to new emails from promising gentlemen.

    It really does seem to be easier to be female. :pac:


    I realise that sounds a bit show-offy, I forgot to mention that I have an excellent track record of scaring them all away again with my email replies! :o


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    #5876
    2 Miles From Narnia
    Closed Accounts Posts: 188 ✭✭2 Miles From Narnia


    El_Drago wrote: »
    Have any of these so-called promising gentlemen managed to captivate your attention yet?

    I'm not one of those mean people who ignores emails, if someone has put any bit of effort into a first email I always reply. Tis only fair!


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    #5877
    Misticles
    Registered Users Posts: 13,746 ✭✭✭✭Misticles


    2 Miles From Narnia wrote: »
    I'm not one of those mean people who ignores emails, if someone has put any bit of effort into a first email I always reply. Tis only fair!

    I thin it's unfair to class people who choose not to reply mean! It's at their own discretion just like choosing to mail someone!


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    #5878
    MudSkipper
    Registered Users Posts: 556 ✭✭✭MudSkipper


    I must be a mean one then.... message received 'Hi like your profile'........ and their own profile is one line long, no pic....... errr what am i even suppposed to write back?? Throw me a bone at least........ gah!


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    #5879
    cyrusdvirus
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,752 ✭✭✭cyrusdvirus


    MudSkipper wrote: »
    I must be a mean one then.... message received 'Hi like your profile'........ and their own profile is one line long, no pic....... errr what am i even suppposed to write back?? Throw me a bone at least........ gah!

    To be honest, i don't think anyone would reply to that.

    And i'm firmly in the rsvp camp!!


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    #5880
    Misticles
    Registered Users Posts: 13,746 ✭✭✭✭Misticles


    MudSkipper wrote: »
    I must be a mean one then.... message received 'Hi like your profile'........ and their own profile is one line long, no pic....... errr what am i even suppposed to write back?? Throw me a bone at least........ gah!

    I wouldn't reply to that either! I only reply to mails that I genuinely think are good, they have a good profile and would be interested in chatting to them.

    The debate about replying/not replying has been done to death in this thread.

    People who don't reply are not mean!


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    #5881
    cyrusdvirus
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,752 ✭✭✭cyrusdvirus


    Misticles wrote: »
    I wouldn't reply to that either!

    The debate about replying/not replying has been done to death in this thread.

    People who don't reply are not mean!

    Agreed, but it's something that will always crop up.

    I think it's just the small level of hope that takes a while to dwindle away, and a chap is hanging on, hoping that his witty initial mail will result in a response and a date etc......


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