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    #6362
    cyrusdvirus
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,752 ✭✭✭cyrusdvirus


    xxdilemmaxx wrote: »
    Ok joined match.com. 25 winks already!!!! Think I will bask in the glory until the interest dries up and I am left alone again :(

    Question for the guys, do you honestly appreciate a woman emailing you first/asking you on a date first? I've tried it a couple of times and got no reply so that's put me off a bit.
    Is the snapping turtle approach better? ;)

    It wouldn't bother me in the slightest. To be honest i'd be kinda flattered by the approach, unless it was an obvious copy-n-paste jobbie.

    One of the sites i use has this 'feature' where you can send up to 500 people the same mail. Now THAT is annoying


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    #6363
    stargazer 68
    Registered Users Posts: 5,109 ✭✭✭stargazer 68


    gatecrash wrote: »
    One of the sites i use has this 'feature' where you can send up to 500 people the same mail. Now THAT is annoying

    Yep and its obvious when someone has done this. DELETE!!


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    #6364
    cyrusdvirus
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,752 ✭✭✭cyrusdvirus


    Dovies wrote: »
    Yep and its obvious when someone has done this. DELETE!!

    that's why i described it with the whole inverted comma thing!! :)


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    #6365
    billy the squid
    Registered Users Posts: 12,811 ✭✭✭✭billy the squid


    xxdilemmaxx wrote: »
    Ok joined match.com. 25 winks already!!!! Think I will bask in the glory until the interest dries up and I am left alone again :(

    Question for the guys, do you honestly appreciate a woman emailing you first/asking you on a date first? I've tried it a couple of times and got no reply so that's put me off a bit.
    Is the snapping turtle approach better? ;)

    I will answer any and all who take time to message me, and that is not confined to dating sites, would also apply that to texts emails etc.

    I am also of the view that I will not delete a "hi" message. I have found if you reply to them they will start to talk to you, I mean, they have agonised over a profile page, I don't expect them to agonise over each and every introductary message- some including me would be rubbish at introductions, yet good once a conversation gets going.


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    #6366
    cyrusdvirus
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,752 ✭✭✭cyrusdvirus


    billy the squid wrote: »
    I will answer any and all who take time to message me, and that is not confined to dating sites, would also apply that to texts emails etc.

    I am also of the view that I will not delete a "hi" message. I have found if you reply to them they will start to talk to you, I mean, they have agonised over a profile page, I don't expect them to agonise over each and every introductary message- some including me would be rubbish at introductions, yet good once a conversation gets going.

    That's fair enough and the potential is there for a conversation etc, and to be honest i'd probably agree with you about the not deleting thing.

    But that mail bomb thing? Delete straight away.


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    #6367
    billy the squid
    Registered Users Posts: 12,811 ✭✭✭✭billy the squid


    gatecrash wrote: »
    That's fair enough and the potential is there for a conversation etc, and to be honest i'd probably agree with you about the not deleting thing.

    But that mail bomb thing? Delete straight away.

    yeah well you can pretty much recognise them. a quick look at the profile before replying also helps.


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    #6368
    liz2
    Closed Accounts Posts: 240 ✭✭liz2


    ya, id reply to the 'hi' messages too if i like the look of their profile, usually the conversation flows from there ;) because some people really dont know what to say for the first mail..

    aw, i hate the part where ur chatting away to someone, its going well and then 'crap, what do i say now'. your stuck for a topic of conversation :confused:


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    #6369
    xxdilemmaxx
    Registered Users Posts: 330 ✭✭xxdilemmaxx


    Yeah I'm at that stage now with one guy on OKC, just checked and we have exchanged 25 messages with no mention of meeting, then again he is in Belfast and I am in Dublin so it's prob out of the question anyway.

    Not sure where the conversation can go from here!!


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    #6370
    cyrusdvirus
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,752 ✭✭✭cyrusdvirus


    xxdilemmaxx wrote: »
    Yeah I'm at that stage now with one guy on OKC, just checked and we have exchanged 25 messages with no mention of meeting, then again he is in Belfast and I am in Dublin so it's prob out of the question anyway.

    Not sure where the conversation can go from here!!

    First date in Dwaaaaaaaaaaaaaheda or Dundaaaaaaaawwwwwwwk??


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    #6371
    xxdilemmaxx
    Registered Users Posts: 330 ✭✭xxdilemmaxx


    Haha :D

    Not sure it will even lead to a date tbh, no flirting really just looooong messages about random stuff!

    Might start using the email that worked for you :p


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    #6372
    KyussBishop
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,797 ✭✭✭KyussBishop


    ^^ Ah a train ticket to Belfast is only €10 each way (€20 altogether) if you book in advance :)

    Would be a nice day out; even if the guy isn't openly flirting with you or anything, he could still be interested. Take the initiative and give it a go, see if he wants to meet! (doesn't even have to be a 'date' specifically)


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    #6373
    cyrusdvirus
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,752 ✭✭✭cyrusdvirus


    xxdilemmaxx wrote: »
    Haha :D

    Not sure it will even lead to a date tbh, no flirting really just looooong messages about random stuff!

    Might start using the email that worked for you :p

    I think it was more total disillusionment than anything else made me come up with it"!! :)


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    #6374
    Galvasean
    Registered Users Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    xxdilemmaxx wrote: »
    Is the snapping turtle approach better? ;)

    No no no no no............... that approach is only for me! If the girls do it then no one will mail me! :P

    But seriously, as a guy it is quite nice to get mailed by a girl first... Well I say that but I keep getting messages containing one sentence or less.
    "Hi."
    "I like your pic"
    "Nice username!"
    "How r u?"
    Basically if you can fit it into the heading slot of the mail it's probably not worth sending.
    I have tended to notice that people whose mails are like this usually only have a sentence or two in their profiles (the first of which is usually telling you their name and the second of which is asking you to drop them a mail if you like the look/sound of them) so even if you wanted to you couldn't send them a decent response.


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    #6375
    Xios
    Registered Users Posts: 2,073 ✭✭✭Xios


    Just made a match.com profile, now what? have pics and info in there, what do?


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    #6376
    xxdilemmaxx
    Registered Users Posts: 330 ✭✭xxdilemmaxx


    Galvasean wrote: »
    No no no no no............... that approach is only for me! If the girls do it then no one will mail me! :P

    Too late!! I have already stopped browsing and am now lying in wait patiently :D


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    #6377
    liz2
    Closed Accounts Posts: 240 ✭✭liz2


    xxdilemmaxx wrote: »
    Too late!! I have already stopped browsing and am now lying in wait patiently :D


    (shhh, ive been doing that too......:D)


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    #6378
    cyrusdvirus
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,752 ✭✭✭cyrusdvirus


    hmmm...

    Well if you get a "you're bloody gorgeous" message from one of my site alter ego's it's NOT a copy and paste!! :)


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    #6379
    xxdilemmaxx
    Registered Users Posts: 330 ✭✭xxdilemmaxx


    Hmm really cute guy just asked me for my facebook details, only chatting since yest. Do you guys give yours out?

    Just thinking, loadsa drunken/stupid photos, photos of ex etc in my old albums. Arrgh what should I do?!


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    #6380
    cyrusdvirus
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,752 ✭✭✭cyrusdvirus


    xxdilemmaxx wrote: »
    Hmm really cute guy just asked me for my facebook details, only chatting since yest. Do you guys give yours out?

    Just thinking, loadsa drunken/stupid photos, photos of ex etc in my old albums. Arrgh what should I do?!

    Chatting since yesterday? I wouldn't.

    Leave it another few days of mailing/texting/even chatting on phone

    And I'm not sure what age you are, but i think it's safe to assume that most people will have pics with an ex on our facebook profiles


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    #6381
    jenny111111
    Closed Accounts Posts: 124 ✭✭jenny111111


    xxdilemmaxx wrote: »
    Too late!! I have already stopped browsing and am now lying in wait patiently :D


    This is not good people, I adopted the turtle approach too.... I havn't been online in a while though so I probably don't count.
    xxdilemmaxx wrote: »
    Hmm really cute guy just asked me for my facebook details, only chatting since yest. Do you guys give yours out?

    Just thinking, loadsa drunken/stupid photos, photos of ex etc in my old albums. Arrgh what should I do?!

    I agree with gatecrash, your facebook has a lot of personal information on it, I've only been asked for it by two people, and only given it to one because we'd been talking for a good while.


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    #6382
    billy the squid
    Registered Users Posts: 12,811 ✭✭✭✭billy the squid


    xxdilemmaxx wrote: »
    Hmm really cute guy just asked me for my facebook details, only chatting since yest. Do you guys give yours out?

    Just thinking, loadsa drunken/stupid photos, photos of ex etc in my old albums. Arrgh what should I do?!

    As a rule I only add people to facebook after I have met them. I have made exceptions to this, but that is as I feel that I know them well enough.

    If you do want to add him to facebook, you can restrict his access to whatever you want, At present I have some people on my friend list who cannot see my other friends,

    If they wanted me to add them as they find the messaging system easier, then you can do so but not let them see any of your profile page.


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    #6383
    xxdilemmaxx
    Registered Users Posts: 330 ✭✭xxdilemmaxx


    Yeah I agree I guess, just wondering what I can say back so it doesn't look like I'm not interested.

    In his defense he did say he was totally new to the online dating thing and asked if it was allowed to ask for facebook details as he didn't really know what he was at or what the protocol was :D


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    #6384
    cyrusdvirus
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,752 ✭✭✭cyrusdvirus


    xxdilemmaxx wrote: »
    Yeah I agree I guess, just wondering what I can say back so it doesn't look like I'm not interested.

    In his defense he did say he was totally new to the online dating thing and asked if it as allowed to ask for facebook details as he didn't really know what he was at or what the protocol was :D

    Fair enough so.


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    #6385
    Kevin Duffy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,439 ✭✭✭Kevin Duffy


    Marcus_Crassus wrote: »
    Right, I got a date for Thursday night. We have decided to just play pool for a while.

    Anybody know anywhere nice in town (Dublin :P) to play a few games?

    Palace Pool Hall on Camden Street. Loads of tables, generally no need to book and you can play for ages. Full bar, service at the table and you want to keep the date going, loads of choice just outside the door.
    2 Miles From Narnia wrote: »
    Break for the Border have loads of pool tables - don't know what it's like in the evenings though, I've only played on Saturday afternoons.

    Great first date idea btw, I'm totally stealing it!

    Unless they've put them back in just lately, BFTB doesn't have tables anymore.


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    #6386
    2 Miles From Narnia
    Closed Accounts Posts: 188 ✭✭2 Miles From Narnia


    Recruiting in work at the moment. Remind me again what the difference is between screening CVs and holding first round interviews vs. screening profiles and going on first dates? I have a feeling it's inappropriate to offer money on one of them, but am having trouble remembering which...;)


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    #6387
    2 Miles From Narnia
    Closed Accounts Posts: 188 ✭✭2 Miles From Narnia


    Kevin Duffy wrote: »

    Unless they've put them back in just lately, BFTB doesn't have tables anymore.

    It's been a while since I was there, think I need to get out more!


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    #6388
    MagicMarker
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 32,865 ✭✭✭✭MagicMarker


    Does anyone take notice of the questions on OKC? I'm finding myself put off by a lot of people based on their answers, a surprising number of women would prefer to have a child with a person of the same ethnicity as themselves! I mean... wtf!?


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    #6389
    Kevin Duffy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,439 ✭✭✭Kevin Duffy


    MagicMarker wrote: »
    Does anyone take notice of the questions on OKC? I'm finding myself put off by a lot of people based on their answers, a surprising number of women would prefer to have a child with a person of the same ethnicity as themselves! I mean... wtf!?

    Including the Chinese girl who mailed my big white Irish áss :) I wouldn't stall at any one answer if you're otherwise attracted and compatible. If it's important, you can always ask directly later and decide then if it's a dealbreaker.


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    #6390
    cyrusdvirus
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,752 ✭✭✭cyrusdvirus


    Ok, have a read/deleted on POF to the reply to the reply to the"You're bloody gorgeous" mail.

    ONWARDS CHRISTIAN SOLDIERS!!!!!


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    #6391
    The Gnome
    Registered Users Posts: 1,403 ✭✭✭The Gnome


    MagicMarker wrote: »
    Does anyone take notice of the questions on OKC? I'm finding myself put off by a lot of people based on their answers, a surprising number of women would prefer to have a child with a person of the same ethnicity as themselves! I mean... wtf!?

    Or people who think the Earth is bigger than the Sun...


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