Online Dating

stargazer 68 · 16-09-2011 9:12am

Well my last date was about 2 months ago (possibly longer) so I dont know how I have managed it - I have 4 - yes 4- dates next week!! :eek::eek::eek::p

cyrusdvirus · 16-09-2011 9:13am

Dovies wrote: »

Well my last date was about 2 months ago (possibly longer) so I dont know how I have managed it - I have 4 - yes 4- dates next week!! :eek::eek::eek::p

Yaaay You!!!

stargazer 68 · 16-09-2011 9:16am

gatecrash wrote: »

Yaaay You!!!

I know!! OMG

On another note - one of them said I had clicked him on the meet me thing and he would love to meet up. I have never clicked anyone on that thing so the site obviously just makes it up - no wonder I dont get any replies from the people on my meet me list!!!

stargazer 68 · 16-09-2011 9:18am

G-Money wrote: »

My guess is they might know if they tried to send them a mail. I mailed one girl on POF, perfectly normal mail, no sleaze or anything and she blocked me straight away. The only reason I knew was that I checked my sent messages and saw the one to her was not there, so I tried to send it again and bang, I got a message saying she had blocked me.

Yet another reason to leave online dating - being blocked for no reason.

They block if they dont like your pic too! If you check the forums some people 'recommend' it as it saves getting mail from people you have no interest in!

Pembily · 16-09-2011 9:47am

G-Money wrote: »

I know now that you've blocked me :pac:

Sorry, I couldn't resist, only joking, I'm not even on the site.

My guess is they might know if they tried to send them a mail. I mailed one girl on POF, perfectly normal mail, no sleaze or anything and she blocked me straight away. The only reason I knew was that I checked my sent messages and saw the one to her was not there, so I tried to send it again and bang, I got a message saying she had blocked me.

Yet another reason to leave online dating - being blocked for no reason.

Nope I haven't blocked the person yet! :pac: I generally block guys abroad as the pm me and annoy me with can we do sexy cam!

xxdilemmaxx · 16-09-2011 9:57am

Felt a bit disillusioned with the whole thing last week but decided to go on one last date with someone I'd been chatting to for a while, so off I went last night not really hoping for much.
Had an absolute ball and dinner is planned for next week

Feeling slightly worse for wear in work now though!

G-Money · 16-09-2011 10:14am

I'm interested in trying out OKCupid to see how much I can get ignored on there too :pac:

liz2 · 16-09-2011 10:22am

Dovies wrote: »

Well my last date was about 2 months ago (possibly longer) so I dont know how I have managed it - I have 4 - yes 4- dates next week!! :eek::eek::eek::p

aw well done dovies!

its like a feast or a famine :pac:

liz2 · 16-09-2011 10:24am

xxdilemmaxx wrote: »

Felt a bit disillusioned with the whole thing last week but decided to go on one last date with someone I'd been chatting to for a while, so off I went last night not really hoping for much.
Had an absolute ball and dinner is planned for next week

Feeling slightly worse for wear in work now though!

it sure is a great feeling when that happens!

good luck

G-Money · 16-09-2011 10:27am

liz2 wrote: »

its like a feast or a famine :pac:

I'm a famine specialist in this regard.

stargazer 68 · 16-09-2011 10:37am

liz2 wrote: »

aw well done dovies!
its like a feast or a famine :pac:

Yep they are like buses!!

porker36 · 16-09-2011 10:42am

hi folks
reading tru the posts brought back alot of memories when i was using internet dating sites and all the nightmares that went with it

but just wanted to say keep the heads up,i met a fantastic girl on a site got married two years ago and have a lovely little boy few months back......so it can work :pac:

magneticimpulse · 16-09-2011 11:03am

Lon Dubh wrote: »

Yeah, you're right really. I suppose I am just a bit cautious, and also nervous of being taken in by someone who is married or in a relationship already but pretending not to be.

They guy I am talking to at the moment seems nice and normal though (probably an axe murderer of course :pac: )

It's quite easy to make up an alter ego online and ive certainly met many who have...lost count how many "Frank the tanks" ive met.

magneticimpulse · 16-09-2011 11:13am

2 Miles From Narnia wrote: »

I'm having a moment of empathy for you men folk. I just got an email from a guy who read my profile, put a bit of effort into sending a nice email that referenced stuff I'd said about myself, has a literate profile that comes across as genuine and looks grand in his photos - in other words, exactly the perfect first contact.

And at the end of his email he writes 'hope I'm not coming across as creepy' ..... What sort of accusations has the poor fella had thrown at him in the past?? What have we wimmin done to the poor men of Ireland? :pac::pac::pac:

That kind of comment would make me think that he is actually a creep. Half the time people are giving out feelers about how they actually are!!!

Im always weary of guys that put in comments like that.

Example a guy might say: I admire that you didnt put out after the 1st date....

Its a no win situation, its a bad comment to make to someone.

By someone saying "I hope you dont think im creepy"....means they obviously are creepy.

Hard to explain, but definitely not a good comment to make about yourself.

cyrusdvirus · 16-09-2011 11:17am

magneticimpulse wrote: »

That kind of comment would make me think that he is actually a creep. Half the time people are giving out feelers about how they actually are!!!

Im always weary of guys that put in comments like that.

Example a guy might say: I admire that you didnt put out after the 1st date....

Its a no win situation, its a bad comment to make to someone.

By someone saying "I hope you dont think im creepy"....means they obviously are creepy.

Hard to explain, but definitely not a good comment to make about yourself.

It could also be that he's just wary, and after putting a bit of an effort into the mail, and on re-reading it thought "ooohh that might be a bit heavy"

Sometimes, if someone has a fair bit of information in their profile, a bloke might wrote more than a one to three liner mail.

and then think Yikes!! :pac:

Or you could be right and he's a freaky creepy stalker type!!

magneticimpulse · 16-09-2011 11:20am

G-Money wrote: »

I know now that you've blocked me :pac:

Sorry, I couldn't resist, only joking, I'm not even on the site.

My guess is they might know if they tried to send them a mail. I mailed one girl on POF, perfectly normal mail, no sleaze or anything and she blocked me straight away. The only reason I knew was that I checked my sent messages and saw the one to her was not there, so I tried to send it again and bang, I got a message saying she had blocked me.

Yet another reason to leave online dating - being blocked for no reason.

I block people on POF quite quickly. Its nothing personal. I find the website is difficult to read emails or control them. If I've read an email and I think there is never going to be anything from it I block them. It automatically deletes all their emails. It's not because they came across sleezy, its just because POF doesnt give you the option to clearly organise your mail inbox. Blocking people is the easiest way to clear up your emails.

Also it saves people time from trying to contact you in the future since nothing will happen. I wouldnt take stuff like that personally. I really do it without thinking much.

2 Miles From Narnia · 16-09-2011 11:31am

Dovies wrote: »

Well my last date was about 2 months ago (possibly longer) so I dont know how I have managed it - I have 4 - yes 4- dates next week!! :eek::eek::eek::p

I'm going to cancel all my plans for next week and just keep refreshing boards to get all your updates! Good luck!!!

Rossin · 16-09-2011 11:59am

activated my oc account again, lets see how long i leave it this time

i find it really hard to write a profile without sounding like a robot!

G-Money · 16-09-2011 12:19pm

I'd prefer they just didn't reply, rather than blocking me. Blocking makes me feel like I did something wrong by contacting them, or I'm just so below their lofty standards that they can't even bare to look down their nose at me.

But perhaps that's just me.

I rarely, if ever contact a girl a 2nd time if she hasn't replied to my first mail. The only exception might be if I've forgotten that I have mailed them in the first place. To be honest I send out so many mails at times, I forget who I've mailed and who I haven't. However that's the only option seemingly open to guys. You simply can't just pick one or two girls, email them and hope for the best. It's a road to no town as they say.

2 Miles From Narnia · 16-09-2011 1:29pm

magneticimpulse wrote: »

2 Miles From Narnia wrote: »

I'm having a moment of empathy for you men folk. I just got an email from a guy who read my profile, put a bit of effort into sending a nice email that referenced stuff I'd said about myself, has a literate profile that comes across as genuine and looks grand in his photos - in other words, exactly the perfect first contact.

And at the end of his email he writes 'hope I'm not coming across as creepy' ..... What sort of accusations has the poor fella had thrown at him in the past?? What have we wimmin done to the poor men of Ireland? :pac::pac::pac:

That kind of comment would make me think that he is actually a creep. Half the time people are giving out feelers about how they actually are!!!

Im always weary of guys that put in comments like that.

Example a guy might say: I admire that you didnt put out after the 1st date....

Its a no win situation, its a bad comment to make to someone.

By someone saying "I hope you dont think im creepy"....means they obviously are creepy.

Hard to explain, but definitely not a good comment to make about yourself.

The internet ate my first reply to this so apologies if I'm spamming accidentally with multiple replies!

I'd never thought of it that way. I've already given him the benefit of the doubt and replied, if he is creepy it will show soon enough. Poor guys really can't win sometimes tho!

JamesBond2010 · 16-09-2011 2:22pm

G-Money wrote: »

I'd prefer they just didn't reply, rather than blocking me. Blocking makes me feel like I did something wrong by contacting them, or I'm just so below their lofty standards that they can't even bare to look down their nose at me.

But perhaps that's just me.

I rarely, if ever contact a girl a 2nd time if she hasn't replied to my first mail. The only exception might be if I've forgotten that I have mailed them in the first place. To be honest I send out so many mails at times, I forget who I've mailed and who I haven't. However that's the only option seemingly open to guys. You simply can't just pick one or two girls, email them and hope for the best. It's a road to no town as they say.

I agree with you.

See ur dammed if u though and dammed if u dont trying to guess what some women want. You would have a better winning the Lotto than guessing what some women want.:D:D:D:D:D

AnnyHallsal · 16-09-2011 2:32pm

I wouldn't block someone unless they were pests, ie sending multiple messages in very quick succession or becoming insulting. And I think my feelings would be slightly dented if someone blocked me for no good reason. I think it's a tad unnecessary if you're just not interested in the person.

Just my opinion!

MickShamrock · 16-09-2011 5:16pm

A girl just told me my pics weren't very attractive! Nice one! I wonder if that approach works on all the guys! :pac:

G-Money · 16-09-2011 5:19pm

MickShamrock wrote: »

A girl just told me my pics weren't very attractive! Nice one! I wonder if that approach works on all the guys! :pac:

I got a response like that one time years ago. The girl said something along the lines of "With pics like that, I don't think you can afford to be so picky". I mean, WTF, could she just not have said something polite, or nothing at all.

Perhaps I'm opening a can of worms, but would girls ever get responses like that from guys???

MickShamrock · 16-09-2011 5:27pm

G-Money wrote: »

I got a response like that one time years ago. The girl said something along the lines of "With pics like that, I don't think you can afford to be so picky". I mean, WTF, could she just not have said something polite, or nothing at all.

Perhaps I'm opening a can of worms, but would girls ever get responses like that from guys???

Exactly. I think it's better say nothing at all than that! And it came out of nowhere! We were messaging back and forth and then she just messaged that. I think she was just messing with people cause then she took her pics down.

busyliving · 16-09-2011 5:46pm

G-Money wrote: »

I got a response like that one time years ago. The girl said something along the lines of "With pics like that, I don't think you can afford to be so picky". I mean, WTF, could she just not have said something polite, or nothing at all.

Perhaps I'm opening a can of worms, but would girls ever get responses like that from guys???

MickShamrock wrote: »

Exactly. I think it's better say nothing at all than that! And it came out of nowhere! We were messaging back and forth and then she just messaged that. I think she was just messing with people cause then she took her pics down.

I'd never say anything like that...

Its incredibly kuntish if you ask me, if someone messages you and you have no interest neither because you don't find them attractive or their profile doesn't interest you...

Don't reply...Don't reply and say something along the lines of "your pics are ugly"

Serious bad form

AnnyHallsal · 16-09-2011 5:48pm

There's nothing wrong with a bit of tact.

MickShamrock · 16-09-2011 5:53pm

busyliving wrote: »

Don't reply...Don't reply and say something along the lines of "your pics are ugly"

I'm a nice guy, but I rarely get messages from people first. If I do and I feel there is no attraction I don't reply. I feel bad cause I've gotten so many non replies, but no point leading people on I suppose!

busyliving · 16-09-2011 5:56pm

MickShamrock wrote: »

I'm a nice guy, but I rarely get messages from people first. If I do and I feel there is no attraction I don't reply. I feel bad cause I've gotten so many non replies, but no point leading people on I suppose!

Yeah man I'd much rather get no replies than get a cruel reply and I totally agree about not leading people on if you've no interest whatsoever

G-Money · 16-09-2011 5:57pm

MickShamrock wrote: »

I'm a nice guy, but I rarely get messages from people first. If I do and I feel there is no attraction I don't reply. I feel bad cause I've gotten so many non replies, but no point leading people on I suppose!

I used to feel obliged to reply but now I don't bother. I've gotten enough non-replies to my emails that dishing out a few of my own seems fair and better than the alternative.

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