Online Dating

Larianne · 17-09-2011 9:40pm

JamesBond2010 wrote: »

the usual way was asking her name she said doesnt matter(had given her my name she asked) & after that then she said i used to date some that worked in the same job as me.& she tells me this after 1hr& 1/2 chatting and doesnt ans anymore...

a well POF in the Sea:D:D:D

Well that's a load of balls. You know for next time to cut convo when she won't give up info. Esp. if you told her your name. :rolleyes:

JamesBond2010 · 17-09-2011 9:40pm

G-Money wrote: »

I remember one time being on POF and I got talking to this girl. I think she might have initiated things by emailing me first, but I replied anyway. She had no pic on her profile but I decided to give her the benefit of the doubt and kept chatting.

I got her MSN address and we went onto that and eventually I said "Do you have a pic?" And her reply was "No, and you're not getting one". I rapidly started to lose interest in the conversation after that and one of her next lines was "You can't be bothered can you, you're not making any effort".

I thought to myself "F*** this, I'm out of here". I made my excuses, blocked her and never heard from her again. She sounded ever so bitter.

nearly the same thing happened to me now tonite. except she would not give name after i did???

JamesBond2010 · 17-09-2011 9:41pm

Larianne wrote: »

Well that's a load of balls. You know for next time to cut convo when she won't give up info. Esp. if you told her your name. :rolleyes:

i was smart enough to only mention my 1st name that was it.

MickShamrock · 17-09-2011 9:46pm

I think it's weird when someone wants to add you on Facebook after a few messages.

G-Money · 17-09-2011 9:47pm

MickShamrock wrote: »

I think it's weird when someone wants to add you on Facebook after a few messages.

I sometimes suggest that, usually to check out other pics of them and to see if the one(s) they have on their profile are a realistic view of how they normally look or just cherry picked from one good night years ago

MickShamrock · 17-09-2011 9:49pm

G-Money wrote: »

I sometimes suggest that, usually to check out other pics of them and to see if the one(s) they have on their profile are a realistic view of how they normally look or just cherry picked from one good night years ago

I get worried adding them cause I have loads of **** pics of me up on my profile cause it's all people I know! :pac:

G-Money · 17-09-2011 9:51pm

I'm slightly more iffy about it now too as my FB had details of where I work and things like that. I've recently re-created my FB as I wasn't able to leave one "network" that I was currently joined and it was my employers and I didn't want everyone to know.

Captain Havoc · 17-09-2011 9:53pm

I think someone tried to chat to me tonight and I hit block on the pop up blocker :mad:

JamesBond2010 · 17-09-2011 9:53pm

MickShamrock wrote: »

I get worried adding them cause I have loads of **** pics of me up on my profile cause it's all people I know! :pac:

:eek::eek::eek::eek::D:D:D:cool::cool:

Pembily · 17-09-2011 10:03pm

I don't have a pic as I have been recognised twice and I don't like it - but I do say that I will give a pic once asked nicely! I also give my name once asked nicely and by nicely I don't mean - yo sexy, I mean that we have spoken for a while and it's in a polite non sex related way! I don't see why some women are so bitter?

:eek:

MickShamrock · 17-09-2011 10:19pm

Messaging a nice girl now! Let's hope I don't scare her off! :pac:

liz2 · 17-09-2011 11:10pm

i always give my name

only on a first name basis thou.. sure i chatted to and dated a guy for over a month and never thought to ask him what his surname was :rolleyes:

2 Miles From Narnia · 18-09-2011 11:01am

liz2 wrote: »

i always give my name only on a first name basis thou.. sure i chatted to and dated a guy for over a month and never thought to ask him what his surname was :rolleyes:

I did that too with someone I met IRL before, it just slipped my mind completely to ask over the space of a few weeks! It can be a funny conversation to have, I find that some people feel obliged to then comment on my name - like for example to compliment on it being "a good Irish name" - as if I had any part in picking it out.

cyrusdvirus · 18-09-2011 11:15am

2 Miles From Narnia wrote: »

I did that too with someone I met IRL before, it just slipped my mind completely to ask over the space of a few weeks! It can be a funny conversation to have, I find that some people feel obliged to then comment on my name - like for example to compliment on it being "a good Irish name" - as if I had any part in picking it out.

That's something i always find funny.... i get slagged a bit over my full name.

As for the not getting someones surname, i know i've done the same thing. There was a girl on my phone who's name was Anne Blondedatesite for 6 months!!!

It wasonly after we stoipped seeing each other that i got her surname!

2 Miles From Narnia · 18-09-2011 1:22pm

MickShamrock wrote: »

Another night of carpet bombing with no returns! :pac:

Your replies could be waiting to flood in.

I was out last night, but had a few emails waiting for me today. I'm feeling too lazy to think up replies now but will get around to it, so some of your carpet bomb victims could be thinking the same!

MickShamrock · 18-09-2011 6:55pm

2 Miles From Narnia wrote: »

Your replies could be waiting to flood in.

I was out last night, but had a few emails waiting for me today. I'm feeling too lazy to think up replies now but will get around to it, so some of your carpet bomb victims could be thinking the same!

Empty inbox so far. You could be one of my victims! :pac:

liz2 · 18-09-2011 8:17pm

good lord, i may have a date during the week :pac:
just when i was about to give up & close my profile someone else came along! im approaching this with an open mind thou :rolleyes::)

MickShamrock · 18-09-2011 9:02pm

0 for 9 tonight and counting! :pac:

hollypink · 18-09-2011 9:35pm

Message I got last night on pof last night containing one sentence 'I want you'. Sounds like he's a great catch

How long do ye think is too long to be exchanging messages before meeting up? In my case it's been well over a month which is probably too long as you end up forming a mental picture of what someone is like, which is bound to be completely inaccurate!

Otis Driftwood · 18-09-2011 9:37pm

Id say sooner rather than later tbh.Ive left it for a few weeks before meeting up in the past and as you said,you have a mental picture formed and its terribly disappointing when you dont click in person.

Kevin Duffy · 18-09-2011 9:41pm

hollypink wrote: »

Message I got last night on pof last night containing one sentence 'I want you'. Sounds like he's a great catch

I'm so sorry.

What I typed was "I want you to be my north, my south, my sun, moon and stars. I want you to be the one I devote myself to and give my all to. I want you to feel supported, loved and understood in every way. I want you to tell me who that bitch in work is and I will hate her as well". There was more too, all really good stuff, but I hit send by accident and now we've missed the boat

:pac:

2 Miles From Narnia · 18-09-2011 9:49pm

A guy who I've swapped a couple of emails with has just sent "how's online dating going for you? Judging by your profile I guess you've been on a good few dates".

I'm not sure if he is trying to figure out if I'm some sort of floozey, or if he was trying to give me a compliment cos all the men must be after a profile as smokin' hawt as mine. And either way, isn't it weird to ask someone you could potentially date about their other dates? If I was in a pub, it would be very rude to ask someone if they gave their number out a lot.

looky loo · 18-09-2011 9:52pm

2 Miles From Narnia wrote: »

A guy who I've swapped a couple of emails with has just sent "how's online dating going for you? Judging by your profile I guess you've been on a good few dates".

I'm not sure if he is trying to figure out if I'm some sort of floozey, or if he was trying to give me a compliment cos all the men must be after a profile as smokin' hawt as mine. And either way, isn't it weird to ask someone you could potentially date about their other dates? If I was in a pub, it would be very rude to ask someone if they gave their number out a lot.

Sounds complimentary. No weirder than people asking how you're finding the site etc. Probably just wanted to get chatting to you I'd say.

Dr Galen · 18-09-2011 9:53pm

Tbh you are reading too much into it IMHO. That's the one thing with online dating, as it's usually all through the medium of text, people don't get inflections and turns of speech.

I'd say just to not worry about something fairly casual and throw away, see if he's a nice guy and go from there

looky loo · 18-09-2011 9:53pm

Otis Driftwood wrote: »

Id say sooner rather than later tbh.Ive left it for a few weeks before meeting up in the past and as you said,you have a mental picture formed and its terribly disappointing when you dont click in person.

agreed too many emails back and forth is a bad idea, better just to meet up early and see if there is an attraction either way.

liz2 · 18-09-2011 10:14pm

well i usually met the guy after a few weeks and would have had a picture built up in my head...some worked out fine, others didn't.
this time im going against all the odds, im bypassing my usual rules and will be meeting this guy after just a week. maybe im mad, but might be a good chance to take.. he does seem like a decent bloke, so why not :cool:

hollypink · 18-09-2011 10:22pm

liz2 wrote: »

well i usually met the guy after a few weeks and would have had a picture built up in my head...some worked out fine, others didn't.
this time im going against all the odds, im bypassing my usual rules and will be meeting this guy after just a week. maybe im mad, but might be a good chance to take.. he does seem like a decent bloke, so why not :cool:

I think a week is fine, good luck with it! To be honest while I want to meet this guy, in another way I haven't been in too much of a hurry because of the last date I had (if being stood up counts as an actual date

). Still lightning doesn't strike in the same place twice, right?

2 Miles From Narnia · 18-09-2011 10:26pm

Dr Galen wrote: »

Tbh you are reading too much into it IMHO. That's the one thing with online dating, as it's usually all through the medium of text, people don't get inflections and turns of speech.

I'd say just to not worry about something fairly casual and throw away, see if he's a nice guy and go from there

I'll update my profile to include 'reading too much into everything" under my characteristics.

Yeah, otherwise he does seem nice and we appear to have loads in common so I won't worry about it.

Larianne · 18-09-2011 10:29pm

2 Miles From Narnia wrote: »

A guy who I've swapped a couple of emails with has just sent "how's online dating going for you? Judging by your profile I guess you've been on a good few dates".

I'm not sure if he is trying to figure out if I'm some sort of floozey, or if he was trying to give me a compliment cos all the men must be after a profile as smokin' hawt as mine. And either way, isn't it weird to ask someone you could potentially date about their other dates? If I was in a pub, it would be very rude to ask someone if they gave their number out a lot.

nah, it sounds like he was complimenting your profile.

liz2 wrote: »

well i usually met the guy after a few weeks and would have had a picture built up in my head...some worked out fine, others didn't.
this time im going against all the odds, im bypassing my usual rules and will be meeting this guy after just a week. maybe im mad, but might be a good chance to take.. he does seem like a decent bloke, so why not :cool:

Good woman!

2 Miles From Narnia · 18-09-2011 10:37pm

hollypink wrote: »

I think a week is fine, good luck with it! To be honest while I want to meet this guy, in another way I haven't been in too much of a hurry because of the last date I had (if being stood up counts as an actual date ). Still lightning doesn't strike in the same place twice, right?

I'm sure that won't happen again, you were just unlucky last time.

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