Online Dating

Larianne · 20-09-2011 9:30pm

I got a definite copy n paste jobby but I was impressed so replied. Best one I've got so far.

JamesBond2010 · 20-09-2011 9:31pm

Larianne wrote: »

I got a definite copy n paste jobby but I was impressed so replied. Best one I've got so far.

Thank You:D:D:D

Larianne · 20-09-2011 9:32pm

JamesBond2010 wrote: »

Thank You:D:D:D

You better reply! :cool:

oh ****, forgot to send my photo!

sharper · 20-09-2011 9:32pm

gatecrash wrote: »

So, if I'm lucky enough to be online, at the same time as someone who matches my 'criteria', and lucky enough to get a reply then it might develop.

Sure but then you if chat too long you're likely to stop getting responses, or if you ask to meet too quickly you'll stop getting responses. So you again have to be lucky and get that right because there's definitely no way tell beforehand. That's before you even start thinking about the odds of really getting along and clicking with someone.

I'm just your typical nerd so I often have to write a big old question mark next to human behaviour. You'd think people would be more interested in their long term compatibility with people instead of whether they're getting things exactly right according to whatever rules they made up.

Social networking is a nice way to meet people but it does seem to encourage a certain type of behaviour everyone agrees they don't want (if you ask them): Guys end up discovering the best approach is really to contact as many women as possible and hope for luck (because each individual woman is working of a fairly strict set of rules nobody can know in advance) though then they become frustrated and disheartened through lack of success. Women end up getting overwhelmed with lots of mail, much of it substandard because it's not really in anyone's interest to spend a lot of time on each individual mail.

Men end up leaving because they're tired of sending lots of mails and getting no response. Women end up leaving because they get so much mail they can't respond (and don't want to for much of it anyway).

I just like getting to know people. I'm not good at setting goals for things I want from them so I don't pursue them in that way. If I share an interest with someone I'll happily discuss it with them and if I enjoy it I'll keep talking to them and see how things go. I admit meeting people makes me nervous and I wouldn't be terribly social anyway. Time was the internet was just for people like that! Where do those people go now?

2 Miles From Narnia · 20-09-2011 9:37pm

sharper wrote: »

I just like getting to know people. I'm not good at setting goals for things I want from them so I don't pursue them in that way. If I share an interest with someone I'll happily discuss it with them and if I enjoy it I'll keep talking to them and see how things go. I admit meeting people makes me nervous and I wouldn't be terribly social anyway. Time was the internet was just for people like that! Where do those people go now?

Boards :pac:

Larianne · 20-09-2011 9:42pm

2 Miles From Narnia wrote: »

Boards :pac:

Explains a lot! :pac:

cyrusdvirus · 20-09-2011 9:46pm

Larianne wrote: »

I got a definite copy n paste jobby but I was impressed so replied. Best one I've got so far.

Go on...... Copy it!! Paste it to a P.M. Send it to me. You REALLY want to!!!

jenny111111 · 20-09-2011 10:16pm

Larianne wrote: »

Maybe the text never sent??? These things happen?

See even if it didn't i'm a firm believer that if someone likes you they'll contact you even if it's not their "turn" (can't think of a better way of putting that).

I've discovered a duvet, cuppa tea and a movie are the path to happiness.....I'm becoming a spinster

sharper · 20-09-2011 10:18pm

2 Miles From Narnia wrote: »

Boards :pac:

I thought boards was where everyone's Ma went to get action!

sharper · 20-09-2011 10:21pm

jenny111111 wrote: »

I've discovered a duvet, cuppa tea and a movie are the path to happiness.....I'm becoming a spinster

Being happy under your own steam is a fine thing just remember to focus more on people after your fifth cat

Snowie · 20-09-2011 11:02pm

jenny111111 wrote: »

See even if it didn't i'm a firm believer that if someone likes you they'll contact you even if it's not their "turn" (can't think of a better way of putting that).

I kinda agree

Im genrally not a texty type person... Ive been making an effort...
I always reply with in 5 mins because im just that way :pac:...

How ever I'll gladily spend some time sending an email I prefer it...

looky loo · 20-09-2011 11:27pm

I'm chatting to someone on POF and we just realised we were born on the same date and same year.......goosebumpy....:)

2 Miles From Narnia · 20-09-2011 11:33pm

looky loo wrote: »

I'm chatting to someone on POF and we just realised we were born on the same date and same year.......goosebumpy....:)

You don't by any chance look alike too...? :pac::eek:

looky loo · 20-09-2011 11:37pm

2 Miles From Narnia wrote: »

You don't by any chance look alike too...? :pac::eek:

wheres the slap playfully button?....:D

2 Miles From Narnia · 20-09-2011 11:40pm

looky loo wrote: »

wheres the slap playfully button?....:D

It's the one with the little picture of the thumb :P

jenny111111 · 20-09-2011 11:55pm

Snow-Monkey wrote: »

I kinda agree

Im genrally not a texty type person... Ive been making an effort...
I always reply with in 5 mins because im just that way :pac:...

How ever I'll gladily spend some time sending an email I prefer it...

I'm with you on that, not mad about texting but if I really like someone it doesn't seem like such a chore. I'd be a quick replier too, drives me mental when a guy takes forever to reply.

Howard the Duck · 21-09-2011 12:00am

jenny111111 wrote: »

I'm with you on that, not mad about texting but if I really like someone it doesn't seem like such a chore. I'd be a quick replier too, drives me mental when a guy takes forever to reply.

I've been waiting since lunch time today for a reply! I think it's fizzling out by text. Nothing says not interested like a slow texter backer. Although that isn't always the case i just assume it is.

jenny111111 · 21-09-2011 12:21am

Howard the Duck wrote: »

I've been waiting since lunch time today for a reply! I think it's fizzling out by text. Nothing says not interested like a slow texter backer. Although that isn't always the case i just assume it is.

That ones tricky to figure out, i think sometimes people think that it seems more aloof to leave it a while, same principal as treat em mean keep em keen i guess? and unfortunately like you said sometimes it's an effort to let it fizzle.....or she could have no credit. Either way if they regularly take an age to text back i like you take it as disinterest.

I hope she texts you back tomorrow!

Snowie · 21-09-2011 12:35am

jenny111111 wrote: »

I'm with you on that, not mad about texting but if I really like someone it doesn't seem like such a chore. I'd be a quick replier too, drives me mental when a guy takes forever to reply.

and so you should

:P:pac:

nah some times i just dont want to text so I dont... or what ever... just depends on my mood tho you know if there person is fun then i will text a lot more then useual...

stargazer 68 · 21-09-2011 9:23am

Well have my lunch date today. Only problem is we never swapped numbers so have no way of contacting each other if anything happens! I know - silly me. Ah well just have to wait and see.

liz2 · 21-09-2011 9:25am

miaowsky wrote: »

Can you imagine if we'd all dated the same guy!? That's kinda funny actually. My friend reckons I should txt him to see what the story is but I think that's a bit much. While yes it may answer a few questions...I'd rather not be thought a psycho!

i also ran the risk of looking like a psycho but i confronted him..feck that :P
he had been dead keen and then all of a sudden...he wasnt
its even gotten to the point where i think he's regretted it, as he's still mailing me on pof and asked me the other day if id fancy doing lunch again sometime

men!!!

liz2 · 21-09-2011 9:26am

Dovies wrote: »

Well have my lunch date today. Only problem is we never swapped numbers so have no way of contacting each other if anything happens! I know - silly me. Ah well just have to wait and see.

i wouldn't worry about the number

but good luck with the date today

stargazer 68 · 21-09-2011 9:26am

liz2 wrote: »

i also ran the risk of looking like a psycho but i confronted him..feck that :P
he had been dead keen and then all of a sudden...he wasnt
its even gotten to the point where i think he's regretted it, as he's still mailing me on pof and asked me the other day if id fancy doing lunch again sometime
men!!!

Tell him to sling his hook!!

liz2 · 21-09-2011 9:30am

Dovies wrote: »

Tell him to sling his hook!!

im actually playing it really cool

besides i have another date tomorrow evening

Rossin · 21-09-2011 9:32am

trawled through 40 pages of matchs on pof last night, urgh, i prefer oc i reckon, id say 90% of the girls listed were using text speak!

What sort of radius would you select? Is it worth having it any higher than 50 miles really?!

stargazer 68 · 21-09-2011 9:33am

Rossin wrote: »

trawled through 40 pages of matchs on pof last night, urgh, i prefer oc i reckon, id say 90% of the girls listed were using text speak!

What sort of radius would you select? Is it worth having it any higher than 50 miles really?!

50 miles is my limit and even thats too far I think. Although it depends on what you are looking for too. If you are looking for a relationship then a little closer to home is better IMO. Easier to meet up etc.

Rossin · 21-09-2011 10:05am

Yeah sounds about right, ill leave it at 50 so, it just about covers Dublin for me

Rossin · 21-09-2011 10:45am

If you set your profile to hidden on pof is there anyone that can see it?

Like if you visit a page will that person see your profile?

Or is it only people who you message will see it?

edit: and if you see someone you know can you hide them from seeing your profile

im getting there, thanks for the help

liz2 · 21-09-2011 11:04am

Rossin wrote: »

If you set your profile to hidden on pof is there anyone that can see it?

Like if you visit a page will that person see your profile?

Or is it only people who you message will see it?

edit: and if you see someone you know can you hide them from seeing your profile

im getting there, thanks for the help

When you hide your profile, you won't show up on any searches but you can mail people and they will be able to reply.. Also, you won't show up on their profile as you having viewed them..you can change that on your mail settings too

gudwan · 21-09-2011 11:17am

I wouldn't be against the idea of dating sites. I think attitudes are changing towards them, in that you used to be a loser and desperate if you used them, considered incapable of normal interaction with people and that only people you'd never want to meet would be on these sites.

Now normal, amiable, sociable people are these sites, the reason being that at some particular time in their life they are very busy with work and don't have all the time in the world for clubbing/pubbing in order to meet people. And the people you meet there are often not looking for relationships, but rather one night stands.

At least on dating sites, people know what they want. That said, my sister went on a date with someone she met on a dating site and it turned out he only had one ear...

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