Online Dating

G-Money · 16-10-2011 7:21pm

liz2 wrote: »

what about a paid site? anotherfriend is meant to be okay

Was on that too for a while, axed my profile a while back. I think I'm a bit fed-up of internet dating, I kind of just can't be arsed with it at the moment. I've disabled my OKCupid profile. I might come back to it in a few months time.

liz2 · 16-10-2011 7:28pm

G-Money wrote: »

Was on that too for a while, axed my profile a while back. I think I'm a bit fed-up of internet dating, I kind of just can't be arsed with it at the moment. I've disabled my OKCupid profile. I might come back to it in a few months time.

well its good to take a break from it for awhile...in a few months time you'll be rejuvinated! :cool:

Dravokivich · 16-10-2011 10:30pm

G-Money wrote: »

I'm on OKCupid. I tell a lie, I got a mail from one girl a few hours after I joined but she was in the US and I'm not convinced it was a genuine mail as such so I deleted it and didn't reply. I was on POF but got fed up with it.

I always found it amusing that most of my views tended to come from the States. Always took it to mean I've more international appeal. :cool:

the_syco · 16-10-2011 11:23pm

Dravokivich wrote: »

I always found it amusing that most of my views tended to come from the States. Always took it to mean I've more international appeal. :cool:

Unless PoF thinks your ISP is in the US :P :pac:

Panthro · 17-10-2011 1:05am

Darr!
Right folks advice needed, I've been chatting to one girl for the past few days now, the messages back and forth are usually a few paragraphs long so I think there is definitely effort being made on either side. She seems really sound, I think we would get on if we met up. I sort of hinted I'd like to meet, I said any chance you ever visit Galway (shes based in Dublin) Big long message of a reply and then at the end she said how she has only realised that I'm based in Galway and said its a bit pointless in us chatting (with a smiley face at the end if that means anything?)
Now I don't know what the fúck to reply?!!
Was that a subtle hint or what?

I effin' hate messaging sometimes!

Hyperbullet · 17-10-2011 1:32am

Panthro wrote: »

Darr!
Right folks advice needed, I've been chatting to one girl for the past few days now, the messages back and forth are usually a few paragraphs long so I think there is definitely effort being made on either side. She seems really sound, I think we would get on if we met up. I sort of hinted I'd like to meet, I said any chance you ever visit Galway (shes based in Dublin) Big long message of a reply and then at the end she said how she has only realised that I'm based in Galway and said its a bit pointless in us chatting (with a smiley face at the end if that means anything?)
Now I don't know what the fúck to reply?!!
Was that a subtle hint or what?

I effin' hate messaging sometimes!

If you feel that it could be worth meeting just stress the point that you're not a million miles apart and see what she says? You in Dublin anytime soon?

Panthro · 17-10-2011 1:37am

Hyperbullet wrote: »

If you feel that it could be worth meeting just stress the point that you're not a million miles apart and see what she says? You in Dublin anytime soon?

Nah, I've no real reason to head to Dublin (bar boardsie beer meetups!)
My housemate is dating a girl from Dublin, they see each other most weekends, so it is possible. I might suggest meeting up some weekend, feck it if I don't ask I'll never know!:pac:

Hyperbullet · 17-10-2011 1:40am

Panthro wrote: »

Nah, I've no real reason to head to Dublin (bar boardsie beer meetups!)
My housemate is dating a girl from Dublin, they see each other most weekends, so it is possible. I might suggest meeting up some weekend, feck it if I don't ask I'll never know!:pac:

Man if you can live by anything it should be "Nothing ventured, nothing gained".

G-Money · 17-10-2011 7:46am

Meet somewhere half-way??

cyrusdvirus · 17-10-2011 7:59am

Panthro wrote: »

Nah, I've no real reason to head to Dublin (bar boardsie beer meetups!)
My housemate is dating a girl from Dublin, they see each other most weekends, so it is possible. I might suggest meeting up some weekend, feck it if I don't ask I'll never know!:pac:

A couple of months back i booked train tickets from Dublin to Galway return for myself and 5 friends. Got them on Iarnrod Eireann. It cost €14. Total.

That was going down on a Friday morning, back on a Sunday afternoon. The tickets were €1 each and a €2 booking charge. It doesn't cost anything approaching the earth to travel up and down at all if you are smart and book your tickets in advance.

cyrusdvirus · 17-10-2011 8:00am

Panthro wrote: »

Nah, I've no real reason to head to Dublin (bar boardsie beer meetups!)
My housemate is dating a girl from Dublin, they see each other most weekends, so it is possible. I might suggest meeting up some weekend, feck it if I don't ask I'll never know!:pac:

No real reason to head to Dublin...... The fact that she's up here and you've been getting on fairly well would give me a damn good reason to travel.

Pembily · 17-10-2011 8:11am

gatecrash wrote: »

No real reason to head to Dublin...... The fact that she's up here and you've been getting on fairly well would give me a damn good reason to travel.

Well said

you could also visit some lovely boardsies

parker kent · 17-10-2011 10:17am

Panthro wrote: »

Nah, I've no real reason to head to Dublin (bar boardsie beer meetups!)
My housemate is dating a girl from Dublin, they see each other most weekends, so it is possible. I might suggest meeting up some weekend, feck it if I don't ask I'll never know!:pac:

Just to back you up a little, I know I'd find doing those trips every weekend a little difficult. For the occasional weekend away, going from Wicklow, Dublin etc to Cork, Galway etc (and vice versa) is grand. But I wouldn't be on for it every week. I'd much, much rather somebody near me. If something were to come up on a weekend (anything with friends etc), it would mean not seeing each other for a fortnight. Now whilst you don't want to be in each others pockets from the off, I wouldn't like to feel that one or the other makes a trip each weekend.

Obviously different people are different, but practicality has to come into things too.

cyrusdvirus · 17-10-2011 10:19am

parker kent wrote: »

Just to back you up a little, I know I'd find doing those trips every weekend a little difficult. For the occasional weekend away, going from Wicklow, Dublin etc to Cork, Galway etc (and vice versa) is grand. But I wouldn't be on for it every week. I'd much, much rather somebody near me. If something were to come up on a weekend (anything with friends etc), it would mean not seeing each other for a fortnight. Now whilst you don't want to be in each others pockets from the off, I wouldn't like to feel that one or the other makes a trip each weekend.

Obviously different people are different, but practicality has to come into things too.

No one is saying that one person has to make all the trips. All we are suggesting is that he makes ONE trip.

Then see about how practical it would be if something more happens.

Otis Driftwood · 17-10-2011 10:22am

parker kent wrote: »

Just to back you up a little, I know I'd find doing those trips every weekend a little difficult. For the occasional weekend away, going from Wicklow, Dublin etc to Cork, Galway etc (and vice versa) is grand. But I wouldn't be on for it every week. I'd much, much rather somebody near me. If something were to come up on a weekend (anything with friends etc), it would mean not seeing each other for a fortnight. Now whilst you don't want to be in each others pockets from the off, I wouldn't like to feel that one or the other makes a trip each weekend.

Obviously different people are different, but practicality has to come into things too.

Agree with you on that one PK.

Ive done the quasi LDR before and its not for me.When you are with someone it should be relatively easy to see them,not having to make travel plans.Even doing something easy like watching a dvd on a Wednesday night cant be done for the most part.

parker kent · 17-10-2011 10:27am

gatecrash wrote: »

No one is saying that one person has to make all the trips. All we are suggesting is that he makes ONE trip.

Then see about how practical it would be if something more happens.

I did say vice versa, indicating that there would be trips by each person.

I'm just saying that I can perfectly understand the viewpoint of somebody who doesn't want to do a long distance thing. Like Otis says, you miss out on the easy things. What I like in a relationship is being able to do easy things like a DVD on a weeknight with pizza etc. So I would be cautious about the distance issue. I tried it once and didn't like it.

Again, I am saying that this is my thoughts and each to their own.

cyrusdvirus · 17-10-2011 10:33am

parker kent wrote: »

I did say vice versa, indicating that there would be trips by each person.

I'm just saying that I can perfectly understand the viewpoint of somebody who doesn't want to do a long distance thing. Like Otis says, you miss out on the easy things. What I like in a relationship is being able to do easy things like a DVD on a weeknight with pizza etc. So I would be cautious about the distance issue. I tried it once and didn't like it.

Again, I am saying that this is my thoughts and each to their own.

I've done it twice, once to Cork, before the motorway was completed... that was a right pain in the ass. Both of us were making equal effort in that relationship, but it just fizzled, for exactly the reasons you and Otis used.

Second time was with a Galway girl, and in this instance i was doing all the driving down and back (fecking kicked myself when i found out about the €1 train fares!!) but that more dies cos she refused to ever travel up to me.

i do agree that the LDR can be a pain in the ass, but for my 2 failures i look at my sister, happily married with 3 kids after an ldr.

This lad might regret not giving the potential relationship a chance, that's all i'm saying..

Larianne · 17-10-2011 12:31pm

Panthro wrote: »

Darr!
Right folks advice needed, I've been chatting to one girl for the past few days now, the messages back and forth are usually a few paragraphs long so I think there is definitely effort being made on either side. She seems really sound, I think we would get on if we met up. I sort of hinted I'd like to meet, I said any chance you ever visit Galway (shes based in Dublin) Big long message of a reply and then at the end she said how she has only realised that I'm based in Galway and said its a bit pointless in us chatting (with a smiley face at the end if that means anything?)
Now I don't know what the fúck to reply?!!
Was that a subtle hint or what?

I effin' hate messaging sometimes!

I'd say leave it, tbh. She'll just string you along till she finds someone closer to home. :cool:

The smiley face was to soften the blow.

cyrusdvirus · 17-10-2011 12:36pm

Larianne wrote: »

I'd say leave it, tbh. She'll just string you along till she finds someone closer to home. :cool:

The smiley face was to soften the blow.

CYNIC!! :pac:

stargazer 68 · 17-10-2011 12:39pm

Larianne wrote: »

I'd say leave it, tbh. She'll just string you along till she finds someone closer to home. :cool:

The smiley face was to soften the blow.

Harsh but fair!

Otis Driftwood · 17-10-2011 12:41pm

Larianne wrote: »

I'd say leave it, tbh. She'll just string you along till she finds someone closer to home. :cool:

The smiley face was to soften the blow.

Did date numero 3 happen Saturday night lady?

Larianne · 17-10-2011 12:42pm

gatecrash wrote: »

CYNIC!! :pac:

Dovies wrote: »

Harsh but fair!

Just being realistic!

If people were just upfront at the start then people wouldn't be left wondering what the hell is going on.

Larianne · 17-10-2011 12:43pm

Otis Driftwood wrote: »

Did date numero 3 happen Saturday night lady?

It did.

I don't think I'll be seeing him again though. Not really on the same page.

oh wells.

parker kent · 17-10-2011 12:50pm

Larianne wrote: »

It did.

I don't think I'll be seeing him again though. Not really on the same page.

oh wells.

Ditto. Had a second date at the weekend. More roadworks than fireworks

:pac:

There was another girl I had a date with a few weeks back that I really liked. Presumably the feeling was not mutual. Oh well!

cyrusdvirus · 17-10-2011 12:53pm

parker kent wrote: »

Ditto. Had a second date as well at the weekend. More roadworks than fireworks :pac:

There was another girl I had a date with a few weeks back that I really liked. Presumably the feeling was not mutual. Oh well!

I got to D3 before the same thing happened at the start of the summer.....

Weird thing is that she recently got back in contact and drinkies are arranged for when she gets back from her hols...

stargazer 68 · 17-10-2011 12:54pm

I had a date over the weekend :eek:

Meh - not sure. Nice bloke, had a good night but the conversation was one sided - mine!! Now I know I could be in the olympics for chatting but when I wasn't, there was no conversation at all. First dates is for getting to know them i.e movies they like, books etc but I had to bring up each topic - bit of hard work. When he got started he was chatty but when the topic came to an end he couldnt find anything to say!

Then he text to say he enjoyed his night and apologies but hes just a quiet person. Dont know if I could do another date like that!

Larianne · 17-10-2011 12:58pm

Dovies wrote: »

I had a date over the weekend :eek:

Meh - not sure. Nice bloke, had a good night but the conversation was one sided - mine!! Now I know I could be in the olympics for chatting but when I wasn't, there was no conversation at all. First dates is for getting to know them i.e movies they like, books etc but I had to bring up each topic - bit of hard work. When he got started he was chatty but when the topic came to an end he couldnt find anything to say!

Then he text to say he enjoyed his night and apologies but hes just a quiet person. Dont know if I could do another date like that!

Ah, that sounds like he's just a shy guy. He was probably worried he'd say the wrong thing. And he did apologise for being quiet so he's aware of it.

Sometimes these things are slow burners...

... and sometimes they're not.:cool:

:pac:

parker kent · 17-10-2011 12:59pm

gatecrash wrote: »

I got to D3 before the same thing happened at the start of the summer.....

Weird thing is that she recently got back in contact and drinkies are arranged for when she gets back from her hols...

Ah yeah it can happen. I'm not going to go through the whole story here (as she could well be a secret boardsie!), but she definitely seemed interested before during and immediately after the date. There could be all sorts of reasons for her going a bit silent (dates with other people, not wanting to date anybody, past relationship etc etc). If she gets in contact again, brilliant. If not, at least I had a good date and a few laughs.

Larianne · 17-10-2011 1:04pm

parker kent wrote: »

Ah yeah it can happen. I'm not going to go through the whole story here (as she could well be a secret boardsie!), but she definitely seemed interested before during and immediately after the date. There could be all sorts of reasons for her going a bit silent (dates with other people, not wanting to date anybody, past relationship etc etc). If she gets in contact again, brilliant. If not, at least I had a good date and a few laughs.

I think it's been mentioned before on this thread, but one of the downsides to online dating is that it is like a candy store - unless you just are messaging the one person, you're never fully committed to getting to know someone properly because there is always the "ooh, there might be someone out there better than this current person". Never give it a proper chance, if you get me.

I think the multiple date thing actually worsens your chances in finding someone. ( I used to be a fan, but not so much now because of what I've stated above).

Not saying that's what happened with yourself Parker, but could be the reason.

Otis Driftwood · 17-10-2011 1:08pm

Larianne wrote: »

It did.

I don't think I'll be seeing him again though. Not really on the same page.

oh wells.

parker kent wrote: »

Ditto. Had a second date at the weekend. More roadworks than fireworks :pac:

There was another girl I had a date with a few weeks back that I really liked. Presumably the feeling was not mutual. Oh well!

Dovies wrote: »

I had a date over the weekend :eek:

Meh - not sure. Nice bloke, had a good night but the conversation was one sided - mine!! Now I know I could be in the olympics for chatting but when I wasn't, there was no conversation at all. First dates is for getting to know them i.e movies they like, books etc but I had to bring up each topic - bit of hard work. When he got started he was chatty but when the topic came to an end he couldnt find anything to say!

Then he text to say he enjoyed his night and apologies but hes just a quiet person. Dont know if I could do another date like that!

God damnit.

And this thread was going so well.

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