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WOW lucky you, what was he like, was he nice!?:D;):P
He was amazing... and best of all, he didn't know how to text speak!!stupidusername wrote: »:eek: wow.
frustrating stuff.ballsymchugh wrote: »that was you?? you left me standing outside in the wind for ages before i gave up! :pac:
I'm very sorry, I would just feel bad taking your pension.... :P
Seriously though, it seems to be very hard to weed out the pervy old men!
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oompaloompa wrote: »I'm very sorry, I would just feel bad taking your pension.... :P
Seriously though, it seems to be very hard to weed out the pervy old men!
i dressed up pretty well for the date too
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ballsymchugh wrote: »i dressed up pretty well for the date too
Well if I'd known you were that attractive, I'd have paid for the coffee, taken you home and then paid you a lovely fee
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I suppose I just assume they will say No! :rolleyes:
From the point of view of many men, this is a very annoying attitude. I'm not having a go at you (at all!!
); I'm attacking the attitude.
You would think that women who join dating sites are more progressive and open to actively seeking a relationship. Yet many just sign up and wait for the men to come calling. That, presumably, is the same attitude that's failed many of these women in the real-world. You've such a great opportunity to meet loads of nice guys online, yet when you sign up you just do the equivalent of sitting there with your arms folded, waiting for the man to make the move. And often they will make the move; but if they don't, you should. Like Galvasean said, you have NOTHING to lose, and everything to gain. It's win-win. Sure, you'll be rejected a few times (there's not a single man alive who hasn't been rejected at some point), but suck it up. It's not like you actually have to face that person, and besides, eventually, you will meet a nice guy on it. It's a numbers game, and ultimately they're stacked in your favour. 0 -
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From the point of view of many men, this is a very annoying attitude. I'm not having a go at you (at!!); I'm attacking the attitude.
You would think that women who join dating sites are more progressive and open to actively seeking a relationship. Yet many just sign up and wait for the men to come calling. That, presumably, is the same attitude that's failed many of these women in the real-world. You've such a great opportunity to meet loads of nice guys online, yet when you sign up you just do the equivalent of sitting there with your arms folded, waiting for the man to make the move. And often they will make the move; but if they don't, you should. Like Galvasean said, you have NOTHING to lose, and everything to gain. It's win-win. Sure, you'll be rejected a few times (there's not a single man alive who hasn't been rejected at some point), but suck it up. It's not like you actually have to face that person, and besides, eventually, you will meet a nice guy on it. It's a numbers game, and ultimately they're stacked in your favour.
I am happy to make the initial contact with a guy. I'm always surprised at how many mail me back and say it's rare for a girl to make the first move. I agree with above post, you'd think that girls would be more proactive, especially since they've taken the time to set up a profile.0 -
oompaloompa wrote: »I am happy to make the initial contact with a guy. I'm always surprised at how many mail me back and say it's rare for a girl to make the first move. I agree with above post, you'd think that girls would be more proactive, especially since they've taken the time to set up a profile.
From reading your posts on this page of this thread alone, I'd say you do very well too, or will soon. Great sense of humour. Goes a LONG way 0 -
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From reading your posts on this page of this thread alone, I'd say you do very well too, or will soon. Great sense of humour. Goes a LONG way
I get lots of mails, I have a good picture up... the problem is that a lot of the mails I get are one liners, or looking for NSA, or just say... you're hot!!
Good for the ego, but not for changing the relationship status 0 -
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Couldn't agree more!Also, as an aside, I really have a thing about the importance of good conversations, which I really emphasised in my profile description. I suggest *coffee* because I actually don't drink. If meeting in the evening, coffees can be had in pubs too, and the girl can order whatever she feels like obviously. I also emphasised in my profile that I'm not into the pub scene. So many people are only comfortable with the opposite sex in the pub, that it's sort of one my tests: "are you at ease interacting socially and being yourself with a stranger in a non-alcohol situation?" I realise this will seem weird to people who drink, but being a twenty-something non-drinker in Ireland isn't easy from a social pov, and it's important for me to establish early on that a potential partner is okay with hanging out in non-pubby places with me
Ps not having a go but girls who 'can't ' ask a guy out drive me up the wall!
Galv, good mail0 -
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You know after reading so many threads about boardsies struggling with online dating and asking for advice etc I am very tempted to set up a private facebook group or something where people can join if they are the type of person that is struggling... a place to go if they need advice or just to talk... who knows you might even find that the person of your dreams is a boardsie!!
One of the people posting here lately is someone I have met in real life and certainly is a very beautiful young woman with a lot going for her!! In fact I miss her a lot since she moved away
Nevertheless opinions welcome..... if such a facebook group existed would you join?0 -
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You know after reading so many threads about boardsies struggling with online dating and asking for advice etc I am very tempted to set up a private facebook group or something where people can join if they are the type of person that is struggling... a place to go if they need advice or just to talk... who knows you might even find that the person of your dreams is a boardsie!!
One of the people posting here lately is someone I have met in real life and certainly is a very beautiful young woman with a lot going for her!! In fact I miss her a lot since she moved away
Nevertheless opinions welcome..... if such a facebook group existed would you join?
I'm not a fan of facebook, but I do think it's a good idea.
I enjoy this thread a lot, it's great to hear people's honest views and opinions on ID.0 -
You know after reading so many threads about boardsies struggling with online dating and asking for advice etc I am very tempted to set up a private facebook group or something where people can join if they are the type of person that is struggling... a place to go if they need advice or just to talk... who knows you might even find that the person of your dreams is a boardsie!!
One of the people posting here lately is someone I have met in real life and certainly is a very beautiful young woman with a lot going for her!! In fact I miss her a lot since she moved away
Nevertheless opinions welcome..... if such a facebook group existed would you join?
we can bitch about it in person on saturday night, before spending the next while asking strangers if they'll shift the person sitting beside you.0 -
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ballsymchugh wrote: »we can bitch about it in person on saturday night, before spending the next while asking strangers if they'll shift the person sitting beside you.
Sorry but I have no clue what you are going on about
can you please explain it to me.... oompaloompa wrote: »I'm on POF, and I find a lot of people looking for sex, or one liner messages from men who haven't bothered to fill out their profile. There is no way I'm replying to someone who has filled their profile with 'ask ask ask' :rolleyes:
I took the time to fill out my profile openly and honestly, so I don't think it's much to ask that others make a similar effort.
Do you have a photo up on both sites?
I have a photo on POF, and I often wonder should I take it down. By doing so, would I seriously decrease my chances of getting genuine mails?
Yes I have a photo on both sites and while removing your photos WILL decrease the number of messages you get I would not advise it. The reason being that like it or not most people go for both looks and personality (for me it is about 45% looks and 55% personality) but I would not email someone who had no photo. The reason being is they might be easy to talk to but if I don't find them attractive then it would be too difficult (harsh maybe but true!!!).
From some of the messages I get it seems like girls email me based on my photos and don't always read my profile (based on the questions they ask which are answered on my profile).I would if I were still in Ireland. Why does the good stuff happen after I leave? :mad:
Seems I'm the Blitz.
Are you refering to the facebook thing? I'm not sure as you did not quote my post.... 0
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