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    #1652
    hollypink
    Registered Users Posts: 1,508 ✭✭✭hollypink


    If a girl initiates the first email/message do you think guys sometimes reply out of politeness? (since according to this thread anyway it's relatively rare for a girl to send the first message)


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    #1653
    Dravokivich
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Music Moderators, Politics Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 22,360 CMod ✭✭✭✭Dravokivich


    hollypink wrote: »
    If a girl initiates the first email/message do you think guys sometimes reply out of politeness? (since according to this thread anyway it's relatively rare for a girl to send the first message)

    Politeness maybe...

    I'd be of the opinion if someone messaged me, it's because they noticed something of interest. So i'd be inclined to get back to them to see what they are like.


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    #1654
    Amtmann
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,093 ✭✭✭Amtmann


    hollypink wrote: »
    If a girl initiates the first email/message do you think guys sometimes reply out of politeness? (since according to this thread anyway it's relatively rare for a girl to send the first message)

    I've received quite a few messages from girls but I ignored them as they were mostly just "hey hun, how r u?" type messages. If a girl sent me a nice message I always replied out of genuine interest (if I was genuinely interested). Sometimes I replied out of politeness, but this can lead to problems (offence being caused by rejection).


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    #1655
    Vanbis
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,724 ✭✭✭Vanbis


    hollypink wrote: »
    If a girl initiates the first email/message do you think guys sometimes reply out of politeness? (since according to this thread anyway it's relatively rare for a girl to send the first message)

    When it comes to online dating and women, i would expect more women to initiate and send a e-mail/message. I would always reply back regardless of the girl/profile, its manners.


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    #1656
    hollypink
    Registered Users Posts: 1,508 ✭✭✭hollypink


    I thought politeness would be a factor alright. I don't send those 'how ru?' messages, I put in a little effort!


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    #1657
    Hyperbullet
    Registered Users Posts: 2,084 ✭✭✭Hyperbullet


    hollypink wrote: »
    I thought politeness would be a factor alright. I don't send those 'how ru?' messages, I put in a little effort!

    Well done! Its rare!


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    #1658
    Denisejcc
    Registered Users Posts: 1,060 ✭✭✭Denisejcc


    Yes I agree all of those Hi, How are you today? messages are deleted, dont even bother checking out the profile. I remember one guy had on his profile to ask him any 6 questions you want... so I went to the bother of thinking up 6 funny questions referencing comments in his profile and he didnt reply!??? :mad: after all that effort :D:rolleyes:


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    #1659
    Vanbis
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,724 ✭✭✭Vanbis


    Denisejcc wrote: »
    so I went to the bother of thinking up 6 funny questions referencing comments in his profile and he didnt reply!??? :mad: after all that effort :D:rolleyes:

    You should've replied back with six answers for him :pac:


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    #1660
    oompaloompa
    Closed Accounts Posts: 333 ✭✭oompaloompa


    Tremelo wrote: »
    I've received quite a few messages from girls but I ignored them as they were mostly just "hey hun, how r u?" type messages. If a girl sent me a nice message I always replied out of genuine interest (if I was genuinely interested). Sometimes I replied out of politeness, but this can lead to problems (offence being caused by rejection).

    I tend to ignore one liners really.

    I do try to make an effort in my mails to people. (see my post earlier from he who shall be known as 'prick' from now on)

    This thread is addictive!! :o


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    #1661
    Denisejcc
    Registered Users Posts: 1,060 ✭✭✭Denisejcc


    Vanbis wrote: »
    You should've replied back with six answers for him :pac:

    Ha ha true :D


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    #1662
    oompaloompa
    Closed Accounts Posts: 333 ✭✭oompaloompa


    Denisejcc wrote: »
    Yes I agree all of those Hi, How are you today? messages are deleted, dont even bother checking out the profile. I remember one guy had on his profile to ask him any 6 questions you want... so I went to the bother of thinking up 6 funny questions referencing comments in his profile and he didnt reply!??? :mad: after all that effort :D:rolleyes:

    Was this on POF? I think I was ignored too!! :confused:


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    #1663
    Amtmann
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,093 ✭✭✭Amtmann


    oompaloompa wrote: »

    This thread is addictive!! :o

    It actually is! Three cheers for King Henry!


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    #1664
    oompaloompa
    Closed Accounts Posts: 333 ✭✭oompaloompa


    Tremelo wrote: »
    It actually is! Three cheers for King Henry!

    That post makes me wonder why I'm participating in the Gentleman's Club thread, and not TLL?!!!


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    #1665
    Amtmann
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,093 ✭✭✭Amtmann


    oompaloompa wrote: »
    That post makes me wonder why I'm participating in the Gentleman's Club thread, and not TLL?!!!

    Because you're seeking the male pov ;)


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    #1666
    Denisejcc
    Registered Users Posts: 1,060 ✭✭✭Denisejcc


    oompaloompa wrote: »
    Was this on POF? I think I was ignored too!! :confused:

    Ha ha yeah its was on POF, thats mad! :D


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    #1667
    oompaloompa
    Closed Accounts Posts: 333 ✭✭oompaloompa


    Tremelo wrote: »
    Because you're seeking the male pov ;)

    Thanks for clearing that up!

    It's funny, I think I'm pretty happy with my profile and how I approach the ID world so I'm not really here looking for advice... but I do find this thread interesting and I find myself looking at mails from guys, wondering is he a boardsie!!


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    #1668
    Vanbis
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,724 ✭✭✭Vanbis


    oompaloompa wrote: »
    That post makes me wonder why I'm participating in the Gentleman's Club thread, and not TLL?!!!
    This thread is addictive!! :o
    ;)


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    #1669
    Galvasean
    Registered Users Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    oompaloompa wrote: »
    Saw your pics in 'know your clubbers'.... you're not bad ;)

    *hunts for galvasean on POF*

    oompaloompa wrote: »
    Latest from Oompa Loompa's world of ID......:D

    How can anyone be so ignorant :rolleyes:

    ^^ Looks like she found me :pac:

    Maguined wrote: »
    If OKC puts her forward to you as a match it will be a bit freaky! :eek:

    It put me forward as a match for her. We have SO much in common... ESPECIALLY DNA!


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    #1670
    MudSkipper
    Registered Users Posts: 556 ✭✭✭MudSkipper


    woot!! I've got a reply and not a one-liner for once :D

    *does happy dance*


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    #1671
    oompaloompa
    Closed Accounts Posts: 333 ✭✭oompaloompa


    Does anyone else think the 'meet me' app on POF is a bit weird....148 men want to meet me apparently... that's why they go to such effort in their mails... 'Hey hun', 'hi sxc'.... :rolleyes:


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    #1672
    18AD
    Registered Users Posts: 1,821 ✭✭✭18AD


    I'm much more amused by the fact that they have to tell people that 'antiques' are not a good ice breaker.

    Even though that ranks at 7 on the list of sh*t topics. The other ones are actually really interesting.


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    #1673
    Galvasean
    Registered Users Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    Really not liking POF. The layout is very cluttered and all over the place.


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    #1674
    Lenmeister
    Registered Users Posts: 1,457 ✭✭✭Lenmeister


    oompaloompa wrote: »
    Does anyone else think the 'meet me' app on POF is a bit weird....148 men want to meet me apparently... that's why they go to such effort in their mails... 'Hey hun', 'hi sxc'.... :rolleyes:
    Haha just goes to show what the ratio of guys to girls are on these sites! So you get 2 word intros and I get 2 word answers? This online thing is quite hard! Anyone else think so too? ^^


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    #1675
    Lenmeister
    Registered Users Posts: 1,457 ✭✭✭Lenmeister


    Galvasean wrote: »
    Really not liking POF. The layout is very cluttered and all over the place.
    Really? I always thought it was ok before I left it, not sure what it's like now, same as 18months ago? The search thingy is pretty simple, though I guess the profile was always a bit blah looking.


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    #1676
    Discodog
    Registered Users Posts: 15,897 ✭✭✭✭Discodog


    Meetic have a clever wheeze. If several women visit your profile, in any one day, they stop notifying you - making the excuse that they don't want to disturb :rolleyes:. But you have to pay to see who has visited your profile.

    So you get mails saying that lots of women have viewed your profile as an inducement to part with your money.


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    #1677
    stargazer 68
    Registered Users Posts: 5,117 ✭✭✭stargazer 68


    The 'meet me' thing on POF is definitely a bit suspect. I have over 200 people wanting to meet me yet none ever mail me. I have mailed a couple I took a fancy too and they never replied or replied with thanks but no thanks emails!

    One guy even said I just wasn't attractive enough for him to date! Bleedin cheek! :eek:


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    #1678
    Discodog
    Registered Users Posts: 15,897 ✭✭✭✭Discodog


    Any of these sites that claim to make a personality assessment from responses to a questionnaire are very suspect. A friend badgered me to do this on eHarmony. It took ages & even she admitted that their personality profile was nothing like me !.


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    #1679
    oompaloompa
    Closed Accounts Posts: 333 ✭✭oompaloompa


    Dovies wrote: »
    The 'meet me' thing on POF is definitely a bit suspect. I have over 200 people wanting to meet me yet none ever mail me. I have mailed a couple I took a fancy too and they never replied or replied with thanks but no thanks emails!

    One guy even said I just wasn't attractive enough for him to date! Bleedin cheek! :eek:

    Some people really do forget their manners just cos they're hiding behind a computer screen :rolleyes:


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    #1680
    IrishEyes19
    Registered Users Posts: 1,861 ✭✭✭IrishEyes19


    oompaloompa wrote: »
    Some people really do forget their manners just cos they're hiding behind a computer screen :rolleyes:

    Totally agree with that. A person can be anyone behind a computer screen. Even with a profile picture up, its still very much a blind date scenario


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    #1681
    Vanbis
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,724 ✭✭✭Vanbis


    It doesn't take much to be nice or to be mannerly towards someone even if your not attracted to that person. You could easly get along and stirke up a a friendship along the way.


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