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Awh hate this stuff. really have no idea what to do.
My experiences so far have been
date 1: hug, kinda awkward, he pecked my on the cheek,
(didn't like him)
date 2: ended very awkwardly, wont go into that one
date 3: the awkward wave, I could see it in his eyes, he was expecting more. though as to why I don't know. cause then after it ended he goes oh we clearly didn't have any chemistry...
hate this stuff. but it's not just cause it's a date, it's cause it's basically a stranger too.0 -
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Okay, I'll go with a hug so.
I would take a smile and awkward wave as a "never gonna see you again" gesture.
I know, this is something I need to work on. I sometimes end up texting them a few hours later to sort of confirm that I am interested. I once told a girl I did fancy that I did online dating "not only so that I can meet someone, but also to make friends". Quite inaccurate and I don't know why I said it. I think I didn't want to come across as over eager about dating or something, i.e. "I don't have all my hopes pinned on online dating. If I find someone, cool; if not, no big deal". The spirit of the sentiment got mangled somewhere between my brain and my vocal chords though
Anyway, afterwards I figured "she probably thinks now that I've no interest in her". So I texted a nice compliment to her the very next day asking her out again. That worked
Kiss happened on second date, but I was much more sure of myself then, as she'd come all the way to my town and we'd been walking slowly through a wood before we sat down on a bench by a river with no one around. It was the perfect situation for a first kiss...
I'm bad with hugs myself. I don't think I'd quite know how to react if a girl hugged me at the end of a first date. I'd probably take it as a positive....I think! But I wouldn't know if I should hug tight back or weak. There'd be a sort of a Seinfeld-style discussion to be had afterwards with my friends as to what different types of hugs might mean
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parker kent wrote: »Not always! I'd be more worried about trying for an unwanted first date kiss when it is an online first date. Leave the kissing for later!
yeah have to say if it was my first time meeting someone, I'd feel odd about kissing them. well of course if you click then yeah maybe. i suppose i find it hard to imagine that'd happen after one date. I haven't enough experience with this kinda stuff though.
yeah that doesn't make any sense, i've kissed guys i've only met a few hours previous... hmmm 0 -
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stupidusername wrote: »yeah have to say if it was my first time meeting someone, I'd feel odd about kissing them. well of course if you click then yeah maybe. i suppose i find it hard to imagine that'd happen after one date. I haven't enough experience with this kinda stuff though.
yeah that doesn't make any sense, i've kissed guys i've only met a few hours previous... hmmm
I've never really been one for random nightclub kissing either. Guess I'm just shy about it. I am genuinely woeful at noticing if a girl likes me or wants to go further. So I'd be the same on a first date, especially if I'm meeting them for the first time.0 -
I can't really set a global rule for when The First Kiss (:pac:) is permissible. So far, it's happened at a different stage every time. If I really hit it off with someone on the first date, I'm not going to not kiss them just because of a general rule
Then again I'm pretty piss-poor at the whole Rules of Dating thing anyway.. feck it, too much hassle.0 -
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I can't really set a global rule for when The First Kiss (:pac:) is permissible. So far, it's happened at a different stage every time. If I really hit it off with someone on the first date, I'm not going to not kiss them just because of a general rule
Then again I'm pretty piss-poor at the whole Rules of Dating thing anyway.. feck it, too much hassle.
It's not that we're following rules or anything, just that meeting a stranger is a bit odd. So I just don't see the moment happening on first dates with online people. If it did happen and I spotted it, I would do it. But it is more that the whole idea of meeting somebody for the first time means the moment is less likely to happen. I don't just throw my kisses around :pac:0 -
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I kinda meant with first dates in general. If I like someone, I'm going to kiss them, and if they kiss me back great; if they don't, well it's no loss as they're hardly any less interested than they already were!
Even then it isn't always a sign. Not everybody is great at reading body language on dates. It can be oddly confusing.
Though you making the move and kissing the guy would be a pretty good sign 0 -
parker kent wrote: »Even then it isn't always a sign. Not everybody is great at reading body language on dates. It can be oddly confusing.
Though you making the move and kissing the guy would be a pretty good sign
yeah but you'd have to be pretty sure he likes you to do that... 0 -
stupidusername wrote: »yeah but you'd have to be pretty sure he likes you to do that...
That was in response to G86 saying she does that.
Now you know how men feel most of the time when they are expected to initiate everything. Sometimes we like to be chased too you know :P0 -
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I think you are worrying and reading into things too much. Just go with whatever you feel like in the moment. A smile and an awkward wave could easily of been down to nerves and they are genuinely interested so don't analyse things too much and just go with the flow I reckon.
Ah, its just when I've asked guys for their opinion they said the handshake was a no-no.
I forgot about this, but I was talking to a guy last night about the ending a date and he came up with an excellent idea! http://www.amazon.co.uk/Minute-Novelty-Smoke-Pellets-Bombs/dp/B004VRBNCW/ref=sr_1_6?ie=UTF8&qid=1306688818&sr=8-6 With one puff, and you're gone. 0 -
Ah, its just when I've asked guys for their opinion they said the handshake was a no-no.
I forgot about this, but I was talking to a guy last night about the ending a date and he came up with an excellent idea! http://www.amazon.co.uk/Minute-Novelty-Smoke-Pellets-Bombs/dp/B004VRBNCW/ref=sr_1_6?ie=UTF8&qid=1306688818&sr=8-6 With one puff, and you're gone.
haha that's brilliant! if only...0 -
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Ah, its just when I've asked guys for their opinion they said the handshake was a no-no.
I forgot about this, but I was talking to a guy last night about the ending a date and he came up with an excellent idea! http://www.amazon.co.uk/Minute-Novelty-Smoke-Pellets-Bombs/dp/B004VRBNCW/ref=sr_1_6?ie=UTF8&qid=1306688818&sr=8-6 With one puff, and you're gone.
I think your friend might be batman.0 -
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