Online Dating

manafana

she screams of avoid, avoid.

Amtmann

Just had date #2 with a girl I met on PoF. Just not feeling it, so there won't be a third. Back to square one. But I'm mad busy for the next two weeks so I think I'll lay off it for a while anyway.

Galvasean

have to cancel my accounts now. 'Twas a fun experiment while it lasted. You'll all forgive me if I watch the thread and see how you all get on.

The_Morrigan

Galvasean wrote: »

have to cancel my accounts now. 'Twas a fun experiment while it lasted. You'll all forgive me if I watch the thread and see how you all get on.

Cancelling for good or bad reasons Galva?

Galvasean

The_Morrigan wrote: »

Cancelling for good or bad reasons Galva?

Good. Got back with my ex recently (not internet related) so all is good in my hood.

The_Morrigan

Galvasean wrote: »

Good. Got back with my ex recently (not internet related) so all is good in my hood.

Good man - hope that goes well for you

Mickeroo

Is it bad form to just not reply to a message if you're not interested in someone?

The_Morrigan

Mickeroo wrote: »

Is it bad form to just not reply to a message if you're not interested in someone?

If they have put some effort into the email, or you've had some interactions then yes!


I had a guy do that to me in the last few days, he emailed me, back and forth for a while, then nothing - I've seen him online a lot since, but I sent the last email and he didn't respond. I find it extremely rude.

Galvasean

The_Morrigan wrote: »

I had a guy do that to me in the last few days, he emailed me, back and forth for a while, then nothing - I've seen him online a lot since, but I sent the last email and he didn't respond. I find it extremely rude.

That's one of the most frustrating aspects of online dating in my opinion; striking up a bit of a back n' forth with someone only for them to lose interest and start ignoring you in what is basically mid-conversation.

The_Morrigan

Galvasean wrote: »

That's one of the most frustrating aspects of online dating in my opinion; striking up a bit of a back n' forth with someone only for them to lose interest and start ignoring you in what is basically mid-conversation.

Not even just with online dating, I've had people do it in real life too - I just find it really rude and kinda cruel if you've left someone hanging on the other end.

parker kent

Mickeroo wrote: »

Is it bad form to just not reply to a message if you're not interested in someone?

There was a fair bit of debate about this earlier in the thread (not expecting you to have read every post, it is a long thread!) and the view seemed to be split. A lot of people (including me) would rather not get an email saying the person was not interested. Then others would prefer the message. But that can lead to awkward or even angry responses.

Here was my original thoughts on messages saying the other person was not interested.

parker kent wrote: »

Wouldn't it be a bit annoying and a let down to get mail on a dating site and for it to be somebody saying "Not Interested!". Imagine the stages you'd go through:

Oh look an email...yah!
Oh it's from Miss X, she seemed nice
Oh.....she's not interested

Alright so I am joking a bit, but you get the point.

(If you go back to around post 400 in the thread you'll see a lot of chat about this topic)

Mickeroo

The_Morrigan wrote: »

If they have put some effort into the email, or you've had some interactions then yes!


I had a guy do that to me in the last few days, he emailed me, back and forth for a while, then nothing - I've seen him online a lot since, but I sent the last email and he didn't respond. I find it extremely rude.

All it said was "Hi" so not much effort and there hadn't been any communication between us beforehand.

The_Morrigan

Mickeroo wrote: »

All it said was "Hi" so not much effort and there hadn't been any communication between us beforehand.

Those I tend to ignore

epgc3fyqirnbsx

Met someone tonight (tried this malark)
Her photos didn't do her justice, very good looking. But dull...

How to proceed, do the right thing or the bad thing. Maybe the bad thing is the right thing. Maybe the right thing is the bad thing.

Whats right or wrong these days anyway

hmmmm

Larianne

Tremelo wrote: »

Just had date #2 with a girl I met on PoF. Just not feeling it, so there won't be a third. Back to square one. But I'm mad busy for the next two weeks so I think I'll lay off it for a while anyway.

Jaysis, hope that's not me! :cool: Also on 2nd date tonight. :pac:

Also, got rejected from beautifulpeople.com. waaahh. Next time I'll make sure its a titty picture!

Galvasean

Larianne wrote: »

Also, got rejected from beautifulpeople.com. waaahh. Next time I'll make sure its a titty picture!

How does that work? Do they send you a mail saying "you're no welcome here"?

Otis Driftwood

Im sure we will be only too happy to give you some feedback on said titty pics Larianne.

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:pac:

parker kent

Larianne wrote: »

Also, got rejected from beautifulpeople.com. waaahh. Next time I'll make sure its a titty picture!

Ladies, please be advised that I am available to screen these photos before you send them :pac:

Edit: Damn Otis and his Ninja Perv fingers :pac:

Kevin Duffy

Mickeroo wrote: »

All it said was "Hi" so not much effort and there hadn't been any communication between us beforehand.

If you like the profile, why not reply? You'd answer someone who said "hi" down the pub, wouldn't you? If things don't improve, you can always end it politely.

Larianne

Galvasean wrote: »

How does that work? Do they send you a mail saying "you're no welcome here"?

Unfortunately, your application to BeautifulPeople.com was not successful.
Please note, only one in five applicants are currently accepted into BeautifulPeople.com
BeautifulPeople invites you to apply again, perhaps with a better picture and a more interesting profile description.

Well I didn't fill out a profile. I though my beauty would have been enough! Guess I should have mentioned my volunteer work and hopes to save the world! :rolleyes:

Otis Driftwood wrote: »

Im sure we will be only too happy to give you some feedback on said titty pics Larianne.

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:pac:

parker kent wrote: »

Ladies, please be advised that I am available to screen these photos before you send them :pac:

Edit: Damn Otis and his Ninja Perv fingers :pac:

Thanks lads, I'll keep yous in mind.

Galvasean

Larianne wrote: »

Well I didn't fill out a profile. I though my beauty would have been enough! Guess I should have mentioned my volunteer work and hopes to save the world! :rolleyes:

I guess you misjudged us beautiful people. We are more than just pretty faces.

stupidusername

Ruben Long Historian wrote: »

Met someone tonight (tried this malark)
Her photos didn't do her justice, very good looking. But dull...

How to proceed, do the right thing or the bad thing. Maybe the bad thing is the right thing. Maybe the right thing is the bad thing.

Whats right or wrong these days anyway

hmmmm

would you think there's any point in giving her another chance?

if you dont, and you want to let her down gently (and yes i would suggest actually letting her know) you could say something like you didn't really feel your personalities matched well.

epgc3fyqirnbsx

stupidusername wrote: »

would you think there's any point in giving her another chance?

if you dont, and you want to let her down gently (and yes i would suggest actually letting her know) you could say something like you didn't really feel your personalities matched well.

yeah that's certainly the right thing to do. but, and I wont endear myself to anyone here, she's incredibly hot.
So I suppose I better just tell her that, that I dont know if we would get on (she's probably thinking the same thing ffs) but that... damn, you're hot

Mickeroo

Kevin Duffy wrote: »

If you like the profile, why not reply? You'd answer someone who said "hi" down the pub, wouldn't you? If things don't improve, you can always end it politely.

I'm definitley not interested I don't think and I don't want to start a convo just so I can tell them that.

Discodog

According to a girl that I was chatting to, her & all her friends have several profiles each on some free sites like POF. So you could easily get several mails from the same person using different names.

When I asked why they did this I was told that it is a good way of sussing people out. For example if they suspect that he might be a player then they send him a suggestive mail offering a hint of no strings & see if he swallows the bait.

Apparently it is also common for girls to get their mate to mail a guy that they are interested in as it is easy to ask questions & to often get different answers.

All very sneaky but not a bad idea.

stupidusername

Ruben Long Historian wrote: »

yeah that's certainly the right thing to do. but, and I wont endear myself to anyone here, she's incredibly hot.
So I suppose I better just tell her that, that I dont know if we would get on (she's probably thinking the same thing ffs) but that... damn, you're hot

hmmm well it could be good or could be bad, to tell her she's really hot but you've no chemistry. if she's used to hearing it she won't be happy. i mean if she finds it hard to find someone to like her for her personality that is. so maybe leave out the 'you're hot' part.

Larianne

Discodog wrote: »

According to a girl that I was chatting to, her & all her friends have several profiles each on some free sites like POF. So you could easily get several mails from the same person using different names.

When I asked why they did this I was told that it is a good way of sussing people out. For example if they suspect that he might be a player then they send him a suggestive mail offering a hint of no strings & see if he swallows the bait.

Apparently it is also common for girls to get their mate to mail a guy that they are interested in as it is easy to ask questions & to often get different answers.

All very sneaky but not a bad idea.

Man, they don't have much of a life do they?? No wonder I keep seeing guys profiles with "Genuine woman/lady wanted". :cool:

Otis Driftwood

Larianne wrote: »

Man, they don't have much of a life do they?? No wonder I keep seeing guys profiles with "Genuine woman/lady wanted". :cool:

Agreed 100%.

Thats horribly underhanded.

stupidusername

Discodog wrote: »

All very sneaky but not a bad idea.

This ****, I hate.

Discodog

Larianne wrote: »

Man, they don't have much of a life do they?? No wonder I keep seeing guys profiles with "Genuine woman/lady wanted". :cool:

But who says that the guys aren't doing it as well. It is a very easy & kind of logical way to see if someone is consistent & genuine.