What makes a "slut"?

starbelgrade

Dudess wrote: »

I dunno. How long is a piece of thread?

18.5cm exactly. I know that because I measured it once.

DerekDGoldfish

starbelgrade wrote: »

18.5cm exactly. I know that because I measured it once.

Ah but which end did you measure it from?

Faith+1

What makes a slut?? Hmmm, Id say when you ask for a BJ and she say's come in a cup and she'll drink it later.:eek::eek::eek:

Galway K9

No such thing as a slut just a ego created word to attack girls reproducing with other male species as it insults his manhood.

Wompa1

This is my thinking.

Women, even pretty ugly women could get a guy on a night out. Women are seen to be the one's that decide if they want sex with it assumed men want sex all the time.

So if a woman has sex with lots of guys its not an acheivement and she's a slut

If a guy has sex with alot of women then its a bit different because he had to either be rich, good looking, have a nice car or tell some killer lies to get those sluts :P

Personally I don't hail a guy that has sex with lots of women as a hero anyway. I think anybody that has sex with alot of people is a slut and there is such a thing as too many partners.

colinod0806

MUSSOLINI wrote: »

I disagree.

HavingCrack wrote: »

I disagree :pac:

vicecreamsundae

dinneenp wrote: »

What if 'Mary' lets a guy drop the hand on the dancefloor, has sex in the nightclub toilet. Outside she meets another (lucky/unlucky) guy and has sex down the alley behind the nightclub. And this is a Thursday night, she goes out over the weekend and does similar.

Would she be a slut?

In my opinion, no. Mary just has a lot of sex. Slut would imply that having lots of sex is a bad thing. Why put a negative spin on it? If she and the guys in question use protection and get regular checkups then i'm all for it. if they don't..well i might call them stupid, but i wouldn't call them sluts.

Zillah

Couldn't be bothered reading all ten pages so sorry if this has been said, but it's pretty simple evolution: Women have to deal with the consequences of casual sex (pregnancy) whereas a man has nothing to lose. We're wired to think differently in terms of what's appropriate behaviour.

vicecreamsundae

Zillah, i agree that in the past especially and still to some extent, women have more to lose through casual sex. but i disagree on the second part -people aren't "wired" to think one way or the other. we form our opinions based on the things we learn/see/experience.

sesna

Zillah wrote: »

Couldn't be bothered reading all ten pages so sorry if this has been said, but it's pretty simple evolution: Women have to deal with the consequences of casual sex (pregnancy) whereas a man has nothing to lose. We're wired to think differently in terms of what's appropriate behaviour.

Don't value STI-free status much ?

Lyra Fangs

Slut is just another term used by people to make little of women. The term is used by both men and women but imho i would say that women use it more. Women like to talk and gossip it's in our nature and slut is nothing more than a way of belittling another woman. I mean most of the time a woman is labelled a slut on little more than rumour and gossip that she sleeps around. With regards to a guy being called a player for me it's just the masculine form of slut. I think player is perceived in a more positive light because it is more socially acceptable for a guy to sleep around than a girl.

marzic

sesna wrote: »

Don't value STI-free status much ?

yes there should be some kind of value clubcard for being STI-free:D

Zillah

sesna wrote: »

Don't value STI-free status much ?

You'd be surprised how little STIs there would have been fifty thousand years ago when humanity existed as nothing more than a handful of isolated tribes who had virtually no contact with each other. I'm talking about the evolutionary pressures that have shaped our genes and therefore the structure of our brains, not the sociological factors on which we should base our current opinions.

vicecreamsundae wrote: »

Zillah, i agree that in the past especially and still to some extent, women have more to lose through casual sex. but i disagree on the second part -people aren't "wired" to think one way or the other. we form our opinions based on the things we learn/see/experience.

It is undeniable that the world we experience shapes our views and opinions, and I agree that one can (as I have) overcome any innate sexism regarding the term "slut" we might feel. However, to dismiss the fact that humanity has traits and biases hardwired into our brains is very naive. They can be altered, shaped or overcome, but there is a reason that all people everywhere across all of recorded history react in almost identical ways to the same situations. A boyfriend gets aggressive when another man hits on his girlfriend, parents feel protective about their children, some sitauations call for song and dance, others silence and mourning. There's a reason that humans as a group behave in ways we describe as human...it's in the genes. And yes, unfortunately one of those biases is to regard promiscuous women judgementally and promiscuous men as successful. I'm not saying it's fair, merely that there is an explanation.

Dialectic

siltirocker wrote: »

As Karl Hungus mentioned if a man gets with a raft of chicks it tends to take effort, charm, interest and spade work. With no bearing on how he will end up or guarantee of sex.

On the other hand - a woman simple can walk up to any fella and just prop a ride. And 9 times out of 10 will get it.

Chicks are like bouncers and Dudes are like underage teenagers without ID. That teenager has to bull**** and charm his way in through door like a pro. Where as a bouncer just picks whoever the want to let in in.

So, if I'm following this, right - A guy isn't/can't be a slut because he has to (usually) use effort, charm etc etc if he wants to get anywhere. Right?

But, if he's getting sex with women who just "prop a ride" then what does he need the charm etc for?

And in cases like this who is the slut? Him or her?

Or have I completely lost it?

And by the way I find the whole slut thing hard to swallow.

Abi

Lyra Fangs wrote: »

Slut is just another term used by people to make little of women. The term is used by both men and women but imho i would say that women use it more. Women like to talk and gossip it's in our nature and slut is nothing more than a way of belittling another woman.

Speak for yourself, I'd never call another woman a slut. It's either jealousy or immaturity behind a disgusting comment like that.

With women like this, how are we supposed to convince ourselves let alone the opposite sex that we should be treated equally?


My opinon regarding sex is quite simple, and it goes for either sex. If you like someone enough, sleep with them if you want to. Just have the respect to protect yourself and him / her. Taking my view of the subject into account, I normally used two types of contraception, the pill and condoms. The condoms only ever come out of the equation when I trust someone enough.


I think the word 'slut' is fowl, You have to wonder about the person that fires that at someone.

dylano_k

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midlandsmissus

I disagree that only women call women sluts, I've heard plenty of men call women sluts.

Men can be unbelivable sometimes. They say women are complicated? Men don't mean a f*cking word they say! Sometimes you just can't win with men.

Manspeak re: sex. "I will pressure you to do something but if you do it you're a slut."

Case in hand:
I met a guy out, and as he was a guard he got us into a resident's bar of a nearby hotel after the nightclub shut. He was pretty drunk, I wasn't. It went like this:

Him "You're not going, come on we'll stay the night and i'll drop u home in the morning".
Me "No, I'm going home, I'm heading off now to get a taxi."
Him "How could you not trust me? I won't do anything. I am a nice guy. You're not going, are you saying you don't trust me? im offended,im a nice guy,we'll get a room, and I wont do anything."

He was so drunk I ended up bringing him up to the hotel room and putting him to bed, then leaving straight away. I was literally in the room for 5 mins.

Next time I saw him out - first thing he said to me?

" Imagine going back to a hotel room on the first night with a guy, what a slut."

AshSmith

A slut to me is somebody who spreads disease or infection and breaks up relationships on purpose and generally doesnt have respect for herself or other people.
A girl could f*ck as many people as she wants in one night and I wouldn't call her a slut, obviously its not something that I would do but if she enjoys sex and chooses who she would like to do it with then fair play. If she rants and raves to others about how many guys are on her list and how she she has done this and that and has had this sti and that and doesnt care for her well being, thats a different story.
An easy girl doesnt necessarily equal slut, who knows she might just like sex.