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Will soon be living with strangers

  • 09-08-2010 10:46am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi, im male,27 years old and single, but i have never lived completely with strangers, it has always been with a friend or friends and then maybe on rare occasions with a stranger added to it.
    My problem now is, im living with 2 friends, one who will be moving to another county, and another who is in a very serious relationship, he has half hinted before about him and his girlfriend moving in together so really its only a matter of time before i end up living with strangers.
    Im just wondering has anyone hear had to deal with this? I.e. moving from friends to strangers. The three of us at the moment have it perfect in terms of easy going. We all watch the same things on telly, we all have a mutual standard for cleanliness(fairly clean tbh), and we can take each others things as long as we replace them which is fair enough.

    Im just dreading the idea of living with a load of people I dont know, and having issues like whats mentioned above.
    Im fairly sure im easy to live with but I hate being landed with people that arent.
    Just wondering have others made that change from friends to strangers?


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  • #2
    Walls
    Registered Users Posts: 1,258 ✭✭✭Walls


    There is a transition to be made, and it is one a lot of people dislike but ultimately benefit from. If you move in with strangers, you have to keep your own possessions in your room (tidy up after yourself) develop routines or rotas re cooking and cleaning and also practise basic courtesy, such as TV kept low and parties/overnight guests usually kept to the weekend. It's like adjusting to work, ultimately it will do you good.


  • #3
    HalloweenJack
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,259 ✭✭✭HalloweenJack


    Moving in with strangers isn't tough at all, imo.

    Just keep up healthy communication and make agreements regarding who cleans what and when or who buys what household necessities and when, i.e. toilet paper, dishwasher tablets, etc.

    The main thing is communication. Imo, it's easier to communicate with someone new if there is a problem. You wouldn't want to offend a friend and risk damaging a relationship by saying they should clean up more, etc. but with someone new it's a lot easier.

    You can also make a new friend with a stranger so don't be worried about that. Just make sure that right from the start, you have a good communication with the person you're living with. That way it'll be easier to make arrangements and talk about problems if they arise.


  • #4
    Miss Fluff
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    livingwithoutfriends wrote: »
    Hi, im male,27 years old and single

    Oooh I'd see it as a great opportunity to meet new people. I'd avoid scoring housemates at all costs but if you move in with a couple of blokes you get on well with it will expand your social circle and give you the opportunity to maybe meet a nice young lassie:)

    It will do you good to move out of your comfort, seriously!


  • #5
    Firetrap
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,442 ✭✭✭Firetrap


    I've done it and have made some good friends from it. You will of course see horror stories on forums like this one when sharing goes wrong but you'll never hear about all the ones that work out fine. The main thing I'd say to you is go with your gut feeling and go into it with an open mind. Good luck :cool:


  • #6
    mikemac
    Closed Accounts Posts: 19,986 ✭✭✭✭mikemac


    Avoid moving in with couples.
    So, so many threads on boards on this issue but it's best avoided if possible.

    If you move in with some people in around your own age, instantly your social circle is expanded. Head out for a drink during the first week.


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  • #7
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Thanks for the advice everyone , makes me feel a bit more ok about the situation. It probably would be a good idea to meet new people too, ive noticed I have become very dependent on my mates for any bit of a social life these days.
    Also, good advice about not moving with couples. Ive experienced that before , and even though it was friends it still didnt work.

    Cheers, yer posts helped!


  • #8
    calex71
    Closed Accounts Posts: 13,126 ✭✭✭✭calex71


    Firetrap wrote: »
    but you'll never hear about all the ones that work out fine.


    So so true!!!


  • #9
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Moved into a house 5 years ago with three strangers - one by one who moved out to relocate, get married etc (I started off there during a long college course) and were replaced with 3 more strangers - have made lifelong friends with all and now couldn't imagine not being friends with the current bunch - its a great opportunity so embrace it!!


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