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Do men enjoy / like kissing?
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23-08-2010 10:36am#1I've been with my bf over a year now and in the beginning, we used to kiss alot, especially when being intimate. Things were pretty hot in the beginning and though they may have slowed down a little, the spark and chemistry is still there and we enjoy each other alot. The only problem is i've noticed, he barely kisses me anymore. I mean maybe a peck here and there usually instigated by me. I don't smoke, have good teeth and a nice smile, fresh breath, i really don't know if it's just laziness or what. Sometimes i just want him to hold me and kiss me like he did at the start as i think kissing is part of the whole intimacy thing plus very erotic
. Makes me feel loved and cherised. My question is, do guys get lazy about these things, do you not realise how much this means to a gal or do you just not enjoy lip action as much as us girles do?? 0
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god yes, its one of the best parts of being in a relationship, nothing quite beats thats first kiss with someone new (and I dont mean a drunken slobbering, I mean a proper first kiss, when theres sparks and excitement and you never want it to end). A lot of the time after a while you may get a bit complacent and kisses become little show of necessary affection, but I try not to, if you can find someone that gives you butterflies when you've kissed them for the 100th or 1000th time the same way as they did the 1st then its great.
if you feel hes gottena bit lazy about it, then make him remember what its like so he'll want to do it more, next time he's kissing you goodbye and if its a little peck that he usually gives you, let him give you a small kiss, then hold onto him, slowly move back in and give him a much longer, slowed one, send him off with his heart racing and not wanting to go wherever he has to, and he'll get the message 0 -
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Kissing tbh is a very intimate part of any bond with someone, whether it be a peck on the cheek for a son/daughter, or a proper kissing session with a gf/bf/husband/wife. It shows closeness and happiness between two people
Personally, I absolutely love it and cant get enough of it sadly:( I find it very relaxing and as said before, intimate to kiss a girl that appreciates it, and reciprocates in kind 0 -
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OP here, thanks for the answers guys, although some unsettle me a bit. Is it strange, from a guy's perspective, to not want to kiss your GF even in the middle of a steamy session!?! Like not at all, even afterwards? i just don't understand it and to be honest, it's starting to make me feel less confident in this relationship. Plenty of hugs etc but very little lip action. I totally agree, it's one of the underappreciated little things in life. Even if you have no intention to get down a little kiss is so intimate and says to me, "you're special to me, as i don't do this with anyone else". Am i putting too much emphasis on this? 0
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flashforward wrote: »The way you wrote that you'd swear it was a bad thing!
Obviously it isnt a bad thing but the point Im making is that we live in a quick fix society,kissing is,IMO,the most intimate and erotic thing you can do with another person.Our mouths are used to communicate,to breath,to sustain our lives by eating,it may be a sort of hippyish view point but to me but kissing is tied into this and it has a certain magical aura about it.
A really good kissing session leaves you buzzing and thinking about it for the day,its such a good feeling.People are in a rush to reach an end point ie orgasm so the intimacy involved in the act of kissing is pushed aside and can be unappreciated.
All in my humble opinion of course. 0 -
nedtheshed wrote: »Obviously it isnt a bad thing but the point Im making is that we live in a quick fix society,kissing is,IMO,the most intimate and erotic thing you can do with another person.Our mouths are used to communicate,to breath,to sustain our lives by eating,it may be a sort of hippyish view point but to me but kissing is tied into this and it has a certain magical aura about it.
A really good kissing session leaves you buzzing and thinking about it for the day,its such a good feeling.People are in a rush to reach an end point ie orgasm so the intimacy involved in the act of kissing is pushed aside and can be unappreciated.
All in my humble opinion of course.
Beautifully said, could'nt agree more !0 -
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god yes, its one of the best parts of being in a relationship, nothing quite beats thats first kiss with someone new (and I dont mean a drunken slobbering, I mean a proper first kiss, when theres sparks and excitement and you never want it to end). A lot of the time after a while you may get a bit complacent and kisses become little show of necessary affection, but I try not to, if you can find someone that gives you butterflies when you've kissed them for the 100th or 1000th time the same way as they did the 1st then its great.
if you feel hes gottena bit lazy about it, then make him remember what its like so he'll want to do it more, next time he's kissing you goodbye and if its a little peck that he usually gives you, let him give you a small kiss, then hold onto him, slowly move back in and give him a much longer, slowed one, send him off with his heart racing and not wanting to go wherever he has to, and he'll get the message
Spot on.
It wont take much to break the habit im sure, but to agree with other posters its highly under appreciated.0 -
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I love kissing. It's definitely one of my favourite things to do. I like it way, way more than foreplay tbh. One of my favourite memories of my ex is about 2 weeks after we'd started seeing each other - we've started off as just sex, but we met for a drink one afternoon. Despite having slept together several times, I was still too shy to even hold his hand. He went to the bathroom, which was behind me, and when he came back, he just kind of leaned over me and gave me a quick kiss. It was magical. I couldn't stop smiling for the rest of the day.
As time went on, we still kissed regularly, but we rarely 'made out' any more. It was all just pecks. It wasn't enough for me, and I brought it up but it never changed. I don't think I could be happy in a relationship where there wasn't enough kissing.
I find this has been the case with my relationships too.... I kinda wonder why. To be fair, it was probably down to both of us, though I think maybe moreso himself. Maybe it's too hard to find a match, where ye both like it the same.
I also find I don't have the same excitement about kissing when you're into a relationship compared to at the beginning. I LOVE the feeling at the start of things, when you have the nervousness and uncertainty. It makes kissing really good. That's not to say I wouldn't enjoy it later on too, I mean the butterflies would continue for a long time, but it's just not the same as at the tension-filled beginning of it all....
All this talk is making me want some.....
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The kissing feels like incest but the ****ing doesn't???? I can certainly see how the romance and attraction could fizzle out in a relationship and it would feel like kissnig your sister but surely at the same time the sex would feel like it was with your sister too?? ie. its end of the road time for the relationshiop unless there is a house,marriage and kids involved.
I dunno, maybe its just me but even when indulging in some 'self lovin' the object for me is not to shoot my load asap. Half the pleasure of sex for me is in prolonging it as long as possible slowing reaching the 'peak' and the other half is knowing that I am driving my partner wild in the process. I don't understand lads who would even want to get straight down to it all the time. Don't they ever want to savour their partners bodies as long as possible before getting back to the boring inanities of life.
Sure, there is a place for quickies where one might just sidle up behind your partner at the sink kissing the back of their neck while running your hands up and down the sides of their clothed body before quickly lifting up their skirt or sliding down their jeans and........
9 time out of 10 though I prefer to roll around the couch or bed limbs entwined locked in a passionate kiss before slowly undressing her and kissing and stroking every beautiful inch of her before moving onto the next item of clothing. Penetration should be the mid-point of the hour+ session not 2 miutes after the beginning and 5 minutes before the end!!!
I want to savour every ****ing inch of her as long as possible and I view passionate kissing as part of that intimacy, not as a quick act to get me hard for the main event. Its all part of the main event for me not just the penetration and climax.
Now unfortunately I am single at the moment so after writing that I will have to bid you all in this thread adieu. I have something I have to go and do......
....write some erotic fiction?
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TouchingVirus wrote: »....write some erotic fiction?
While I could have excercised my literary muscles I opted intead to excercise my 'muscle'...literally
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The kissing feels like incest but the ****ing doesn't???? I can certainly see how the romance and attraction could fizzle out in a relationship and it would feel like kissnig your sister but surely at the same time the sex would feel like it was with your sister too?? ie. its end of the road time for the relationshiop unless there is a house,marriage and kids involved.
I dunno, maybe its just me but even when indulging in some 'self lovin' the object for me is not to shoot my load asap. Half the pleasure of sex for me is in prolonging it as long as possible slowing reaching the 'peak' and the other half is knowing that I am driving my partner wild in the process. I don't understand lads who would even want to get straight down to it all the time. Don't they ever want to savour their partners bodies as long as possible before getting back to the boring inanities of life.
Sure, there is a place for quickies where one might just sidle up behind your partner at the sink kissing the back of their neck while running your hands up and down the sides of their clothed body before quickly lifting up their skirt or sliding down their jeans and........
9 time out of 10 though I prefer to roll around the couch or bed limbs entwined locked in a passionate kiss before slowly undressing her and kissing and stroking every beautiful inch of her before moving onto the next item of clothing. Penetration should be the mid-point of the hour+ session not 2 miutes after the beginning and 5 minutes before the end!!!
I want to savour every ****ing inch of her as long as possible and I view passionate kissing as part of that intimacy, not as a quick act to get me hard for the main event. Its all part of the main event for me not just the penetration and climax.
Now unfortunately I am single at the moment so after writing that I will have to bid you all in this thread adieu. I have something I have to go and do......
Wow! sounds like you wont be single for long!Snow-Monkey wrote: »never thought that... ever... generally if i kiss a girl its because i want to how she kiss's affects what happens next! doesn't necessarily mean I'm going to or expecting to jump her bones...
A good passionate kiss... gets cogs moving.Doesnt nesscerily mean it needs to be acted apon...
I was thinking about kissing over the weekend, as a single girl I'd generally end up having a kiss with a 'nice' guy at the end of a night out. If I was to passionately kiss the guy it gets him going (and me too) but that doesn't mean I want to sleep together, I was thinking that if I kiss too passionately it's probably teasing. Often times I think it is considered a foot in the door. :eek:
As for the kissing dying out of the relationship, I agree that you should initiate a few steamy kisses but if that doesn't get him back on form especially no kissing during sex then I think its a sign that the passion has run out and you're relationship is in trouble, Ive been there, it could be a sign. Then again you could be a bad kisser...if thats the case youtube tips0 -
I was thinking about kissing over the weekend, as a single girl I'd generally end up having a kiss with a 'nice' guy at the end of a night out. If I was to passionately kiss the guy it gets him going (and me too) but that doesn't mean I want to sleep together, I was thinking that if I kiss too passionately it's probably teasing. Often times I think it is considered a foot in the door. :eek:
As for the kissing dying out of the relationship, I agree that you should initiate a few steamy kisses but if that doesn't get him back on form especially no kissing during sex then I think its a sign that the passion has run out and you're relationship is in trouble, Ive been there, it could be a sign. Then again you could be a bad kisser...if thats the case youtube tips
No harm with a bit of passion
I wouldn't say that its the foot in the door assumption is the mother brother and any other sucker of fub ups.
Bit of teasing never hurt any body
well ye i think if there's no passion then you gotta create some... Monogoumous reletionships kinda things is the first thing that comes to mind...
I do think passions a very much in the moment type thing............ and when it kicks of god its dammmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
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