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Good-looking GF gets so much attention..

LegacyUser · 2010-08-26 19:44:19

To start off, I want to say that even though this problem centres round my gf, I know she’s not doing anything wrong; it’s the way I’m reacting to the situation. I just want to know how I can stop feeling like this. Been with my girlfriend for just two months, having liked her for ages. I had a big thing for her since Xmas…

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#32 28-08-2010 10:00AM

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Hi OP
I was in a similar position to you years ago.
I went out with an extremely good looking guy. He was also very cool, so as well as girls hitting on him, a lot of straight guys wanted to get to know him and were always coming up chatting to him.

It drove me mad. It was like going out with a celebrity. I was so insecure and quiet at the time that I couldnt handle it. His female acquaintances would come up and hug him (always drunk) on nights out, even with me there.

One time i was sitting at a table with my boyfriend and his mate and while my boyfriend went to the toilet some drink promotions girl came up to my mate and slipped him a piece of paper and said something to him. When my boyfriend came back from the toilet, his mate told him the girl had asked him to give her number to my boyfriend! I got upset because obviously the girl didnt even consider that I was his girlfriend.

I felt invisible. I was always asking myself, "why was he going out with me". I was needy and insecure and jealous of all this attention. Years later I realise why he was going out with me. I was a pretty fine catch. I had loads going for me, I just didnt realise it at the time. My insecurity (among other things) drove him away. Just be careful that your insecurity doesnt do the same thing.

It genuinely looks like your girlfriend is polite and pleasant and doesnt want to make a fuss about these stupid "stalkers". If she is as nice and considerate as you say she is, then I see no problem you telling her that the late night calls are making you feel uncomfortable. She will probably not want you to feel this way and will politely put a stop to all this.

Good luck OP and work on believing in yourself!

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