Weak Handshakes

starbelgrade

Abigayle wrote: »

Its not just as simple as a hand shake, its how you hold yourself as a person. Learning to value yourself, dressing professionally, and preparing yourself for the mission ahead is the way forward.

The handshake means fcuk all if you don't have the rest altogether.

Ah - I dunno about that. It works for some people... but I'd be the opposite - almost always late for meetings, wear whatever's clean, never shave & often forget people's names / paperwork etc.

But I have a good handshake & a very easy temperament, so I get a lot of business & have a lot of long term clients.

mikemac

Give a farmers handshake, spit on your palm and then shake

It's the only way to seal a deal. :cool:
If the other person won't spit, they're not geniune!

bryaner

Check out Jay's handshake at 22.15

http://smotri.com/video/view/?id=v11767957fba

Adriatic

I cannot understand for the life of me when someone takes out their left hand to be shaken.

nacho libre

I have no desire to crush anothers persons hand. So this is why i give weak handshakes. Better to give a weak handshake, than risk intimidating someone through a firm handshake.

bryaner

Adriatic wrote: »

I cannot understand for the life of me when someone takes out their left hand to be shaken.

Maybe left handed people?

alwaysadub

Adriatic wrote: »

I cannot understand for the life of me when someone takes out their left hand to be shaken.

All scouts shake hands with the left hand. Only greeting other scouts though-not during the normal course of a day.
Maybe you just meet a lot of scouts. Or look like one.

JackMagic

Adriatic wrote: »

I cannot understand for the life of me when someone takes out their left hand to be shaken.

well in fairness it's alright when you're leaning over someone, or your right hand isn't available but I've never seen anyone do it intentionally when their right hand is free..

I have come across a number of "wet fish" no-grip handshakes before, can't stand them!!

mfceiling

Well said OP..........nothing worse than a limp wristed shake that could be bettered by a 2 year old in a nursery class!!

Abi

starbelgrade wrote: »

Ah - I dunno about that. It works for some people... but I'd be the opposite - almost always late for meetings, wear whatever's clean, never shave & often forget people's names / paperwork etc.

But I have a good handshake & a very easy temperament, so I get a lot of business & have a lot of long term clients.

A meeting commences when it commences, interuptions break my train of thought and I hate it. I've waved /NO through glass for late comers. Reason being theres millions at stake. I've worked as an accounts manager, and specialising in debt collection. Its always been on my shoulders to rake it in, so if I'm on a roll passing out invoices, signed delivery receipts I want full attention. There was a multinational company I worked for where I'd to drag around the region of 4M per week as a target. I never missed it, but you have to know how to deal with people. sometimes you'll get a nice guy or girl on the fone, the next you've some aul bat working there years not willing to give you a dime. Its not easy going. I've often had to go out to meet these people, and to make it work you almost have to have a split personality.

I'm not about to crush the hand off the aul burd whos been working there for donkeys years, but someone my own age would get it. That might sound manipulative, and I don't really care. I've always been good at my job, and dredged in the cash.


The bottom line is.. the hand shake can mean a lot more than you think.

Adriatic

bryaner wrote: »

Maybe left handed people?

I am left handed.

JackMagic wrote: »

well in fairness it's alright when you're leaning over someone, or your right hand isn't available but I've never seen anyone do it intentionally when their right hand is free..

Yes this is perfectly acceptable but I mean when their right hand is free and they appear to pick the left hand by choice.

alwaysadub wrote: »

All scouts shake hands with the left hand. Only greeting other scouts though-not during the normal course of a day.
Maybe you just meet a lot of scouts. Or look like one.

Interesting but no, I'm not a scout.

Dudess

Abigayle wrote: »

Wanna shake hands

Oh uh... sure.

/puts on metal glove and holds out hand

Ben Hadad

bryaner wrote: »

So meet a weak handshake with a weak one.. Don't think so.

Yeah if two of these meet, they end up headbutting each other, now that is a faux pas for a first meeting.

spider_pig

no hand shakes for me i dont wanna shake the hand that shook the willy

deman

When I used to hire people many many years ago, I'd shake hands with them of course at the start of an interview. If the handshake felt like a limp blouse, he wouldn't be hired. Simple as that. If a person doesn't put the effort into a proper handshake, where would he put in any effort? I'd much rather have my fingers crushed than holding a wet blanket.

WindSock

Ugh. One of the worst handshakes I can remember was from a boardsie actually. I was surprised as I tend to agree with them a lot, and was quite disappointed that their handshake was little more than a limp wrist that I grasped and did all the work to move in the usual handshake motion. I felt like I was violating them in some way. I am sad to say that it does instantly lower my opinion of someone when it is that awkward.

Lone Stone

I think there must be some thing wrong with you if you judge someone on a handshake. I hate shaking hands ughh its wierd i prefear to slap people on the ass !! nah i dont really... . .

Piste

Ush1 wrote: »

You think weak handshakes are bad, I used to throw out the ol' lefty and that would really throw them off guard.

Awkward shuffling and looking at hands can ensue.

God don't I know it, for years I'd always automatically offer my left hand as I use it for everything. There's always that second or two of awkward fumbling and shuffling, the moment between "oh god do I laugh at myself or pretend I was doing something else??"


Nowadays I don't really notice handshakes anymore.

Abi

starbelgrade wrote: »

Ah - I dunno about that. It works for some people... but I'd be the opposite - almost always late for meetings, wear whatever's clean, never shave & often forget people's names / paperwork etc.

But I have a good handshake & a very easy temperament, so I get a lot of business & have a lot of long term clients.

Ignore me, I'm a lil ankle biter

starbelgrade

Abigayle wrote: »

Ignore me, I'm a lil ankle biter

I hope to God that I never owe you any money!

Abi

starbelgrade wrote: »

I hope to God that I never owe you any money!

/looks at clip board


how are we doing for the repayments on the Leon?


Oh dear. we can work it out. I'll take your motor, you can have the Signo :P


Quitz... mmmkay?


Oh to drive that thing... the fun I'd have... /cum face 0/

DonkeyStyle \o/

Lone Stone wrote: »

I think there must be some thing wrong with you if you judge someone on a handshake.

I eschew the secret handshake in favour of astrology.

starbelgrade

Abigayle wrote: »

/looks at clip board


how are we doing for the repayments on the Leon?


Oh dear. we can work it out. I'll take your motor, you can have the Signo :P


Quitz... mmmkay?


Oh to drive that thing... the fun I'd have... /cum face 0/

Just as well I paid cash for it.

aDeener

Snow-Monkey wrote: »

week hand shakes are awful

indeed they are, they go on for far too long

nyarlothothep

I don't see how a weak handshake is bad at all, whether someone shakes hard or light means nothing to me, I can't make judgements on people based on such limited evidence so I refrain from doing so. I don't really see the point in handshakes for that matter.

Erica<3

I was just talking about this a few weeks ago with my friend and we both decided it was just weird to not have a strong handshake, like does it show a weak character?? Also i agree, it can turn me off a person if their handshake is very weak.

Borneo Fnctn

What a load of bollocks. Trying to squeeze the hand off somebody doesn't mean you are any more of a man. It's just trying too hard and comes across to me as being way too self conscious.

plonk

People have confidence issues and that is why the give a weak handshake and that is why people give too strong of a handshake. They're scared of there **** and react appropriately.

OutlawPete

Every person I have ever come across (so to speak) in my life that has a weak handshake, has turned out to be nothing but trouble.

I really think there is a lot to the handshake thing, a lot.

It doesn't take much effort at all and a little eye contact is also important.

Doesn't mean you have to stare at someone, but just a little eye contact goes a long way.

mink_man

it's a handshake....jaysus.