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  • 01-09-2010 9:09pm
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    ma1read
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9 ✭


    Hi everyone,
    Heard back from my SW today after initiating the search a couple of weeks ago. She informed me that my brother has died a number of years ago. I am totally gutted. That's all she could tell me now. They're trying to locate the death certificate and the adoptive parents. I considered this very briefly, amongst other random things, that this could be the case eventhough he would only be 36 now.

    I feel sick and my emotions are all over the place. I'm so confused about how i should feel and what i do from here.

    M x


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    kathy finn
    Registered Users Posts: 324 ✭✭kathy finn


    thats very sad, im so soory to hear that. i found out my birthmum had passed away a couple of years ago i never thought that would be the outcome of my search. it,s not the type of news u expect.....kathy


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    Mammyof2
    Closed Accounts Posts: 23 ✭Mammyof2


    So sorry to hear this hun x


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    tyview
    Registered Users Posts: 210 ✭✭tyview


    Thats terrible news mairead, so sorry to hear that. Hopefully they'll be able to give you some answers when they find the death cert.


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    ma1read
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9 ✭ma1read


    Kathy, Mammy of 2 and Tyview,
    Thank you so much for your comments. They have given me comfort over the past few days. It's going to take me and my family a while to get our heads around it. We know so little and it is unlikely we will know much more until they track down the adoptive parents. All this bureacracy is driving us nuts!

    Mx


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    NGibbler
    Registered Users Posts: 26 ✭NGibbler


    Im so sorry to here this!! :( Hope you are doing okay!


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    girl_friday
    Subscribers Posts: 5,766 ✭✭✭girl_friday


    Your story keeps coming into my head so just wanted to say I hope there has been some progress and you've gotten some answers! Thinking of you and your family on a regular basis!


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    annieo
    Registered Users Posts: 14 ✭annieo


    thats so sad, i hope you find some news that helps you, im so nervous about my outcome too. take care, sorry for your loss


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    neelyohara
    Registered Users Posts: 274 ✭✭neelyohara


    Mairead I'm so sorry to hear of your loss.

    My mum traced both of her parents and unfortunately both had died... worse still her mother had died shortly before she traced her.

    On the positive side she discovered a total of 2 brothers and 2 sisters, in the course of a year her sister and brother died but she now has one sister and the both are so close it just tugs at my heart.

    I'll keep you in my thoughts and I sincerely hope you find his adoptive parents and that together you can celebrate his life.

    xxx


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    ModeMadFan
    Registered Users Posts: 36 ✭ModeMadFan


    Very Sorry to hear your very sad news


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