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Straight (I think not), Bisexual or Gay?

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  • 11-09-2010 12:20am
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    LegacyUser
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    I'm a closeted female in my twenties and have never been in a relationship/had sex with anyone.

    I definitely like women. Every time I fancy someone, it's a woman. I picture myself being in a relationship with a woman, and not a man.

    On the other hand, the abstract thought of sleeping with a man does not repulse me and sometimes it almost seems appealing (could be purely social conditioning). Still, I have never actually been attracted to a specific man. I have no interest in pursuing a relationship with a man. I don't like how men look, feel or smell...

    I'm not exactly trying to label myself. I'm just looking for help sorting through my thoughts. Personally, I would probably call myself a lesbian. Probably.

    I'm not distressed about this. I'm just musing, really, and would appreciate it if others could share their thoughts.


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    rainbow kirby
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    Your thought process seems fairly similar to what mine was when I was about 18 or so.

    Don't worry about labelling yourself - it seems like you swing more than a little towards the ladies, but just go with the flow. Things will become clearer over time.


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    LegacyUser
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    rainbow kirby wrote: »
    it seems like you swing more than a little towards the ladies

    How true of me. :)

    Thanks for the reply. I'm really glad someone could relate!


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    LegacyUser
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    It's good you feel like you don't have to label yourself, although other people (in my experience) do tend to want to label you and put you in a nice neat little box. I was in your position when I was in my late teens. I always knew I was attracted to women but I wasn't ready to deal with it or didn't know how to deal with it or what I should do (this was nearly 10 years ago when things were a bit different and I was a country girl with little experience of anything)....I tried dating guys, not seriously.....or more accurately I would never allow it to get serious.

    It was a slow coming to terms with it for me, although like you I was never distressed or freaking out about it at all, in fact once I had admitted it to myself, it was more a feeling of calm. Soon after I met a girl, and that was the end of that!


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