Porn Usage

Tender Hoop

I am a little concerned about the amount of porn I watch and was just wondering how much porn you guys watch.

When I say watch I'm sure you know what I mean.

For me its usually at least once a day and often more if I'm away from my GF which is often ( i work overseas). When I staying with her its just a couple of times a week.

However I do feel it is having a negative impact on my relationship with my GF. I have on a few occasions made excuses not to have sex with her and beat off looking at porn instead in a different room. I know its strange and she is very hot.

I also find beating off too much looking at porn has desensitized my manhood and during sex I often have to pull out and finish the job by hand.

I was just wondering if anyone has has similar concerns?

I know you might just say 'Well stop then' but I'm not sure if I could.

dlofnep

You have a good looking girlfriend with you, and you would rather watch porn than her?

Something is wrong with you.

And yes, flogging the dolphin too much will desensitize you. The only way around it is to have sex and not **** for a few weeks. It might take a week or two before you get back into the swing of things. That's probably why you're doing it, instead of your girlfriend, because you can't get off with her anymore.

Stop. If you don't - You won't get sensitivity back ever.

Tender Hoop

dlofnep wrote: »

You have a good looking girlfriend with you, and you would rather watch porn than her?

Something is wrong with you.

And yes, flogging the dolphin too much will desensitize you. The only way around it is to have sex and not **** for a few weeks. It might take a week or two before you get back into the swing of things. That's probably why you're doing it, instead of your girlfriend, because you can't get off with her anymore.

Stop. If you don't - You won't get sensitivity back ever.

Thats what I feared. I do stop for up to a week before I know I will see her and that first time we have sex its fine but after that it would take a good few days to build up again. Where as I can shoot looking at porn up 3-4 times in a day.

dlofnep

Well naturally, because the grip is tighter. You get used to a tight grip, and then when you're with your girl - it doesn't feel enough. It's really bad for your sex-life. You need to quit it. If you really must, go for one of those fleshlights - sex councillors advise them for people with sensitivity problems - as the would mimic a girl.

A healthy sex life with your girlfriend is important, so don't feel ashamed. Maybe talk to her about spicing things up so you are both aroused.

Herbal Deity

Yeah, beating off to porn when your gf isn't around is fine and pretty normal, but doing it when she's there and wants to have sex? That's pretty unhealthy IMO.

Personally, I think it's far easier to get addicted to porn than it might seem. I'd probably look at porn once or twice a day, and tbh, I think it'd be much healthier to only use it occasionally.

It is hard not to though, especially when you use the internet a lot and it's only a few clicks away.

Tender Hoop

Herbal Deity wrote: »

Yeah, beating off to porn when your gf isn't around is fine and pretty normal, but doing it when she's there and wants to have sex? That's pretty unhealthy IMO.

Personally, I think it's far easier to get addicted to porn than it might seem. I'd probably look at porn once or twice a day, and tbh, I think it'd be much healthier to only use it occasionally.

It is hard not to though, especially when you use the internet a lot and it's only a few clicks away.

I agree entirely. Its so accessible that when bored its hard to resist.

My GF is cool. She does not have a massive sex drive and once or twice a week is ok with her. But the desensitization issue is really bothering me.

dlofnep

Tender Hoop wrote: »

But the desensitization issue is really bothering me.

There is only one way to cure that You know what you have to (not) do.

cards

I stopped watching porn over a year ago and am glad I have done so. The reason I did was this quote "Tell me who your friends are, and I will tell you who you are". Porn sites are full of grot and trawling through them everyday sends , god knows what messages to your subconscious and its bound to have an affect on the life choices you make and the person you become.

amacachi

cards wrote: »

I stopped watching porn over a year ago and am glad I have done so. The reason I did was this quote "Tell me who your friends are, and I will tell you who you are". Porn sites are full of grot and trawling through them everyday sends , god knows what messages to your subconscious and its bound to have an affect on the life choices you make and the person you become.

True, it's given me an online poker addiction.

Zen65

Tender Hoop wrote: »

I am a little concerned about the amount of porn I watch and was just wondering how much porn you guys watch.

I don't. Maybe I'm just too old for that cr*p.

Z

Colonel_McCoy

"For every good looking woman there is a guy tired of ****ing her" Dr Christian Troy Nip tuck

scientific1982

Tender Hoop wrote: »

I am a little concerned about the amount of porn I watch and was just wondering how much porn you guys watch.

When I say watch I'm sure you know what I mean.

For me its usually at least once a day and often more if I'm away from my GF which is often ( i work overseas). When I staying with her its just a couple of times a week.

However I do feel it is having a negative impact on my relationship with my GF. I have on a few occasions made excuses not to have sex with her and beat off looking at porn instead in a different room. I know its strange and she is very hot.

I also find beating off too much looking at porn has desensitized my manhood and during sex I often have to pull out and finish the job by hand.

I was just wondering if anyone has has similar concerns?

I know you might just say 'Well stop then' but I'm not sure if I could.

Nothing wrong with watching porn. If it wasnt for porn I might have killed by now. Also, no matter how hot your girlfriend is you'll get bored of her sexually at some stage.

Dr. Zeus

OP I think what your problem is a very common one. Porn usage can really sneak up on you and it's really a case of much wants more. Like any addiction what starts as a relatively minor habit can suddenly spiral out of control. Porn sites are designed to keep you hooked in there's always something better just a click away.

I know for a fact that too much porn can be a disaster for relationships. It's all sex without the intimacy and your mind has now been conditioned (in the Pavlovian sense) that porn = sexual satisfaction not your GF. For some guys I know just the very fact of turning on the PC before they view anything gets them off.

At least you recognise that this is an issue for you. Maybe speak to your gf and be honest about it. The shame and the guilt can eat you up and make you go back for more. If read an article a while back about how porn can turn us off the real thing. I think it was in the NY mag. I can't link it now but if you google it it might make sense of things for you. If I locate it I will PM the details.

best of luck dude. Do you want an intimate relationship with a loving woman or do you want to spend more **** in front of your PC? I guess the choice is yours. Not an easy road though. There is help out there too. A very common problem like I said.

Dr. Zeus

scientific1982 wrote: »

Nothing wrong with watching porn. If it wasnt for porn I might have killed by now. Also, no matter how hot your girlfriend is you'll get bored of her sexually at some stage.

I don't think anyone is saying there is anything wrong with looking at porn. it's that the OP would rather porn than his GF and that is affecting his relationship which is the issue as far as I understood.

catthinkin

i went out with a guy who was addicted to porn the sex was poor because of it i dumped him as far as i know he is still single.....