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This one guy is an asshole - being led on!
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Slight generalization with the thread title, but no bother.HardLuckWoman wrote: »Fancied a guy for ages. 5 or 6 years to be precise. Didn't do anything cause i worked with him then ..
So, you knew him for five or six years as you worked with him, carry on ..HardLuckWoman wrote: »Gave him my number and he was more than happy to give me his and he went to kiss me on the lips.
He rang me a couple of times and even asked me would my flatmates mind if he came into my room if he came to visit me. Wtf does all this mean?
Sounds like he was sussing out if a threesome was on the cards.HardLuckWoman wrote: »Am i right to be mad at him since he's all talk and he's been ignoring my messages.
Well, seen as you knew him for years, it's my guess that you were attracted to him as he's a bit of a bastard, but now that he has treated you badly, you blame him.HardLuckWoman wrote: »Even had the neck to tell me the kiss was no big deal.
Bastard.HardLuckWoman wrote: »What does he want?
To shag you with your flatmates I would say.HardLuckWoman wrote: »Sersiously i understand dogs more.
Look, bastards turn you on, don't complain then when they turn around and act like one.
What you want to do is try and be attracted to nice guys who treat women well.
Course, 'sexy bastard' has a better ring to it that 'sexy nice guy'.0 -
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OP, may i suggest that perhaps you are inexperienced with men?
First of all, if he was single and you fancied him, you kept those feelings to yourself without trying anything for 5 YEARS :eek:!!! I mean, you should have been able to worm your way in there somewhere without saying it outright over those 5 years. At least if he dumped you after 1 year you'd have closure and could move on.
But most importantly, i think you might have scared him off. How many times did you call/text him exactly? Have you been single for long? I'm jumping to conclusions here, but if i'm correct he probably was initally somewhat into you, but with all your excitement you came across as kinda desperate and it made him think there must be something wrong with you. It's not uncommon for people to unknowingly sabotage themselves in this way, especially if they've been single for a long time and it's their first proper chance.
I have a friend who basically destroyed what chance he had with a girl by giving her 27 missed calls over a weekend when she didn't reply to a text :eek:. It was kinda funny, but also kinda sad too 
. I know you might feel excited, but you have to be able to play it cool sometimes 
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No point crying over spilt milk though. Life is a learning experience.0 -
HardLuckWoman wrote: »Gave him my number and he was more than happy to give me his and he went to kiss me on the lips.
He rang me a couple of times and even asked me would my flatmates mind if he came into my room if he came to visit me. Wtf does all this mean?
Am i right to be mad at him since he's all talk and he's been ignoring my messages. Even had the neck to tell me the kiss was no big deal. Yes it was when he asked to come into my room.
What does he want? Sersiously i understand dogs more. And before anyone says women can be assholes too, yes i know they can. Maybe i should just become a lesbian?
He wants a ride woman. Lets get this straight:
1) You made the move on him
2) You gave him your number
3) He thinks, "Hmmm, a vaginafied human has shown an interest in me. Perhaps we can both benefit from this transaction. She obviously wants my cockadoodledoo or she wouldnt have persued me, perhaps I'll oblige and we're both happy!
4) He asks is it ok to, ahem, "go up to your room", with your flatmates around. He didnt mean to check out your wallpaper!!!!!!!!
5) You dont say what happened next, but you obviously rejected him.
6) He thinks, "She persued me, then rejected me. What does she want? I understand dogs more!!!!"
YA SEE?AnnyHallsal wrote: »This Dublin musician fella you might have seen on the telly once contacted me through a social networking site. I .. ahem .. reluctantly gave him my number. His first message was, I sh*t you not, "Do you live alone?"
Your guy sounds a lot like him.
He sounds nothing like him. The OP went after the fella, not the other way round. Said fella even had the consideration to think of the flatmates!Sardonicat wrote: »He wanted to get his ego boosted. You boosted it. Now he's moved on.
Why do some women have this fascination with ego? He wanted his hole, nothing to do with ego:mad:Sardonicat wrote: »Was in no way trying to imply that all guys behave like this. From what I could infer from the OP's post, IMO, this guy was just taking the piss.
:rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes: How on Earth was HE taking the piss? OP instigated proceedings, when he agreed and suggested jiggy, she pushed him away! WTF like? Did she just want to have a little tea party with him?0 -
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AAARRRGH!
According to boards lately, all men are lying, cheating bastards who just want a quick shag & all women are prick teasing, drink stealing, gold diggers who belong in the kitchen. Who knows why we bother will each other at all?
One man didnt fancy ya thats all. Sounds like he was after a quick shag, possibly even more but when you hounded him with text messages, he decided you were more trouble than you were worth.
(PS - if you want tea & sympathy go to PI not AH
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Sound Bite wrote: »According to boards lately, all men are lying, cheating bastards who just want a quick shag & all women are prick teasing, drink stealing, gold diggers who belong in the kitchen. Who knows why we bother will each other at all?
Could be worse. We could be ginger or left handed.0 -
I recommended that the OP visit the "Relationship Issues" forum ... then I read a few posts there, and now I'm a bit depressed. I think she's better off here, to be honest.Sound Bite wrote: »AAARRRGH!
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(PS - if you want tea & sympathy go to PI not AH). You are the type of what the age is searching for, and what it is afraid it has found. I am so glad that you have never done anything, never carved a statue, or painted a picture, or produced anything outside of yourself! Life has been your art. You have set yourself to music. Your days are your sonnets.
―Oscar Wilde predicting Social Media, in The Picture of Dorian Gray
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HardLuckWoman wrote: »Why do they do it?
Fancied a guy for ages. 5 or 6 years to be precise. Didn't do anything cause i worked with him but since i left the job a couple of weeks ago, i thought fk it il try it anyway.
Gave him my number and he was more than happy to give me his and he went to kiss me on the lips.
He rang me a couple of times and even asked me would my flatmates mind if he came into my room if he came to visit me. Wtf does all this mean?
Am i right to be mad at him since he's all talk and he's been ignoring my messages. Even had the neck to tell me the kiss was no big deal. Yes it was when he asked to come into my room.
What does he want? Sersiously i understand dogs more. And before anyone says women can be assholes too, yes i know they can. Maybe i should just become a lesbian?
steak and a blow job.0 -
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Were you working in an aviary?starbelgrade wrote: »Worked with this bird for 5 years. Never paid that much attention to her, though she was always looking at me. Found it a bit weird, but didn't dwell on it too much.
.AlmightyCushion wrote: »Could be worse. We could be ginger or left handed. 0 -
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HardLuckWoman wrote: »Why do they do it?
Fancied a guy for ages. 5 or 6 years to be precise. Didn't do anything cause i worked with him but since i left the job a couple of weeks ago, i thought fk it il try it anyway.
Gave him my number and he was more than happy to give me his and he went to kiss me on the lips.
He rang me a couple of times and even asked me would my flatmates mind if he came into my room if he came to visit me. Wtf does all this mean?
Am i right to be mad at him since he's all talk and he's been ignoring my messages. Even had the neck to tell me the kiss was no big deal. Yes it was when he asked to come into my room.
What does he want? Sersiously i understand dogs more. And before anyone says women can be assholes too, yes i know they can. Maybe i should just become a lesbian?
He wanted a bit of your gee and ride ya. Simple as that. A kiss doesn't always mean anything, to a guy it means its a quicker way to your knickers if he plays the nice, cool, sexy guy and plays his cards right. To girls well, a kiss is a kiss but not every kiss means something to girls, some just kiss guys like guys shag girls to get another notch on their bedpost in the case of girls its another notch on their belts. Then there are times that the chemistry and the spark can happen for girls when they kiss some guys so if that happens then well the girl is more likely to follow suit and cop of with the guy more easily.
Although he asked if the flat mates mind if he went into your room for a visit, well it wasn't just you and the room he wanted to visit it was your bed and hopped you would put out. Also to warn the flat mates if they would hear anything...If you didn't offer yourself on a plate and let him into your room even if it was just for a chat should it have mattered if things happened or not, it would have been a better way to find out than just hanging around waiting and not doing anything about it. 5-6 years is a long time you should have gone for it as soon as he asked you. Ye did knew each other it wasn't like ye were strangers?
Well, he is a bit of an eejit if he didn't reply and ignore your texts but some men are like that if they aren't entirely interested or lost interest or realised you weren't going to put out and more or less his thinking is why bother.
He wanted sex nothing more from what I gather from your post. Don't think he wanted anything serious if he did he would have pursued you until you gave in!
Ya I understand what you mean by 'dogs' they are loyal and friendly and can more or less tell you how they feel and tell you what they want by their behaviour and actions. If you like men then why become a lesbian? It might be easier said than done. If you went the bi-way maybe that might help ease your dislike of men acting like gombeens towards women. Best to stick with men, 'you can't live with them you can't live without them', true saying! I don't sympathise with 'your man' though. He is a player can't you see that? Best of without him and go for a nice lad that will treat you with more respect. Plenty more fish in the sea and plenty of talent and eye candy out there if you know where to look! You deserve a nice lad though every girl does. He is out there somewhere but try not to put it off so long without saying it to a lad 'I fancy you'. Best to know before any heartbreak and be able to test the waters before things ever get too serious between you and your beau!
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snuggles285 wrote: »If you like men then why become a lesbian? It might be easier said than done.
Quite true, I went Lesbian once .. she didn't like me.
Plus, if HardLuckWoman did go lesbian and a woman treated her like that awful guy did in the OP did - I'm not so sure that a: 'Women are assholes' thread, would go down too well.
I say, stick to being heterosexual OP - your thread topics won't nearly be as limited 0 -
HardLuckWoman wrote: »Why do they do it?
Fancied a guy for ages. 5 or 6 years to be precise. Didn't do anything cause i worked with him but since i left the job a couple of weeks ago, i thought fk it il try it anyway.
Gave him my number and he was more than happy to give me his and he went to kiss me on the lips.
He rang me a couple of times and even asked me would my flatmates mind if he came into my room if he came to visit me. Wtf does all this mean?
Am i right to be mad at him since he's all talk and he's been ignoring my messages. Even had the neck to tell me the kiss was no big deal. Yes it was when he asked to come into my room.
What does he want? Sersiously i understand dogs more. And before anyone says women can be assholes too, yes i know they can. Maybe i should just become a lesbian?
You sound a little bit stalk-y.
Have you/ had you a reputation in your job for following fellas? How many fellas have you gone out with?
Needy Girls get no lovin. FACT.0 -
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HardLuckWoman wrote: »Why do they do it?
Fancied a guy for ages. 5 or 6 years to be precise. Didn't do anything cause i worked with him but since i left the job a couple of weeks ago, i thought fk it il try it anyway.
Gave him my number and he was more than happy to give me his and he went to kiss me on the lips.
He rang me a couple of times and even asked me would my flatmates mind if he came into my room if he came to visit me. Wtf does all this mean?
Am i right to be mad at him since he's all talk and he's been ignoring my messages. Even had the neck to tell me the kiss was no big deal. Yes it was when he asked to come into my room.
What does he want? Sersiously i understand dogs more. And before anyone says women can be assholes too, yes i know they can. Maybe i should just become a lesbian?
five or six years, you have waited this long, ye cant have much of an attraction for each other.0 -
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I'm afraid so, we voted him in at the last big meeting.So this one guy is representative of "men"? And he's not an asshole for not wanting the same as you want.
You know the way things go in this country though, once someone is voted in, they are very hard to get rid of, no matter how incompetent. 0 -
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