First date sex!

Wibbs

There might be something to that Faith. Certainly with some guys. I've heard mates make the distinctiion alright. Though again it can vary. While one guy might be put off by wild animal stuff, another guy may be put off by the romantic stuff and thinking the woman is on a "boyfriend hunt" and he's got a target on his head, when all he was after and thought same of her was some ONS fun.

candy-gal1

I seriously HATE the whole thing that some people say about "oh if shes slept with me on the first night then she must be a slut!" :mad:
infuriates me, seriously!
Maybe your the first person shes been with, maybe your the first person shes been with on a first date, maybe she puts that as getting to know you or a perfect date includes that (imho it does).
You cannot just put a stamp on someone just because of this, outdated, silly and small minded arent the words.
Theres lots more stuff you can judge a person on, if you want to judge, whether she said about using protection, whether shes been with your mates before, or whether shes taken someone elses BF from someone.

IamtheWalrus

I think the problem I have always had with girls who sleep with you on the first date is that girls can have sex (mostly) any time they want. They will always find a boy willing to have sex with them. Knowing this, and if I selpt with a girl on the first night, I would be wondering how many other boys have been there.

The older I get the less this matters though because you inevitably have more partners the older you get.

candy-gal1

IamtheWalrus wrote: »

I think the problem I have always had with girls who sleep with you on the first date is that girls can have sex (mostly) any time they want. They will always find a boy willing to have sex with them. Knowing this, and if I selpt with a girl on the first night, I would be wondering how many other boys have been there.

The older I get the less this matters though because you inevitably have more partners the older you get.

Okay, but in real terms, it all depends on what you think of the person and the vibe you get from them. Whether shes had 100 guys on the first night or none it still doesnt mean she will cheat on you or she wont (if shes never had sex on the first date. I dont think you can judge someone purely on that, unless you know she has been with everyone or whatever.

IamtheWalrus

If a lad wants a girlfriend, he would try to choose girls who are more likely to be long-term girlfriend material. If a girl has shagged a string of lads she may be more likey to stray. If a lad decides to be more open minded and forget past sexual history he could get hurt down the line. So he may have a rule that it's best not to pursue girls who do one night stands, just to be save.

I broke my own rule a couple of years ago. The girl slept with me on the first night. I started to like the girl. Then she shagged my friend. I have put my rule back in place.

Novella

IamtheWalrus wrote: »

If a lad wants a girlfriend, he would try to choose girls who are more likely to be long-term girlfriend material. If a girl has shagged a string of lads she may be more likey to stray. If a lad decides to be more open minded and forget past sexual history he could get hurt down the line. So he may have a rule that it's best not to pursue girls who do one night stands, just to be save.

I broke my own rule a couple of years ago. The girl slept with me on the first night. I started to like the girl. Then she shagged my friend. I have put my rule back in place.

If a girl has had casual sex with many guys, she may just like having sex. No way does it make her more likely to be a cheater. I honestly don't know how or why people come to that conclusion, it's ridiculous. A person is not more likely to be any less loyal in a relationship because they have had one night stands in the past.

iguana

IamtheWalrus wrote: »

If a girl has shagged a string of lads she may be more likey to stray.

Conversely, if a woman has had a very limited amount of sexual partners she may find that she isn't ready to finish exploring and therefore may be more likely to stray.

How people behave when they are single is no reflection of how they will behave in a relationship.

minidazzler

Faith wrote: »

I was thinking about this earlier, and was wondering: Do you think the type of sex makes a difference? I suppose I'm really looking for male perspectives here, so may post it in tGC as well, but would guys be less inclined to see a girl as relationship potential based on what type of sex they had? Say romantic, intimate sex versus dirty, wild sex. I would guess hypothesise that "dirty" sex could lead to the girl being seen as little more than a sexual object, much like a porn star. But then again, the guy could just be delighted that he's met someone who's very uninhibited. Whereas the "romantic" sex girl could be seen as a better long-term bet, but could also perhaps be perceived as being boring and inhibited.

I'm very interested in answers to this!

I'd be just a little put off by romantic, intimate sex on a first date TBH. Not alot, and wouldn't stop me calling someone, but would be just a little worried.

Wibbs

minidazzler wrote: »

I'd be just a little put off by romantic, intimate sex on a first date TBH. Not alot, and wouldn't stop me calling someone, but would be just a little worried.

Yep, ditto for me.

tinyk

I don't have anything against girls that do but It's not me, I find that sex only starts getting good when you really know the person. one night stands never appealed to me when I was single and If I really liked someone I certainly would not jump into bed with them straight away...whats happened to the mystery and the innocence of first dates!!!I enjoy the chase at the start it's the best part!;) Men have to know good things don't come easy..pardon the pun!