Things you want to say to husband/boyf/ex's/friends/family/people *MOD NOTE POST #1*

writer_lady170

thank you:) as least you were civil to me and I can finally move on with my life

Chloris

Why don't you care about me? I turned out alright. I don't like this relationship we've developed; where you exploit the love I have for my brother by having me care for him for a lot more than my fair share of time (which I so enjoy doing, but a "thank you" wouldn't go amiss), because you are totally aloof when I try to talk to you about my life, or look for advice.

I tried to make you lunch two weeks ago but when you discovered I was making mussels, you threw a tantrum because there might be a smell of garlic and claimed that dad wouldn't like it. Then I offered to omit the garlic, and it transpired that you still didn't want me cooking in the house. God forbid anyone do any actual living in that f'n place.

You and normality cannot occupy the same logical framework. I'm just grateful to be a reasonably functional member of the human population who can now experience happiness without the traces of melancholy it always used to bring me. That I emerged reasonably unscathed from the mess of an upbringing I was afforded. I just wish that you had the respect for me to give me one authentic, uncensored, civil conversation with you.

Frigga_92

Yesterday was horrific, all day long I felt horrendous. Crying in the chemist, crying when I got home, so restless and jittery, my head felt like I was trying to swim through quicksand. I feel like I'm swimming in a sea with seaweed tightening around me and trying to pull me under.

For the first time ever in my life I contemplated taking up drinking as a hobby. Do you have any idea what that does to me? My father has been an alcoholic all my life and it ruined my childhood and now I'm having these thoughts about myself. Those thoughts are destroying me.

I feel like there's a hole in the centre of me which is slowly getting bigger and bigger.

herisson

I know you are going through a god awful time but please leave me alone.

I come home to relax from what's going on in my life. I dont come home to listen to your problems.

Please just **** off I dont want to hang out ok?

seventeen sheep

It's a bad state of affairs when your mental health consultant admits you're a unique case. Especially when he's the specialist in the country in such cases.

Please find a way. Please fix me.

I need to be me again.

HoneyBee78

Dear P, I'm sorry for everything but you already know that. I'm so glad we finally got to have 'that' conversation, even after everything you hold no grudges and are always there for me. You're one in a million and one of the kindest people I know & I'm glad we got to spend so many happy years together. I will always be there for you if you ever need it, thanks for not hating me & thank you for being you x

Dear friends, I've learned that good old saying is true, you find out who your real friends are when you're going through hard times. To my lifelong friends & to the new friends I've made along the way esp the ones that I would never have thought would be there, thank you so much for listening & not judging me & not getting fed up with me going on, it took me a long time but I'm finally learning. thank you for making me a stronger person, I hope neither of you have to go through hard times but if you ever do I will always be here for you x

Dear me, you're on the right path keep going

LegacyUser

I wish I could meet someone special.
I wish my family would respect me more.
I wish I could get a place of my own.
I wish I had more single friends I could call upon/hangout with.

I wish a wish.

LegacyUser

Dear D

I have not heard from you in weeks. You don't know that I have been in contact with A and they have been filling me in on all your news. They also know what happened between us.

The reality is that you got involved with a woman who has been using you. She has told you a load of lies and she could still be seeing an ex boyfriend. You have money and a house so your a better bet than her ex boyfriend in regards to the future.
I figured this out weeks ago and I told A what I thought. In fact A told you a few home truths about your situation and give you advice on what to do now.
At least you begining to sort out this situation. After dong this you have to tell your friends the truth about what happened.

A asked me if you had been in contact with me and I said no. They said that you would be embarrased to let me know what happened. At this stage in some ways I feel sorry for you but in other ways I feel that your learning a lesson. I will be there for you as a friend shortly and I want to hear the truth from you.

I don't know what will happen in the future. This might make your realise that you want us to have a realtionship. I will be very honest with you about what I want if this is the case. I have sorted out a few things in the past few months and I am not giving up my plans to suit you.

acuriouscat

I can't do this
The pain is taking over

heathledgerlove

x Purple Pawprints x wrote: »

You can be heard. The walls are thin. I criticise myself every day, but it's different when you hear someone else doing it behind your back. It hurts and I'm lying in bed before 8am crying because of you. I was told I need to be more confident, you even said it, but how can I be confident when stuff like this happens?



EDIT:
Stop asking me what's wrong because I can't tell you. I can't tell you because I wasn't supposed to hear you. If I told you that I heard you you'd argue with me and state your case until I said you were right.

Lately every time I say something you jump down my throat and when I defend myself I'm the one that's moody. I'm tired of this. I know I'm not an angel but I can't be wrong all the time. I can't be. You've made me feel lousy about myself.

I know you're doing me a favour by being in the car while I'm practicing driving but pressing your imaginary brake and shouting at me isn't helping. I'm a nervous wreck when I'm in the car with you. I'm only waiting for you to say something or tell me I did something wrong.

The atmosphere around here lately is horrible. Even Dad has said so, but he won't say it because he wants to stay in the good books.

I wish I could get a job, I'm really trying. I hate being at home all day. I hate it. Wednesdays are a god send, I can get out of here for couple of hours and I feel like I have something to get out of bed for. I'm so down but all you can do is pick at every little thing I do that you see as wrong. You're my mother and I love you to bits but I'm tired of all this. I thought all this was over but I was wrong.

Just saw this, re: the driving, Ha I can relate!

My "thing to say": Car, I have a love / hate relationship with you !

rosie16

K,

I thought I knew you, knew you better than most. And this is how you treat me. I can see now you don’t value or respect me. We could have been life-long friends. The greatest disrespect pretending it was entirely my fault when you knew how untrue it was. I thought you were better than that. I thought you had more balls. I didn’t realise or I underestimated how scared you are. I am so disappointed in you. The way you threw everything back in my face. After two years, this is what you give me. How hard is it to admit that your girlfriend gave you an ultimatum? That she wants me out of your life. How stupid do I look? I’ve known for months how she’s felt about me.

And you end it by blaming it on me when in fact I’ve fought so hard to maintain this friendship especially in the last few months. I HAVE given it all. I’m not the same person I was when I first met you. I’ve come along way, you’ve told me that you’re proud of my achievements of how I’ve worked on my self-improvement and then you do this. You don’t know the **** I’ve been through in recent months. You didn’t have the decency to reply to my message. I know it’s not my fault but it makes me angry, not that I’ve lost you but the fact that you are also cutting out a close mutual friend of ours. How dare you. It was understandable in a way how you’ve been acting towards me but ignoring her just because she’s super close to me. It’s real cowardly. Again, I’m disappointed. I told you in recent weeks that you can lie to me all you wish, just don’t lie to yourself.

your reasons for ending it are bull****, I know what the real reasons are

And the general feeling is: 'I'm done, I'm done trying. It doesn't matter how much I want to be friends with you. It doesn't matter what a fantastic connection we have, I can't force you to be my friend. I tried, you didn't, end of.'

you were one of my closest friends. You called me like family. You called me one of your greatest friends.

goodbye K,
R
x

SMJSF

Why do I think I would take you back, then the anger comes, and I want to kick the crap outta you for the mental f-up you put me true for nearly 2 years!

LegacyUser

Dear D,

Seriously? I mean, really?

I get drunk one night, tell you that I fancy you, suggest we either become friends with benefits or give things a proper go, and you turn me down, which is fair enough, your prerogative, but then you go and tell other people about it? Our mutual friends. You think that's an ok thing to do? Seriously? I had the courage (Dutch courage, granted) to tell you how I felt, and you make a joke out of it.

For shame D, for shame.
I thought better of you.

redshoes15

Tonight. Just do it. Ring me, I'll answer. Text me, I'll reply. Show up, I'll see you. Just do it, be brave. Whatever the consequences we'll deal with them. Whatever the obstacles, we'll face them together.

LegacyUser

When we broke up you were 'officially' in the wrong, what with the cheating and all, but the pain of it passed so quickly. We hadn't been 'in love' with each other for years, I know how trapped you felt, I felt it too.

I was so angry with you about a lot of things that were just part of you, the social anxiety, the obsessive scheduling of your day, the job that meant you were out when I was in, the lack of desire to spend much time around me. And fair enough, towards the end, you were genuinely a c*nt, particularly when you lost interest in talking to me. But you were never right for me in the first place, none of my BIG BRIGHT SMILE!! MAKE EVERYTHING GOOD NOW!! brittle, chipper efforts could have fixed that. And I wasn't great either, I know that. ( I mean, obviously, I *was* better than you. I made more effort, I was much nicer to you, I looked after you. You were happy to take all that but I shouldn't have been offering it to you in the first place.) Unhappiness and worry was making me a pain to be around. A pain with a glass, and then a bottle and then multiple bottles of wine in their hand. And a nag too. Oh such a nag. The need to be off my face the whole time passed when we split, weirdly enough. We were so bad for each other. Genuinely if we'd stayed together I think I'd be in a 12 Steps programme now.

You let me down. You hurt me. I don't think you meant to though and it's funny the things you'll do when there's no escape. I miss your friendship. I miss our conversations. I never, ever want to be in a relationship with you again but I keep thinking about getting in touch with you and seeing if you'd like to be friends again. I want to talk to you about the end of our relationship and compare notes.

Then I remember that you've never tried keep in touch with me, you don't need me worrying about you and you were a RIGHT sh*t when we broke up and I think, no. This too will pass. I won't forget about you but the you shaped hole in my head will fill with new things. I hope that you're ok. Better than ok really. You need to stop sitting around talking about the things you want

Then there's this - I've met someone new. I fell for them hard & fast and entirely. It's, well, it's dead serious & they are the most important thing in my life right now. It happened so quickly and it's been weird getting over one person while getting 'under' <cough> someone else while realising that you've randomly met the love of your life but, hey, never really did anything in my life that wasn't weird in some way!

I don't love you, I'm sorry, I don't wish I could have mourned 'us' more but I feel like I should have. We did have good times. For years. I hope you're ok. Us breaking up wasn't your fault, I told you that in one of my dramatic, emo emails. Get up off your ass and work for the things you need and if you meet someone else, and you will because you are hot, don't leech off them. It's horribly unattractive.

Take care P. I gotta let us go now

Zanablue

P, Thank you for putting up with me lately, I just want you to know that I love and appreciate you so much. xx

LegacyUser

Kindgirl wrote: »

Dear D,

Seriously? I mean, really?

I get drunk one night, tell you that I fancy you, suggest we either become friends with benefits or give things a proper go, and you turn me down, which is fair enough, your prerogative, but then you go and tell other people about it? Our mutual friends. You think that's an ok thing to do? Seriously? I had the courage (Dutch courage, granted) to tell you how I felt, and you make a joke out of it.

For shame D, for shame.
I thought better of you.

Oh D,

Today was kinda fun. Y'see, I knew I'd be seeing you today. So, I made a big effort to look good. I knew I didn't look just good, I knew I looked sH1t hot . And, I know you thought so too. I saw the look on your face, you didn't compose yourself quickly enough to hide it. I saw you checking me out more than once. It was so gratifying.
And you know something else... I wouldn't sleep with you now, even if you begged.

beks101

Happy birthday.
It still hurts. The pain reminds me it's real; it reminds me that you were so real. I'm scared that the pain will go away some day. The memories of you will fade.

M talks about you relentlessly. "E did this, E said that. Me and E went here, when me and E were there..."
It's his way of coping I suppose.

"He was there one minute, then he was gone."

It still feels like some sort of joke, a misunderstanding. One of your silly old pranks and you just forgot to come back with the punchline.

Oh god, I still miss you. Tears still find me unexpectedly. Like now, in the middle of a crazed, chaotic newsroom. A memory strikes, a flashback hit and it's like I'm hearing for the first time all over again.

Happy birthday my lovely friend. I'm so glad I knew you.

addicted to caffeine

Dear my friends,

I'm sorry that I left you for a short period of time, the night I closed my account I was feeling low, sorry for myself and was upset cos I was a film where the person in it was going through a break up and it all came flooding back. So I wasn't thinking straight, I feel like a right fool now

To anyone who sent me a message on Facebook asking if I was ok, thank you, really thank you, I really appreciatived it I'm really pleased to have ye as friends

I'll never leave again!

acuriouscat

Just heading to my appointment with a phychiatrist for the first time in my life,this is what u done to me,I hope your happy

sullivlo

To the group of guys who wolf whistled after I high fived ye on the bike:

Thanks for making my day.

(First time I've been whistled in years since starting to lose weight!)

silverfeather

OMG ...


GUYS YOU ARE FREAKING LIFE SAVERS!

To all my neighbours who came today and helped me find the water mains in my own freaking home. THANK YOU ...To stephen for fixing it all and for making yourself late for work to help me. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU ! My childhood friend ...and the three other angels....You are amazing! :-)

loubian

I need help and no one is helping me.

Why are you doing this?

BeckyBloomwood

R seeing you last week was the best thing ever, I'm so glad we started to sort things, I was practically crying going back to work I was so happy. I was a pretty bad friend to you and I'm so sorry. I know we can't go straight back to the way we were, if we ever do but I'm never losing you from my life again if I can help it. You'll always be my bestie, love you xxx

little lady

I've lost your friendship, I know you say I haven't, that you answer me when I text you, but your actions speak louder than words.

You don't contact me anymore, we don't talk like we use to.

I miss you, I miss the fun. This all sucks but if it's what you want then there's nothing I can do about it except accept it and let you go. It makes me sad. 😞

LegacyUser

X, I stopped contacting you because I realised I was doing all the running. I wanted to see how long it'd be before you made the effort when I didn't... and I'm still waiting.

The worst thing is that I know it's not malicious or deliberate on your part and if anyone ever asked you why we're not friends anymore, you'd say it was because I stopped contacting you. It probably wouldn't even occur to you that you should have got in touch, because that's the way it always was; me starting the conversation, organising events, and you just following my lead when it suited... You want to hang out but not to take the initiative.

I was there when you needed me, but you haven't asked how I am in months and all you know about my life is what you've seen on social media. And "liking" posts just isn't maintaining a friendship, you know.

I do miss you, X, but I'm sorry, if you can't make time for me, then I won't go out of my way to make time for you. The ball's in your court now, play it if you want to.

x Purple Pawprints x

Why four times a day? Do you think my parents have nothing better to do that to sit gossiping with you?

YurOK2

This is just the worst time in my life and I feel so isolated. You have no idea what my life is like now. I'm so alone in this world, on this path. I have changed, my life has changed, the way I look at the world has changed. And you have done all of this.

LegacyUser

You just keep going on about oh how **** that you can't see your boyfriend for a while and how he is amazing and you want to marry him.

My boyfriend tried to kill himself and subsequently dumped me. I wanted to marry him to have his kids.

Please stop and realize how much I'm in agony and how you are not helping in any way shape or form by just talking about your boyfriend.

It's like you are rubbing it in my face.

loubian

Why do you guys do it? You think it's hilarious but it's so ****ing offensive. Why yes, your cat calling to "suck on your tits" is so appealing, let me just strip off right now for you.. ****tards. Am I getting this cause I'm ugly or what?