Things you want to say to husband/boyf/ex's/friends/family/people *MOD NOTE POST #1*

LegacyUser

Dear W

I was sorry to hear what you told me yesterday. I knew this day would come but I know it does not make it any easier for you. I understand why you did not want to talk to me after I got your message.

The next day you see me I will show you just how much I have changed over the past few months. I have got my confidence back. I am looking forward to meeting your freinds that know me. I know they will see some change in me. I can't wait to chat to them.

When we meet I will be with A and she knows the full story about you and me. You know I am here as a friend for you but I don't know what you want next. If you and B are still together I will be supprised after the last news you told me. Once she realises how this news affects you if it is true she will be gone.

I have to be honest W I am not in a positon to drop everything for you now like I was a few months ago. I have been offered work experience in a good place once I finish my course.
This may or may not lead to a job for me. After the changes I made over the past few months I deserve this.

I am willing to give you another chance but once I do this you have to decide what you want me or your girlfriend. In time if you pick me I would be willing to make the changes in my life once I knew our relationship was going some where.
If you decide to stay with your girlfreind we will stay friends but you don't come to me thinking that I will warm your bed if things end with her.

LeeLooLee

D, I wish I could have realised how weak you were when we were together. A total people pleaser. You just had to be everyone's best mate, regardless of how they treated me, who you supposedly loved. Your female friend R who was openly rude and hostile from the moment she met me. Purposely left me, and only me, out of rounds in the pub and then loudly apologised that she had just forgotten I was there because I was so quiet, to humiliate me in front of everyone. You never once told her to cop herself on. You never once told her she was rude. You never once stood up for me. You just let her bully me in front of all your mates and then told me "ah, she's just like that when new people join the group". I should have known your true character then, if these were the kind of people you consider your best friends.

Everyone thinks you're a really nice person, but they don't see that it's all about you. Everything you do is about making yourself look good and feel good. You’re always offering to help people, but it’s done so that you can feel important and superior. You helped me a lot, that’s true, but I always had the sense that it came down to fuelling your ego. Not many people saw how competitive you were, even with me. You supported me on the surface, but any time you perceived that I was doing better than you, you brought me down. When I was so happy to get that a place on that course, you reminded me that it wouldn’t have been possible if you hadn’t paid (a tiny fraction) more of the bills than me while I went part time at work for a week or two while I wrote my applications. When I did better on that training course than you did, you said that my tutors must have been less strict than yours. You complained towards the end that I was too weak and clingy but you have so little self-awareness that you can’t see that you contributed massively to that. You were so patronising and condescending all the time that I ended up feeling worthless. The one time your friend DW called you out on the patronising tone you used with me (which I was used to by that stage), you let out one of your fake little laughs and brushed it off.

You are so convinced that you’re ‘deadly’ that you get angry at any suggestion that you are behaving badly. When we were at that restaurant abroad and the waitress accidentally spilled wine all over the table, you laughed loudly, with that obnoxious, insincere laugh of yours and I asked you to stop laughing because she was obviously mortified and other customers were staring. You said it was grand and you were laughing with her, not at her, but I said given her face of thunder, she didn't see it like that. You said she should learn to not take herself so seriously. I explained that the power balance in the situation was in your favour and that she was probably afraid of the boss getting angry or herself not getting a tip and that it wasn't normal in that culture to laugh when someone made a mistake, and then you got angry with me. You told me I had made you feel bad and ruined our night. Because it’s always, always about you. Don't think I don't remember the time I slipped on the wet floor when getting on the Luas and you just looked embarrassed and kept walking to a seat. You didn't help me up. You didn't even ask if I was OK. You were just embarrassed because I made a fool of myself, and by extension, a fool of you.

I see now that you never really loved or appreciated me as a person. You saw me as someone you needed to fix, someone you needed to become an extension of yourself. You thought there was something wrong with me because I don’t like heading out socialising and drinking constantly like you do. You constantly forced and pushed me to socialise when I didn't feel like it with people I didn't like and you didn't appreciate one little bit how much effort I was making to make you happy. You thought you did so much for me and got nothing back, but nothing could be further from the truth. You just couldn't see what you got back because you were so busy in your roles of Saviour and Martyr and mostly, People Pleaser. I’ve never been happier since we broke up, and I wish it had happened much sooner. Now I can finally be me. I don’t need to always be second fiddle to you. I’m not constantly compared to you and coming off worse because I’m less charming, less sociable, less funny. I might not have hundreds of ‘mates’ like you, but the people I have in my life now are genuine, nice people who I like to be around. They don’t humiliate me on purpose and make me feel small. Thank you D, for helping me to realise what really matters.

ivytwine

Ugh they sound like such a dickhead LeeLooLee, hugs to you.

Dear work,

Ok you aren't to know about "how I am" as the euphemism goes, but seriously it's not fair to keep me dangling for weeks. Just make up your minds one way or the other.

Need to go home now and start applying for jobs and I feel so flipping demoralised atm:/

LegacyUser

M,

You're incredibly shallow. That look you gave me on Saturday after you saw his photo told me everything I needed to know about you. A smug, superior look. And I will admit, for a moment I felt ashamed, so easily influenced by you and your warped sense of reality. I'm disappointed in myself for feeling like that.


D,

You wreck my head. I wish I could just cut you out of my life, it would save me a lot of heartache and above all - confusion. Because I only ever feel confused when I think of you.

addicted to caffeine

Dear self,

Well done on passing one of your exams/assignments young lady hard work pays off. Keep going to college and complete the course. You never know where you mind end up?!:)

From me

LeeLooLee

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RhubarbCrumble

Ugh! The pain of listening to a Rachel Allen soundalike in an evening class. You're an even bigger culchie than me, so for God sake lose the D4 accent!

We know you love the sound of your own (fake) voice, but as the lecturer said tonight, is there any chance that anyone else in the class could get a word in at all?

Pokiedots

Dear them- Grow the hell up!

Dear me- enough is enough now - time to get back to you!

XR3i

see you soon my love

SAMTALK

Dear work
Please give me more to do.............im bored. Its easy say its great to have a handy job but the day drags on soooooooo much.. Thank you for giving me a chance to get back into the workforce.

Shelga

A,

You're a spoiled brat who is making us look like pampered children and we haven't even gotten to the damn country yet.

It's not enough to have the company pay an absolute fortune to give you your own 1 bed apartment in a luxurious development, you have to have 100 square metres all to yourself. Get a f***ing grip mate. And stop dragging the rest of us in to your ridiculous demands, I certainly don't want to be judged for your behaviour.

You're 24 years old, being sent on an amazing overseas assignment for nearly double your salary, and all you can do is whine about a deluxe apartment not being big enough, in a city where grinding poverty is the real norm, amongst all the corporate opulence.

Time to get the silver spoon out from where it's wedged up your irritating arrogant arse, methinks.

StripedBoxers

I need to stop thinking about you, because I know you aren't thinking about me.

I need to stop missing you, because I know you aren't missing me.

Even though you broke my heart, I still love you with all those broken pieces.

pew

You did a ****ty thing.

I'm still furious.

But I still like you.

****.

BadMoonRising

Me:
Stop freaking. It wasn't your fault. Learn a lesson from it and move on.

SMJSF

Well there goes all hope of that gone straight out the window!!

musiclady904

somebody get me a straitjacket because if my hands are loose I may just hit someone, to comment on that poor lads style choice and to have him upset over it is bad enough but when the manager is doing it too and thinks it's ok 😠
so glad I'm finished here soon
can't wait to never ever have to deal with you idiots again

on a bright note well done to my friend who passed his driving test today 😊
p.s. your still not driving my new car 😆

ivytwine

Work: YAYYYYY! Thanks for giving me a chance. You won't regret it

StripedBoxers

I know everything happens for a reason, I just wish I knew what that reason was/is......

The Dogs Bollix

Quit ringing me, you had a chance with me, its been over a year. Get over it.

LynnGrace

Just stop with the passive aggressive texts. FFS, it's twenty quid, stop making a song and dance out of everything.

SMJSF

I get it now. I get what kind of person you are just by seeing those two things on Facebook. Wow, I didn't see that coming.
Why am I still waiting though?

addicted to caffeine

Me,

Forget your doubts and just write the damn book!

x Purple Pawprints x

Somebody give me a chance. Please.

musiclady904

so after finishing my last day at old job today and get home to a message saying my new job can't take me on now 😠 like who the f..k does that to someone they knew I was leaving old job for them and now I'm screwed can't and don't want to go back to my old job, just seems likes someone has it in for me, I can't go back to the social I hate that life people always look down on you.

anyone want a 151 golf think I'll need the money 😢

Makapakka

I will not tolerate how you are speaking to me. You cannot speak down to me because I am a woman. This is not my problem or responsibility and your problems are your own fault. I will not tolerate being blamed for it any longer.

Karmella

Oh man stop with the excuses already :mad:
Can you just once put your children first?

StripedBoxers

I realised I was thinking of you, and I began to wonder how long you’ve been on my mind, then I realised, since I met you, you have never left my mind.

You have no idea the amount of joy and happiness that you brought to my life.

If I could give you one thing, I would give you the ability to see yourself through my eyes, only then would you understand how much you mean to me, how much I love you and how much you have hurt me, and despite all the hurt and pain, I still love you, and a part of me will always love you.

stop animal cruelty

fuksake my head is just starting to get burned from ye....if ye had any idea what lm going tru would ye give as much time and attention as me....fuksake.

RentDayBlues

I am not your taxi service or your bloody nanny, if you want to be driven around at your covenience learn to drive! And you're welcome, it was nice of me to sort out getting the alarm fixed, apologies it wrecked your plans for me to drive you around

x Purple Pawprints x

Family,

A little bit of support would be great. I do not need criticism or blame right now. I spent half the day crying knowing I couldn't talk to any of you, I know what you're all like. Thanks a lot.




S,

After tomorrow I'm finished. You're done using me. I'm not a taxi service or a courier or someone you use to make money off. That stupid event was your idea, then you hadn't the decency to tell me you were working until the very last minute. I know that was because I wouldn't have had time to pull out and not go.



A,

Interesting to see you were well able to stay up the other night when you were invited to her party, but any time we ask you we get the same excuse every time. "Oh I'm working tomorrow, I don't want to be hungover or tired for work". Getting a Snapchat at 4.30am saying you having a great time was fun. Not.