Things you want to say to husband/boyf/ex's/friends/family/people *MOD NOTE POST #1*

LegacyUser

You've been the king of mixed signals lately.

You can't judge me on what I'm doing, when you won't give me a clue of how you're feeling or what you want.

For the record, I want you. But I've made that perfectly clear already. What do you want?

LegacyUser

Dear you,

I'm a little mixed-up by what you did. Do you blame me? I think we both owe each other apologies, but now isn't the time for that.

I still feel the same way as I did two days ago, two weeks ago, two months ago... I wasn't going to get all fake-outraged about what happened because you'd know it was bollocks. You've taken a lot of s**t from me, and vice versa. I'd like that not to be necessary any more, though. I'm more tired than upset.

We don't trust each other now, I get that. But the longer this whole sneakiness-and-innuendo thing goes on the harder it's going to get to overcome that down the line. I need something concrete. I am prepared to wait a long time for you, but I need to be sure that I'm waiting *for* something.

Me.

Penny Dreadful

Dear Ex Boyfriend,

Cannot believe that you sent me an email asking for €12,500 from me and you think its fair!!
Yes you borrowed €25k and "we" bought a couch and table and chairs with that..........along with the most stupidly expensive surround sound system stuff, a PS3, 2 new DVD players, OTT expensive presents for your family and the rest of it.
Yes, when we split up I kept the couch and table and chairs but you got the rest of the stuff, the PC, tv table unit..............you also got 10 years of my life, the last 3-4 of which you spent lying to me about wanting to get married and have children. Lying continually.
Things are tough for you now, they are for everyone. Move somewhere cheaper to live and share your bills. Do not expect me to fund half of a loan you took out to cover your credit card debt and money you owed to your lay about brother that I couldn't stand anyway.
You think it "fair" to expect me to pay that kind of money to you at all never mind now, 2 years after I told you I'd had enough and wanted out.
Go to hell. Grow a back bone. I am happy as anything with the most amazing man who wants to marry me, who wants to have a family with me and is adult enough to put his money where his mouth is. We're getting married next June and I quite simply cannot wait. He is the love of my life. You were a starter for 10. What will be even better is when we have our beautiful kids.
Deal with your own life, your own mess, I dealth with mine, rebuilt my life and moved on from you.
Please do the decent thing and do not contact me ever again.

Penny.

LegacyUser

Dear ex,
all of your stuff is gone into the bin tonight. I didn't feel great about it because there was a lot of good memories associated with that stuff but it's moving on time.

LegacyUser

Dear you

Here we are again, we've come full circle yet one more time...

I meant what I said.

I want the little things. I want to sit on the sofa whilst you ask me which shirt to wear, and then laugh as you undoubtedly pick the other one I want to watch more crap TV in bed whilst secretly wanting to jump your bones (yup.....!).

I want to hold your hand! (bet you're heading that song in your head now aren't you :P)

You're right, things have been hard. And the timing has just never been right. But screw that, I'm willing to wait until it's right this time.

So it's up to you now, I feel like we've waited forever, what's another few days. Just um...don't make it weeks?! I'd like my new years kiss...


x (not our 'thing' I know, but it's only a kiss, don't be freaking out )

LegacyUser

Dear Sap,

just when i was thinking you were slipping into the deep recess of my mind forever you pop yourself back into reality with a message. after hesitation i replied. i dont know what that was about as you continue to ignore me since. i know it was dumb of me to reply. i know it is dumb of me to still wonder. i have been reading about a condition and wonder if that is the reason why you are behaving like you are or are you just an asshole. maybe both.
i feel you slipping away again. i wonder if i am imagining your very existence, perhaps i am the crazy one. i know i am not right in the head for hanging on to something/one with very little substance like i have.

Wibbs

Hal Emmerich post deleted. Don't post in this thread again, unless it's to add value to it.

LegacyUser

I hope that you and //// are very happy this Christmas.
I was so glad to be there for you until /// decided to ask you out after years of knowing you. I love how I have spent every Sat night at home over the last few months when you and him have become a couple. I enjoy getting the odd text when you feel like it.
I admire the way you told me that now your going out with /// you won't forget me - how decent of you to say this to me and then to go on ignoring me.
Your mother must be delighted as she no longer has to ask you after every night out did you meet anyone? Are you looking at bridal magazines yet?
I would not look at bridal magazine yet as since it took him this long to ask you out you will be waiting a while for him to propose. You have years yet to have a family as any woman in their early 40's have. I would push for meeting his parents, bring your bank statement with you and //// Daddy will give //// money for you engagement within a week.
If all you plans don't work out just remember I will drop everything to listen to your problems.
O sorry I will send you a text message when I feel like it.

herisson

Dear N,

your ex has completely screwed you over and now he wants you back and youre willing to get back with him??! i know i cant make you do what i want you to do but ive told you its a bad idea! What you have with R is fantastic he is an amazing guy! Please dont get back with him he will only hurt again and again! But i cant stop you and i will stand behind what you decide but it is a mistake!

i genuinely hope you come to your senses and stay with R! I have given you my advice its up to you to listen! I refuse to get into a fight over it...i love you too much as a friend to fall out with you! I know he will hurt you again and i will be there to support and comfort you when this happens....its up to you now!!

Love you loads

M

xxxxxxx

x Purple Pawprints x

Dear man with Huskys in Portlaoise,

I think you're cool and you're dogs are gorgeous. And thank you for smiling at me. Sometimes little things can mean a lot.

- Jane

PhysiologyRocks

Dear Mario,

I'm very much enjoying your Kart, and your Galaxy is entertaining also. However, my hands and shoulders are not coping well with the fallout. Ouch!

Sincerely,
PhysiologyRocks.

amandaf675

Dear Bf
Stop getting drunk and being an asshole! i do want to be with you so stop being a stupid paranoid drunk! yes i understand your insecurities but jesus, stop being a wanker!
i love you alot but when you have drink in you im scared of what you might do!

LegacyUser

You a little afraid? You're not the only one...

Let go. Things are taking a turn for the awesome here and all we have to do is let it happen.

(I'm so awful at playing it casual - I can't stop thinking about you!)

LegacyUser

Dear Depression,
Please leave me alone. I feel like I'm trapped inside myself, under layers and layers of sadness. I want to get out, but i can't break through. Why me? I'm a good soul, i don't deserve this. Nobody knows. They never see the real me, just me trying to pretend that i'm me, i haven't felt like me in a long time, i'm scared i never will again. I miss who i used to be. I wish the empty ache would just stop, just for a little while even. I need to feel something other than sadness, anything, anything at all.
From me.

LegacyUser

Dear my Boy,

I love you.
If you're gonna finish with me, just do it.
this is just my paranoid head I know that. but you've been full of beans last few weeks and since the party barely nothing . I know you're a busy boy but paranoid head getting at me.
Love to you .

Mise

LegacyUser

It's time to face the facts. You drink too much and you know it. It makes you a different person, someone who is paranoid, sad, lonely. You say hurtful things, you fly off the handle and then feel regret and remorse. I don't want to feel this way again.

What is stopping you cutting it out? Is it fear of failing, fear of not knowing if your friends will still want to be with you? You know that is not really the case. Your friends like you for who you are, but you have danced this merry dance for too long now and it is making you question who you really are. So, the game is up. It's time to try and cut back and. if that doesn't work, to then cut it out completely.

You owe this to yourself. There is so much more to you and your life and now is the time to realise it.

flowerchild

I worry about you. I know I have no right to - I have no status in your life - but I still watch out for you and feel concerned.

I think you might be an alcoholic, which would be hard to accept, given the chaos your mother created for you and your siblings, but I suspect it is true. But I don't hear you saying it for yourself. I don't know much about alcoholism, probably much less than you, but I think that no-one can really deal with it except you, and the first step is to name it for what it is.

I think that you may have other addictions too - sex and porn and maybe painkillers? Much less sure of the last one. How would I know? I also have my own demons and addiction and I recognise the pattern in myself and others.

It is so hard to conquer. I am certainly not there yet although I try so very hard each day. But strangely I know that I will get on top of it, if only because I do persist, and because I know I will change strategies until I get the results I want, which is what I do in the rest of my life. I know I am loved by a man who understands and accepts me just as I am. He wants me to succeed but knows that it is my mountain to conquer. That really helps because I can't struggle against him - he is not trying to control me.

What can I do with you? Just say that I see you and care. I really do care even though I stay away to protect myself. I want you to have a good life, to feel loved, to love and accept yourself and to be happy.

I don't think berating yourself works. I'm also very sceptical about psychologists - I suspect many of them are duds. I reckon the smart money is to work with organisations who really understand how your particular challenge works. Name it to yourself, go along, take their advice.

Think of me - I'll be doing my own version of that, struggling with my own bad habits.

Don't compare yourself to other people in the room. The Desiderata got it right, so these are my ending words to you - I couldn't do any better:

Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story. Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time. Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals; and everywhere life is full of heroism. Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is as perennial as the grass. Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be, and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul. With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.

Especially the last. That is what I want for you. Happiness.

Be safe, be well, be happy. Have the courage to change. I am sure that you can do it.

peony

MsAllybear

Dear you!
Stop being a bloody coward and just man up and tell me whats going on!! i've figured it out already but i really Didnt think you were like this. seriously.
a week before xmas . lovely. thanks dear!

x Purple Pawprints x

Dear bf,

Thank you so much for looking after me today. I love you.

J x x x

XxMCRxBabyxX

C,

I can't believe what just happened. I never thought it would tbh. We were so close to five years together. I think we can both agree that it's for the best though. We were kids when we got together. We still are. We can do this though and hopefully we'll get back together at some stage when we've gotten through what we have to.

I still love you and always will. Always.
XxMCRxBabyxX

sunrise91

B,

I miss how things were at the start. I wish I never mentioned that and changed everything. But when I did, I wish you had a different reaction. And I don't want you to leave, I miss you already and it's only been a few hours. I know we weren't that serious, I wish we were, but I know we couldn't be. I wish you didn't have to move and I hate that you've made me feel this way about you. But I'm also so thankful that you have. I fell hard.

lilmissprincess

C,
I'm not overthinking, I swear. But Friday night sounds like a date. Lines are now blurry - what the hell is going on with you?

Love, as always,

L.

MsAllybear

Dear you!

you're hurting me now. im hurting alot more than i thought i would be, as it hasnt been that long. Ya know what, you're a cowardly twat, thats what you are!!
No i dont regret meeting you, it was all good- thats the problem , am i really that blinf that i didnt see any of this.
you're a twat, youre a twat!!!! ggrrrrr

LegacyUser

You,

Please admit we're more than just friends. Don't push me away when I know you want me. Everything changes, and I didn't choose this. Don't focus on what might be. Just be.

LegacyUser

I dont know what to do, I'm mad about you but sometimes it feels like you just don't care or maybe I just care too much. Feels like everything about us is how you want it to be, things that are important to me don't seem to matter or get brushed aside. Our relationship goes at your pace and you do your best to hide us which hurts more than you realise or will even step back to see.

x Purple Pawprints x

Dear flu,

It would be great if you could be gone from both me and himself by Christmas Day. Please?

- Jane

Jenneke87

T: Sorry for the wait. Now stop being so upset, I feel miserable too now.

R: Love ya...kind of. Sort of. Little bit. Alot, it varies per day......

Dear Mice: Get the hell out of my kitchen. Thank you.

Dear man who made my harp: It needs to be repaired, will you please send me the requested strings and pick a date for me to come over to extend the carvings and do the necessary repairs?

Dear F: I may struggle in some classes, but it doesn't mean I'm stupid. So stop treating me like I am. Kindly appreciated......J

Sunshineboo

Dear You

Why are you doing this to yourself? Why do you get so drunk and do silly things, why do you never feel good enough, why are you craving this attention? When you are going to feel happy? Let him go, it hurts seeing him with another girl, but you must stop all this bitterness you are becoming a very cold person and driving people away.

MsAllybear

Dear you.
you are still a twat, but you're more a coward..
Hope you get treated this way someday and you Feel what i'm feeling
Allybear

Dear Tweety- thanks, you are the best, love you!

thanks for the sweet last night, yous are so funny the way u show u care. haha!

Noah:
I Love you, nothing will change, you are the bestest in the world, and you can prob go , told ya so with this situation but i'd prefer u didnt but i know when i see you at xmas, you'll make me happy and cheer me up.
Allybear

B/S: I miss you, knowing i wont see u in dublin, i know we dont talk too much but still i dont like yous been so far away from us.


thanks for xmas card, I hope your ok after Oct, sorry i've not been in contact since really, but i know if i go there, it'll get upset, denial is what i'm about.
it was tough for everyone. but we are not close so there's no point starting now, is there?!

LegacyUser

To some of the posters in the RCC thread

You really have no idea do you. You have no idea how much your words can hurt and how much damage you can do. How hard it is to read as each line makes me feel like less and less of a person. It's never ok. It's just never ok. But knowing that and feeling it are two different things, and that's what's killing me inside. That's what makes reading your words even worse.I can't read anymore, I hope you never have to feel what I feel, or go through what I'm going through - but I hope someday some of you realise just how wrong you are.



Dear me

You can do this, just keep going.

For the love of god... just keep going.


Dear .

I'm sorry I can't be more for you. I'm sorry I can't be me. I'm sorry I can't look after you. I'm sorry I'm this big mess of a person. I'm sorry I can't deal with things.

I'm sorry for who I am. I wish I was better. I wish I could beat this.


Dear T

Somethings changed, and it terrifies me. You're the only one who understood. The only one who could help me. I hate needing anyone but I need you. I know you're frustrated, but please don't give up on me.


Dear J

You were never worth it. I see that now. I'm not worth much, but I'm worth more than what I got from you.