Things you want to say to husband/boyf/ex's/friends/family/people *MOD NOTE POST #1*

Clare Bear

G86 wrote: »

Ahh thank you! I'm getting it framed for her birthday

Aww perfect! She'll love it! Honestly one of the nicest things I've ever read. Beautiful

LegacyUser

J,

I'm a bit crap at the game. I don't know how to 'hold back', or 'be a challenge', or 'play hard to get' or not wish for more when I like someone. Maybe I'm a terrible dater, maybe I need to work on my game, maybe I need to take a different approach...but I liked you.
So I let you kiss me. I let you hold me all night. I held your hand and I let you fall asleep in my arms because although I don't really know you, I know you've been through hell this past year and on some level you needed it. I needed it.

I just wish you had texted. I wish I hadn't reached almost 26 years of age without knowing how amazing real intimacy, affection and closeness can feel and since you've moved on with your life, I've never felt so alone. I've been alone forever and yet I've never felt it so acutely as these past few days. I've realized I want someone, maybe not necessarily you...but I want someone to love, to hold, to kiss and to care for. For a second there I wanted it to be you.

I'm sorry about your brother. I'm so sorry for your pain. I'm sorry for not getting the opportunity to know you more, but I accept that this is how it plays out. You've awoken something in me. I'm tired of being the self-sufficient, independent, 'career girl'...when I have so much more to give. I'm tired of shying away from it, neglecting this part of me and shutting myself off from it.

I really hope things work out for you. I'll always remember Sunday night. I'll smile and recount it to friends soon. Once the disappointment subsides. I read too much into it, all these neglected emotions just rushed to the surface when I took your hand. But it really was a pleasure. Thanks for reminding me who I am x

LegacyUser

Dear C,

I'm about to do something stupid tonight because you've told me to do it. I feel like an idiot, but I just can't disobey. You've gotten inside my head, and sometimes I wonder if this is a game to you, because it's not, what you are actually messing with is my life. I should stop, I know that, but as always I can give the advice but not take it. I'm craving what ever little bits of attention you'll throw me, because truthfully, that's all I believe I deserve. I've ****ed up, but as long as you keep responding and issuing the commands, I'll keep doing what I'm told.


Dear Everybody else,

I'm not the person you think I am, I'm not strong, I'm not sensible, and I'm not able to constantly look after myself. You were all there for the first week after the break up, but you've all gone now, and when I try to get in contact you're too busy or otherwise engaged. This is when I need you, this is me coming out of the haze of heartbreak and trying to put my life back together, but there's nobody here to help. You've all decided that I'm strong enough to do it alone, when it truth all I feel, when I feel anything at all, is an overwhelming sense of loneliness and lose.

Most of the time I feel so detached from reality that it doesn't matter, and I can look at things objectively, and know that it doesn't make a difference. I'm never really going to be happy, but I at least want the opportunity to try, but you have all abandoned me.

LegacyUser

P,

It's just no fun any more, isn't it. I remember when I first found out that you liked me - it was exciting and a bit of a laugh. I didn't dwell too much on it because I knew you had a boyfriend but it made me very happy at the time. Since then things have taken a turn - you seem distant and I'm getting all sorts of mixed signals. I'm crap at these games... they're wasting everyone's time and wrecking my head for one. It used to be that you were someone I appreciated seeing around from time to time; now you're able to make my day and ruin it at the same time.

The truth is: I adore you. I didn't always, but the last few weeks have opened up some not necessarily welcome feelings. I've had unrequited feelings for people before, but this is so much harder: knowing that you might feel the same way but because of one thing or another it probably won't work out. In a sense, I almost wish I'd never found out that you liked me in the first place. Your timing, deliberate or not, has been ridiculously good. Every time I think I'm on the verge of getting over things, something happens that brings me back to the sleepless nights, the uncertainty and the embarrassing self-pity. I'm in bits about all this.

I don't know your boyfriend - I'm sure he's a decent guy. I know the two of you have invested a great deal in one another, and I don't blame you if you stick by him. I feel terrible at the idea of coming between the two of you. Ultimately, I just want you to be happy, and if you're happier with someone else than you would be with me then so be it. I'll live, eventually. It's the uncertainty that's driving me to distraction, though.

To cut a long story short (it's probably a bit too late to say that now, but still) I've got your back. I wish you would talk to me; I can't read your mind. I suspect it would be therapeutic for both of us to chat about all this. In fact, I know it would.

LegacyUser

It was just a text. I know you probably read so much into it, but that's all it was - a text. I thought we'd both have moved on by now; after your email I thought maybe we were on ok terms again. I guess not. You could have replied and said well done, or congrats, but no - nothing. What did you think would happen if you replied? That I'd somehow believe it meant we had a chance? We lost our chance long ago. I don't want you back.

Of course it hurts a little to know you're ok without me, that you're getting better now that I'm gone, because I've had to realise that by loving each other all we did was hurt each other even more. I just thought maybe we could start a new chapter where the hurt and pain we caused each other was put in the past where it belongs; where one day we could maybe be friends. So much happened between us, things that I thought I'd never get over, a love that I thought I'd never get over. But, I'm doing that right now, so I guess I was wrong.

You blocked me on facebook, I'm not sure why, but I understand that you felt the need to cut me out completely. That's why I haven't mentioned it to you, it was your decision. But why ignore me? You don't love me anymore, not like you did, so why does it affect you so much? Why do you still care? Why can't we move on from this and look back with a smile on the memories we made, instead of dragging out the drama of the breakdown we encountered.


Things are getting better for you, and you've no idea how happy that makes me. And I know that it scares you, I know you worry that having me in your life again could set you back on that path of ups and downs. I understand that. I just wish we had more than this, more than a passing email once a year, or updates through gossip from friends. I wish we could be friends. After everything we've been through, I wish...I just wish we had more than this.

LegacyUser

Dear Madame

I love you so much. Since being with you I have been taut lot of things including Google Chrome and its spell checker You have put up with so much stuff from me and I appreciate everything. Lately money has been a down point for me and it sucks. but you have been so good about it. you didn't mind giving all you had to keep us going until worked picked up and paying gigs came in.you are so kind to everyone even people who dont deserve it. when i got a phonecall yesterday saying I had some work I was overwhelmed with happyness.

I promise you now that we will do lots of travelling in the future and even live outside Ireland for a few months just like you want. lately i've been thinking about our future and I'm not afraid to say it out loud. i want everything for us. marriage, babies, a house and ore dogs! i want you to keep at what you doing and dont give up if it makes you happy is all that matters.

I love you always and forever

Ted

To popnfresh

I wanted to say so many things to you but I know it wont count as nothing. youre not and easy person to talk to. i know I was and idiot towards the end in our relationship and i know i hurt you terribly. you were hard to be with, you never trusted me and always bitched and moaned to me about the little things that shouldnt of mattered. after you started looking through my phone and bebo i couldnt take it anymore. I got distant and eventually fell out of love from you. i still wanted your friendship so i kept up the sharade but then I met her. i knew her for so long but didnt see her in that way until then. i fell head over heels in love with her and for that im sorry. i ended up hurtin you both and tried setting it right by doing more silly stuff like askin you back i dont even no why it was stupid just another way to keep your friendship in my life.

the thing that annoys me about you is you constantly moan to people about how horrible i was to you and how i cheated on you but are you forgetting that I only cheated once and you did it several times throughout the relationship. you dont have a right to be mad at me. over the past few years it been hard. stuff has happened but im just dealing it with it. you going around accusing people of stuff they didnt do despite the same thing happening to us were not bragging about it to everyone like you are. remember blake ye found out who it was and whatever crap you have with girl from your home shouldnt have brought in myself or people close to me in it. i just trying to live my life without been blamed for stuff. we never pointed the finger at you.

I hope you have a nice life and get everything you want in life. I am not angry i am not bitter about it. forget the past and move on and that will be it. shame it had to be this way though but what can you do.

Ted.

LegacyUser

My love,

I love you with all my heart. I am so grateful and consider myself lucky we get to share our lives. You are kind, funny, sexy and smart.

You are so smart it astounds me that you continually fail to grasp the concept that whites and colours should not go in the wash together. Honestly, it's not difficult! Whites go in their own wash, well away from colourful clothes and your manky sports gear. Washed together the whites become that horrible dirty looking grey.

I love you completely, but if you ruin any more clothes/towels/sheets I may have to kill you.

Your girl

Dudess

G86 - wow. Beautiful post - had me in floods...

Daisy M

To some of my husbands family, there was a time when I would have had so much to say, when I would have loved a chance to vent how we felt when ye kept something secret, something that directly affected our lives and the choices we would have made. Only when ye had dealt with the problems that this secret caused for ye attended councelling and more did ye decide to tell us, ye dealt with it together and left 2 of your siblings out and then left them high and dry to face it on their own. ye had the all clear and were able to move on with yer lives without thought or apology only excuses that didnt ring true, especially seeing as we had initially been told what was happening by a different sibling, but then the rest of ye got together and branded that sibling a liar, who does that?
For years I was full of resentment and hurt for my husband, not anymore I am not angry I believe I learned an important lesson, if the worst does happen I know not to expect anything from ye or count on ye for anything I truely believe ye did me a favour because it would have been much harded to have found out yer true colours if our situation ended up in a worst case senario and we actually needed and trusted ye even more than we did then.

Acoshla

Dear Former Employer,

I would just like to say a big huge thank you Thank you so much for harrassing me to such a degree that it affected my health, made me question my own intelligence, and eventually made me tell you where to stick your stupid job (not that I worded it like that but you and I both knew it was what I meant!) and set up my own business. If I had had a nice job where I wasn't blamed for every error (normally yours btw), shouted at, had to listen to your disgusting comments that I *think* you thought were harmless flirting but actually made me feel ill, and all the rest of the sh*te I put up with I might never have had the nerve (or need) to leave, but because you used me as a scapegoat for your inability to operate a successful business and made me feel like a worthless stupid little girl I HAD to get out of the there, and for that I thank you.

Every morning that I get up early, every night that I work late, every meal I miss because I'm too busy or every time I curse paperwork, when I get shaky with nerves over a new project, or when someone praises my work I thank God you treated me so badly, because it spurs me on to be nicer and more successful than you will ever be, and to be my own boss just to avoid having another boss like you. People can read your desperation, greed and general condescension every time you open your mouth, you might want to work on that if you want to deal with the public every day!

I dream of the day I bump into you and can tell you to F right off, like I always wanted to do. But hey, I'll settle for the look on your face the day you realised you made a girl half your age cry, and that you were losing an honest and reliable employee because of your own actions.

GFY,

Spadina

LegacyUser

Dear Granny,

It's hard to believe four years have passed now since you went to heaven. There are a few things I never got around to say to you before you left and I regret not heading over with mom to the hospice more often that last year when I was in 6th year.

Well things that summer turned out to be pretty surreal as i'm sure you could see from up there....but even though we ended up going to America so soon after the funeral, I think it helped us being with family over there. It made things somewhat easier and I hope you enjoyed the stories we shared about your life.

Firstly, I think Mom misses you a lot, in fact, when you passed, I really worried about her, she wasn't herself for a long time after and I think it is only in the last year she has got better. We miss you though and when Mom and I go on our evening walks together, we often talk about you as if it were just yesterday. She loved you and being the only girl in the family was so close to you. Since then, mom and I have become so close and from what I can see, our relationship mirrors what you and her had in the past. She is a terrific mom and wife and I'm sure you are proud of her up there.

Thanks for all your guidance when you were with us, you were the perfect granny and babysitter!You spolit me rotten and I know I was the grand-daughter who could do no wrong in your eyes!I loved going to your house for sleep overs where we would watch films and eat loads of sweets and walk to that jewellery shop the next morn to look at the bracelets. I inevitably came home from Granny's with a new bracelet. You were too kind!

You were talented and artistic. That last painting you were doing in the hospice before you passed was probably one of our most favourite-the bridge over running water?The staff in the hospice which you had won over with your upbeat attitude also loved it, so much so that they framed it and it now hangs on one of the corridors there...they used it in the Christmas card designs that year too. Everyone loved it.

I remember telling you about my deb's dress that I had got for the October debs...but you didn't want to hear anymore when I started to talk about it. I'm sorry for seeming hurt or offended, I only now realise you knew you were not going to be around to see me in it and it hurt you too much to think about that. Well you didn't miss much!The debs was highly over-rated and I can't stand the sight of the dress anymore!!I hope you prefer the ones I have worn to college balls in the meantime....I think you would have really liked that navy one I wore last year!

And I never got to thank you and let you know how much you influenced my life. I worked hard that year and I did get medicine. It was 3 weeks after you passed and Mom and I cried when we checked my CAO offers on the computer. We cried because we were delighted but also, I cried (and i think mom did too) because we were sad you were not there to see it. You knew how much I wanted medicine and how hard I had worked. I regret not taking time off especially in the last few months of 6th yr to just go with mom to visit you but I just wanted you to know, that I think seeing you go through your illness, spending time with you in hospitals from ty etc really influenced me in making my decision. Well I hope your proud, there'll be another doctor in the family.

I have been meaning to thank you for everything you did for me for a while but this week in particular I have been thinking of you a lot. I started clinical rotations in the hospitals and am now properly spending time with patients. I see you in every Granny and cancer patient I go to take a history from and am reminded as to why I am there.
I hope you are looking down on me and will guide me over the next few years. Thank you for being a wonderful granny and mom.



Love you always and we will meet again one day,
bo x

flowerchild

Dear x

I am very confused about what you think/feel. I am cr*p at gameplaying and implication. Good at being honest and direct though. Am used to being in a situation where you can acknowledge/say anything, and it is OK. You just talk it through. I wish that you and I could do that too.

Miss you v much, everyday.

LegacyUser

Dear eating disorder,

I'm so tired of you. I'm so bored of you. Nothing is ever good enough for you. Fat, thin or 'average', you taunt me and belittle me and make me feel about as worthless as a piece of dirt on your shoe, despite the fact that I've devoted my life to pleasing you. You, the antagonistic and ultimately unpleasable son of a b1tch that hasn't given me a break since I was nineteen years old.

Oh how you've humiliated me. I've stolen food, I've ransacked bins and housemates' shelves, I've wasted hundreds on supermarket hops, I've put myself in physical danger, I've over-exercised and under-slept, I've isolated myself from the world, I've sat in public toilets and stuffed my face, I've spent hours crouched over the bowl trying to get your voice out my head so I could get the fukc out of your hellish little world and get on with my life, and yet you always find me.

You've changed your guise over the years. First food was the enemy and even mere skin and bone was too much, too fat, too unbearable to face in the mirror. There weren't enough miles on the planet to run off the hatred you had for me.

Then food became the 'friend', a toxic friendship that controls my life and tries to ruin every experience that should be enriching me. And the scales just serve as a reminder of how right you were all along. I'm fat, I'm a failure, and it doesn't matter how much good I do, how successful I am in my career, how hard I work or how much I help other people...I am worthless. You've changed your guise but your tune is the same. I'll never be good enough. I get it. You win. Why can't that be enough for you?

I know better than you. I've known better than you for as long as I've known you, yet I don't know how to live without you. Who am I without this need to destroy myself with binges and exercise and diets and self-destructive thoughts?

Sometimes I look in the mirror or catch a glimpse of myself and am taken aback at how normal I look, sometimes even...how pretty I can look or how anyone looking could think I am just another girl. When I've got this monster living inside me. Waiting to violate my person and humiliate me over something that is so simple and straightforward to most other people...food. Fuel. Energy. Pleasure. Enjoyment. I don't even know how to eat anymore. And yet I have to. The ultimate humiliation.

What scares me most though, is how I've accepted you. I've resigned myself to the fact that you'll always be there, waiting on every corner. All the people out there who would kill to have the good health that I have and yet I let you abuse it, I let you dictate my mood for the day, every day of my life and I don't know how to let you go. Where would you go, where would you hide? I don't know where you begin and I end. I don't know how to 'be' without you. I thought I'd have outgrown you at this stage, but every time I move forward you're one step ahead of me.

I'm just so tired and I'm so sad. I'm lonely and trapped by looking 'normal' and every selfish, deranged, obsessive, neurotic action you force upon me I have to take the slack for because I don't have the gaunt, sickly appearance I once had that at least made me look like I wasn't responsible for my actions. You've made me hate myself. You've made romance impossible. You've made happiness impossible. You've made me embarrassed to be me.

I'm not going to plead with you. I'm just going to have to find the energy to fight you, and I don't even know where that's going to come from. I'm nearly too scared to fight for fear of letting myself down, again. I'm not sure I can take it. But it's my only option, and you've taken the p1ss for long enough. All I can do is strive to make tomorrow a better day. I really hope tomorrow is a better day.

merlie

Well C. I guess you won't talk to me any more about us. It's like you don't remember what we had or how wonderful all the stuff used to be. You only remember the crap we went through, (selective memory on your part) you say you just boxed it away. I went through crap when you broke from me. I just couldn't function, but you got on with it and two months later you had replaced me with another. It lasted till just January then you had another girl for a couple of months, and she left you too. They all left you, bar me. Am I the fool here?! I understand why you won't meet me, as the feelings would resurface and we would most likely be back together again, but you don't want that. It is obvious, you don't want to take the chance of us again. What a shame. You have missed out on something great and beautiful. I loved you so much and it still hurts even to this day. I carry your heart with me everywhere. You were such a wonderful guy and you changed my life. I look back now and am filled with happiness and utter sadness at the same time. I have never met or known anyone like you before or since.

You have changed now and fill your days in pursuit of a relationship, another's heart. You want to have my shoes filled and replace me over and over again. You did find the one who loved you no matter what and that was me. I could have put up with anything, cos I loved you that much. You obviously didn't feel that way. They say true love never dies. Well my love for you hasn't but time has eased the pain and I do get on with my life.

I wrote you a poem but I shall not send it to you as you do not deserve to know its contents now. I am sad to say that your heart went away never to come to me again. I do thank you for change you brought about in my life, and I will never forget you.

One final thing C. Remember this and remember what I said. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=we0mk_J0zyc

I wish you well
M

flowerchild

Dear B

I love you. I've known you most of my life. I've watched you grow and become a man. A most interesting and impressive man.

You are kind and funny and good at fixing/making things. You've done all night-time care for our babes, all nappies and all household washing. You are a feminist and interested in all things political and keep me on my toes about the ideas I express.

It's good studying with you because when you laugh at my first draft I go back and make it better. You are using humour to help me move to high distinctions and I love that.

You are so different from me. You love classical music. You know rock music inside out. I hardly know who AC/DC are - and when I told you so, you lost the power of speech. The quality of sound from your system is incredibly important to you while I couldn't give a damn. You read for enjoyment books on quantum mechanics with hundreds of pages of equations while numbers make me anxious. You are a member of economics forums and audio forums and laugh about what they say/think. And make useful, thought-provoking and funny contributions. I angst about my forum experiences and you listen, give advice and comfort me - so supportive.

You are grumpy and uncommunicative in the mornings. You don't respect personal space and knock me and the little ones without noticing or saying sorry. And when you are angry you can be rough when you pick up the little ones. And it's not OK.

You are my darling. I am so glad that we chose each other.

flowerchild

Dear x

I feel very intensely about you, in a way I can't quite understand. I always care about you, whether we are currently talking or not. I am always interested in how you are going.

I try to give you space as a way of working through our conflicts. I don't know how it works for you. Apart from the satisfaction of knowing that I am respecting your preferences, and being adult in that respect, it is not satisfying for me at all. I like to talk about conflicts openly and work them through and I can't seem to get into that rhythm with you. It's disappointing.

We have so many conflicts!! I know I am a difficult woman, but am I that difficult? Is it all me?

I want to get on with you, and chat about nothing stuff. It is peaceful and relaxing and sweet, in a way I love.

I try to find pathways through the dilemma you present. It means that I end up thinking of weird stuff, like becoming a Mormon. This is challenging, since I am sure that you wouldn't want to be a Mormon and I don't believe in God anyway. But I do think that fine minds, with a commitment to solutions, can find ways through.

Do you want to find a pathway through? I simply don't know. I know that I do. My husband says that I have enough love in me to love multiple people and one love does not take away from another. That was hard for him to see and say and he is right.

But monogamy is important to me, and being honourable to my vows. And a good model for my children.

So friendship becomes my backstop.

Blanche D'Apuget wrote an essay called On Longing. She waited 30 years to marry our ex-PM, Bob Hawke, and he rejected her in the middle to pursue his political ambitions.

But she and they as a couple are a model of pathways through. They are very happy now, and have been for a long time.

Do strange interactions, intense ones, always end in marriage and happiness together? No, but they are special nonetheless and should be nurtued, not rejected.

My love for my family does not detract from my feelings for you. They are simply different.

clicli

Dear New Housemate,

Yes we are friends first, but if you think it is acceptable to move into my house and get drunk to the point of being aggro at me and starting fights you have another thing coming. There is no point in talking to when your drunk, and also no point in talking to you sober. Your "I was so drunk last night I don't remember anything" excuse is wearing thin. You need help. Sort out your life, and don't take your frustrations out on me just because I'm not willing to play your petty games.

C

LegacyUser

That was my slice of pizza

Carter12

Dear N,

Why cant I let you go ?

Ive known you over 10 years now. I was there when you got with your ex, split up with her, met new girl, got married, had your babies and lost your brother.... and ive been there, in the background, all the time....... having s*x with you.

You have been txting me constantly for the past 2 weeks wanting to meet up again and I havent replied. I hope I can stay strong this time, you have no idea how I feel about you.

D x

LegacyUser

Mum,

Every time I come home from abroad I get excited but then after spending a few days with you I regret coming, soon I might stop coming home at all. My brother has already moved out and never visits and my sister rarely visits either!

You disgust me! What do you do that I dislike so much?

1) You smoke in every single room and the house stinks
2) You are lazy! You do nothing when you come home from work and order everyone around. You call me into the room that you are in to make you a drink or to pull the blinds down when you are right beside them!
3) You moan when dad yawns in the evening even though he is on the go from 6am to when he goes to bed! When I mention that you say "ye and of course I don't do anything" STOP MAKING IT ABOUT YOU!!
4) You leave the bathroom door wide open when you are going to the toilet!
5) You tell me that you need to do a s*it / wee and it grosses me out, I DON'T WANT TO KNOW!!! It is disgusting!
6) You are overweight and eat all the time! You keep asking if you have lost weight well you haven't! someone who sits down all day eating crap and not exercising does not lose weight!
7) You constantly fight with me!
8) Your breath is disgusting, I can't stand being near you.

I never thought I would be saying this about you mum but it is true! I have no interest in coming home to see you and will only be doing so for the sake of the rest of the family and my friends :(:(

allandanyways

You are amazing and I'm so glad I met you. You make me so happy, you give me butterflies. Keep doing what you're doing, I'm absolutely mad about you.

flowerchild

Dear x

You seem to set out to deliberately offend, and I don't understand it. Why do you do it? If you don't like the other person surely it is better to say that and explain why. If you don't like their behaviour, ditto.

Being unpleasant/attacking is so juvenile ...It's mindboggling that an adult descends to this level.

Who do you want to be? How do you want to behave?

Count Duckula

Dear Mummy,

Mother's Day is always hard now, and I still miss you every single day. I wish you could see the person I am now. I know you were so proud on my graduation day. I have a job, and I'm starting a career. You'd be so proud of your boy, I'm sure.

I wish you could meet my girlfriend. She's the one for me, I know, and I think the two of you would have got on so well. She holds all the same opinions as me - you know, those opinions you instilled in me. The right ones! I wish you could have seen her and seen how happy she makes me.

Daddy misses you every day, I know. He still tears up when he thinks about you. You were married for twenty-five years, and I've never in my life seen two people more in love. You've been gone nearly a year and a half now and the wound is as fresh as it ever was. I wish you were still here to keep him company. I'm leaving home soon, I'm going to move in with my girlfriend and he's going to be left on his own. This isn't the way it was supposed to be - me leaving was supposed to be a happy time, the time for the two of you to live on your own without me lumping about the place. Instead he's going to be alone, but I can't stay there forever to keep him company. He doesn't want me to, he wants me to move on. But I still feel guilty.

I'm sorry you never got to live your dream of living by the sea. I would have happened one day. I know daddy always said he wouldn't do it, but you always knew how to win him over. You would have lived by the sea one day. But now I'm doing it for you. My girlfriend lives by the sea, and every morning when I see it I will smile and think of you.

Goodbye, mummy.

I will always love you.

G86

Count Duckula wrote: »

Dear Mummy,

Mother's Day is always hard now, and I still miss you every single day. I wish you could see the person I am now. I know you were so proud on my graduation day. I have a job, and I'm starting a career. You'd be so proud of your boy, I'm sure.

I wish you could meet my girlfriend. She's the one for me, I know, and I think the two of you would have got on so well. She holds all the same opinions as me - you know, those opinions you instilled in me. The right ones! I wish you could have seen her and seen how happy she makes me.

Daddy misses you every day, I know. He still tears up when he thinks about you. You were married for twenty-five years, and I've never in my life seen two people more in love. You've been gone nearly a year and a half now and the wound is as fresh as it ever was. I wish you were still here to keep him company. I'm leaving home soon, I'm going to move in with my girlfriend and he's going to be left on his own. This isn't the way it was supposed to be - me leaving was supposed to be a happy time, the time for the two of you to live on your own without me lumping about the place. Instead he's going to be alone, but I can't stay there forever to keep him company. He doesn't want me to, he wants me to move on. But I still feel guilty.

I'm sorry you never got to live your dream of living by the sea. I would have happened one day. I know daddy always said he wouldn't do it, but you always knew how to win him over. You would have lived by the sea one day. But now I'm doing it for you. My girlfriend lives by the sea, and every morning when I see it I will smile and think of you.

Goodbye, mummy.

I will always love you.

I have tears in my eyes from reading that. I'm sure your father is incredibly proud of you, and you've nothing at all to feel guilty about. Just remember that you making the most of your life, and being happy, is what he wants more than anything. I bet your Mum is looking down on you filled with pride, so everytime the rain starts to fall just remember that she's your rainbow waiting at the end of it.

OneWish

Dear S,
I will miss you every single day. Hearing your voice last night for possibly the last time for a long time was so nice and yet so heart breaking. I can't be just your friend right now. My feelings for you run far deeper than that. I'll not stop loving you. I hope you find your way back to me. Take care. Lots of love,
A.

Aisling(",)

Dear I,
Please stop coming onto my boyfriend,I know he's your ex but he's my current and you're making me nervous each time I see you at the same place we are.Also your extentions are terrible you hideous creature.

G86

Dear Barbell

It's only an extra few kg, and sure wouldn't it be worth it to stop me moaning?:D I'm not sure if you've ever seen 'The Craft'(pretty unlikely since you're an inanimate object), but you know where they use that 'light as a feather' spell to levitate? I'm going to try that with all 140kg of you - and it would be really great if you'd co-operate.


Dear hottie in Holland and Barrett

....you're missing out on all the sexy deadlifting:cool:


Dear most awesome new tattoo

I can't fcuking wait to see you in 2 weeks!!!

MIN2511

Dear Belfast boy,

Yes you!
I hate TEXT speak, poor grammar and poor comprehension.

Me

Asphyxia

Dear C,

Please stop sending my 18 year old sister pictures of you c**k! It was a funny at first when she randomly text you after we discovered your number online on your website years ago but now you have gone too far. I wonder does your girlfriend know what you doing? I bet she will soon enough :rolleyes:

P.S. If you knew who I really was I bet you would just die

Regards, Asphyxia

coco_lola

Dear G,

Im sorry things didn't work out. More sorry for the way I treated you towards the end. You were not without fault either though. Im glad we ended on good terms. Some days I think I want you back and I cry myself to sleep, other days I think I don't want to be with you and maybe I was convincing myself I did because I was afraid of being alone. Either way I know breaking up was the right thing to do. Its only been a few weeks and I already feel like I'm back to my old self, better than I was when I was in the relationship. Strangely, keeping contact with you doesn't make me miss you more, I enjoy it, but I just don't want to know that you have moved on or are with other women. Does that mean I'm not over you? I dont know. It will all become clearer in time I guess.

Kiva.D

RU - You've stolen my heart - I deserve it back!

u_c_thesecond

Dear ____

I made a mistake doing what i did with you and I hurt someone I love very much in order to see was the grass greener on the other side, and guess what? It wasnt- It was brown and patchy and not worth what i almost lost. Even now you wont stop pestering people we both know for information about me. FOR GODS SAKE QUIT IT! Your a weed Plain and simple!

Oh and BTW parading your new fiancee past my house with you 10 times a day is PATEHIC. Your mother must be so proud. You Infant!!:rolleyes:

Dear ____

After 10 years of friendship you betrayed me! I dont care how much you try and justify your actions or your partners because at the end of the day he ment more to you than me, and that says a lot about what you thought of our friendship.YOU THREW 10 YEARS AWAY ON A GUY YOU HAVE KNOWN 6 MONTHS!!! Nothing will ever make up for what you did so stop trying . I should have cut you out of my life a long time ago when i first heard the rumours, but i didnt listen them. Theres no smoke without fire and i know what you did now. YOU ARE POISON!:mad:


Wow felt good to say that

u_c_thesecond

u_c_thesecond wrote: »

Dear ____

I made a mistake doing what i did with you and I hurt someone I love very much in order to see was the grass greener on the other side, and guess what? It wasnt- It was brown and patchy and not worth what i almost lost. Even now you wont stop pestering people we both know for information about me. FOR GODS SAKE QUIT IT! Your a weed Plain and simple!

Oh and BTW parading your new fiancee past my house with you 10 times a day is PATEHIC. Your mother must be so proud. You Infant!!:rolleyes:

Dear ____

After 10 years of friendship you betrayed me! I dont care how much you try and justify your actions or your partners because at the end of the day he ment more to you than me, and that says a lot about what you thought of our friendship.YOU THREW 10 YEARS AWAY ON A GUY YOU HAVE KNOWN 6 MONTHS!!! Nothing will ever make up for what you did so stop trying . I should have cut you out of my life a long time ago when i first heard the rumours, but i didnt listen them. Theres no smoke without fire and i know what you did now. YOU ARE POISON!:mad:


Wow felt good to say that

Sorry have 2 more

Dear _____

I am marrying you next year. Finally. I feel we have been through so much the last 7 years, I know i tell you i love you every day but thats pretty mild compared to my feelings. You are a womderful man and I am blessed to have you. You have a beautiful soul and always manage to look on the bright side of everything.I love you for that.

xxx

Dear Sister

I want you to know you are my world. I have always said when mammy died she blessed us both so that we would be close, and I thank her for that. When you had your cancer scare last year i cried for days, the thought of losing you just broke my soul. Even putting this down here now ive tears in my eyes because i remember that pain.

You have always been there for me, even when i made that stupid error and almost lost everything, but you didnt judge me. You have blessed me with 2 beautiful nieces and they are wonderful little girls. I just want you to know i love you more than life and I wouldnt want anyone else at the alter with me when i get married next year

xxx

LegacyUser

You did not actually win.
I've decided I'm going to wear that dress to my college ball instead. Which is a place you couldn't and never will get into, even though you so badly wanted to, because you're just a pathetic waster, whose only major in life, is being a class A bitch.
Sucks to be you!

Dear D,

Words cannot comprehend how much you mean to me.
I love you so much.

You were there for one of the toughest times of my life.
You held me when I was sad and in tears.
You didnt even have to say anything.
Just having you there was enough.

You made me laugh, which was hard to do at that point in my life.
You made me realise what was really important.

I don't know how I could have gotten through it without you.
Really, I don't think you even realise how much your support meant to me.
You were there when I had no one.
You were a true friend.
One, I will never ever forget.

I was broken.
And you fixed me.
I love you
& I miss you so much.

LegacyUser

Hi Dad,

Thanks for being nice to me for a change. It's a shame I had to be nearly killed in order for this to happen. It's a shame it won't last. I'm going to carry on being the bigger person yet quietly distrustful. I know you will never grow up and figure out what really matters.

LegacyUser

Brianna, it's over 2 months now since we stopped talking, but I keep thinking about things and what you said. I may not be very mature and I may act stupid, I make decisions with my heart instead of my head and when things become too much I self-destruct, but I know I am a decent person, and if someone said to me I was in the wrong I'd be the first person to change that and to say sorry, sometimes I don't realise what I am doing.

I regret getting mixed up with you, it was silly and I should have had more sense. I hate that I let you say awful things to me and didn't stand up for myself. I regret that I didn't try kill off my feelings for you sooner because any relationship between us was always going to end in failure, I wish I could have been like you and moved on so quickly.

I wake up at night thinking about things and don't sleep properly anymore and have nightmares to do with you. I hate being this way and it makes me not want to try be in relationships anymore. I honestly don't know what to do anymore. If there was a pill I could take to make me forget everything I would happily take it, but I know that isn't right, and I know I would miss the oppurtunity to learn from this experience. Sometimes you take a beating I guess.

Augmerson

Muppet, it'll be alright, sounds like you are quite down at the moment, give it time and you will be ok, I know it sounds very cliched and useless to say that, but try think about other things, it sounds like your mind is racing with thoughts about your ex-girlfriend, try doing things with friends and family. Try to remember the good times too, remember that somebody wanted to be involved with you because they thought you were special, and another person in time will be interested again chin up!

Relationships are not easy and it hurts when they fall apart, but (I am assuming here) your young and you can try again, remember what you learned on this occassion to help you in the future.

beks101

Claire,

It's five months now since our friendship ended, and I miss you. But I'm not sure if I miss you enough to tolerate your bullsh1t and negativity. I do hope you've sorted your head out a little though and have learned to be less miserable with your lot. You really have nothing to complain about.


Leah,

You're like a mini-me, albeit a brighter and maybe prettier version. (Though I'll never admit that aloud...) We need to skype more. I miss your sunny disposition!


Upstairs singer-lady,

You can't sing. You are essentially tone-deaf. No amount of renditions of 'Because The Night' at any hour of the day or night is going to change that. Please move on to other dreams and let me get a decent night's sleep.

Regards,

Beks

LegacyUser

Ex,

Stop calling me everyday after you finish work, I don't care if you're bored and want to annoy me, I will not answer.

We spent almost two years (which YOU ended, not ME) with you being incredibly boring, we rarely done anything enjoyable. You spent the first year of our relationship texting your ex constantly with me standing idly by. You didn't like my friends, and I'm not surprised they didn't like you. You never wanted me to hang around with them. You had me in a near state of depression quite often. You'd come home from work and instantly turn into Little Miss Miserable. If I wanted to spend a week at home you'd get angry and upset. And what really pissed me off is how you turn from 'Miserable You' to 'Happy You' if we were around anyone, yet as soon as it was just the two of us it was straight back to 'Miserable You', yet still incredibly needy. The only thing I miss is the dogs. The only bad New Years, Halloweens, Christmas' and summers I had were with you.

I'm have no connection with you, please stop calling, I will not answer.

I've become close to a few of my friends again, I've met someone new and she is awesome with a capital A, fun, really attractive and pretty much like myself pre and post you. I've found a full time job, and I've started a pretty awesome band. I can be friends with girls again without someone getting jealous.

Now I can do what I want, when I want and how I want, it is a great feeling.

I could type a lot more but I'm not arsed, life is great at the moment and I'm genuinely happy for the first time since I was twenty years old :P

We both read Boards so hopefull you'll read this.
Stop calling. Thankin' you.

A.

LegacyUser

Dear _____

Thank you for not giving me a further 12 month contact within your wonderful organisation.
You told me I could not do the job that I had been doing for the previous 12 months.
I did not have the courage to tell you that you have no people or management skills which would help with your present post.

allandanyways

K

Please stop cheating on your girlfriend, she's a lovely person and loves you to pieces and you treat her like a massive inconvenience. If you don't love her, let her go, she needs more than what you're giving her now. I hardly know her, but seeing the way she looks at you last night and having been there when you've bragged to girls in clubs that you're free and single is such a paradox it makes me feel ill.

She's practically shaking she's so insecure, and you know why. I lost a lot of respect for you last night. If she was a bitch, perhaps I could understand but she adores you, and you don't adore her and it's heartbreaking.

She pulled me aside last night and said she was jealous of the way N looks at me because you don't look at her like that. Yous have been together 4 years, and you've been cheating on her for 3 of them. Cop on to yourself and let that poor girl go.

KittyeeTrix

Norman,
Thank you for being the bestest most patient husband in the world. You have allowed me to be comfortable in my decision to try to get a college degree at the grand old age of 36 as it was not high on my list of priorities when I was younger.....

Not once have you made me feel guilty for landing you with the lions share of parenting or housework over the past 3 years.... I promise you that I will make it up to you hopefully after next year when our financial situation changes and i cannot wait to surprise you with little gifts ( and maybe even a shiny new kayak:)) which you sooooooo deserve!!!!!



My sister,
Thank you sooooo much sis for organising not only a single but a double student placement for me in your biopharmaceuticals (R & D and in the micro lab) company where you work as HR:).
These kind of placements are thin on the ground at the moment and are very much sought after. You have done my confidence a world of good when you give me the pep talks at times when I doubt my ability to go out into the workplace. I know I've been an honours student in college as of yet but have only ever worked at cleaning houses and without you there to egg me on i would be petrified!!!

A final thank you to my Norman who has just sent my daughter up to my room (where I'm supposed to be studying:o) with a home made Galaxy minstrels milkshake.............Yum yum:D

Fluorescence

allandanyways wrote: »

K

Please stop cheating on your girlfriend, she's a lovely person and loves you to pieces and you treat her like a massive inconvenience. If you don't love her, let her go, she needs more than what you're giving her now. I hardly know her, but seeing the way she looks at you last night and having been there when you've bragged to girls in clubs that you're free and single is such a paradox it makes me feel ill.

She's practically shaking she's so insecure, and you know why. I lost a lot of respect for you last night. If she was a bitch, perhaps I could understand but she adores you, and you don't adore her and it's heartbreaking.

She pulled me aside last night and said she was jealous of the way N looks at me because you don't look at her like that. Yous have been together 4 years, and you've been cheating on her for 3 of them. Cop on to yourself and let that poor girl go.

Send this to both of them. That guy's a dick and will never have the courage to leave her.

allandanyways

fluorescence wrote: »

Send this to both of them. That guy's a dick and will never have the courage to leave her.

I only met her very recently, and of course before that he was going on that she was a bítch and a wagon and a wreck the head but she's mental so he can't leave her in case she kills herself or something. I met her and she's just so devoted to him, she knows everything but can't bring herself to leave him. They had a massive row last night and he bet the shíte out of her and my OH had to intervene and all. I never really understood what toxic relationships look like from the outside until I met them. Horrible watching it from the sidelines having been there myself.

Augmerson

allandanyways wrote: »

I only met her very recently, and of course before that he was going on that she was a bítch and a wagon and a wreck the head but she's mental so he can't leave her in case she kills herself or something. I met her and she's just so devoted to him, she knows everything but can't bring herself to leave him. They had a massive row last night and he bet the shíte out of her and my OH had to intervene and all. I never really understood what toxic relationships look like from the outside until I met them. Horrible watching it from the sidelines having been there myself.

Scumbag, absolute scumbag, you should have called the Gardai and got him arrested.

Endymion

Augmerson wrote: »

Scumbag, absolute scumbag, you should have called the Gardai and got him arrested.

Easy for you to say. Nothing would happen without a complaint and it could make her even more devoted to him out of guilt.

pinkheels88

HLG,

Is it just bad timing? Is it that, deep down, my heart always wants what it can't have? I feel like I've been teased, not by you, by fate. I've been shown everything I want and now I can't have it, and it feels like nothing will ever match that feeling.

Moving to a different county to you was hard. Moving half way across the world away from you was harder but knowing now with some degree of certainty that I will never see you ever again is most definitely, the hardest.

I hate this feeling. That lump in my throat, that empty sinking feeling in my chest. The eyes puffy and swollen from tears. I haven't seen you since New Years Day but that day is still fresh in my mind. It felt like my heart broke then, but only in anticipation of what I'm feeling now.

Everything about you brings a smile to my face, even the things you think I should hate, I don't. I had 5 years with one person and I struggle to remember being as happy as I was in those 3 months with you. 3 months. It seems ludicrous that I could even be still harbouring something this intense for someone I had known 3 months when I left. But I do.


I can't forget you. I'll admit, I've been trying.Probably not hard enough, seeing as I wear that bracelet you left me every day, without fail. I've been bracing myself for the inevitable. I knew you couldn't stay there. Big fish in a small pond. We've been talking so much since I left, everything from "what's the weather like back home?" to deep and meaningfuls about past relationships and reminiscing about our escapades together. I know how miserable you are back home. It would be selfish of me to expect you to put your life on hold for the whimsical romanticisms of this girl you've been talking to pretty much every day for the past few months. I feel like I could tell you anything, but yet, I still feel like I have to hold back on telling you exactly how I feel. It's not whimsical to me. I wish it felt even remotely whimsical, then it wouldn't hurt so much.

When you told me today that you are going to emigrate next month, I knew I wouldn't hide my disappointment well. I know you know how I feel. Of course you do. I was living in denial thinking you'd be there when I got back.

I said I'd give my left leg to see you again. You said you'd love to see me again too. I said "I guess I'll have to stop missing you now". If only it were that easy.

Sometimes when it really gets me down about not seeing you, like right now, I wonder what it would be like if I never met you. Would I be happier? Probably not. If I had never met you, I would have missed out on that AMAZING feeling I had when I was with you. I wouldn't give up those memories for anything. What we had happened, and nothing can take away those moments we had together.

I've been in love. I know what it feels like. It's cruel and it's lovely all at once. It's just how I'm feeling right now. If anything can bring us back together, I only live in hope that it will. xxx

Augmerson

Endymion wrote: »

Easy for you to say. Nothing would happen without a complaint and it could make her even more devoted to him out of guilt.

It's assault. I don't think you need to make a complaint once somebody assaults you, and as OP said, "bet the ****e out of" a woman. Not trying to argue or derail the thread but I think it should be said all the same, you can't let those things stand.

XxMCRxBabyxX

Augmerson wrote: »

It's assault. I don't think you need to make a complaint once somebody assaults you, and as OP said, "bet the ****e out of" a woman. Not trying to argue or derail the thread but I think it should be said all the same, you can't let those things stand.

Nothing can be done if she refuses to press charges!