Would you tell your partner ?

Pique

OK, straw poll here.

If you had sex with someone outside marriage/long-term relationship, would you.

Tell your partner as soon as possible (within a couple of weeks max)
Tel your partner if you thought they would find out from a 3rd party.
Not tell at all / deny everything

alwaysadub

Have you been a naughty boy(or girl) ?

bonerm

I'd probably turn it into a fun guessing game.

Pique

alwaysadub wrote: »

Have you been a naughty boy(or girl) ?

Haha, no. Just something that came up in conversation.

hondasam

Pique wrote: »

OK, straw poll here.

If you had sex with someone outside marriage/long-term relationship, would you.

Tell your partner as soon as possible (within a couple of weeks max)
Tel your partner if you thought they would find out from a 3rd party.
Not tell at all / deny everything

I did not have sexual relations with that person!
deny at all costs:D

bodice ripper

yes, of course. I'd tell her before I did it. seriously, i'd call.

ascanbe

This will end well..















..is a comment you often see on the first page of a thread but would be fairly incongruous in this one.

PeterIanStaker

Where's the "Sort it out on Jeremy Kyle" option?

K-9

Yes and that isn't for internet purposes.

The only person you are fooling by lying, is yourself.

I'd fall down on some moral values and I'd freely admit that, personal trust and loyalty aren't them..

Drink isn't an excuse either, in my book.

El Weirdo

I am the son and heir of nothing in particular.

cruiser178

Pique wrote: »

OK, straw poll here.

If you had sex with someone outside marriage/long-term relationship, would you.

Tell your partner as soon as possible (within a couple of weeks max)
Tel your partner if you thought they would find out from a 3rd party.
Not tell at all / deny everything

When your older you'll learn(if you have kids)its not just cheating on your partner its cheating on your family,its just something you just dont do

hondasam

K-9 wrote: »

Yes and that isn't for internet purposes.

The only person you are fooling by lying, is yourself.

I'd fall down on some moral values and I'd freely admit that, personal trust and loyalty aren't them..

Drink isn't an excuse either, in my book.

I dont think it was a serious question and most of us did not give an honest answer.

cruiser178

Pique wrote: »

OK, straw poll here.

If you had sex with someone outside marriage/long-term relationship, would you.

Tell your partner as soon as possible (within a couple of weeks max)
Tel your partner if you thought they would find out from a 3rd party.
Not tell at all / deny everything

Soooooooooooooooooo what did you do,cum on tell us.

strobe

I'm going to use my amazing powers of deduction and hazard a guess that 11 girls have answered in this poll so far. << >>

cruiser178

strobe wrote: »

I'm going to use my amazing powers of deduction and hazard a guess that 11 girls have answered in this poll so far. << >>

or 11 liers:D

hondasam

strobe wrote: »

I'm going to use my amazing powers of deduction and hazard a guess that 11 girls have answered in this poll so far. << >>

no you are wrong, I was post 5.

Auldloon

I my experience #4 works best.

scientific1982

Deny everything.

VinnyTGM

I'm so honest I'd ring my wife on the phone whilst having sex with said stranger, I don't fcuk around.

Mr. Manager

cruiser178 wrote: »

Soooooooooooooooooo what did you do,cum on tell us.

You're sick.

Cheap Thrills!

Depends on whether a raincoat was worn!!! If it was bareback you've definitely got to tell. Otherwise, not so much. :cool:

Doop

Cereal Rapist wrote: »

You're sick.

.....says the rapist

Pookah

Open relationships, ftw.

hiscan

El Weirdo wrote: »

I am the son and heir of nothing in particular.

What would Morrissey say?

cruiser178

Cereal Rapist wrote: »

You're sick.

Says he with the appropriate user name:D

Son Of A Vidic

I'm sure I've seen this thread somewhere before.

candy-gal1

Would never happen but I would tell all as soon as possible. I mean if youve cheated on your partner then obviously he/she doesnt mean as much to you as you you may think so you have to let them know and let them make their own decision about this. Keeping it to yourself only causes even more trouble and makes the person youve cheated on feel even more like an idiot.

Novella

I'd admit it, without a doubt. Even if I didn't tell him out of respect for him, I'd tell him for myself 'cause I wouldn't be able to look at him afterwards knowing I'd cheated - the guilt would drive me insane.

Dr_Phil

candy-gal1 wrote: »

Would never happen but I would tell

How do you know if it would never happen? Can you 100% predict what would you do in a situation you can't even imagine yourself to be in? Sounds bull to me.

arybvtcw0eolkf

Deny, deny, deny.. throw a big wobbler, smash everything & everyone around me... Close the page on that one - to be continued.

Mr. Manager

Doop wrote: »

.....says the rapist

CoCo consented to that act!

candy-gal1

Dr_Phil wrote: »

How do you know if it would never happen? Can you 100% predict what would you do in a situation you can't even imagine yourself to be in? Sounds bull to me.

Well, I know I wouldnt cheat no matter what the situation. In a hypathetical situation then I would tell all. Unless you were date raped then there is no excuse to be intimate sexually or romantically with another person whilst in a relationship.

Dr_Phil

candy-gal1 wrote: »

Well, I know I wouldnt cheat no matter what the situation. In a hypathetical situation then I would tell all.

Yeah, theory is always beautiful and full of clear, decent rules, but practice turns out to be very much different sometimes. Well, I suppose the longer we live, the more we learn.

Mr. Manager

I cheated on my (ex) girlfriend. At the time I was really drunk and didn't care as we'd been really rocky in the run up to said incident.

However, when I sobered up and realised what exactly I had done I felt terrible. The most intense guilt ever. Told her the next day and that was that.

Happily with my new missus now for over a year and would never dream of doing anything similar after seeing the hurt I inflicted on someone.

candy-gal1

Dr_Phil wrote: »

Yeah, theory is always beautiful and full of clear, decent rules, but practice turns out to be very much different sometimes. Well, I suppose the longer we live, the more we learn.

Im just curious, lol, why would you cheat on someone in your opinion?

Dr_Phil

Cereal Rapist wrote: »

However, when I sobered up and realised what exactly I had done I felt terrible. The most intense guilt ever. Told her the next day and that was that.

Now the question is how much of that was because you're a decent man with balls and rules and wanted to be really HONEST with your gf, and how much because you wanted to punish yourself for what you've done, calm your guilty conscience and fell good in your own eyes, no matter what the ex was gonna feel?

@candy - too much of this subject recently... I'm just giving up

Motley Crue

If I put myself in this situation then yes, I would imagine I would have too, to be perfect honest I wouldn't be able to live with the shame and the guilt and I certainly wouldn't be able to make love to her knowing I'd been with another woman behind her back

mrDerek

Pique wrote: »

OK, straw poll here.

If you had sex with someone outside marriage/long-term relationship, would you.

Tell your partner as soon as possible (within a couple of weeks max)
Tel your partner if you thought they would find out from a 3rd party.
Not tell at all / deny everything

have u cheated on imbrahimovic?

Mr. Manager

Dr_Phil wrote: »

Now the question is how much of that was because you're a decent man with balls and rules and wanted to be really HONEST with your gf, and how much because you wanted to punish yourself for what you've done, calm your guilty conscience and fell good in your own eyes, no matter what the ex was gonna feel?

@candy - too much of this subject recently... I'm just giving up

I honestly felt like the worst person in the world for doing such a thing to her. Especially because when we were dating, we both said we had never cheated on anybody but had both been cheated upon and said we'd never do it.

I knew she would never find out but I had to tell her. She didn't deserve it... I told her because it was the right thing to do. To this day, I still dont feel for good what I did.

There was no good feeling or weight off my chest when I did tell, just more guilt. This sounds terrible but doing that to her has helped mold my current relationship.

Through it we've still managed to be friends and talk quite regularly which I'm glad of

Dr_Phil

Motley Crue wrote: »

I wouldn't be able to live with the shame and the guiltI certainly wouldn't be able to make love to her knowing I'd beenwith another woman behind her back

What about her You reckon all this "I, I, I" would help in anything else than making only yourself feel good?

Novella

Dr_Phil wrote: »

What about her You reckon all this "I, I, I" would help in anything else than making only yourself feel good?

If a guy told me that he'd cheated on me and told me because he couldn't live with the guilt, I'd be fine with that. Fine with that reason for telling, I mean. The reason for telling doesn't have to be about the other person. Not being able to deceive your partner by keeping the truth from them is about them anyway.

Mr. Manager

Cereal Rapist wrote: »

I honestly felt like the worst person in the world for doing such a thing to her. Especially because when we were dating, we both said we had never cheated on anybody but had both been cheated upon and said we'd never do it.

I knew she would never find out but I had to tell her. She didn't deserve it... I told her because it was the right thing to do. To this day, I still dont feel for good what I did.

There's plenty mention of "her"

Pookah

Why do people never feel guilty before they sleep with the other person?

Mr. Manager

Pookah wrote: »

Why do people never feel guilty before they sleep with the other person?

Can you feel guilty when drunk

Misanthrope

I would never put myself in such a situation.Never has happened, never will.Saves me bundles of trouble, but I have had to turn down a few potentially great rides.

Dr_Phil

Misanthrope wrote: »

never will

What a brave statement... :rolleyes: I'd like to be so brave and certain myself...

Sykk

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pslgz9o8meM

Leelaa22

cruiser178 wrote: »

When your older you'll learn(if you have kids)its not just cheating on your partner its cheating on your family,its just something you just dont do

thank you !!!! this is an arguement Ive had with someone recently and they just dont see that its something you dont do.
thank you Im glad at least one person out there sees things as clearly as I do.
I was beginning to feel like the only one.

Dr_Phil

To all cheated and cheating - chill people, we've got only one life and as long as no one gets hurt it's all good

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DDEdFxUZ01s

Leelaa22

Dr_Phil wrote: »

To all cheated and cheating - chill people, we've got only one life and as long as no one gets hurt it's all good

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DDEdFxUZ01s

Thats the problem with cheating people do get hurt. Maybe not right away but eventually someone will get hurt.
And we dont only have one life just so you know. And if we did only have one life wouldnt that be all the more reason to make it a good one considering we dont get any second chances.

hondasam

Leelaa22 wrote: »

thank you !!!! this is an arguement Ive had with someone recently and they just dont see that its something you dont do.
thank you Im glad at least one person out there sees things as clearly as I do.
I was beginning to feel like the only one.

My first reply was of the cuff.

My honest answer is I would not cheat because my family would never respect me again. My husband would probably forgive me but my kids would not. Temptation is a fact of life but it's up to everyone to decide what is important for them.