Let's Talk About Weight In Partners.

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Pembily

Eh why is the tag on this thread - fat women men husband????

The skinny comments are jealousy...

Asphyxia

I wouldn't go out with a lad who is really skinny in fear I would break him ha!

I'm kinda inbetween about this I like a lad who is not too skinny but not too heavy either, just somewhere in the middle.

I have dated people who have been heavier but not overweight. I am a sucker for a little belly though :rolleyes:

sollar

Pocketfizz wrote: »

I wouldn't go out with a lad who is really skinny in fear I would break him ha!

How does a 15 stone man not break an 8 stone woman. You would be in no danger of breaking a slim man.

rainbow kirby

chicken fingers wrote: »

This.

Why must heavier girls always define slim/healthy or even underweight as "skinny"? Its derogative.
My girlfriend is quite slim (5,5 and 8.8 stone although she does have implants), but many mean girls will call her "skinny", which has a negative connotation.

You say that guys wont date you because you are not skinny, but please... dont try to make out that all guys think like that. Guys date all types of girls and most guys dont even like "skinny", but they do like "slim".
Your weight and height are "clinically obese", and while I hate to put labels on people, maybe guys dont touch you because you are at the upper end of the weight scale, not that guys only like girls from the extreme (skinny) end of the weight range.

Attack the post, not the poster. You're getting a bit personal here against The_Morrigan.

This is one that really annoys me. I'm not going to break! I'm thin, not brittle.

Princess Peach

Pocketfizz wrote: »

I wouldn't go out with a lad who is really skinny in fear I would break him ha!

I'm kinda inbetween about this I like a lad who is not too skinny but not too heavy either, just somewhere in the middle.

I have dated people who have been heavier but not overweight. I am a sucker for a little belly though :rolleyes:

I have also thought about this :pac:

A friend of mine is about 5'8 and she wears a size 18. Her boyfriend is about 5'4 and fairly skinny, and they've been together years and he's not broken yet so I think its ok!

Madame Razz

I've never found overweight men attractive. I've always been drawn to more lithe, athletic types, either tall and athletic or stocky and athletic, it's what I find attractive. A fit male body just looks incredibly hot imo.

My boyfriend is about my height, but was similarly athletically figured when we met. He used to have a crazy resting heartbeat(well below 40:eek:) He stopped exercising this past 18months and has an awful belly at the moment as a result, but he's promised to lose it. I hope he does. If nothing else, carrying weight like that is super unhealthy. I'm not a big fan of it either:o

I'm well within healthy BMI still, but a broken bone plus associated complications and an op meant that exercise wasn't really an option for me in 2010. So I've put up a few pounds as a result. People say I look great but tbh I hate how I look now, I prefer myself thinner. But I'm starting 2011 injury free, so I'm hugely motivated to get my proper shape on again. An impending wedding is a great motivator too:p

newbee22

I find I'm more attracted to bigger guys as opposed to slim guys

Faith

I've always gone for very tall, lean men. My ex was 6'3 and 12 stone which is exactly the kind of shape I like most. There's something that turns me on so much about taut, flat stomachs and hipbones . This is the kind of shape I love:



That being said, a little bit of weight wouldn't put me off if I was sufficiently attracted to the guy, but anything more than moderately overweight would be a complete turn off.

raz86

i like tall and bigger chunky guys. my bf is 6'3'' and nearly 20st and he's great for cuddles! i like big shoulders and arms, but not really muscley guys that are in the gym all the time and i dont like six packs at all.

when we met we were both in the "normal" range, appropriate weights for our sizes if that makes sense. i put a lot of weight due to a medical condition and he did after giving up smoking. in a way we sort of "match". i would rather go out with someone the same or a bit bigger than me. but not ridiculously obese.

annapolska

Novella wrote: »

I was just reading the tGC thread there, and one poster mentioned that he'd hope he'd have the balls to mention to his wife if she was putting on weight. So, if you were putting on weight, would you like your partner to mention it to you or would that make you uncomfortable?

Personally, I'd prefer my boyfriend to say it to me, as opposed to becoming unattracted to me, and perhaps ending the relationship on that basis.

Totally agree- I'd like to be given the chance to change rather than just dumped!

Jenneke87 wrote: »

The most lovely man I ever went out with was a guy who weighed estimately 18 stone. So yeah I would.

Me too.

allandanyways wrote: »

You have been lucky! I actually started a thread about this a year or so ago, after I was screamed at in a pub in front of loads of people "Hey Shamu, nice dress" (Shamu being a whale at Seaworld). Grown adults do comment on other people's weight, and it's usually men commenting on women's weight in my experience. It usually happens on nights out as well. I'm a size 16-18, so not massively overweight but not thin by any stretch of the imagination..

Anyway point is, grown adults do call other people fat, and to their faces as well

I am appalled by this. Shocking that people on the street would be so forward and so hurtful, and even more shocking that it's happened to others on this board!

Also, sometimes people don't mean "skinny" as a negative- over here in America it's a lighthearted compliment.