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Looking for advice

  • 05-01-2011 5:46pm
    #1
    Annasopra
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 41,118 ✭✭✭✭


    I was sent the PM below asking for advice - I don't feel well qualified enough to offer too much advice except I would always recommend anyone who is sexually active to get screened regularly
    Hi Johnnymcg i have always valued your opinions on the LGBT forums

    My question is as above what are your toughts of me hooking up with a escort me been the receiver obviously he wearing a condom.

    i did visit one in july and enjoyed it very much safe sex practised good time i would very much like to visit one again but as always an element of fear which is do i need to get myself screened even after safe sex it wrecking my head

    Thanks for your help

    x

    Im putting this out there for anyone else to give advice

    It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.

    Terry Pratchet



Comments

  • #2
    Endymion
    Closed Accounts Posts: 638 ✭✭✭Endymion


    Is he looking for advice or discussion? You've mentioned advice but the private message mentions "thoughts". From an advice prospective, sex with anyone is physically and emotional risky but sex with a prostitute has added stigma associated with it. Before you turn visiting prostitutes for sex into a habit, you'd want to be certain it's some you can live with if it ever came out. Try explaining that to a future partner. Sex with a prostitute is sex isn't with an equal, it's with someone you utterly control. You cannot avoid that affecting other relationships in the long run.

    Morally, prostitution is reprehensible and demeans both the prostitute and the punter. A person doesn't have to be chained to a bed to feel forced into a life of sex trafficking, the majority would do something else if they felt they could. A prostitute isn't with you because they want to be with you, they're with you because you're exploiting them and feeding off human mystery. I'm not even going to get into the fact that the money you're paying over goes directly to organised crime.

    There is one caveat, you may meet someone who loves sex, can't be demeaned by it, and has no problem getting paid for it. Because of the way our laws work here, "free agent" prostitutes are more common then in other countries. This is because selling yourself for sex isn't illegal once a) there's no public soliciting, b) no pimp and c) not in a brothel.


  • #3
    Annasopra
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 41,118 ✭✭✭✭Annasopra


    Well - discussion and advice I suppose though I'm not quite sure

    It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.

    Terry Pratchet



  • #4
    gibson
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 606 ✭✭✭gibson


    well if its an escort agency the guy has been a lot of people so i would definitely get tested after each encounter if he does want to visit him again. even with safe sex if for nothing else just to put his mind at ease


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Hey Guys i am in same boat as the OP forgive me while i sign in as annon

    I have used escorts /male massages in the past with somewhat different experinces mostly good btw

    I dont think i could get a steady friend beacuse im 50 years old i am not in any relationship with either sex im just lonely for some gay fun which i do enjoy and always practice safe sex. i am not confident of going to gay bars clubs. i suppose they could be pretty much the same way as above of hooking up with a guy

    The question that always haunts me after visiting one off these guys is.. do i always need to get screened and indeed i have been tested most times after encounters and results were always clear


  • #6
    rainbow kirby
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 26,928 ✭✭✭✭rainbow kirby


    guest 123 wrote: »
    The question that always haunts me after visiting one off these guys is.. do i always need to get screened and indeed i have been tested most times after encounters and results were always clear
    It only takes the one. Better safe than sorry.


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