Why bother?

CathyMoran

Married and happy - we went through a lot of stuff before we got married but neither of us liked being apart (we love each other). Being married is good from the practical aspect of being next of kin if one of you is ill - my husband was ill before we married and it was far harder. We have a wonderful son and are expecting a little sister for him - it is tough (and wonderful) raising a child but having a supportive partner makes all the difference - I also wanted to make sure that no matter what happened any children would have access to their daddy and this seemed the only way.

In the end of the day I married my husband because I love him, him and our children are my family mean everything to me.

Azureus

I'm 22 and I dont think I'll ever get married. I'd like the ring and I'd like the honeymoon, but i can skip the signing over bit I think if (big IF) I were to have children then I would take my partners name but other than that its not for me. People change so much and they often grow apart so far that the only thing holding them together is that bit of paper. Thats not neccesarily best for anybody!! Ive seen people drift apart over the years, but Ive also seen marriage change people overnight. A colleague of mine was with her partner for 12 years and they got on great, they got married and two years later they were divorced. He suddenly started acting like he 'owned' her and it drove them away from eachother. Obviously that was in him anyway but I think marriage was the catalyst.

The happiest couple I have ever seen were family friends who were together 50 years. In their 80s they still slap eachother on the ass and call eachothers pet names. Cutuest ever and they dont have a marriage certificate holdin em together, just pure simple luuuuurve