MAINTENANCE

saanco

hi,
i am unmarried father of three kids , i am student and i cant affort 200 /w maintenance by court order, now my ex has called me in court next week to sort out arears of 2600 euro. which is very difficult for me to pay. i earn upto 400/w , my ex is working full time as well. can i vary the maintenca order or do i have to pay this . or if i cant manage to pay , will i be jailed or in what circumstanc i can be sentenced, please any body give me any suggestion what can i do .? thanks
my main expenses are , rent 100 /w
car loan :110 /w
food :100/w
edu :50/w
total min :360/w

Kildrought

I found your post difficult to read.

However if you cannot afford the previously ordered Maintenance, then you request a variation order. Document your income and outgoings.

hawkwind23

why would you be concerned about paying your ex wife anything.
you pay maintenance for your children not your ex.
shes a big girl so she can look after herself , if she cant afford the rent or basic living expenses then i would suggest applying to care for the children yourself.
dont be a bit soft in this situation , if you take this to court you fight to win so i would also recommend mediation.
plus the system will just take all your money and stress you out , its fair to say the system is unjust.

forget about all this money thing , fight to try and get 50/50 shared parenting first.

you had your kids to raise them and enjoy them , not be some mcdad who finances his ex to do that.

hawkwind23

i have a few links open so maybe of value to share them.

this is a documentary by bob geldof ,

http://www.parents4protest.co.uk/bob_geldof.htm

he also has a written essay on the subject which can be sourced online.
its called the love that dare not says it name.

a book i think every parent should read is by dr warshak called divorce poison.

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Divorce-Poison-Protect-Badmouthing-Brainwashing/dp/0061863262/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1299224584&sr=8-1


the following may not be relevant to your situation , however i think they should be given a few minutes time , in modern times these are more and more common occurances.

http://savanah-jade.org/

http://www.relocationcampaign.co.uk/4.html

http://www.fnf.org.uk/

http://www.fnfni.org/

Morag

why would you be concerned about paying your ex wife anything.

Because legally he has to, it's called spousal maintence.

January

hawkwind23 wrote: »

i have a few links open so maybe of value to share them.

this is a documentary by bob geldof ,

http://www.parents4protest.co.uk/bob_geldof.htm

he also has a written essay on the subject which can be sourced online.
its called the love that dare not says it name.

a book i think every parent should read is by dr warshak called divorce poison.

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Divorce-Poison-Protect-Badmouthing-Brainwashing/dp/0061863262/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1299224584&sr=8-1


the following may not be relevant to your situation , however i think they should be given a few minutes time , in modern times these are more and more common occurances.

http://savanah-jade.org/

http://www.relocationcampaign.co.uk/4.html

http://www.fnf.org.uk/

http://www.fnfni.org/

Those are all links for the UK and are irrelevant to Irish laws.

Also, if the wife was a stay at home parent while the father worked to support the family, he has to continue doing this if the relationship ends. As Sharrow said, it's called spousal maintenance.

hawkwind23

i dont mean to mislead , i am unaware of the laws in southern ireland.

the links i gave are relevant wherever you reside.

i guess the general point is that the laws are outdated and ine case of this spousal maintenance pretty ridiculous imo of course