Dry Spell

Phat Cat

Dravokivich wrote: »

eh... i was just offering my understanding of her post man...

Not having a go at you at all man, but when somebody comes on and says something along the lines of "I don't like cheese, but I love cheddar", then I'm going to have difficulty digesting it (pun intended).

gargleblaster

gargleblaster wrote: »

Yes women get dry spells. My longest was almost five years.

wow, few months seems bad enough never mind 5 years!

TaraFoxglove

bluewolf wrote: »

wow, few months and im scared already

Plus didn't you say somewhere that you're not into the pub scene? You're screwed so! :pac:;):P

(Not really)

TaraFoxglove

TaraFoxglove wrote: »

Plus didn't you say somewhere that you're not into the pub scene? You're screwed so! :pac:;):P

If I were would I be posting here?

TaraFoxglove

bluewolf wrote: »

If I were would I be posting here?

Good point.

beano345

i wonder what causes these dry spells?is it the persons own in-action have they become jaded with the whole thing and are sending out the wrong vibes,i have a theory when your with someone all of a sudden girls are looking you over, then when you become single they suddenly are'nt looking you over,feast or famine type thing,though i think this has to do with the confidence you give off when your with someone

cherile

My experience the harder you look for sex the less you get also as you get older you relax about it all a lot more and it becomes much easier

krudler

beano345 wrote: »

i wonder what causes these dry spells?is it the persons own in-action have they become jaded with the whole thing and are sending out the wrong vibes,i have a theory when your with someone all of a sudden girls are looking you over, then when you become single they suddenly are'nt looking you over,feast or famine type thing,though i think this has to do with the confidence you give off when your with someone

That definitely helps, you give off a "this means nothing to me" vibe when out and not single, people want what they cant have, simples.

Dravokivich

beano345 wrote: »

i wonder what causes these dry spells?is it the persons own in-action have they become jaded with the whole thing and are sending out the wrong vibes,i have a theory when your with someone all of a sudden girls are looking you over, then when you become single they suddenly are'nt looking you over,feast or famine type thing,though i think this has to do with the confidence you give off when your with someone

I think it's more so down to... oh she/he found this guy/woman acceptable, so he/her could be something I might want....

beano345

Dravokivich wrote: »

I think it's more so down to... oh she/he found this guy/woman acceptable, so he/her could be something I might want....

its like you have "getting sex" wrote on your forehead and they want a piece.friends have noticed it too.think you right its kinda what does she see in him he must have something.

stupidusername

As drav said I meant a relationship dry spell.sorry for the confusion.

parker kent

beano345 wrote: »

its like you have "getting sex" wrote on your forehead and they want a piece.friends have noticed it too.think you right its kinda what does she see in him he must have something.

There's also an element of coming across as more easy going. Since you're not actually looking for sex, you seem easier going. Then girls like that easy going nature. So the tip is, be easy going and chat away to everybody!

LegacyUser

I've had a dry spell for 19 years!!!

Then again I am 19 years old :P

Phat Cat

TaraFoxglove wrote: »

Plus didn't you say somewhere that you're not into the pub scene? You're screwed so! :pac:;):P

(Not really)

bluewolf is also female so she would most likely have more 'options' then most blokes anyway.

I was just thinking, could you imagine a parallel universe where it was a 10:1 ratio of women to men in pubs/clubs and women were doing all of the approaching and men just had to sit back and pick and chose. It would be like a utopia :pac:

krudler

Phat Cat wrote: »

bluewolf is also female so she would most likely have more 'options' then most blokes anyway.

I was just thinking, could you imagine a parallel universe where it was a 10:1 ratio of women to men in pubs/clubs and women were doing all of the approaching and men just had to sit back and pick and chose. It would be like a utopia :pac:

I call those Friday nights :pac:

krudler

disclaimer: I don't

Phat Cat

krudler wrote: »

I call those Friday nights :pac:

Sorry, I couldn't resist :pac:

Phat Cat

Phat Cat wrote: »

bluewolf is also female so she would most likely have more 'options' then most blokes anyway.

yeah i'm not really looking, i could find if i were

parker kent

bluewolf wrote: »

yeah i'm not really looking, i could find if i were

This is why female dry spells are not the same

Female dry spells sounds like an over-50s ad that Twiggy would be in....

Phat Cat

parker kent wrote: »

This is why female dry spells are not the same

Female dry spells are usually self inflicted, whilst male dry spells are usually inflicted by females. Btw I don't mean that in an insulting way, but women do hold all the cards, whether they want to admit it or not

krudler

Phat Cat wrote: »

Female dry spells are usually self inflicted, whilst male dry spells are usually inflicted by females. Btw I don't mean that in an insulting way, but women do hold all the cards, whether they want to admit it or not

Very true at times, the vast majority of women can walk into a nightclub, approach a few men and basically say they want sex and the chances are they'll get it, a guy does that he'll probably get thrown out :pac:

gargleblaster

True dry spells for women are mostly self-inflicted, but I still think they're the same for men more often than men would like to admit. Lowering standards and/or getting over the fear of rejection and putting in a little more effort would make a big difference.

There are a lot of lonely women out there who are probably tired of being picked by drunks at the last minute, or older women who are tired of watching all the older guys going after younger women.

parker kent

Phat Cat wrote: »

Female dry spells are usually self inflicted, whilst male dry spells are usually inflicted by females. Btw I don't mean that in an insulting way, but women do hold all the cards, whether they want to admit it or not

I think that point has been said in some shape or form 200 times now in this thread :pac:

Phat Cat

krudler wrote: »

Very true at times, the vast majority of women can walk into a nightclub, approach a few men and basically say they want sex and the chances are they'll get it, a guy does that he'll probably get thrown out :pac:

True story, years ago I was in The Red Box (yes I am old!), chatting to a girl, getting on like a house on fire so asked her if she wanted to go back to mine. She smile, excused herself and came back with a security guy who rather abruptly escorted me off the premises.

beano345

krudler wrote: »

Very true at times, the vast majority of women can walk into a nightclub, approach a few men and basically say they want sex and the chances are they'll get it, a guy does that he'll probably get thrown out :pac:

reminds me of what an old guy i used to work with told me "if men did'nt give them attention they get for say a year you would see an awful change in their attitudes" but in reality thats not likely to happen:pac:

Phat Cat

Phat Cat wrote: »

True story, years ago I was in The Red Box (yes I am old!), chatting to a girl, getting on like a house on fire so asked her if she wanted to go back to mine. She smile, excused herself and came back with a security guy who rather abruptly escorted me off the premises.

lol:eek:

Phat Cat

parker kent wrote: »

I think that point has been said in some shape or form 200 times now in this thread :pac:

Some people still don't get it though, so I'm going down the political route and I'm trying to nail the point home...........literally!

Phat Cat

bluewolf wrote: »

lol:eek:

Yep, I sobered up in two seconds flat and avoided the place like the plague ever since, but if there was ever an over reaction to anything, that was it!!!!

krudler

beano345 wrote: »

reminds me of what an old guy i used to work with told me "if men did'nt give them attention they get for say a year you would see an awful change in their attitudes" but in reality thats not likely to happen:pac:

hell no, I love women, as batsh1t crazy as they can be sometimes (I apologise for nothing, they know they can be nuts :pac: ) I still love em, they look nice and smell fcuking lovely

TaraFoxglove

gargleblaster wrote: »

There are a lot of lonely women out there who are probably tired of being picked by drunks at the last minute, or older women who are tired of watching all the older guys going after younger women.

Very good point.