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Nothing against any of the posters that want to leave (quite like them) but why not just, you know, stop posting.
Or post this in Help Desk where I assume it won't turn in to a oh no please come down off the ledge we love you chat.
Plus you'll both be back before the year (or indeed the month) is out if the usual trend of mawkish valedictorian addresses are anything to go by.
"Just stop posting" is something that's much easier said than done
It's something I know I should do because I need a break from it but I kind of have willpower problems :pac:
And in fairness, I don't believe either of us posted as a "oh no please come down off the ledge we love you" thing - in fairness, all sunflower did was ask how to close the account and all I did was tell her how (because I had asked the same thing myself over in Help Desk earlier that day), and then after that we just responded to other people who were asking us things directly. I guess I should've ignored them.No offence but why would anybody sign up for something that facilitates anonymous abuse and then publish a link to same from a massively busy site where they are well known?
Personally, I think it's interesting to see what people will say when given the opportunity to do it without having to accept responsibility. Most of the time, it's either positive or neutral stuff. And 'normal' abuse I can handle and is what I got for the first while. But what I got after awhile wasn't just 'normal' abuse but stuff that was very personal, stuff at a level at which I haven't experienced more than once or twice in the entire time I've spent being incredibly open about myself on the internet (over a decade now :eek:).
I'm still not going to close it, or make it so I have to know who's posting. But I do want to make whoever is making this personal to stop making it personal, and if that means going under the radar on boards for awhile to stop provoking it I can do that. I probably need the break anyway.0 -
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"Just stop posting" is something that's much easier said than done It's something I know I should do because I need a break from it but I kind of have willpower problems :pac:
Wasn't having a go at you and I hope you stay, btw. Just meant that sometimes we can all be tempted to indulge ourselves in a swan song (that lets the bullies off the hook and deprives us of the good things about boards) instead of neutralizing them either by ignoring them or reporting them."
Personally, I think it's interesting to see what people will say when given the opportunity to do it without having to accept responsibility..
Recipe for disaster letting some of the malcontents around here vent without having to stand behind at least a user name. In a strange way, being so interested in what others think of you may suggest that you could be inclined to take negative and horrible comments more closely to heart.0 -
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OutlawPete wrote: »This post had been deleted.
Don't I know it, PeteYou don't need to go under the radar if you just close it or restrict it. I don't mean to sound harsh with you and maybe it's just cause I am much older than you, but you are being somewhat idealistic and naive here. If you are getting personal abuse, close the damn thing, problem gone. You have the solution to your own problem.
Well I kind of feel that I need a break from the whole thing anyway, this is just the straw that broke the proverbial camel's back. I don't think I'm being particularly idealistic in expecting abuse there to die off after a spell of silence on my end here.Anyway, I wish Admin would step in on this issue and ban users from linking to Formspring from their Sigs, as it's about the tenth time I have heard users complain about the damn thing, with regards to abuse. It's only a matter of time before something serious happens and a user is bullied on it, does something stupid and Boards gets a portion of the blame, as the user only had a link to it from this site.
I don't see how any of the blame could possibly be attached to boards
The people who run boards cannot possibly be expected to be held responsible for the actions of its users outside of the website, surely?Liah, to be frank, if you make it clear (with lots of posted pics) that you're an attractive young single female, and if you post in your sig file "Ask me anything, completely anonymously," and if you give people the opportunity to say anything they want without having to accept responsibility, then, in my view, you are just setting yourself up for harassment and abuse. Most people will treat you respectfully, but 0.5 percent will not, and it's the latter element that you have to worry about.
If everyone treated others with civility and respect at all times, we'd have a perfectly functioning site with no need for moderators, infractions, bans, and the like—but in reality we need all those mechanisms to weed out the minority who join the site just to harass, or spew vitriol, or abuse other people gratuitously. It never ceases to amaze me how quickly and freely people can become nasty and vicious when they think they're in a pseudonymous or anonymous environment.
"lots of pics," are there really? No more than any other poster I thought, I haven't posted anything on there in awhile.
And again, I'm used to normal levels of harassment and abuse. I've been ridiculously open on the internet since I started using the internet, basically. And there's been plenty of opportunities throughout the years for people to become this excessive with it, but it hasn't happened more than once in a blue moon, and usually stops if I let things cool for awhile. I find it hard to write off part of how I am (being open and doing what I want where I want online) just because of one bad experience, you know?
Which is why I'm not leaving boards completely, but certainly taking a break or getting rid of this account entirely and starting under a new one. This isn't the only issue in my decision but it is a hefty part of it.0 -
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"lots of pics," are there really? No more than any other poster I thought, I haven't posted anything on there in awhile.
yes, and other lads & ladies I know on this site have commented on it before.. in fact there was the suggestion that you and lia_lia battle it out, we were going to call it "one lia to rule them all" 0 -
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yes, and other lads & ladies I know on this site have commented on it before.. in fact there was the suggestion that you and lia_lia battle it out, we were going to call it "one lia to rule them all"
Well good to know I'm a topic of boards gossip. All the more reason to take a break frankly.0 -
Don't I know it, Pete
TouchéWell I kind of feel that I need a break from the whole thing anyway, this is just the straw that broke the proverbial camel's back. I don't think I'm being particularly idealistic in expecting abuse there to die off after a spell of silence on my end here.
Well, just change your name and dream it all up again.I don't see how any of the blame could possibly be attached to boards
The people who run boards cannot possibly be expected to be held responsible for the actions of its users outside of the website, surely?
No, but that's not how things work.
If it was Facebook or Twitter, then Boards would not get blame attached to them were something bad to occur, as the Joe Duffy callers would just focus on the Facebook and Twitter aspect of it all. However, this formspring place is smallfry in Ireland, with regards to the media and the majority of Irish people and so, should something happen a user who had an 'Ask men anything anomalously" link in the Boards.ie Sig, then the site that will be in the headlines should things go pear-shaped, will be Boards.ie, not formspring.
Personally, I just don't get why anyone would want to let anonymous people ask them questions. The world is full of enough crazy people that will ask things without having anonymity. That formspring site sounds like a verbal gloryhole. I would imagine it's quite popular with sadists. Sure look what people get up to on that Chat Roulette when unattended my consequence. The fact that the link is on Boards means that you want Boardsies to ask you questions, so then just stick a link in your Sig asking users to PM you with any questions.
At this very moment there are 1456 members on Boards, but there are also almost 4000 lunatics, serial killers, space monkeys and people who think Springsteen is not a genius - do you really want those sort of people asking you questions? My advice, only let registered users of Boards and Facebook ask you questions and even then you can't be guaranteed that you will avoid fruit loops, but it's some layer of protection at least.
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I'm in my forties and I got it...Permabear wrote:This post had been deleted. He's joking with you BTW. Bit in bold + pic = faux jokey suspicion. Kinda like this smiley <_< >_>
With respect L I think you're being very naive if you think that. Of course it has something to do with it. On the interweb anyone that stands out, and more if a woman is likely to get more attention. Simple as. Doesn't have to be pics either. Women with perceived strong opinions also stand out and can also attract that minority of oddballs and twats and on occasion bullying behaviour(not just oddball men either BTW).Liah wrote:I'm not sure how it's particularly relevant either - what do my pics/what I look like have to do with anything?
[Grandpa simpson voice] I do think the younger generation can be very naive on this score.[/Grandpa simpson voice]. For all sorts of reasons. Straightforward naivety because they forget posting pics(or even opinions) online is akin to putting your pic on a billboard or shouting from the rooftops. You're broadcasting to the world. The first two W's in WWW are a clue. I've noted the older posters tend to be more reticent about posting pics. I suppose because we didn't grow up with the interweb as background noise. It grew with us and we had more time to adapt IMH.
Second reason can be the attention it gets us. The feeling of recognition and bolstering of self esteem. The Hot or Not factor. Nothing particularly wrong with that either. Most of us have done it in real life face to face situations. Again with the web comes the problem of scale. In life we may meet a few twats in a year. Most people are actually sound out. It's only a minority that aren't(and they may only be that way a minority of the time), but again with the scale of the web you're more likely to attract them.
Third reason, folks still on the learning curve of social interaction. We've all been there to some degree or other at some time or other. Hell I know I was and thank god the web wasn't around when I was 18. Jesus :eek:. I was enough of a gauche gobshíte without it(shut up down the back).
And my screwups weren't pickled forever in hard drive heaven either. I think some of us older types forget about our own pasts and how silly and naive and daft we were. None of us came fully formed as adults. Well except those boring beige bastards one occasionally meets and such meetings are enough to remind one a learning curve is good. 
Yes and no. Certainly from my standpoint, the bullying twat or twatess is still a bullying twat or twatess. I would just exercise normal caution online as I would in real life. People I think forget that in this medium for the above reasons.Thats similar to saying dont dress provocatively because if you get raped its your fault.
+1Its not the responsibility of boards.ie to moderate that site, you can be rest assured in this case that 99% of the abuse that is received on formspring is from the traffic of this site.
+2As i see it, posting on formspring is like posting on youtube. You take your life in your own hands and essentially have to put up with the nonsence of warriors that cant get laid and are frustrated by their lack of social skills.
How the fcuk do you know my password!!:eek::mad: Post reported.I dont see the point of closing your account. If you do not wish to post, delete any info you have of yourself and reset your pasword to fdnbvkfdnbs[dknbs' and you wont be able to log in again.
I agree in a big way OP, but neither of us are in our teens or early 20's. I could well see myself on similar back then. Or not. Not beyond the realms though.OutlawPete wrote:Personally, I just don't get why anyone would want to let anonymous people ask them questions. The world is full of enough crazy people that will ask things without having anonymity. That formspring site sounds like a verbal gloryhole. I would imagine it's quite popular with sadists.Rejoice in the awareness of feeling stupid, for that’s how you end up learning new things. If you’re not aware you’re stupid, you probably are.
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