30 Day Rule

ShizDink

turns out I don't belong on this forum after all. My friends all meet in the pub so giving up drink is giving up my mates have restricted myself to 2 drinks as making small talk in the pub is easier after 1 or 2 (and after all my whinging about 1 or 2 !?) 2 is defo my max though. Some nights none when I bring the car. Fingers crossed this stays at 2.

Sunnyisland

Goodluck shizding :-)

I am sure we be all still here if it doesn't work out,but i am sure it will as most drinkers are very responsible and it is just the minority who are inflicted with this terrible addiction. slainte

Sunnyisland

Good move catherder, Keep posting and letting us know how your getting on as it will help you when you write it down and also help others who are thinking of going the same route.

seanrose

seanrose wrote: »

Hello guys,

Have been off it now for a week,how i feel this monday compared to last monday is like night and day.Was really a binge drinker at the weekends and i felt like i may as well have been drinking during the week as well the fact that it took me that long for the depression and how bad i felt.

My plan is to the end of August and then i will take stock of my life then and hopefully i will feel like i know longer feel that alcohol should be a part of my life and that my life is better without the hangovers and embarrasment

Hey people,thought id give an update.

Have 21 days done and while i felt great the first few weeks,this weekend has been hard,not hard in the sense that i wanted a drink but the fact that i cant stop thinking about my ex who i have lost through the abuse of alcohol.

I have been in the pub with friends and sat with my mineral but my ex was there yesterday,we were chatting up till 3 weeks ago but i decided to try and cut contact so as to try and move forward with my life but she was there yesterday and i didnt really make an effort 2 talk to her.

anyway back to the drinking i have not been tempted by the drink but i wouldnt say that i am happier without it,so much of contact with my friends involves the pub and nights. I will take another look at my situation at the end of august and hopefully an alcohol free life will still appeal to me

ShizDink

seanrose wrote: »

i decided to try and cut contact so as to try and move forward with my life but she was there yesterday and i didnt really make an effort 2 talk to her.

you followed through on your decission so. Had you been drinking you possibly would have ended up talking to her for most of the night and woke up thinking dammit I'm back to square one. Well done.

seanrose wrote: »

i wouldnt say that i am happier without it,so much of contact with my friends involves the pub and nights.

I went out last night with my mates who like to drink. I brought the car. Most had been drinking all day so were fairly merry when I saw them at 7pm. I left at 1am. Lessons from those 6 hours:

1. I would hate to see myself in the state I saw my friends. (I think in my old age I'm developing more respect for myself)
2. NOBODY can drink for 6 hours and not appear a mess (its not just me! );)
3. I am a nervous person in large groups of people and when I'm nervous I will drink a lot faster (just gives me something to do) I drank way too much coke last night
4. Due to 3 I will only be consuming alcohol when I'm in a comfortable environment and not trying to make small talk.
5. The pub is not the best place to meet people of the opposite sex. Drunk people are not sexy be it me or someone else. 2 drunk people together works but then I'd rather not put my sex life in the hands of alcohol. I don't find drunk guys attractive and if they find me attractive when I'm drunk its probably for all the wrong reasons.

Sorry if this seems a bit personal and I'm using this thread as a 'dear diary'! but maybe someone else will find it useful cause I am definitly finding the other posts useful

seanrose

Yeah Shizdink

I totally agree with your lesson no 3.i felt uneasy when we were in a different crowd and before i wud have drank pints into me fairly qucikly and in turn would have been on the shorts earlier.

I jumped in the car told people i had a bit of work to do and id be back,i went back to my house and chilled out for a while and went back to the pub for another few hours,when i returned we were in a group again where i felt comfortable and thus able to mingle a bit better. By that time my friends were fairly on there way but still was able to have a few conversations with them,

Also on your point no5 i totally agree,i used to think that i would have to have a few drinks in me before i chat to women but feel totally different now.my confidence is totally higher compared to when im drinking,when i was drinking the only thing i was interested in was more drink but my interest now is maybe picking up a nice girl when im out.

Felt bit low tis mornin shizdink bout not making an effort to chat to her but at the end of the day i have to wats best for me and me only

ShizDink

Its not like you went out of your way not to talk to her. I am assuming she didn't make an effort to talk to you (being cruel to be kind here). You shouldn't feel low about it. At least its not a depressed hangover! You could be thinking back now wondering what kind of an ejit you were last night.

Its tough this trading partners and friends for what is best for us. Its about time its done though.

What does not kill us makes us stronger. As they say