Making Female friends

caprilicious

I wonder is it because you have a low post count? is there anything in the charter about it needing to be over a certain amount to get access maybe?

Lola92

Usually you need a post count over 25 to access private forums to keep out 'da trollz' :P

lisasimpson

o im new on this so maybe thats why i havent heard anything back. i dont have the 25 posts. can you keep us posted through this thread as well on update?

jandm

Lola92 wrote: »

Usually you need a post count over 25 to access private forums to keep out 'da trollz' :P

Note sure what a troll is - someone who posts to a forum to stir things up or attention seek? I don't have a high post count on boards but this topic struck a chord. If that makes me a troll, I'm a troll :eek:

Still cannot find the charter - looked under Helpdesk - can anyone point me in the right direction

charter

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055183171

photo rules

Hi Ladies,

We've decided to try out the idea of a private meetup forum - the thinking behind this being that details of where a group of ladies will be at a given time and place should not be public for all to see.

We will still continue to organize tLL beers in the main forum but as these are larger events the chances of something going wrong is significantly reduced.

Since this is a spin off of the very popular "find a friend" thread, which was for women to make other female friends, we are not allowing men access at this time, with the exception of Wibbs, and that is only for moderation purposes.


Here are the rules to gain access:

1) If you are a lady with more than 100 posts, please PM one of the moderators of The Ladies Lounge: Jules, Silverfish, Wibbs, g'em, maple, RainbowKirby or myself.

2) If you are a lady with less than 100 posts, please PM one of the moderators of the Ladies Lounge as above, but include a front facing photo of yourself holding a piece of paper that says "I am (username) and I request access to tLL private meetup forum" This is to ensure that we are only allowing women in. Photos will not be posted to the forum - it's not a popularity contest.

3) If you are a gentleman, I am afraid that we are not allowing you access at this time.

ciaraloux

MusicDots wrote: »

I'm in a similar position! I used to live in Dublin for a couple of months each year and had a good few female friends who I used to meet up and go out with. Now that I live here full time, all my friends have either gone travelling or have moved abroad for good! And I am left here with no female friends. Sure I've got my bf and I love spending time with him and also enjoy hanging out with his friends, but it's just not the same! I'm 29 by the way. It seems like many people are in the same boat here, so why don't we arrange a girls' night out?

same here..always with my boyfriend and his friends very hard to make friends in Dublin!

ciaraloux

serenacat wrote: »

Same here, very hard to find genuine friends

im in the same boat.. im only 23 and at the moment i have no real female friends!

ciaraloux

gmac102 wrote: »

thanks but im based in dublin hope it goes well for you's tho

has there been anything set up for a meet up in Dublin???

ciaraloux

RachyPie wrote: »

Hi Ladies,

I don't really post here to often, but I found this thread so relatable that I just had to post my experience.

Firstly, i must say, it feels so good to know I'm not the only one in this situation! I'm only 22 but already feel like all my 'best' friends aren't really there for me anymore, due to moving away, ditching friends for boyfriends etc. I often feel like i've got nobody to talk to except my boyfriend and brother, which is terribly depressing sometimes. As other posters have mentioned too, I generally get along better with guys, but after a while I have found that I'm really starting to miss female company. There are some things that only a fellow gal can understand.

I only see my boyfriend once or twice a week, so a lot of nights I'm just left sitting in alone because I have nobody to go out and do something with. I still live at home so my parents are always asking "are you going out tonight?" or "are you doing anything today?" my answer is usually no, and I can tell they feel sorry for me. If i do decide to go out for a walk, to town or whatever, they'll ask me if i'm meeting a friend and my answer is usually no then too. I feel like such a loser sometimes, and the loneliness is really getting me down lately. I find myself bursting into tears on the regular, when I think about how few friends I have. I start to think that I'm unlikeable and that it's too late to make new friends.

I'm painfully shy, so a lot of the time people think I'm very stuck up. This has been a problem since I was a child, but once I get talking and feel comfortable with someone, we get along fine.

I'm starting a new job next month, so I'm hoping that will provide some new opportunities to meet new people, but I'd also like to find some outside of that.

I'm in Dublin so I'd be interested in meeting up with anyone else from here who is feeling this way! Maybe go for a few drinks, a trip to the cinema or something like that?

I am usually very reserved so it's a surprise to myself that i'm putting myself out there like this. I suppose i'm just getting tired of feeling alone, and seeing as there are clearly lots of others feeling this way, I don't see a downside to it! This seems like a great place for meeting similar minded types.

Heyy.. omg I know how you feel!!i feel the same and it seems like a lot of girls on here do too..which is kinda making me feel a lil better! did u end up meeting up with anyone?

Sugabunny

would really like to hang out with feales from cork as i dont really have any female friens and i miss the girly nights out im new to this aswell so i wouldnt have a clue how it works

visciuk

Hello All!

Hope it is not too late to join you

I've have been living in Ireland for over 7 years now.It is also pretty hard for me to find some nice friends in here.

Please let me know if there are any meet ups and /if someone maybe would like to chat?

I'm 27,female living in Dublin 1 looking for someone to hang out etc

Please contact me if you are looking for sth similiar

V.

Snoopy1

visciuk wrote: »

Hello All!

Hope it is not too late to join you

I've have been living in Ireland for over 7 years now.It is also pretty hard for me to find some nice friends in here.

Please let me know if there are any meet ups and /if someone maybe would like to chat?

I'm 27,female living in Dublin 1 looking for someone to hang out etc

Please contact me if you are looking for sth similiar

V.

Hey V
Where are you from?

visciuk

Snoopy1 wrote: »

Hey V
Where are you from?

Originally Poland...

Snoopy1

visciuk wrote: »

Snoopy1 wrote: »

Hey V
Where are you from?

Originally Poland...

I'm from England and I've been here 8 years and I still don't know my way around
Can honestly say if I didn't have sat nav I wouldn't get anywhere!!

visciuk

Snoopy1 wrote: »

I'm from England and I've been here 8 years and I still don't know my way around
Can honestly say if I didn't have sat nav I wouldn't get anywhere!!

Yeah well the iPhone comes handy sometimes I know my way around as such, not when it comes to people though

Have you been to any of those meet ups yet? I'm registered here on boards.ie a while but never thought of looking for friends this way. it looks like some ppl here have already met?

Snoopy1

visciuk wrote: »

Snoopy1 wrote: »

I'm from England and I've been here 8 years and I still don't know my way around
Can honestly say if I didn't have sat nav I wouldn't get anywhere!!

Yeah well the iPhone comes handy sometimes I know my way around as such, not when it comes to people though

Have you been to any of those meet ups yet? I'm registered here on boards.ie a while but never thought of looking for friends this way. it looks like some ppl here have already met?

I went to a couple of meet ups from boards last year and it was great fun. Havnt been able to go this year as I've been away or worki g for them all.
Pm me if u want

gmac102

how do you gain access to private ll as ive tried but couldnt manage to, which mod do we ask?

Addie009

heyyyy guys any one out there interested in making new friends and stuffs like that?, coffee, cinema, girly talks and things like that. am new in Dublin and kinda finding it boring because there is no1 to go out wit. am 19, really friendly and love having a good time. so if you're interested or in d same boat, get in touch thnx guys

Ickle Magoo

Hiya Addie009,

I've moved your post here to ensure the front page doesn't get clogged up with friend requests. :cool:

Ickle Magoo

gmac102 wrote: »

how do you gain access to private ll as ive tried but couldnt manage to, which mod do we ask?

Any of the active mods should be able to give you access - just check the foot of the front page of the Ladies Lounge forum to see who the active mods are...

Info re accessing tLL private is in the charter: Here.

Ickle :cool:

gmac102

Ickle Magoo wrote: »

Any of the active mods should be able to give you access - just check the foot of the front page of the Ladies Lounge forum to see who the active mods are...

Info re accessing tLL private is in the charter: Here.

Ickle :cool:

ah cool thanks

Naid23

Hi Ladies,

Is there any more meet ups being organised for Dublin soon?

Im pretty much in the same boat, never really had many female friends and got messed around quite a bit by my last ''best friend'' so am shy and sorta uncomfortable trusting new girls that I meet. I'm only 22 and it kills me when I see big groups of girls having a good time and that.

This post has really made my day, don't feel as alone now!..

Boo!!

Naid23 wrote: »

I'm only 22 and it kills me when I see big groups of girls having a good time and that.

I'm the exact same, in my final year of college & I see people hanging out with friends everywhere or heading out, I feel like a real loner I'd love to have that!

Addie009

Yea am the same:( like I have so many friends that are guys but nothing beats having girlfriends that u can go out with and have the usual girly chats and all. Feels good to not feel like a loner and am happy am not the only one. so do you guys want to make an arrangement to meet up somewere and get to know one another and stuffs like that. Were in dublin are u's at?

Naid23

Addie009 wrote: »

so do you guys want to make an arrangement to meet up somewere and get to know one another and stuffs like that. Were in dublin are u's at?

Yeah thats sounds good to me. Im in Dublin 12 but can get anywhere in Dub easily enough. What about you?

Addie009

Oh ok dats just awesome then am in dublin 10 and can get anywere easily aswel do u want to pm me or I could if u want, sowe can arrange something?

Naid23

gmac102 wrote: »

thanks but im based in dublin hope it goes well for you's tho

Hi Gmac102,

Just wondering if you are still interested in meeting up with people in Dublin!?.

Snoopy1

Hey
I'm interested in meeting people from Dublin
I'm 32 which is scary

Naid23

Snoopy1 wrote: »

Hey
I'm interested in meeting people from Dublin
I'm 32 which is scary

Ah Snoopy1, dnt be worrying, Age means nothing PM me and I'll let ya know whats happenning if ya want!

ScarbCakes

Recently a friend of mine told me that any female friends of hers that meet me instantly hate me

But she couldn't give a reason.
I really need more female friends. I only have 1 close female friend. Guys are great and all but they just don't understand/give great advice on some things.

Snoopy1

ScarbCakes wrote: »

Recently a friend of mine told me that any female friends of hers that meet me instantly hate me

But she couldn't give a reason.
I really need more female friends. I only have 1 close female friend. Guys are great and all but they just don't understand/give great advice on some things.

I got ya.
I work with loads of men, and definitely cant ask their advice on things.
Thats why im looking for female friends.

Naid23

Snoopy1 wrote: »

I got ya.
I work with loads of men, and definitely cant ask their advice on things.
Thats why im looking for female friends.

Snap!!... Im the only girl on a team of 15 in my place!.. Not even so much as a gay guy to get me by lol... Doesnt help either that there all 6+ years older then me!

ScarbCakes, are you in Dublin!?

ScarbCakes

Snoopy1 wrote: »

I got ya.
I work with loads of men, and definitely cant ask their advice on things.
Thats why im looking for female friends.

Some of my best friends are guys but sometimes "ah just get over it" or "tell him you want to shag him" just won't do lol!

ScarbCakes

Naid23 wrote: »

Snap!!... Im the only girl on a team of 15 in my place!.. Not even so much as a gay guy to get me by lol... Doesnt help either that there all 6+ years older then me!

ScarbCakes, are you in Dublin!?

Yep, Dublin 8

msbusterpuss

Acacia wrote: »

The general advice for making new friends always seems to be "Join a group"... but there's also people who have tons of friends and never seemed to have joined a group in their life!

Well, I'm not one of those... I've always seemed to drift from group to group, from best friend to best friend. I try not to think about it too much cause it just gets me down. I seem to be at yet another "in-between" group stage, with some of my friends going abroad to work and others I've just drifted apart from for one reason or another. I'm moving in with my boyfriend so I'm moving to a different county and I definitely don't want to be relying on his friends for my social life... I want my own life independent of him.

I just don't know where to to begin. Maybe I'm just not destined for a big group of female friends?

Ditto by a million everything you said here I feel with all my heart.

I am with my other half for 8 years and I definitely dont want to be relying on him for any life that I have. I have a few close female friends - one is married with baby so obvs she has her own stuff going on, one is living abroad - the other one has about a trillion friends so how she even gets the time to fit me in is beyond me! Have one other friend but she too is married and I dont see that often. I just feel so lost sometimes - I would just like to have a constant group of friends not just one here and one there. Have accepted it like acacia has but sometimes it does get in on you.

Naid23

ScarbCakes wrote: »

Yep, Dublin 8

Ah thats good!.. Well a few of us are meeting up next week!.. PM me if your interested

Conor Bourke

Hola girleens! There's a bunch of us organising a meet for drinks in Rathmines the week after next, through the Dublin city forum- feel free to join us! We organised it for the same reasons and yourselves, so if ye fancy a mega-merge, get in touch with me via pm

I'm with Alaskimo-Cake because we're going to organise this Rthmines beers between us! Do you think the mental can cancel itself out when you get two of us in one place?

LegacyUser

Hi I was reading the blog and I too find it very hard to make new friends at the moment I would love to know how to get in touch with a female social group in cork for fun and chats and trips ect ect ect Could someone let me know how to contact a member of the ladies louge. xx thanks xx

Ickle Magoo

Hey angelface31,

In order to contact anyone on boards or become a member of the private LL forum you would have to register and then follow the steps outlined in the charter - or linked in the post at the top of this page.

You could also try the cork regional board but again, you may need to register to post. :cool:

Longford Lass

Ditto!
Another 30 something here thats trying to increase my diminishing social circle due to many of my friends being married/in relationships etc.
Living in Mullingar but struggling to get any interest for a meet up that I suggested in the Region section?
Anyone any other ideas??
Also am familiar with the meetup groups but again, most of the events are based around Dublin unfortunately.

Anyone in the south side of Dublin, we're running a Rathmines beers this coming week (day to be decided, Thursday or Friday) because it seems there are many people in this area looking to make friends! Come over to the Dublin city forum and see "proposed Rathmines beers" thread.

I also have an OH but don't have many local or female friends!

This isn't a shameless plug, by the way, I'm just hoping to help out some people!

saa

Tallaght!

Seriously, such a vast expanses of suburbia and no where to meet people.
I'm looking for people to go walking with in the Kiltipper-Aylesbury-Oldbawn and surrounding areas.

flossie

Carlow girl here (and surrounding areas). Moved back to Ireland 2 years ago, and it seems I bucked the trend as loads of people are now in Oz, NZ, Canada etc.

Looking to meet with people for general catch ups, wine, and activities. Let me know if anyone is around.

Oh, am late 20's BTW

PeefsPixie

Im from Cork myself and feeling really down at the moment as Iv recently broken up with a boyfriend meaning his group of friends that I used to socialise with are obviously no longer an option and I seem to have drifted away from what little friends I had. I guess theyr all just too busy for me. Id love a chance to meet some new people but that seems easier said than done... All social things seem to be centered around sport mostly =/

miss choc

Girls I was in the same situation either friends down home, gone abroad, married, kids etc wanted a new social outlet in Dublin if you check out meetup.com they have a wide range of social groups for all ages, gender and different hobbies in Ireland

CO823

I hear yeah on everything you said ladies. Recently moved to Mullingar and need to find a new social group of friends, any suggestions?? Kind of hard to make new friends in an area you don't really know. Just myself and boyfriend moved so a girlie chat wouldn't go a stray TBH.

loupsy

Hi im in North Dublin, use to have a big circle of friends but to be honest with everyone going abroad or away the circle getting smaller and smaller!!I have kids but women at school dont really want to let anyone else in to their "click". Would love to meet someone to have a coffee with every now and again or go for a walk in evenings with now and again, to be honest new to this so if anyone could suggest anything i would be delighted !!:)

Deep Purple

Hi everyone.

I see that this thread was started a while ago but I suppose I'll just add my own post to it anyways.
I am a relatively new poster here so am not 100 % sure how it exactly works.
Basically I would like to find a way to meet new lady friends. The old story I guess where I have lost a few too many of my mates to emigration, marriage or just a busy living. I think I have wanted to ignore the subject ( me nearly friendless??, no!!) I am 31 myself, based in Dublin. I'm under the impression that majority of "boarders" are in early20s.. If meeting people here around my own age is a possibility I 'd certainly like to give it a go because to be honest I don't really know where to start from... but I certainly need to do something!

Any kind of feedback is appreciated! x

Lia_lia

I find it easy to make female friends but difficult to remain friends with them as girls generally piss me off. They are just so...girly! Especially cliques of girly friends...never been in one of those. Everyone just bitches about each other. It's so silly.


That's my only contribution.