Lonely people in wexford

chieftan65

Hi folks. I have noticed from my job in the community that there are a great deal of people around wexford town and county who are actually very lonely and dont have a social life. I am not just talking about old people who live alone, though there are a lot of these too. I'm talking about people from their mid 30's to early 60s who for whatever reason now find themselves alone.

An increasing number of people now in that age bracket may have just come out of long term relationships or failed marriages and now find that the whole social scene is completely different from what they remember. The friends they once had and who they enjoyed socialising with are now either married or moved away and this leaves people with a choice. either stay by themselves and hope that something or someone comes along or get out there and try to make new friends. Neither one is a great choice and can prove very difficult.

So with this in mind myself and a couple of friends decided to try do something about it. We are not completely sure how to go about it though. The idea we are looking at right now is to get a data base together of names, address's, phone numers, interests and so on. then organise regular nights out or day trips or just meet and greet coffee mornings. We are not planning on charging for any of this, its not a commercial venture, we just thought there may be a need in this county for this sort of group. If anyone has any better ideas for this or if your interested in joining up and get the ball rolling then please leave your comments here or send a private message if you find it easier.
Thanks for listening

zenno

chieftan65 wrote: »

Hi folks. I have noticed from my job in the community that there are a great deal of people around wexford town and county who are actually very lonely and dont have a social life. I am not just talking about old people who live alone, though there are a lot of these too. I'm talking about people from their mid 30's to early 60s who for whatever reason now find themselves alone.

An increasing number of people now in that age bracket may have just come out of long term relationships or failed marriages and now find that the whole social scene is completely different from what they remember. The friends they once had and who they enjoyed socialising with are now either married or moved away and this leaves people with a choice. either stay by themselves and hope that something or someone comes along or get out there and try to make new friends. Neither one is a great choice and can prove very difficult.

So with this in mind myself and a couple of friends decided to try do something about it. We are not completely sure how to go about it though. The idea we are looking at right now is to get a data base together of names, address's, phone numers, interests and so on. then organise regular nights out or day trips or just meet and greet coffee mornings. We are not planning on charging for any of this, its not a commercial venture, we just thought there may be a need in this county for this sort of group. If anyone has any better ideas for this or if your interested in joining up and get the ball rolling then please leave your comments here or send a private message if you find it easier.
Thanks for listening

sounds good for people once it's not a scam ? names addresses and s*it. other than that it would be very good to get these people to socialize with others. who knows maybe a good friendship can come about out of this.

chieftan65

Zenno.. I appreciate your concern but its not a scam. Its a genuine attempt to help people get out and enjoy themselves and maybe meet new friends. As I stated in my message there is no charge, no fees unless to cover costs of nights out or trips. As for personal details, the reason we thought it would be a good idea to have them is so we would know what people would like to attend and we could contact them personally with details of events. All personal details people give us will be in strictest confidence. The idea behind this is we found there are a lot of people out there from the un-yoke and hydro era who are not old enough to settle for day trips to knock and are not young enough to spend saturday night getting their heads blown off in the stores with the kids. Anyway your imput is appreciated. constructive critism is always good.

zenno

sorry to sound a little unweary but you have clarified this perfectly. yes it would, and will be a great opportunity for people to meet so I congratulate you on trying this out. it is a very constructive and thoughtful thing to do.

vicwatson

Any religious connections to this Chieftain, if it's genuine honest to goodness social respect then it's a great idea, I'm sure there are similar organisations in other counties maybe you could look at that and see if there are and link up with them about the best way of going about setting the whole thing up?

Best of luck

chieftan65

No connections of any kind. Its just a social group for people who would like to meet friends and have some company. It caters for all religions nationalities and sexes. I imagine there are similar groups all over the country but as far as i know none exist in wexford. We are planning on concentrating on our own county first and get people connecting with others. Thanks for your suggestion they are always welcome

Fergality

Wexford is literally a shadow of its former self these days, it's really quite sad. So many people have emigrated, or left the county in search of work there is literally nobody left around. I myself am moving back down this Autumn and I thank God I've still got plenty of friends and a girlfriend down there - I would dread having to meet new folk in that town!

Mahatma coat

I've recently returned from Australia, this thread sums up perfectlythe issue I have with meting new people (altho it may have something to do with being PuckUgly and having no social graces:D:D)

where do I sign up??????

axlrosx

Can really identify with this situation. would love to meet new people to socialize with. How do I sign up?

chieftan65

Hi Folks.
Sorry for not getting back sooner just back from holiday. I'm glad to inform you our idea has taken shape and there is quiet a bit of interest so far. We are in the process of organising a get together in wexford town in the very near future. Anyone interested in giving us your details and being added to our mailing list can contact me here by private message. All information will be in strictest privacy and numbers will only be used by ourselves to inform people of upcoming events. Thank you for your interest and we will be in touch soon.

CuteOne

Me too please. PM sent.

jamesozzie

great idea, I would love to hear more about it!

axlrosx

PM sent

ceez

Fergality wrote: »

Wexford is literally a shadow of its former self these days, it's really quite sad. So many people have emigrated, or left the county in search of work there is literally nobody left around. I myself am moving back down this Autumn and I thank God I've still got plenty of friends and a girlfriend down there - I would dread having to meet new folk in that town!

Just finished college - I have no one. I hate this county

tumble

Good idea - PM sent

vicwatson

Just finished college - I have no one. I hate this county

Send a PM !;)

Mahatma coat

I sent a PM ages ago, but nothing happened, Are the rest of ye all meeting up and having exciting adventures without me

SisterBliss

You might want to check out Meetup.com. A more reliable, convenient and practical way of getting people together I think... Without having to get personal details.

I've set up a group in the Gorey area - http://www.meetup.com/Gorey-Movie-Buffs/

hellodolly

Totally agree, rural Wexfod sucks big-time for the singles ... PM sent

lorrie1

Hi, just wondering if you ever joined up with this social club, was interested myself could do with socializing some more (-:

axlrosx wrote: »

Can really identify with this situation. would love to meet new people to socialize with. How do I sign up?

hellodolly

No, nothing ever came of it from what I can figure. I sent a private message just like everyone else but got nothing back. Try meetup.com and put in your local area. I joined a local movie club through it. Something to do once a month.

SisterBliss

Hi, I did join the walking club which I found pretty good so I would recommend.

I've actually set up a movie club in Gorey if it's of any interest to you... it's on Meetup.com

chieftan65

Sorry folks for not replying sooner. We were giving this thing time to generate more support, sadly it hasn't happened. We had very little interest in this project so unfortunately we decided not to go ahead with it. obviously not as many lonely people in wexford as we assumed, which is good news. all the best to everyone and thank you to the people who were supportive.

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roswex09

Such a pity this never took off, I can identify with this as I am separated for a number of years myself and all my friends have husbands or partners. I would love to join a club to meet new people in Wexford whether it be sports, dance or just a meet up every so often for people in the same situation. Anyone got any information on any clubs or meet ups in Wexford please?

KaylaK369

Hi everyone,

I think Facebook is a great way to start socializing with people. Often if you just search 'Dance Wexford' in the search bar or 'Photography Group Wexford', you will find something of your interest. Sending 'Friend Requests' to old friends and of course family members is a great idea, as you can chat with them in an informal way and perhaps organize lunch out or a trip to the cinema etc.

An idea which is suited to probably 90% of people, is finding someone to go on evening walks with. Sticking up a small note in the local shop or again, on Facebook is a sure-fire way to find a partner. Even get the word out amongst family and friends! This gives one the opportunity to have a chat every evening, and the most important thing, getting around and out of the house!

I would also advice going to the local community center and reading the posts on the notice-board, I'm sure there will be something such as a coffee morning that goes on of a weekly basis. T
hose of you who are interested in religion, attending the local service is a good way to meet people, as often there is a 'clean up the church (etc.)' announcement at which people come down for a couple of hours to lend a hand and have a chat.

Please let me know if you try any of these, or if anyone needs help setting up a Facebook account!

Good luck everyone, and remember to be brave

arienlass

Great Suggestions Kaylak 369. There is a Walking group starting in Rosslare on 21st jan at 7 pm on week evenings to start with, Look up the group by searching Rosslare Walks and if interested click Join and you will be kept updated on what is happening.

arienlass

To join Rosslare Walks copy this link into your browser

http://www.facebook.com/?ref=tn_tnmn#!/groups/517423028302561/