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Telling colleague who cannot have children

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  • 17-08-2011 10:14am
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    Knit wit
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    Hi folks,
    I've been on holidays for a few weeks and am due to return to work on sept 1st - i'll be 18/19 weeks so no chance of keeping it quiet.;) the thing is, I work in a small office, with 4 other women - one of who has being ttc for 10 years without success. I dread telling her - I don't want to be insensitive but this is my good news and I don't want to feel bad about being happy. Should I take her aside and tell her before everyone else or not make an issue of it and just announce to the whole office at coffee break ... Suggestions greatly appreciated.


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    xzanti
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    Congrats :)

    I think pulling her aside would be a bad idea, you'll make her feel more uncomforable that way :o, treat her the same as everyone else and share your good news with her in the group. I doubt she'll begrudge you your happiness tbh..

    That would be my take on it anyway..


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    Knit wit
    Registered Users Posts: 285 ✭✭Knit wit


    Thanks xzanti, I think ur right.


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    5 penguins bars
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    I agree it definitely would be the best thing to say it to everyone together.

    Someone took me to one side & told me recently they were pregnant (knowing that I have been trying myself for some time) and they said it in such an apologetic tone it made me feel terrible (for her).

    I knew it had been hard for her to tell me (look of anxiety on her face said it all) and I felt like I was taking the good out of her excitement.
    The ironic thing was I was/am genuinely really delighted for her :)

    Congratulations by the way!


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