It's PanDENmonium! [Off Topic Chat]

Vito Corleone

HugsiePie wrote: »

Ive decided I need to stop apologising, especially for things where I am nowhere near in the wrong, I need to stop being a push over, Im way too nice for my own good, I need to start looking out for no.1 instead of putting everyone else before me! Ive come to realise Iam in the exact same position in my life that I was when I was 6, some sh1t needs to seriously change

The reason Iv written it down here is cause if I dont tell someone this I wont reinforce it, it makes it more real here, even if all Im telling this to is a handful of strangers on the internet.

According to a study apologising is bad for self esteem, even if you had something to apologise for. I'm actively trying to stop apologising altogether.

HugsiePie

Vito Corleone wrote: »

According to a study apologising is bad for self esteem, even if you had something to apologise for. I'm actively trying to stop apologising altogether.

WHY ARE YOU HERE

C and H is no place for a grad

Go back home ya mutt

but jeez would you not atleast say sorry when youre in the wrong

if youre actually in the wrong, acknowledging it to the person you hurt is not going to destroy your self esteem
it makes you an egotistical pr1ck if you dont

Vito Corleone

My self esteem is at risk, I am too fragile. Like a fragrant daffodil blowing in the wind.

pajor

HugsiePie wrote: »

WHY ARE YOU HERE

C and H is no place for a grad

Go back home ya mutt

I guess I'll have to fcuk off soon too. :pac:

iamanengine

Oh, you think you can just leave? NOW?

Oh sweet summer child...

:P

Wnolan, or CTYI... lock em up!

pajor

iamanengine wrote: »

Oh, you think you can just leave? NOW?

Oh sweet summer child...

:P

Wnolan, or CTYI... lock em up!

I had to google that to get it. I hate not having enough internet data to watch stuff. :mad:

Ah well.. won't be the case for much longer!

iamanengine

pajor wrote: »

I had to google that to get it. I hate not having enough internet data to watch stuff. :mad:

Ah well.. won't be the case for much longer!

I am a hardcore GoT fanatic it's all good. But srsly, get to watchin it! So good :O

LoonyLovegood

LOL, people who think they can leave.

pajor

CTYIgirl wrote: »

LOL, people who think they can leave.

:eek:

Some film is springing to mind, but not sure what exactly. :pac:

LoveLamps

pajor wrote: »

:eek:

Some film is springing to mind, but not sure what exactly. :pac:

Hunger games?

pajor

LoveLamps wrote: »

Hunger games?

Erm.. I don't think so..

LoveLamps

Lads where did yas get your debs/grad suits? Did any of ye get em online?
And if you dont mind me asking, what did you pay for it (including or excluding shoes) ?
Hungover bed day, may as well look up suits

pajor

LoveLamps wrote: »

Lads where did yas get your debs/grad suits? Did any of ye get em online?
And if you dont mind me asking, what did you pay for it (including or excluding shoes) ?
Hungover bed day, may as well look up suits

Black Tie in Cork. Not too many places for suit hire, so nearly all of us went there.

Was €90 I think.

Which was 4 years ago. I feel old.

Slow Show

I think buying a suit rather than renting is a really worthwhile investment, it feels like there's a suit-up occasion once a month in college. And no one's ever gonna be like 'ermaaahgerd he's worn that same suit like four times now, how embarrassing'. As to where to get this suit and prices, I have no idea.

/female opinion

iamanengine

Junco Partner wrote: »

Love dies and people are weak.

You just need to dust yourself off and keep on keeping on.

Damn Junco, that is dark!

LoveLamps

pajor wrote: »

Black Tie in Cork. Not too many places for suit hire, so nearly all of us went there.

Was €90 I think.

Which was 4 years ago. I feel old.

Was gonna buy one but thanks!

iamanengine

I hope to one day own a vast array of suits and it shall be glorious. And by vast array I mean more than 5.

HugsiePie

Slow Show wrote: »

I think buying a suit rather than renting is a really worthwhile investment, it feels like there's a suit-up occasion once a month in college. And no one's ever gonna be like 'ermaaahgerd he's worn that same suit like four times now, how embarrassing'. As to where to get this suit and prices, I have no idea.

/female opinion

I haven't had to wear a suit on any occasion since my grad :pac:

But seriously tho.....I haven't been to anything all year that would require a guy to wear a suit
....what do you be at :P

Pigwidgeon

I don't know where you are but my boyfriend bought suits recently in Kildare village. He get a French connection one for €150. There were loads of decent ones for similar prices.

Slow Show

HugsiePie wrote: »

I haven't had to wear a suit on any occasion since my grad :pac:

But seriously tho.....I haven't been to anything all year that would require a guy to wear a suit
....what do you be at :P

Ah like there's balls and after-parties and whatnot, once a month is probably a vast over-exaggeration but a lot of the guys I knew in college this year seemed to use any excuse at all to go out wearing a suit. Not complaining tbh, big fan of the suit!

wnolan1992

FWIW, I'd say don't buy a suit for your Debs. It's likely going to get destroyed (depending on how your school does Debs, ours was a 13 hour drinking marathon...).

I guess you could buy a cheap ass one that you don't really need to look after, might come in handy for balls at college and stuff, but idk, I wouldn't be spending too much on it really.

I got rented mine for €90 including shoes and some yoke for the girl.

About the only thing about my Debs that I got right...

eoins23456

Buying a suit is probably a good investment all right

Junco Partner

iamanengine wrote: »

Damn Junco, that is dark!

Not trying to be dark just trying to be brutally supportive.!

MauraTheThird

On my way to Lyon at last, detoxing from life. Whooooooo
Day 1 of travelling down, tomorrow will be the real adventure! Trying to fly to Lyon by myself and making my way to my friends place of work is going to be a real adventure!!!

This is me trying to dust myself off Junco!

Breakups are **** but this is the worst I've ever felt so hence the ongoing drama!

iamanengine

wnolan1992 wrote: »

FWIW, I'd say don't buy a suit for your Debs. It's likely going to get destroyed (depending on how your school does Debs, ours was a 13 hour drinking marathon...).

I guess you could buy a cheap ass one that you don't really need to look after, might come in handy for balls at college and stuff, but idk, I wouldn't be spending too much on it really.

I got rented mine for €90 including shoes and some yoke for the girl.

About the only thing about my Debs that I got right...

My debs sucked too bro, it's all good!

HugsiePie

iamanengine wrote: »

My debs sucked too bro, it's all good!

Can I join the sucky debs parade too

LoveLamps

Aw guys youre getting me all excited......

iamanengine

LoveLamps wrote: »

Aw guys youre getting me all excited......

Mine was only bad cos my gf couldn't go which, at the time, sucked.

Jhcx

iamanengine wrote: »

Mine was only bad cos my gf couldn't go which, at the time, sucked.

What seriously. Who does that. I went to the ex's out of being a pure gentleman. But ya my own one sucked out in the back ass of no where

HugsiePie

Jhcx wrote: »

What seriously. Who does that. I went to the ex's out of being a pure gentleman. But ya my own one sucked out in the back ass of no where

Mine was grand on the night

The following morning pics showed my friends to be liars and backstabbers #girldrama

pajor

HugsiePie wrote: »

Mine was grand on the night

The following morning pics showed my friends to be liars and backstabbers #girldrama

It happens to guys too.

pajor

Remember kids..

LoonyLovegood

Because of the suit discussion.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6RK47Ex03EM

pajor

There's an HIMYM OST? Oh dear.

HugsiePie

CTYIgirl wrote: »

Because of the suit discussion.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6RK47Ex03EM

Barney + singing = ♥♡♥

LoveLamps

iamanengine wrote: »

Mine was only bad cos my gf couldn't go which, at the time, sucked.

Why couldnt she go? The girl im taking is in thr gaeltacht on the other side of the country for it so shes leaving the gaeltacht for 3 days to go to my grad and then going back haha

HugsiePie

pajor wrote: »

It happens to guys too.

Ive heard of it but I only though it was a myth. A legend. Are you telling me guy drama is real o.O

pajor

HugsiePie wrote: »

Ive heard of it but I only though it was a myth. A legend. Are you telling me guy drama is real o.O

Oh no, no drama. :pac: Backstabbers and liars is true though. Very true. Thieves too.

iamanengine

HugsiePie wrote: »

Barney + singing = ♥♡♥

The actually video of that in the episode is on YouTube somewhere it makes it so much more epic!!

Jhcx wrote: »

What seriously. Who does that. I went to the ex's out of being a pure gentleman. But ya my own one sucked out in the back ass of no where

LoveLamps wrote: »

Why couldnt she go? The girl im taking is in thr gaeltacht on the other side of the country for it so shes leaving the gaeltacht for 3 days to go to my grad and then going back haha

We wernt allowed to bring dates to ours cos our school is stupid as hell, only our year can go.
Obviously the gf wanted to go but actually wasn't allowed :P

pajor

iamanengine wrote: »

We wernt allowed to bring dates to ours cos our school is stupid as hell, only our year can go.
Obviously the gf wanted to go but actually wasn't allowed :P

Same. Private school. Woo hoo :rolleyes:

Still didn't even go with anyone from in our year.

LoveLamps

That is ridiculously stupid

LoonyLovegood

LOL, my school didnt have a debs.

wnolan1992

I tend to focus on the negatives of my Debs... One of my friends getting paralytic to the point where he couldn't stand up under his own strength by the end of the night. A girl bawling her eyes out on my shoulder because her date had shifted some girl in front of everyone in the smoking area. The condescending comment from one of the teachers who showed up to the Lodge (that one still hurts...).

Plus the usual angsty hormonal bullsh*t which still plagues my soul to this day... y'know, the "What if she hadn't been going out with someone at the time..." unanswerable question..


Basically, Debs are wasted on Leaving Certs because you're all f*cking teenagers who don't realise none of it matters. You'll probably see at most (and this is on the high side probably) half of those people again. Even less you'll actively stay in touch with for a while. Even less you'll still call "friends" in a year. If I could go back now, knowing what I know now, it could have been an epic night. But no. Just nothing but a string of what ifs and maybes.


Oh, this post also explains why I have an undying hatred for The Lodge... :P

Junco Partner

wnolan1992 wrote: »

You'll probably see at most (and this is on the high side probably) half of those people again. Even less you'll actively stay in touch with for a while. Even less you'll still call "friends" in a year.

:P

I think I'm in weekly contact with maybe 2 people from my graduating class of 60 plus people. talk to another 10 or so whenever I go back to Tipperary for visits. Don't think I've spoken to the rest in the 3 years since I've left. :pac:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=foyAOoVagWw

Lies all lies!

Jhcx

Junco Partner wrote: »

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MrZwytGI9-E

Lies all lies!

Fixed. Love that song

So told my gran about my relationship status. Not impressed to say the least. she wants to see mini me's in the future. Hold up. please slow down im only 21. :pac:

Pigwidgeon

I left 5 years ago this year (fúck I'm old) out of the 150 I'd say I'm still very good friends with one person, still in contact with 10 or so but work and stuff makes it difficult to stay in touch the first year or so we all stayed in touch a lot but as people make friends in college, get into relationships and move away most of us drifted apart. We meet for dinner every month or two but that's usually it. The people I would have been best friends for life I haven't spoken to in two years, turns out some people are judgemental when you drop out of college. Although at the moment I'd say I have 4 very close friends and tbh that's enough. Free time is much rarer these days! Enjoy college/school/summer holidays while you can kids!

pajor

Out of 50 people in my year, I'm still in contact with zero.

Secondary school was where I was moulded as the person that I am, for the worst. TY was easily the most miserable experience of my life ever. I've kept having awful dreams (not quite nightmares, but close) about school.

I really hate when this sh*t gets raked up in my head every so often.

bluejay14

Since graduting exactly a year ago yesterday, I'm still like best friends with one girl, have had all of two conversations with other people and am fairly friendly with one of the girls who was in the year above us. Our whole TY group just seemed to make no effort and have completely disintegrated. I moved to Dublin for college knowing not a single soul in the city apart from my brother. No wonder I completely broke down last night at the prospects of my summer. One of the lads posted a photo earlier of what was the front door of our apartment building, which my bedroom window was right above, and nearly set me off again. Bleak times ahead. Bleak.

iamanengine

From 1st year onwards we had a group of about 6 lads and I would still consider them to be best friends to this day, even though I don't see them that much, some living like 6 hours away due to college and stuff but while I may not see one or two of them for like 6 months when I do see them it's like nothing has changed. Went through too much **** with them lads to forget about them, even if we do have our different groups now and so on!

Pretty lucky in that regard I guess.

Peanut Butter Jelly

The prep has began for my 18th. Yis are all invited!