Do you mind being single?

foxyboxer

tallaghtmick wrote: »

90% male 10 % female it would either be a massive gangbang or just fellas fighting over the few women there:p:D

A Ladies Lounge/ Gentlemens Club meet up?

tallaghtmick

foxyboxer wrote: »

A Ladies Lounge/ Gentlemens Club meet up?

Ill let you organise it

ToxicPaddy

py2006 wrote: »

I often go for a coffee somewhere on my own which is fine!! You can watch the world go by and eye up the talent without getting a slap in the face! lol

I love doing this anyway when single or in a relationship...

ToxicPaddy

foxyboxer wrote: »

A Ladies Lounge/ Gentlemens Club meet up?

That could be "ahem" interesting..

KTRIC

32 and single for 3 months today (seems longer) and chasing skirt for most of it.

I'm enjoying most of it to be honest apart from waking up beside someone, I find that the hardest bit.

Wibbs

krudler wrote: »

too much drama, compromise, psychotic behaviour and more drama involved. single life is simple and fun.

This actually. Drama was a weekly thing with some. Not high level stuff, just low level stuff for the most part with the odd foray into WTF. I think some men are just better at handling/ignoring it. I used to be, but now would be sensitive to it. Even pathologically so. I find it terribly irritating. A hippie type lass I know reckoned some men at some times through their lives can't deal with female "energy"(told you she's a hippie:)). I'd go along with that. Not with women mates funny enough. I'm fine there. Prefer them in many ways. But girlfriends? No. And 9 times outa 10 they change when you add the "girl" to the "friend" bit. I've some women mates, sounder people you couldn't meet. Zero drama. But I'd hate to be their boyfriends.

Will

I find I'm a lot more relaxed when single, some of the points Wibbs touches on there reminded me of some past experiences that I don't want a repeat of. In fact I still don't think I'm ready to be back in a relationship. Happy out doing what I do and with who I am.

ceez

tallaghtmick wrote: »

90% male 10 % female it would either be a massive gangbang or just fellas fighting over the few women there:p:D

Might make good banter though

ToxicPaddy wrote: »

That could be "ahem" interesting..

and it could end up being very interesting

py2006

ceez wrote: »

Might make good banter though

I doubt many from the LL would come out to play!

ceez

py2006 wrote: »

I doubt many from the LL would come out to play!

You could be very surprised - we could outnumber yee

Dravokivich

ceez wrote: »

You could be very surprised - we could outnumber yee

That's near enough happened before at an AH beers last year. Loads of women from tLL just came out of nowhere.

Will

They're looking and reporting back to their private forum on developments around boards on a regular basis

sunflower27

sunflower27 wrote: »

Awww, I go for meals on my own. I wouldn't find it strange or anything and so what if other people do. Just because you are single, doesn't mean you can't enjoy a nice meal out on your own.

While i don't mind the principle of anyone going out on their own, I have to say meals is not something I'd do on my own. Movies or coffees or anything else sure, but I always think of meals being for socialising than the actual food!

ceez

Will wrote: »

They're looking and reporting back to their private forum on developments around boards on a regular basis

mwhaha

krudler

Wibbs wrote: »

This actually. Drama was a weekly thing with some. Not high level stuff, just low level stuff for the most part with the odd foray into WTF. I think some men are just better at handling/ignoring it. I used to be, but now would be sensitive to it. Even pathologically so. I find it terribly irritating. A hippie type lass I know reckoned some men at some times through their lives can't deal with female "energy"(told you she's a hippie:)). I'd go along with that. Not with women mates funny enough. I'm fine there. Prefer them in many ways. But girlfriends? No. And 9 times outa 10 they change when you add the "girl" to the "friend" bit. I've some women mates, sounder people you couldn't meet. Zero drama. But I'd hate to be their boyfriends.

I got dumped once by someone because there was no drama between us, apparently a healthy adult relationship should have silent treatment spells and roaring arguments to keep things "interesting". I've never been so glad to be dumped in my life. Theres nothing wrong with airing issues, thats healthy. or the occasional argument, it happens, but for them to be necessary to keep the relationship interesting? fcuk that noise.

I genuinely can't be arsed with the silent treatment thing anymore, if completely puts me off someone, fine, we argued, lets take few hours, cool down, come back and talk about it. but this "I wont text or call you for a few days then meet you with a wall of hostility until I decide its time for cuddles again at some stage and it all blows over" thing is just beyond childish.

Wolflikeme

I enjoy being single. There have been women, but I've never wanted to take it further than just sex. I guess they're just not right for me for whatever reason, same way I haven't been right for some in the past either. I'd rather just not settle for someone.

I think you need to be able to be happy on your own. I don't think it's healthy if you can't. I've seen people get very dependant when they get into a relationship having never been happy by being by themselves.

FloatingVoter

bluewolf wrote: »

While i don't mind the principle of anyone going out on their own, I have to say meals is not something I'd do on my own. Movies or coffees or anything else sure, but I always think of meals being for socialising than the actual food!

Agreed. I have no problem with a few pints or a coffee on my own. Doing this over the paper on a Sunday is highly recommended for anyone, married, single, anywhere in between. Going out for dinner is different. If I needed to go to a restaurant just to eat, I'd learn to cook. Whoops, I already did.

Eric Cartman

have 0 interest in a relationship at the moment , I have a good few single mates who I can bring out on the lash but as that dries up in future i may be left with no choice , a few of my mates are married and all (early 20s) and I dont know how/why they did it , seems a bit mad to me

parker kent

I'd like to be in a relationship, but I don't mind being single either. No matter how many friends you have, it is always nice to have that one extra special person.

Raze_them_all

I've only bee in a relationship for 2 years of my life so i guess I'm quite happy to be single!

newbee22

24 and single. Sometimes I love it, other times I hate it! Like al my friends are loved up and sometimes I am the 13th wheel:eek::eek: Which isn't fun! Other times then I love it, can completely enjoy myself and go crazy on nights out. I'm not too paniced now about being single but I definitely don't want to live my older years as a crazy cat lady spinster!

Sonics2k

newbee22 wrote: »

24 and single. Sometimes I love it, other times I hate it! Like al my friends are loved up and sometimes I am the 13th wheel:eek::eek: Which isn't fun! Other times then I love it, can completely enjoy myself and go crazy on nights out. I'm not too paniced now about being single but I definitely don't want to live my older years as a crazy cat lady spinster!

Ah sure you're only young yet.

I'm an old man at 26 :pac: !!

newbee22

Do I have 2 years left so before I should start to panic?!!:eek::eek::eek:

Snowie

Im 29 and Im single should I be worried about something ?

wolf moon

My OH went away for 2 weeks recently and it was enough to drive me crazy. I couldn't stand it any longer. I couldn't be single, I have to a have a woman I love around.

Snowie

Dravokivich wrote: »

That's near enough happened before at an AH beers last year. Loads of women from tLL just came out of nowhere.

Yep and vin deasil what HOT conversation :pac:

Wibbs

Snow-Monkey wrote: »

Im 29 and Im single should I be worried about something ?

I'm 45 and I'm single and I'm not worried at all on that score. If I meet a woman that wants to share my life and I want to share hers as equals, then cool, if not I really don;t want the alternative. The alternative I see around me among mates my age and younger(in both sexes).

longhalloween

parker kent wrote: »

I'd like to be in a relationship, but I don't mind being single either. No matter how many friends you have, it is always nice to have that one extra special person.

Thats the one thing I miss most bout relationships, its always having that one person you can call up no matter what and go for adventures with.

Will

Wibbs wrote: »

I'm 45 and I'm single and I'm not worried at all on that score. If I meet a woman that wants to share my life and I want to share hers as equals, then cool, if not I really don;t want the alternative. The alternative I see around me among mates my age and younger(in both sexes).

That's the way I'm thinking sort of, on a less serious note I mean. If there's no girl that tickles my fancy I'm not going to waste my time, or hers by getting into a relationship just for the sake of not being alone.

Wibbs

Will wrote: »

That's the way I'm thinking sort of, on a less serious note I mean. If there's no girl that tickles my fancy I'm not going to waste my time, or hers by getting into a relationship just for the sake of not being alone.

+1 W Good advice for guys and in a way even moreso for the ladies, who can be right effin eejits for the "getting into a relationship just for the sake of not being alone" mindset. I'd say at least half the women I've known have been like that. Scared rigid of being marked out as "single" and therefore a failure. I say bollocks.

I'm 22, female & single.

Ive been single for over a year-ish now.

And, although I do love all the relationshipy things..

I am pretty happy right now. I always had a problem with commitment..
I prefer to just drift. . Plus imo, im way too young to be in a long term relationship.. uck.. I even hate the "r" word.

Just not for me right now.

krudler

Wibbs wrote: »

+1 W Good advice for guys and in a way even moreso for the ladies, who can be right effin eejits for the "getting into a relationship just for the sake of not being alone" mindset. I'd say at least half the women I've known have been like that. Scared rigid of being marked out as "single" and therefore a failure. I say bollocks.

Indeed, I'd rather be single for years and happy than together with someone "for the sake of it" of course being in relationships is good when they're good, but when they go bad, sweet jesus its headwrecking. you definitely have less time for bullsh1t the more experienced you are the more relationships you have under your belt though, can see pretty quickly if someone is crazy or controlling.

KyussBishop

Happy being single for the moment; not looking to get into another relationship for a long time (though wouldn't rule it out, if I met someone I really liked).

I echo what others say about drama; last relationship was a disaster in that regard, so I have a hair-pin trigger for any kind of drama now, life's too short to be dealing with that on a regular basis.

krudler wrote:

I got dumped once by someone because there was no drama between us, apparently a healthy adult relationship should have silent treatment spells and roaring arguments to keep things "interesting". I've never been so glad to be dumped in my life. Theres nothing wrong with airing issues, thats healthy. or the occasional argument, it happens, but for them to be necessary to keep the relationship interesting? fcuk that noise.

I genuinely can't be arsed with the silent treatment thing anymore, if completely puts me off someone, fine, we argued, lets take few hours, cool down, come back and talk about it. but this "I wont text or call you for a few days then meet you with a wall of hostility until I decide its time for cuddles again at some stage and it all blows over" thing is just beyond childish.

Haha, yes I don't understand this at all, some people seem to just live for drama, and are unable to deal with conflict in a healthy/rational way; as I said above, life's too short

Snowie

Wibbs wrote: »

I'm 45 and I'm single and I'm not worried at all on that score. If I meet a woman that wants to share my life and I want to share hers as equals, then cool, if not I really don;t want the alternative. The alternative I see around me among mates my age and younger(in both sexes).

I apricate that man but i ment it as a joke i just did'nt put the " :P "
I'm happy being single I think its better be single in your mid to late 20s then being in a reletionship I dunno if this makes sense, I know my self better I know what I want and what suits I think, genrally its better to well not play single and not play long term commited relationships.. get some experence but also get to know your self...

You know your self far to many people well they do the oposite......
Things dont always work as people grow older things they want and need seem to change which is perfectly natral....

I dont think people are warned about the fact that as people get older things change...

Feeona

This is a great thread, full of positive stories from people who aren't in relationships. Stories like these need to be heard more often, it would save an awful lot of heartache for people who think life isn't so good because they're not paired up with someone.

Life's friggin' great, and everybody has the same chance of getting the most from it

Xios

longhalloween wrote: »

Thats the one thing I miss most bout relationships, its always having that one person you can call up no matter what and go for adventures with.

I'm with ya there, just having that person to even chat to, you know they'll listen and not try and fob you off to play call of duty or cause she's texting some fella. (which friends tend to do)

foxyboxer

I'm 30 and single. Never had a long term relationship just medium term 'flings'.
I'd like to meet someone who 'complements' me if you will but I'd never compromise just to be seen to be in a relationship.
But in the meantime, I'm content to do what I want when I want and not have to kow-tow to a girlfriend/wife's needs and wants.

The thoughts of pushing a buggy or saturdays spent in B&Q or browsing furniture stores are enough to make me break into a cold sweat. *shudders*

Starscream25

Feeona wrote: »

This is a great thread, full of positive stories from people who aren't in relationships. Stories like these need to be heard more often, it would save an awful lot of heartache for people who think life isn't so good because they're not paired up with someone.

Life's friggin' great, and everybody has the same chance of getting the most from it

i love your possitivity, life is great but apart from that but iv'e never heard a more incorrect comment in my life.

py2006

foxyboxer wrote: »

The thoughts of pushing a buggy or saturdays spent in B&Q or browsing furniture stores are enough to make me break into a cold sweat. *shudders*

Oh god yea!! The whole idea freaks me out too!

py2006

I'm 34, but I am more on a wave length of girls in the mid to late twenties. So I find it hard to meet anyone!!

Altogether now :

"Alllll byyy myyyy self....don't wanna be....allll byyy myyy selffff"

revell

I was pretty happy about being single until I hit my 30s. It becomes very depressing as seeing all my friends are in relationsip or married. The feeling of loneness is corroding my heart. It also makes me tired of doing many things, which would be much more enjoyable doing together. BTW I travel quite often. I was enjoying travelling alone but not any more. Being single for too long is going to trap me inside a cave. I am trying to go out and meet girls but then it just reminds me why I am single...never escape.

gmac102

single about two months for the most part i enjoy it, no hurry to find someone, i feel content the way things are now

revell

py2006 wrote: »

I'm 34, but I am more on a wave length of girls in the mid to late twenties. So I find it hard to meet anyone!!

Altogether now :

"Alllll byyy myyyy self....don't wanna be....allll byyy myyy selffff"

I am interested in more mature (mentally) and sophisticated woman or just not very childish.

@rti-shm@rti

Single at the moment and even though I'd LOVE to say I'm delira with this situation really I'm not. Obv I love all my friends and have plenty of fun hangin out with them but as you get older those really close friendships you have when you're young get fewer and far between as friends meet guys and their partners become their best friends.

I've been single long enough to know at this stage who I am and what I want and I am well capable of being independent and on my own. Kinda think I wouldn't mind someone special to share it all with now though. I've done my single bit.

Someone just out of a LTR said to me recently that I was really lucky because I know who I am, and they'd spent so much of their adult life being someone else's partner they'd no idea what they wanted or who they actually were. So I try remember that when I get a bit fed up......least I haven't spent my adult life in a relationship that didn't work and that I'm probably in a pretty good place for whenever I do find someone that clicks with me

Deedsie

@rti-shm@rti wrote: »

Single at the moment and even though I'd LOVE to say I'm delira with this situation really I'm not. Obv I love all my friends and have plenty of fun hangin out with them but as you get older those really close friendships you have when you're young get fewer and far between as friends meet guys and their partners become their best friends.

I've been single long enough to know at this stage who I am and what I want and I am well capable of being independent and on my own. Kinda think I wouldn't mind someone special to share it all with now though. I've done my single bit.

Someone just out of a LTR said to me recently that I was really lucky because I know who I am, and they'd spent so much of their adult life being someone else's partner they'd no idea what they wanted or who they actually were. So I try remember that when I get a bit fed up......least I haven't spent my adult life in a relationship that didn't work and that I'm probably in a pretty good place for whenever I do find someone that clicks with me

That to me seems a really healthy way of looking at it! It would be way worse to have gone out with someone for years for it all to fall apart.

saorise

I'm a single girl... and i love being single The only downside is the lack of 'coffee'

Raze_them_all

coffee is easy to get, it's just getting a decent cup can be the issue!

amacachi

foxyboxer wrote: »

I'd like to meet someone who 'complements' me if you will but I'd never compromise just to be seen to be in a relationship.
But in the meantime, I'm content to do what I want when I want and not have to kow-tow to a girlfriend/wife's needs and wants.$

Pretty much sums up how I feel. Like there's times when I'd like to have someone around to watch telly with or go for a few drinks or whatever else but when I look at the reality for just about all my mates I sure as hell ain't gonna do what they do/did. It's amazing to see the power a lot of guys will hand over to someone for a roll-around once in a while.

Feeona

Starscream25 wrote: »

i love your possitivity, life is great but apart from that but iv'e never heard a more incorrect comment in my life.

I dunno, I think it's better to hear positive stories than stories that might reinforce negative beliefs that are easily picked up on one's way through life eg you need a partner to be happy.

You're not born wanting a partner, or anything else for that matter, but it's very easy to subscribe to someone else's idea of success whether you want to or not especially if everyone else is following suit.

Malari

amacachi wrote: »

Pretty much sums up how I feel. Like there's times when I'd like to have someone around to watch telly with or go for a few drinks or whatever else but when I look at the reality for just about all my mates I sure as hell ain't gonna do what they do/did. It's amazing to see the power a lot of guys will hand over to someone for a roll-around once in a while.

Is this something that is way more common than I think it is? Guys in relationships who are controlled in lots of ways by their partners? If it is, seems to me they must like it. Because it certainly seems to be a prevailing theme amongst the happily single men here that they don't want to be in a relationship because they don't want a domineering wife or girlfriend, like it's a given