When should your partner put out ?

mattjack

mattjack wrote: »

Before you meet her sisters

or alternatively, when I show her the knife and her place under the floorboards...

stupidusername

mattjack wrote: »

or alternatively, when I show her the knife and her place under the floorboards...

You have me so confused

RonMexico

When you start pawing at her like a dog with a bone.

mattjack

stupidusername wrote: »

You have me so confused

so have I...

MugMugs

RonMexico wrote: »

When you start pawing at her like a dog with a bone.

Bone being the operative word, aye?

Hank_Jones

It's amazing that just because someone puts the words generally accepted into an option, people automatically choose that option.

MugMugs

Hank_Jones wrote: »

It's amazing that just because someone puts the words generally accepted into an option, people automatically choose that option.

Did you?

starlit

Wait at least six months other than that wait till both partners are ready and time is right! No point rushing it and I don't think the line 'its never too early' should come into it.

It has to feel right whether its special or not! there has to be something between partners not just the spark and the sexual chemistry but they both need to click and be attracted to each other, fancy each other, be friends and lovers as well as compatibleness on all levels! And I mean ALL levels!!

Broads.ie

What the fcuk does "put out" mean? As in give you the ride? What the fcuk is "put out" ? What is she putting out, her gee?

Hank_Jones

MugMugs wrote: »

Did you?

If you must know, I voted one month.

Depends on the spacing of the dates really though and the amount of time spent together.

starlit

You have answered your own question there boards buddy!

starlit

Go with gut instinct if it feels right then it is if not then don't. Only go for it when it feels right!

ardinn

The General rule is 7hrs after meeting - this could be one day or over several encounters.

strobe

doovdela wrote: »

Wait at least six months

Is that a typo or do you just date a lot of born again Christians and homosexuals? :pac:

AG2R

6 months when trust and that other ****e is built up

later12

First date. Sorry but sex is important and I have college fees to pay this year. I can't afford to be wasting money on fancy restaurants if it's going to emerge that you suck (badly) in bed.

I know you don't care ladies. I'm mainly talking to myself:P:):(:mad::cool:

Mammanabammana

I have a new partner? :eek: Quick, PM me her phone number!

starlit

strobe wrote: »

Is that a typo or do you just date a lot of born again Christians and homosexuals? :pac:

No not a typo, I am being serious! I was going with the longest option from the poll so went with 6 months if anything I would wait a little longer 8 months to a year if they are willing to wait! I don't date either born again Christians and homosexuals. I am straight as a ruler but tend to date non religious people more than Christians but I am a person who waits for the right time and everything else clicks and has a spark ya.

Whether ready or not to sleep with them I have to be a 100% ok with it. I have to a least fancy them and they fancy me and that we like each other but love is a bonus! Basically they be waiting well after the fifth date! I have to really know them and trust them before devoting myself and my body to them and vice versa if they aren't willing to go by my terms then they aren't worth it!

strobe

doovdela wrote: »

I was going with the longest option from the poll so went with 6 months if anything I would wait a little longer 8 months to a year if they are willing to wait! I don't date either born again Christians and homosexuals. I am straight as a ruler but tend to date non religious people more than Christians but I am a person who waits for the right time and everything else clicks and has a spark ya.

Whether ready or not to sleep with them I have to be a 100% ok with it. I have to a least fancy them and they fancy me and that we like each other but love is a bonus! Basically they be waiting well after the fifth date! I have to really know them and trust them before devoting myself and my body to them and vice versa if they aren't willing to go by my terms then they aren't worth it!

Cool cool. I'm not judging or anything. If it's not too personal could I ask what age you are (roughly)? Also would you expect them to remain celibate for the six months to a year? Like if you found out they had a ONS during the time, would you consider it cheating? Ehh, I have another couple of questions but I don't want to come across as a nosy bastard, I'm just intrigued.

starlit

If it feels right then ya length of time shouldn't matter!

starlit

strobe wrote: »

Cool cool. I'm not judging or anything. If it's not too personal could I ask what age you are (roughly)? Also would you expect them to remain celibate for the six months to a year? Like if you found out they had a ONS during the time, would you consider it cheating? Ehh, I have another couple of questions but I don't want to come across as a nosy bastard, I'm just intrigued.

Oh no worries! Really. You can PM if you like if there are any questions you wish to ask.

I am mid to late 20's! In my own mind I think that it is right for me but I cannot say when it be the right time, depends on person, situation and compatibility whether we agree on the celibate thing it depends. I go with 6-12 months roughly as it takes a lot longer to get to know someone than people realise and I take a while to trust people fully I am very cautious like that!

I wouldn't expect them to stay celibate depends how serious we are. Then again you can do other things than have sex like! Surely that can compensate for a few months, its the build up to the real thing is important! I would consider them have a ONS cheating in my eyes if we were serious but if we were seeing each other as well as other people like a casually seeing each other maybe open kind of relationship then I be ok with it up to a certain point, he get to have sex, once I get to know him I be happy to move things along and then make it more serious and get to that stage of moving to the next level etc.

But it all depends on the guy and the relationship in question. I am just looking at it in a general view things could be different when dating and in a relationship. Like if things fell into place, after a month be ok...but honestly the first date or after meeting no way, ONS not for me! A bit of fun ya but no sex no no!

If he don't respect my wishes he don't respect me then its his loss my gain!

YBTurbo

Took 7 months with the X to finally ram it home (Town Park by the way :cool:)

A week later I found out she cheated so she got dumped.


TBH it depends on the two people involved, some see it as just sex others see it as a way of bonding with someone they like so obviously would take a bit longer.