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How is your mental health
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Adamantium wrote: »My angle on mental health is lightly different
My current mental state is based on physicla problem
this is a long story and am,depressed about my future but its improving if theres a hell, it ain't much worse than what i've experienced
Completed leaving cert in 2008 did science in college, dropped in january 2009 and went through plenty of research to make sure the right choice
October 2009: in college studying another degree, having the time of my life FINALLY after so much uncertainity before that,
i genuniely could not have been happier, i was loving every moment and felt blessed my parents had given me a 2nd chance, great housemates, amy first real girlfriendfriends, a loving family, i'd finally come into my own after secondary school
everything was in place and then i work on morning with a feeling in my left eye ONLY as if a contacts lenses was out of place
went to doctor after doctor, opthmalogist prescribed drops couldn't find anything wrong, eye feels if it has pressure, HEADACHE,dry pain, disorientated, i'm always in pain, groogy can't hold a conversation because of it, can't wear lenses in that eye, one said it was all psychological, and well lets just say i felt angry
i used to be so bubbly and outgoing and this has totally stripped me of all energy, social life is gone to hell, people say"ah sure its just a headache" :mad: "you don't look sick"
I was exams cos i can't focus and study for them(august repeats) when i know i've the ABILITY to learn but amn't able and i want to repeat the years in
I feel the world just flying by people complain about the tiniest of problems, well i just think "jesus u have it so so easy, would you like chronic pain and see how you live with it?"
when i look at the famine in somalia, i think "wow, finally they're reporting real problems" you know?
Its made me doubt everything, god, life, society , the whole damn lot, i've pretty lost my faith in god,
I've so much to give the world and this problem is absolutely holding me back and i'm afraid i'll be some old man regreting life's missed oppurtunities.
Thank god i've supportive parents but i'm sure they're getting sick of my constant self loathing too and constant bills to consultants
Its not that i don't want too help myself, its just i can't!!! I can't make progress no matter what i do!
now i'm seeing a neurologist and he's prescribing pills to ease the pain and it does hep , ther are moments times of the day when the pain subsides eases and then in for maybe only a few minutes i feel momentary relief somewhat. Let me tell you appreciate how amazing life is pain free, its a gift that i appreciated before, but really didn't understand in a literal sense (id that makes any sense
I'm at home now, i took the year off as i SWORE I would not "just live with it", and go through another year of collegelike that, because its simply not a choice, yesterday i had a blood tests and i'll have an MRI tomorrow afternoon and even that is given me some hope, i'm currently doing a fetac in an area i'm interested close(i don't care if i pass or fail) but i find its very hard to relate to peers when you feel this way,
your mind is constantly at war with the physical pain (not being melodramatic) nobody can truly understand how powerful the human spirt is when you must wake up and go to bed feeling the same the whole time, you
But as awful as it is, it also taught me resevoirs of maturity,humility and i now really appreciate the extraordinary chances in every moment to be what we want and do whatever we can do (not being cheesy and I mean every word of it), I feel i have the wisdom of a 60 year in my 20 year old body and I REALLY will live every day as if its my last sunset
and I know one day soon I'l be free and I REALLY will live every day as if its my last sunset and i could write a biography a mile high because of it, climb mountains, travel
The only thing that really gets on my goat is the inability of people to appreciate boredom, "I'm bored", i appreciate all moments noweven if i can't participate fully in them , stop reaching for happiness in the future ! People have so much untapped potential and they don't realise it
That was theuraputic and probably to serious for AH and probably belonged in PI.
Next year, i hope to be a new man reborn, that'd be the most beautiful 21'st birthday i could ever get
Best of luck with the MRI tomorrow
I was put on 200mg of Seroquel today by the consultant psych in the clinic,he said if that doesn't make any difference to me by Monday then he'll recommend me going back into hospital for a few days.0 -
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Had bad bouts of post natal depression after my first and last child.
Took me a while to open up about it, but finally plucked up the courage to see my doctor this last time round and am currently on medication for the depression.
It's a slow road back to being who I once was, but hopefully I'm on the right road 0 -
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History of serious depression in my family so always get asked mental health qs in the docs even if I go for a tummyache, but happy to say the noggin is in good nick
I know people say happiness is a choice, and to an extent I really believe that-if Im down Ill ''make'' myslef happy and pull myself outta it, but Im a very optmisitic person naturally. I always wondered how it must feel to literally not be in control of your own emotions/mind-I remember someone close to me explaining how its like being a prisoner in your own head.constantly trying to find a key,looking at the world through bars but not being able to join it...scary really.0 -
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Yeah Bi-Polar can be a ****-one, but on the up-side, there is nothing more euphoric than riding the crest of a manic upswing. Oh yeah !!!
Thats probably true but the fallout from it is really distroying (for my mother it is anyway). Shes manic at the mo, went to hospital off her own back for the first time but its not as good as it sounds... she is constantly out of the hospital - going to shops and robbing stuff, drinking and when I say she should stay in the ward she says "sure they cant stop me going anywhere I'm a voluntary patient!!" and the sad thing is its true and she knew that they cant keep her confined. Shes off home this weekend again till monday, just given a massive perscription and off she goes even though they know she lives alone in a sh!thole of an estate where all the scumbags become her best friend when shes sick because she will give them her tablets.
Its the same thing every year, I honestly cant remember when she had a 'normal' month and im the one who has to deal with it but even though the highs are terrible the lows are even worse. You'd think it gets easier every year but it doesn't. I feel so sorry for people who have to live with this illness
As to my mental health - think its ok considering that and my own stress
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Unemployment is having a serious affect on me
hopefully it won't last much longer
Unemployed since 2009, I feel like shít, not eating or sleeping properly. Not able to remain interested in anything for too long and not in the mood to see any of my friends.
My company all day is my toddler, I do nothing but argue with his dad half the time. From the moment I get up in the morning until I go back to bed at night all I can think about is just lying in bed under the covers and no one annoying me.
I am too frightened to go to the doc because I know it is not normal. Can't afford to go anyway. Have debts of over a grand for a procedure for my son, plus the bills are always higher than what I have. I put no effort into my appearance any more because I feel it is a waste. I am only 24.
I lost out on my degree because of the cost of childcare, I worked my a$$ off to get there, at the cost of having anything to do with my mother. No family support base and miles away from my friends. I feel like a failure to myself and my child. I spend most of my day pretending this isn't actually my life.
There is a dual carriageway and a motorway next to my house and I have seriously contemplated jumping onto one or the other of them. I even wrote a letter to my child to explain it. Thankfully didn't go through with it.
So all in all, been better. But hey, could be a lot worse too!!! 0 -
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Thats probably true but the fallout from it is really distroying (for my mother it is anyway). Shes manic at the mo, went to hospital off her own back for the first time but its not as good as it sounds... she is constantly out of the hospital - going to shops and robbing stuff, drinking and when I say she should stay in the ward she says "sure they cant stop me going anywhere I'm a voluntary patient!!" and the sad thing is its true and she knew that they cant keep her confined. Shes off home this weekend again till monday, just given a massive perscription and off she goes even though they know she lives alone in a sh!thole of an estate where all the scumbags become her best friend when shes sick because she will give them her tablets.
Its the same thing every year, I honestly cant remember when she had a 'normal' month and im the one who has to deal with it but even though the highs are terrible the lows are even worse. You'd think it gets easier every year but it doesn't. I feel so sorry for people who have to live with this illness
As to my mental health - think its ok considering that and my own stress
Sorry to hear your story. No matter what the medics say, we don't seem to have the expertise out there to handle these situation!!!! Our attitude to mental illness is partly to blame as well. We are so ignorant, really, behind it all!!!0 -
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Have positive thoughts, think of your child and get active with a run a day or something.wolfpawnat wrote: »Unemployed since 2009, I feel like shít, not eating or sleeping properly. Not able to remain interested in anything for too long and not in the mood to see any of my friends.
My company all day is my toddler, I do nothing but argue with his dad half the time. From the moment I get up in the morning until I go back to bed at night all I can think about is just lying in bed under the covers and no one annoying me.
I am too frightened to go to the doc because I know it is not normal. Can't afford to go anyway. Have debts of over a grand for a procedure for my son, plus the bills are always higher than what I have. I put no effort into my appearance any more because I feel it is a waste. I am only 24.
I lost out on my degree because of the cost of childcare, I worked my a$$ off to get there, at the cost of having anything to do with my mother. No family support base and miles away from my friends. I feel like a failure to myself and my child. I spend most of my day pretending this isn't actually my life.
There is a dual carriageway and a motorway next to my house and I have seriously contemplated jumping onto one or the other of them. I even wrote a letter to my child to explain it. Thankfully didn't go through with it.
So all in all, been better. But hey, could be a lot worse too!!!0 -
wolfpawnat wrote: »Unemployed since 2009, I feel like shít, not eating or sleeping properly. Not able to remain interested in anything for too long and not in the mood to see any of my friends.
My company all day is my toddler, I do nothing but argue with his dad half the time. From the moment I get up in the morning until I go back to bed at night all I can think about is just lying in bed under the covers and no one annoying me.
I am too frightened to go to the doc because I know it is not normal. Can't afford to go anyway. Have debts of over a grand for a procedure for my son, plus the bills are always higher than what I have. I put no effort into my appearance any more because I feel it is a waste. I am only 24.
I lost out on my degree because of the cost of childcare, I worked my a$$ off to get there, at the cost of having anything to do with my mother. No family support base and miles away from my friends. I feel like a failure to myself and my child. I spend most of my day pretending this isn't actually my life.
There is a dual carriageway and a motorway next to my house and I have seriously contemplated jumping onto one or the other of them. I even wrote a letter to my child to explain it. Thankfully didn't go through with it.
So all in all, been better. But hey, could be a lot worse too!!!
I am no medical expert just a student of life but your story is very sad. I am always consoled by my late mother-in-laws wise comment some years ago when I had TROUBLE in my life. "Everything passes, good and bad."
Being young and depressed is terrible. You could maybe start with little steps. Why not join a mother/toddler group? Even an hour or two "out" there with others can distract the mind for a while? Staying indoors day after day is testing enough for all of us. Getting out, even for a walk with your toddler clears the head. There are great community groups out there in various towns and cities around the country you could join, even with your child...Small steps and then you can pluck up the courage to go to your doctor.0 -
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Have positive thoughts, think of your child and get active with a run a day or something.good logs... wrote: »1. stop looking at and listening to rte news. :mad:
2. drive a motorbike or learn to drive one. :cool:
3. eat a bowl of porridge with honey every day.:o
4. run or walk 2 miles every day.
These kinds of responses piss me right off. How can people really think that depression / mental illness / real life worries like some of the responses on here, are going to be resolved by doing any of these things?
You so often get the response: Chin up, or stay positive. The reality is the crippling negative thoughts you have will constantly make you want to stay in bed. there are days where EVERY single thing is a struggle to these people. The 'chin up' sentiment is condescending and very unhelpful.
I don't mean to attack you guys in particular, it's just that these are the types of responses you get all the time to talking about depression, and it does no one any good.0 -
^^ Exactly, my deppressive modes are as low as you can go and my neighbour whos a close friend of my mom always says you should get out and do something productive. Bitch i can hardly get out of bed to get water or wash myself how the hell are my supposed to go out in the real world.stupidusername wrote: »These kinds of responses piss me right off. How can people really think that depression / mental illness / real life worries like some of the responses on here, are going to be resolved by doing any of these things? You so often get the response: Chin up, or stay positive. The reality is the crippling negative thoughts you have will constantly make you want to stay in bed. there are days where EVERY single thing is a struggle to these people. The 'chin up' sentiment is condescending and very unhelpful.
I don't mean to attack you guys in particular, it's just that these are the types of responses you get all the time to talking about depression, and it does no one any good.
When im high though i cant help but go two hours on the cross country machine and then head out and explore but then i spend to much money and the pubs have a tractor beam on me which is not good.0 -
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stupidusername wrote: »These kinds of responses piss me right off. How can people really think that depression / mental illness / real life worries like some of the responses on here, are going to be resolved by doing any of these things? You so often get the response: Chin up, or stay positive. The reality is the crippling negative thoughts you have will constantly make you want to stay in bed. there are days where EVERY single thing is a struggle to these people. The 'chin up' sentiment is condescending and very unhelpful.
I don't mean to attack you guys in particular, it's just that these are the types of responses you get all the time to talking about depression, and it does no one any good.
Well people dont know how to react to somebody with depression - Myself included -
What can you say?0 -
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stupidusername wrote: »These kinds of responses piss me right off. How can people really think that depression / mental illness / real life worries like some of the responses on here, are going to be resolved by doing any of these things? You so often get the response: Chin up, or stay positive. The reality is the crippling negative thoughts you have will constantly make you want to stay in bed. there are days where EVERY single thing is a struggle to these people. The 'chin up' sentiment is condescending and very unhelpful.
I don't mean to attack you guys in particular, it's just that these are the types of responses you get all the time to talking about depression, and it does no one any good.
I suffered with depression for many years and I was always looking for some tablet or some psychiatrist to fix me. What I've learned is that the most lasting contribution you can make to a long term recovery is through your own efforts. Things actually don't start to get better until you grasp the reigns yourself. That doesn't mean you don't accept help and do it all yourself. Take all the help you can get initially and work out your own path. I know you don't want to hear suggestions like 'go for a walk' but the idea is to remove yourself temporarily from the poisonous head space that is depression. Start small and then try and build it up0 -
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Pretty bad - and it's all only crashing together at the same time now, after the few months of tragedy that happened last winter thought i should be getting over things and packing up the grieving by now. However a friend of mine sat me down the other day and for all the world it was an intervention. Now i don't know what the fook to do.. 0 -
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