Having a child under 30 - wasting your life.

Kaneda_

Ok ok ,maybe 28 would be the minimum,30-33 being a perfect age.

All these single mothers at 18-19 ,the majority of them didnt mean to get pregnant.

You have your school years,then third level education or you enter the job market and try to get yourself in a position to earn a living and forge a decent career for yourself,something that is very important.Having a child at such a young age puts these things on hold.

Growing up, its easy to tell which girls will have a child as soon as they get a chance,its usually the girls from the estates,the ones who wear PJs to the shop,the ones who come from single parent familys themselves,the ones who get a name as being easy,if you get what i mean.

Travel becomes near impossible or very hard at least,kids suck the life from you.

Every baby looks the same the first few weeks.

I love kids,but i also value my life and i wouldnt have a child until i am some way financially stable and have some direction in life.

If you want to move out of home and dont want to pay 150-200 a week on rent,have a child and the the social will give you a house,then proceed to allow the father/bf to live there with you,the entire county is doing this.

Fluorescence

Em, ok.

El Guapo!

This is gonna be good.








*gets popcorn

The King of Moo

Aren't all children under 30?

The King of Moo

OP, they could just ban poor people, that'd solve this "problem."

Anyway, so what if people have kids young? It's their life.

Benny_Cake

Hang on - having a child before you're 30 will ruin your life despite the fact that those who do this are raking it in on social welfare?Strange logic!

4leto

Tick tock tick tock

biko

Letting a scumbag put his dick in you without protection is probably the stupidest decision a girl can possibly make.

tasha200

I am a mother of three, and my 11 year old son could right a post with more maturity than the op.... condecending and patronising, and I really hope the op doesnt have any kids, for a long long time, and when he/she does, he/she comes back on the this thread and reads exactly how ignorant and immature he/she was.

I hate little condecending twits. So yeah, defo dont breed.

Ste.phen

I dunno, although i don't plan to have kids until i'm about 30, the earlier you have kids the easier it is to raise them i think, no?

cowzerp

Many people feel the best days of there lifes are with there kids so it really depends on how individuals look at it.

hondasam

Kaneda_ wrote: »

Ok ok ,maybe 28 would be the minimum,30-33 being a perfect age.

All these single mothers at 18-19 ,the majority of them didnt mean to get pregnant.

You have your school years,then third level education or you enter the job market and try to get yourself in a position to earn a living and forge a decent career for yourself,something that is very important.Having a child at such a young age puts these things on hold.

Growing up, its easy to tell which girls will have a child as soon as they get a chance,its usually the girls from the estates,the ones who wear PJs to the shop,the ones who come from single parent familys themselves,the ones who get a name as being easy,if you get what i mean.

Travel becomes near impossible or very hard at least,kids suck the life from you.

Every baby looks the same the first few weeks.

I love kids,but i also value my life and i wouldnt have a child until i am some way financially stable and have some direction in life.

If you want to move out of home and dont want to pay 150-200 a week on rent,have a child and the the social will give you a house,then proceed to allow the father/bf to live there with you,the entire county is doing this.

some of us had kids young because we wanted to and you can travel with kids.
I could have got a free house,no one told me that and I could have a man living with me. I feel liked I missed out big time.

Fremen

biko wrote: »

Letting a scumbag put his dick in you without protection is probably the stupidest decision a girl can possibly make.

Kind of depends which bit of you he puts it in, no?

Twee.

But if you have them younger they'll be all grown up and you're free to live life, enjoying yourself with no kids!

My mam is 53, and I'm her youngest at 22. She's always running into old friends who are stressed with junior certs, teenage woes, even some tantrum throwing 8 years olds. And she's like lol my kids are grown up, heading off traveling for a month with the husband.

ScumLord

Kaneda_ wrote: »

You have your school years,then third level education or you enter the job market and try to get yourself in a position to earn a living and forge a decent career for yourself,something that is very important.Having a child at such a young age puts these things on hold

If you have no interest in a career third level education becomes less appealing. In a good community people will just want to find a job that can give them a comfortable life while they contribute back to the community by giving it more children. That's just as much of a real life as being a corporate whore.

OakeyDokey

Kaneda_ wrote: »

Travel becomes near impossible or very hard at least,kids suck the life from you.

I really hope you don't have kids with an attitude like that!

I wouldn't call it wasting your life. Are you talking from experience OP?

I'm not sure I understand you. First your bashing it but then your recommending it if you want to scam the Social Welfare??

So people who where pj's are more likely to get pregnant :eek:

I'm very confused

Fremen

tasha200 wrote: »

I am a mother of three, and my 11 year old son could right a post with more maturity than the op.... condecending and patronising, and I really hope the op doesnt have any kids, for a long long time, and when he/she does, he/she comes back on the this thread and reads exactly how ignorant and immature he/she was.

I hate little condecending twits. So yeah, defo dont breed.

Sounds like someone popped a couple of sprogs early on in life...

Kaneda_

tasha200 wrote: »

I am a mother of three, and my 11 year old son could right a post with more maturity than the op.... condecending and patronising, and I really hope the op doesnt have any kids, for a long long time, and when he/she does, he/she comes back on the this thread and reads exactly how ignorant and immature he/she was.

I hate little condecending twits. So yeah, defo dont breed.

Of course you are going to say that.

I have never in my life heard of a woman/girl say that she wish she didnt have the child so young.never.

But in the back of their minds you know they are thinking it.

When they see all there friends heading to OZ,or travelling around the world,do you not think they are even a small bit regretful,but the catch 22 is that they cant tell anyone that they are,as thats basically saying i dont want to raise my child,i want my life back.

No hate towards kids,not at all but i think having children is a serious matter,not something you do to get a free house and something you do just because you drunk.

mikemac

So OP, you're a bit older, mid twenties?

You have no long term partner
You don't have a good career
You don't have savings or a house deposit or own a property

And you want to judge others?

Maybe work on your own life and set some goals for yourself
It's always the bitter people who compare themselves to everyone else, just work on yourself OP and don't worry over what you can't control

Cill Dara Abu

tasha200 wrote: »

I am a mother of three, and my 11 year old son could right a post with more maturity than the op.... condecending and patronising, and I really hope the op doesnt have any kids, for a long long time, and when he/she does, he/she comes back on the this thread and reads exactly how ignorant and immature he/she was.

I hate little condecending twits. So yeah, defo dont breed.

Oh the ironing

losthorizon

gotta agree with the op a lot. Most of the people I work with seem to have had kids by mistake and werent planned. Then again they are a scummy working class waterford crowd. Not a cosmopolitan middle class cork chap like myself.

Saila

Dean09 wrote: »

This is gonna be shit....
again

fyp.

Kaneda_

Cill Dara Abu wrote: »

Oh the ironing

This has to be the post of the day!

ToddyDoody

Not necessarity a bad thing but some young parents (fathers moreso) are either the pits or parent acceptably with great difficulty.

NomdePlume

Kaneda_ wrote: »

Growing up, its easy to tell which girls will have a child as soon as they get a chance,its usually the girls from the estates,the ones who wear PJs to the shop,the ones who come from single parent familys themselves,the ones who get a name as being easy,if you get what i mean.

Nah. Growing up, you learn that there are many ways to live your life, and many routes to happiness. You also learn that making sweeping judgements about "girls from the estates" and "single parent familys" [sic] will give you away as an unpleasant snob.

Kaneda_

NomdePlume wrote: »

Nah. Growing up, you learn that there are many ways to live your life, and many routes to happiness. You also learn that making sweeping judgements about "girls from the estates" and single parent familys [sic] will give you away as an unpleasant snob.

I just tell it like it is,you cant deny the facts,however unpleasant they are.

4leto

Kaneda_ wrote: »

Ok ok ,maybe 28 would be the minimum,30-33 being a perfect age.

All these single mothers at 18-19 ,the majority of them didnt mean to get pregnant.

You have your school years,then third level education or you enter the job market and try to get yourself in a position to earn a living and forge a decent career for yourself,something that is very important.Having a child at such a young age puts these things on hold.

Growing up, its easy to tell which girls will have a child as soon as they get a chance,its usually the girls from the estates,the ones who wear PJs to the shop,the ones who come from single parent familys themselves,the ones who get a name as being easy,if you get what i mean.

Travel becomes near impossible or very hard at least,kids suck the life from you.

Every baby looks the same the first few weeks.

I love kids,but i also value my life and i wouldnt have a child until i am some way financially stable and have some direction in life.

If you want to move out of home and dont want to pay 150-200 a week on rent,have a child and the the social will give you a house,then proceed to allow the father/bf to live there with you,the entire county is doing this.

Its horses for courses,

But I understand were you are coming from, a child changes your life forever and it sets you on a course that has its own commitments and duties. You can achieve separate ambitions with children, but it makes them more difficult.

But some people are content to have children early in their lives, that is their ambition and so what.

But one thing I do notice once someone has kids there are very few regrets.

3ndahalfof6

having a kid under 30 unless your fostering or adopting is 1 big bump.

starbelgrade

I think this belongs in the 1st World Problems thread.

Fuck me. Some people really do have nothing better to worry about.

DjFlin

I knew someone who said she planned to have a kid before turning 25. Because she could be a "cool" mother then. Her logic was flawless.

Irish Guitarist

Just because you don't want kids doesn't mean that other people don't either. And who has a baby to get a couple of hundred euro a week?

Duckjob

Kaneda_ wrote: »

Ok ok ,maybe 28 would be the minimum,30-33 being a perfect age.

All these single mothers at 18-19 ,the majority of them didnt mean to get pregnant.

You have your school years,then third level education or you enter the job market and try to get yourself in a position to earn a living and forge a decent career for yourself,something that is very important.Having a child at such a young age puts these things on hold.

Growing up, its easy to tell which girls will have a child as soon as they get a chance,its usually the girls from the estates,the ones who wear PJs to the shop,the ones who come from single parent familys themselves,the ones who get a name as being easy,if you get what i mean.

Travel becomes near impossible or very hard at least,kids suck the life from you.

Every baby looks the same the first few weeks.

I love kids,but i also value my life and i wouldnt have a child until i am some way financially stable and have some direction in life.

If you want to move out of home and dont want to pay 150-200 a week on rent,have a child and the the social will give you a house,then proceed to allow the father/bf to live there with you,the entire county is doing this.

Reading that post is like watching an episode of "Lost". Despite multiple viewings I still don't have a bogs notion whats going on in it.

phasers

Well another way to look at it OP is that they're trying to get through all the difficult stuff while they have more energy, so they can chill from their fifties onwards. Seems like a decent idea to me.

Eve_Dublin

Kaneda_ wrote: »

This has to be the post of the day!

Out of curiosity, how does making a typo make you any less mature? Where's the irony in Tasha's post? I don't get it.

What IS immature, however, is picking up on someone's every little mistake, even something as simple as a very-commonly-made typo.

You don't sound like the kind of person I'd want to know, Kaneda, and that's been nice about it. I despise snobs.

3ndahalfof6

Irish Guitarist wrote: »

Just because you don't want kids doesn't mean that other people don't either. And who has a baby to get a couple of hundred euro a week?

wha ya taukin bout boss me and bridgie do it regular, well every 9 mnts or so.

the groutch

Kaneda_ wrote: »

All these single mothers at 18-19 ,the majority of them didnt mean to get pregnant.

never heard of welfare babies, where people have kids just to sponge more money of the state?

tempura

Kaneda_ wrote: »

Ok ok ,maybe 28 would be the minimum,30-33 being a perfect age.

All these single mothers at 18-19 ,the majority of them didnt mean to get pregnant.

You have your school years,then third level education or you enter the job market and try to get yourself in a position to earn a living and forge a decent career for yourself,something that is very important.Having a child at such a young age puts these things on hold.

Growing up, its easy to tell which girls will have a child as soon as they get a chance,its usually the girls from the estates,the ones who wear PJs to the shop,the ones who come from single parent familys themselves,the ones who get a name as being easy,if you get what i mean.

Travel becomes near impossible or very hard at least,kids suck the life from you.

Every baby looks the same the first few weeks.

I love kids,but i also value my life and i wouldnt have a child until i am some way financially stable and have some direction in life.

If you want to move out of home and dont want to pay 150-200 a week on rent,have a child and the the social will give you a house,then proceed to allow the father/bf to live there with you,the entire county is doing this.

Its ok, calm down, i realise that you must have just come out of the (good) living room having received a lecture from daddy on how not to live your life.

Ask him for a few quid so you can head to Dundrum, you really need to vent to this to your freinds. Like Oh my gawd !

Jake Rugby Walrus666

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

Out of curiosity, how does making a typo make you any less mature? Where's the irony in Tasha's post? I don't get it.

She was sneering at his post and commented that her baby could "right" better than him.

Now do you get it?

mackg

You have your school years,then third level education or you enter the job market and try to get yourself in a position to earn a living and forge a decent career for yourself,something that is very important.Having a child at such a young age puts these things on hold.

Yes it puts these things on hold but not necessarily for a very long time, having a child in the middle of your career puts advancement on hold for the same amount of time. I know a girl who finished her degree, had a child and within a year had a job in her chosen field ( at a time when jobs aren't easy to come by).

Growing up, its easy to tell which girls will have a child as soon as they get a chance,its usually the girls from the estates,the ones who wear PJs to the shop,the ones who come from single parent familys themselves,the ones who get a name as being easy,if you get what i mean.

Is this the reason you don't have a kid OP, you could tell what girls were going to get pregnant and you avoided them?

Travel becomes near impossible or very hard at least,kids suck the life from you.

Whatever about travel, I know people who would tell you the opposite about kids sucking the life out of you.

I love kids,but i also value my life and i wouldnt have a child until i am some way financially stable and have some direction in life.

Fair enough can't argue with that.

If you want to move out of home and dont want to pay 150-200 a week on rent,have a child and the the social will give you a house,then proceed to allow the father/bf to live there with you,the entire county is doing this.

Solid advice :pac::pac:

Bonavox

tasha200 wrote: »

I am a mother of three, and my 11 year old son could right a post with more maturity than the op.... condecending and patronising, and I really hope the op doesnt have any kids, for a long long time, and when he/she does, he/she comes back on the this thread and reads exactly how ignorant and immature he/she was.

I hate little condecending twits. So yeah, defo dont breed.

*write a better post.

You had kids young, didn't you?

Banjaxed82

I've achieved more goals in life since having kids. That's with less money, less time, less sleep...etc, etc...

mikemac

Bonavox wrote: »

*write a better post.

Cill Dara Abu wrote: »

Oh the ironing

write/right who cares

It's boards, not an email to the boss
Everyone knew what was meant

All these posts about spelling are tiresome

Bonavox

mikemac wrote: »

write/right who cares

It's boards, not an email to the boss
Everyone knew what was meant

All these posts about spelling are tiresome

I knew what it meant, it just went hand in hand with my perception of the poster that I just had to point it out. My bad, dude, my bad. :pac:

steddyeddy

Giving birth at any age is bringing life into the world. So I dont think its fair to refer to it as wasting life.

KittyeeTrix

I had my 4 children when I was aged between 20 and 28. So happy I had them young because I'm now aged 37 and can sit back and relax while my friends and sisters are demented running around after their young kids.

There is no law that says you can't have the career or travel when the kids are reared. I'm now in my final year of a science degree and sure I may not backpack for a year but I'm for definite gonna have some nice holidays in a few years! (without small screaming children:D)

Advantages and disadvantages to both scenarios, having kids young or old tbh...

Dionysus

mikemac wrote: »

write/right who cares

It's boards, not an email to the boss
Everyone knew what was meant

All these posts about spelling are tiresome

Boards (proper noun)....

Herb Powell

the groutch wrote: »

never heard of welfare babies, where people have kids just to sponge more money of the state?

That is such utter bullsh1t that I wish people would stop perpetuating

Irish Guitarist

Jake Rugby Walrus666 wrote: »

She was sneering at his post and commented that her baby could "right" better than him.

Now do you get it?

The OP left out plenty of apostrophes and spelled 'families' wrong. Therefore if you're going to equate maturity with spelling then that post wasn't any less mature.

Eve_Dublin

Jake Rugby Walrus666 wrote: »

She was sneering at his post and commented that her baby could "right" better than him.

Now do you get it?

No. She made a typo. She said her son could "right" a better post with more maturity. A typo is not a sign of immaturity or even a sign that her son can't write well. I still fail to see the irony here...maybe you'll have to explain it slower.

Sooopie

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

No. She made a typo. She said her son could "right" a better post with more maturity. A typo is not a sign of immaturity or even a sign that her son can't write well. I still fail to see the irony here...maybe you'll have to explain it slower.

getting right and write mixed up is not a typo

pragmatic1

Herb Powell wrote: »

That is such utter bullsh1t that I wish people would stop perpetuating

It isnt actually. Many people put zero thought into having a child because they're safe in the knowledge that the state will pick up the bill. Major problems down the road.