gift for friend struggling through 2nd pregnancy

ggirl

Hi I don't know if this is the right place to post (feel free to move if not!). One of my dearest friends is having a tough time during her second pregnancy. She is just totally nauseous, exhausted, struggling with work and her one year old is not a great sleeper and in addition has been unwell recently so my friend is getting by on barely a few hours sleep a night while working a full time stressful job where she is on her feet for large parts of the day (cannot be avoided). I have offered to help in any way I can but she is feeling so awful she is just going home, not seeing anyone and, thankfully at least, resting where she can. I have no kids and feel so useless tho I am very close to her and her child. I want to cheer her up and was thinking of getting a little gift to pick her up a little but was not sure what to get. My ideas were some mama mio body oil, a nice (unfragranced?) candle (she loves candles), some organic baby sleep balm (thinking if her child slept she will get more rest) and maybe a nice maternity top (I know her taste well). Just, could any mothers/mothers to be out there let me know what you think of this please? Or if you have better ideas if this is rubbish? I am going to get a card and tell her how much better she is doing than she ever gives herself credit for too. What does anyone think? As a non-mother I am very conscious I don't want to do the wrong thing. I just love and admire this friend so much and want her to feel a little pampered and see she is coping even tho it doesn't feel like it. Thanks x

Cat Melodeon

Wow, wish I had a friend like you! All of that sounds heavenly, I love the Mama Mio range. One thing I'd add to the list is to offer your services as a childminder for a few hours so she gets to take a long child-free soak in the bath or a trip to the cinema (you don't mention if she has a partner).

The card is the loveliest bit by the way, it's very touching when someone outside the day-to-day grind tells you that you're doing well!

holidaygirl

I wished I had such an attentive friend. I've a one year old and am 31 weeks pregnant and thus pregnancy has been tough. Last week I got a pedicure and manicure done and it was great. I can't reach my feet anymore so it was great.

You will know your friend best but I know ice received some really nice lotions and potions but I seldom have the time or energy to do anything with them. I think that's why I got such a treat out of my little pampering session.

Maternity top sounds great, I know I get depressed at my lovely maternity wardrobe! Not sure if it's of interest but Dorothy Perkins have 25% off online at the moment ending soon though. I have the discount code somewhere if you wish. I got sone nice tops in h&m very recently.

The card will be very well appreciated it's lovely to know that others feel you are doing a good job.

qwertytlk

Hi, you sound like a great friend ans she is lucky to have you!
All the things you suggested sound really nice so i would go for any of them.
Other than that, the one thing she sounds like she needs in a good nights sleep. So if your close to her child would you be in a position to offer to mind him over night to give her a break and so she can get a good rest?
As somone with a 5month old (who actually sleeps pretty well) i know that the one thing i do miss is having a good, un interupted nights sleep an a lie on in the morning. So i can imagine how she feels wiith a baby who doesnt sleep well!
Also if she is into it, you could get her a voucher for a pregnancy massage. It would be really nice and relaxing for her, expecially after standing in work most of the day!

Theres my ideas anyway! Best of luck