Other half getting lazy?

FashionLover

So I've been in a relationship for about 6 months now. For the first few months things were going really well, sweet texts, calls etc. from my OH. He'd also text me first thing in the morning when he got up, constantly texting me just to say I love you and so on. But now I'm the one that needs to text him, and he never says I love you anymore. I only see him about once or twice a week because we both work. He used to take breaks in work just to give me a quick call, but this has all gone down the drain the past few weeks.

I read some articles saying that as men become comfortable in a relationship, they become lazy; could this be the case? Or is it that he truly doesn't love me anymore and has become less interested in me?

stovelid

Fuck his best mate.

Halal Butcher

I would have him tested for polymorhisms of the RS3334 gene.

Extra copies of this gene can inhibit release of the hormone vasopressin, a hormone closely related to oxytocin, the so-called 'cuddle-chemical'.

The inhibition of vasopressin will render males less likely to commit to relationship or more likely to cheat if in a relationship.

Conversely, males with no extra copies of the allele are more likely to be in a happy, long-term relationship.

Just sayin'.

Morrisseeee

Wrong forum I'm afraid.............
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........you need the..............Conspiracies forum, dat-away >>>>>>>

Chuck Stone

Put broken glass in his sandwiches and then say you did it because you love him.

I have no idea what this will do for your relationship.

Carter P Fly

Meh, Why you want to be with such an annoyingly needy person anyway. Seriously all that texting 24/7 is retarded.

Saila

a bit soon on the other half stuff there... or have you been married 6 months

YFlyer

Has he start farting in your presence?

seamus

If you measure the strength of his commitment by how often he tells you that he wuddly-wubbs you, then you are doomed to a life of six-month relationships.

Dravokivich

he's got to contact you first and constantly...

are you afriad of phone bills or what?

LETHAL LADY

I suspect from your post OP, well all the lovey dovey crap anyway, that you are both young. Cold hard fact, he has lost interest. Dump him and move on.

GavRedKing

FashionLover wrote: »

So I've been in a relationship for about 6 months now. For the first few months things were going really well, sweet texts, calls etc. from my OH. He'd also text me first thing in the morning when he got up, constantly texting me just to say I love you and so on. But now I'm the one that needs to text him, and he never says I love you anymore. I only see him about once or twice a week because we both work. He used to take breaks in work just to give me a quick call, but this has all gone down the drain the past few weeks.

I read some articles saying that as men become comfortable in a relationship, they become lazy; could this be the case? Or is it that he truly doesn't love me anymore and has become less interested in me?

^ Theres your problem. Reading articles and such is a load of bollox, ask him abuot his feelings. i wouldnt judge any of my relationships on what other people have experienced.

mathie

Blast him with face-kickings.

fenris

Does he have a rabbit?

4zn76tysfajdxp

Get a dog instead.

Snakeblood

Chuck Stone wrote: »

Put broken glass in his sandwiches and then say you did it because you love him.

I have no idea what this will do for your relationship.

I'm certainly interested to find out.

billymitchell

FashionLover wrote: »

So I've been in a relationship for about 6 months now. For the first few months things were going really well, sweet texts, calls etc. from my OH. He'd also text me first thing in the morning when he got up, constantly texting me just to say I love you and so on. But now I'm the one that needs to text him, and he never says I love you anymore. I only see him about once or twice a week because we both work. He used to take breaks in work just to give me a quick call, but this has all gone down the drain the past few weeks.

I read some articles saying that as men become comfortable in a relationship, they become lazy; could this be the case? Or is it that he truly doesn't love me anymore and has become less interested in me?

You're only 16, arent you op??

mathie

billymitchell wrote: »

You're only 16, arent you op??

He says stroking himself.

FashionLover

23 I'm afraid, he's two years younger.

stovelid

seamus wrote: »

wuddly-wubbs you

FashionLover wrote: »

23 I'm afraid, he's two years younger.

Therein lies the issue.

He wants to fire into younger mots as you're pushing on a bit now.

Sky King

Suck him off while he plays the new COD.

And if you don't want to do that, then don't be bitching about him not wanting to do gay sh!t like buy you flowers.

mathie

FashionLover wrote: »

23 I'm afraid, he's two years younger.

Is his name 'Fashion'?

Snakeblood

FashionLover wrote: »

23 I'm afraid, he's two years younger.

Make him a vasopressin sandwich?

4zn76tysfajdxp

FashionLover wrote: »

23 I'm afraid, he's two years younger.

One thing that's definitely gonna make him stick around is to get pregnant. Then he'll realise how much he wants to be with you and you'll b 2getha 4eva

MagicMarker

Have you gained weight OP? I'd start with working on that.

Sky King

That's actually pretty good advise Frada.

OP I recommend you take this approach.

LowOdour

he is a guy, so to perk him right up you might need to do some further anal-ysis on the matter

EarlyStorms

There's no great secret with us guys it sounds like he's lost interest. I expect he'll be ending the relationship soon so you might want to get in ahead of him.

FetchTheGin

He's lazy because he doesn't ring or text you first.

First world problem.

mathie

FetchTheGin wrote: »

He's lazy because he doesn't ring or text you first.

First world problem.

Female logic...

If he does ring or text before she does does that make her lazy?
No it makes her happy.

Gmol

Give him an dramatic ultimatum, it doesn't matter about what, us men always respect and love ultimatums. You will have a life of everlasting love from then on

Fremen

Have you put on any weight?

rambutman

What i'd do here if i was you is start acting in the same way - if he's not saying he loves you then you stop saying it to him, if he has stopped texting you, then you stop texting him......and see where it leads then.

He could be acting cool cos he wants an out but due to the level of interest/i loves you's/attention he paid you in the first few months feels he's dug himself a hole he can't get out of. Us men can be notorious cowards at this sort of thing.

I had to do a double take at this post and check the date - i thought for a second you were my girlfriend - but then we split up 2 weeks ago but the lead up was exactly the same as you described.

If its run its course it's run its course, no point dragging something out that is just going to go downhill. Get out while there's still good feelings going.

And the weight thing mentioned above...................is that an issue? The scales will tell ya that....opinion doesn't come into it. Us men can get pretty lazy emotionally. IMHO - women can get pretty lazy physically in the comfort of a relationship. You start going out with them and their all hot, sexy and in great shape, then they (please note the previous IMHO) get all comfortable and start letting themselves go...................wrong and all as it may be it's nice to have your woman looking good, for herself and for you. I wouldn't dream of letting myself go physically and personally i'd like to be with someone likeminded.

carlosvan

what id do is just stop calling and texting full stop and do something you enjoy like a hobbie that doesnt have anything to do with him, if he's interested he'll make a efort to get in contact , if he doesnt just get on wiuth your life , and go bang some more men untill you find the one you want ot kep banging for the rest of your life

Sky King

Nothing worse than riding a boombalatty in fairness.

carlosvan

I wouldn't dream of letting myself go physically and personally i'd like to be with someone likeminded.[/QUOTE]


you sound like my kind of partner!!!! **** i bet your a man arnt you ,,, well feck that anyway!!!!

ShadowHearth

He is cheating.


I heard there are 2 lovely girls out during last 2 weeks.

One is intelligent brunet named battlefieldia and the other one a playful wind headed blond moderna warfer.

I don't know which one is he going out with now, but don't worry, it won't be long lasting relationship.

gavredking

gavredking wrote: »

^ Theres your problem. Reading articles and such is a load of bollox, ask him abuot his feelings. i wouldnt judge any of my relationships on what other people have experienced.

ask him about his feelings?? what is this, oprah?

4zn76tysfajdxp

bluewolf wrote: »

ask him about his feelings?? what is this, oprah?

She's fat too.

Fremen

In fairness, what you described would drive me mental - whether I was on the giving or receiving end. Plus, I don't think I'd normally be comfortable telling a girl I loved her until around the six month mark.

Different strokes and all that, I suppose.

rambutman

carlosvan wrote: »

I wouldn't dream of letting myself go physically and personally i'd like to be with someone likeminded.


you sound like my kind of partner!!!! **** i bet your a man arnt you ,,, well feck that anyway!!!!

I sure am.

You're really putting your ass in the breeze making a comment like i did above.......and not to be mean - there is a margin of fatness allowed - but if you're unhealthily fat and fall outside recommended guidelines you need to do something about it...................fat isn't a personal opinion - its a fact, hop on the scales and they'll pretty much tell you if you're fat......if in doubt get a body fat percentage done - that'll tell you straight up.....................and no - the above does not apply to people with underlying medical conditions.

The question "do you think I'm fat?"..............can be answered straight away - "hop on the scales if you want an honest answer"

newuser89

Confront him with your issues and get right in his face while your at it.
Lads love that

Dotrel

Don't worry about it OP. Your other half has simply realised that you're not worth the effort.

Kintarō Hattori

FashionLover wrote: »

I read some articles saying that as men become comfortable in a relationship, they become lazy; could this be the case? Or is it that he truly doesn't love me anymore and has become less interested in me?

He could be bored, he could be lazy- it's hard for us to tell really.

I'm with my other half 7 years this year. Every day I'll tell her I love her, text her multiple times each day. Whenever she comes home from work I'll greet her at the gate with a big smile/kiss/cuddle. She's wonderful, I'm lucky to have her and appreciate her. I'm not trying to say I'm great or whatever but if you're in a relationship with someone you need to work at it and make them realize that you appreciate them.

Regardless of whether the OP is genuine or not and regardless of the fact that they have chosen to post in AH, the comments thus far have been bitchy, mean and less than helpful. Rather than snipe at the poster perhaps someone could have been kind enough to direct them to the forum below:

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/forumdisplay.php?f=1174

rambutman

newuser89 wrote: »

Confront him with your issues and get right in his face while your at it.
Lads love that

Better still, hold out til your down the pub, get drunk and do it then, with some wailing and crying thrown in "You'd don't love me BOO HOOO HOOO"..............make a scene - guys love that!!!

Cuddlesworth

Kintarō Hattori wrote: »

He could be bored, he could be lazy- it's hard for us to tell really.

I'm with my other half 7 years this year. Every day I'll tell her I love her, text her multiple times each day. Whenever she comes home from work I'll greet her at the gate with a big smile/kiss/cuddle. She's wonderful, I'm lucky to have her and appreciate her. I'm not trying to say I'm great or whatever but if you're in a relationship with someone you need to work at it and make them realize that you appreciate them.

Regardless of whether the OP is genuine or not and regardless of the fact that they have chosen to post in AH, the comments thus far have been bitchy, mean and less than helpful. Rather than snipe at the poster perhaps someone could have been kind enough to direct them to the forum below:

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/forumdisplay.php?f=1174

You should check out normalisation. Its going to kill your relationship at some stage.

Kintarō Hattori

Cuddlesworth wrote: »

You should check out normalisation. Its going to kill your relationship at some stage.

wtf?

no1beemerfan

seamus wrote: »

If you measure the strength of his commitment by how often he tells you that he wuddly-wubbs you, then you are doomed to a life of six-month relationships.

I actually had a major argument with my gf one day because of this. I hate all this lovey dovey stuff and when she said she loved me etc., I just replied thats ok!

Anyways it came to a head one day and I explained why I don't do all this lovey dovey sh!te and she accepted it. Married 4 months now

newuser89

no1beemerfan wrote: »

seamus wrote: »

If you measure the strength of his commitment by how often he tells you that he wuddly-wubbs you, then you are doomed to a life of six-month relationships.

I actually had a major argument with my gf one day because of this. I hate all this lovey dovey stuff and when she said she loved me etc., I just replied thats ok

Legend!!

Orando Broom

Wow, Op is caaaaaarrrrazzzzyyyyy!!!!

WindSock

Sadie Short Striker wrote: »

One thing that's definitely gonna make him stick around is to get pregnant. Then he'll realise how much he wants to be with you and you'll b 2getha 4eva

No, dey luv each udda 5va!!!!!