The Problem with Dating websites

godspal

What you literally mean:
I think you are a sexually attractive individual who I would like to meet in the immediate future. Your personality seems interesting, and I think that your personality is so interesting that I would like to talk to you for a prolonged period of time (even if we never had sexual contact.)
And... Your profile has left such an impression on me, that I decided to message you.
And since we are people that have no immediate connection, I feel the necessity to introduce myself, and that introduction begins with my name, and that name is (insert name)

What you have to say:
Hi, how are you. I am too embarrassed to say what I actually mean, so I decided to ask a question about your profile. As a matter of fact I am so freaking embarrassed I am going to just ask "How are you?" And if I am lucky to have a smidgen of confidence maybe I will make joke about your profile.
Oh, I am going to casually introduce myself. (The end.)

Am I the only one that feels this way about dating websites?

Arawn

Dating websites are for lonely lonely lonely people.

LighterGuy

Dating sites are $hit, op.
Of course depends on the gender you talk to. A woman gets more fun out of it than a bloke.
But it has to be said there is a pretty good percentage of people who use dating sites on boards and who will jump to defend the honor of them :rolleyes:

OPENROAD

LighterGuy wrote: »

Dating sites are ****, op.
Of course depends on the gender you talk to. A woman gets more fun out of it than a bloke.

But it has to be said there is a pretty good percentage of people who use dating sites on boards and who will jump to defend the honor of them :rolleyes:

And you have found one of them

LighterGuy

OPENROAD wrote: »

And you have found one of them

OPENROAD

LighterGuy wrote: »

Don't knock them...you just never know

nice_very

the problem with "dating" websites is that some people (women) put photos of them with their kids/ex partners or group pics with their friends on their profile pic............ yeah really interesting IF ITS FACEBOOK... ffs

MyKeyG

OPENROAD wrote: »

Don't knock them...you just never know

To be honest if you need to use a site I think you already know.

OPENROAD

MyKeyG wrote: »

To be honest if you need to use a site I think you already know.

MyKeyG

OPENROAD wrote: »

Me too!

Kiera

olivia432 wrote: »

really this post is awesome

Yes it is, Olivia.

yermandan

olivia432 wrote: »

really this post is awesome

So awesome in fact that you told us twice!!:P

Kiera

yermandan wrote: »

So awesome in fact that you told us twice!!:P

Twice? Look at all her posts, she's told us 22 times.

yermandan

Kiera wrote: »

Twice? Look at all her posts, she's told us 22 times.

Just saw it on another thread too!! Poor Olivia

tony1kenobi

If you hover over the time at the bottom right hand side of your computer screen it tells you the date.

No need to go to a website.

For clarity it is currently the 26th November 2011.

I checked.

Kiera

tony1kenobi wrote: »

If you hover over the time at the bottom right hand side of your computer screen it tells you the date.

No need to go to a website.

For clarity it is currently the 26th November 2011.

I checked.

This time next month it will be all over.

Napper Hawkins

LighterGuy wrote: »

Dating sites are $hit, op.
Of course depends on the gender you talk to. A woman gets more fun out of it than a bloke.
But it has to be said there is a pretty good percentage of people who use dating sites on boards and who will jump to defend the honor of them :rolleyes:

I will, I've done quite well out of it and met my current girlfriend online. Being attractive and funny and not a moany bollix with a chip on my shoulder helps, I must admit.

mconigol

Who gives a ****?

Doc Ruby

godspal wrote: »

What you literally mean:
I think you are a sexually attractive individual who I would like to meet in the immediate future. Your personality seems interesting, and I think that your personality is so interesting that I would like to talk to you for a prolonged period of time (even if we never had sexual contact.)
And... Your profile has left such an impression on me, that I decided to message you.
And since we are people that have no immediate connection, I feel the necessity to introduce myself, and that introduction begins with my name, and that name is (insert name)

What you have to say:
Hi, how are you. I am too embarrassed to say what I actually mean, so I decided to ask a question about your profile. As a matter of fact I am so freaking embarrassed I am going to just ask "How are you?" And if I am lucky to have a smidgen of confidence maybe I will make joke about your profile.
Oh, I am going to casually introduce myself. (The end.)

Am I the only one that feels this way about dating websites?

Ah cmon whats the worst that can happen, build up that confidence and spit it out man, they haven't yet invented the button that lets someone slap you across the internet. And if they had and she did it probably wasn't going to work anyway. Be random!

godspal

Well worst case scenario you don't get a date, which isn't the worst thing in the world when you're on a dating website, as there are plenty of profiles out there. So why don't you say:

godspal wrote: »

I think you are a sexually attractive individual who I would like to meet in the immediate future. Your personality seems interesting, and I think that your personality is so interesting that I would like to talk to you for a prolonged period of time (even if we never had sexual contact.)
And... Your profile has left such an impression on me, that I decided to message you.
And since we are people that have no immediate connection, I feel the necessity to introduce myself, and that introduction begins with my name, and that name is (insert name)

MyKeyG

yermandan wrote: »

Just saw it on another thread too!! Poor Olivia

She did it to me three times so far. Maybe she's trying to earn her second star quicker.

44leto

Dating sites or the personal's were once seen as sad. But not now, the internet just seems to be another way of making friends. Even on this site people have met.

I would have loved those sites when I was in my twenties.

WoollyRedHat

Who the **** is Olivia?

John Doe1

Nothing at all, its good for the ride

EdenHazard

i wouldnt use it or even consider it but each to their own theres a stigma to it but if you get a hot girl(or lad if your a girl) then why not?

stupidusername

44leto wrote: »

Dating sites or the personal's were once seen as sad. But not now, the internet just seems to be another way of making friends. Even on this site people have met.

Arawn wrote: »

Dating websites are for lonely lonely lonely people.

It seems peoples attitudes haven't changed that much. ironic to say using an internet dating site is sad, while writing about it on an internet forum of another site.

LighterGuy

stupidusername wrote: »

It seems peoples attitudes haven't changed that much. ironic to say using an internet dating site is sad, while writing about it on an internet forum of another site.

My belief is who cares if someone uses them. Its not sad and its ones own business but don't go around telling people. Keep it to yourself. (obviously referring to in the real world and not on boards :P )

I remember getting a haircut in a local barbers 2 years ago. Was talking to the barber (mid 20s guy) seemed an alight bloke but he was openly talking about dating sites to me as we chat, i didnt mind, but other people waiting were listening to him. proceeds to pull out his phone to show a picture of a girl he was about to have a date with (wouldnt be surprised if that was lies .. you know yourself) but everyone was listening.

All you'd get is people sniggering or making comments behind your back. I know "fuck them" and all that. But keep it to yourself. No harm in close friends knowing or what not. But not random strangers :pac:

ToddyDoody

To actually form an opinion on them.. Best advice, set a date for yourself when u think u think u should have found someone. If it passes that date and nothing good, stop using, try something else. Maybe go back in the medium to long term. They're best avoided but there's the odd gem.

44leto

ToddyDoody wrote: »

To actually form an opinion on them.. Best advice, set a date for yourself when u think u think u should have found someone. If it passes that date and nothing good, stop using, try something else. Maybe go back in the medium to long term. They're best avoided but there's the odd gem.

Two of my cousin met their current partners on a dating site and both relationship are going over a year and I think going well.

So they do work out for some people. They are also very convenient for people who don't get much of a chance to go out and meet people like seperated people etc.

Arawn

stupidusername wrote: »

It seems peoples attitudes haven't changed that much. ironic to say using an internet dating site is sad, while writing about it on an internet forum of another site.

internet forum = place for people to chat.

Internet dating site= place for lonely people to find other lonely people imo.


Two different things with different purposes

senorwipesalot

Read between the lineshttp://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1066311/Great-personality--ugly-sin-The-dating-dictionary-teaches-lonely-hearts-read-lines.html

EdenHazard

Arawn wrote: »

internet forum = place for people to chat.

Internet dating site= place for lonely people to find other lonely people imo.


Two different things with different purposes

internet forum- a place for losers with no friends to chat

internet dating site- a place where two people can hook up

just sayin(i dont use datin sites)

OPENROAD

Yea