Weekend nights in.

ElleEm

Do you see it as a big deal when you stay in on weekend nights?

I often see people on Boards make reference to "sitting in" on a Fri/ Sat night. Sometimes I read posts that nearly mock others for "having nothing better to do on a Fri/ Sat night".

When I was younger, I used to go out a few times a week.
I'm 28 now, and tend to only go out drinking every couple of months- I just feel I'm passed the whole sessioning every weekend thing now. And it doesn't help that my hangovers are harder and last longer than they did when I was 20!

Just wondering do you AHers give yourselves a pat on the back when you stay in at the weekend or is it just another night to you?

abouttobebanned

Going our every week, IMO, is something you do when you're 18-23. After that going out is a novelty. Especially if you're in a serious relationship. You just find more important things to spend money on.

Also you realise that you just prefer a nice quiet pint in the local. The nightlife industry is on its knees.

L'prof

ElleEm wrote: »

Do you see it as a big deal when you stay in on weekend nights?

I often see people on Boards make reference to "sitting in" on a Fri/ Sat night. Sometimes I read posts that nearly mock others for "having nothing better to do on a Fri/ Sat night".

When I was younger, I used to go out a few times a week.
I'm 28 now, and tend to only go out drinking every couple of months- I just feel I'm passed the whole sessioning every weekend thing now. And it doesn't help that my hangovers are harder and last longer than they did when I was 20!

Just wondering do you AHers give yourselves a pat on the back when you stay in at the weekend or is it just another night to you?

27 and trying to save money, it's still very hard to stay in at the weekend though. If it's not a gig or a concert it's a birthday, christening or a wedding. I'm going to have to start turning the phone off at the weekends!!!

DarkJager

Your own comfort, music, as much drink as you want and you can roll straight in to bed when you feel like it. Beats the **** out of overpriced, overcrowded pubs and clubs and waiting for a taxi to come and fleece the remainder of your cash at the end of the night.

Yahew

abouttobebanned wrote: »

Going our every week, IMO, is something you do when you're 18-23. After that going out is a novelty. Especially if you're in a serious relationship. You just find more important things to spend money on.

Also you realise that you just prefer a nice quiet pint in the local. The nightlife industry is on its knees.

23 is a young cutoff point for weekend socialising. I don't go out much anymore - although i do have beers with work friends on Friday - but I really only stopped saturday drinking when I was 30.

abouttobebanned

Yahew wrote: »

23 is a young cutoff point for weekend socialising. I don't go out much anymore - although i do have beers with work friends on Friday - but I really only stopped saturday drinking when I was 30.

Well it's the cut off point that the government has decided upon - so get used to it!

Yahew

abouttobebanned wrote: »

Well it's the cut off point that the government has decided upon - so get used to it!

I have no idea what that means.

denhaagenite

We only go out around once a month now, in the summer it's beers with the neighbours and in the winter it's tea and Eastenders. We'll only go out if there's something on really.

We probably would go out more often if we were closer to the city or if taxis were cheaper, but I prefer it this way most of the time.

ElleEm

DarkJager wrote: »

Your own comfort, music, as much drink as you want and you can roll straight in to bed when you feel like it. Beats the **** out of overpriced, overcrowded pubs and clubs and waiting for a taxi to come and fleece the remainder of your cash at the end of the night.

This!!

I love wearing my comfy clothes, drinking wine, ordering take away and watching TV/ listening to music and going to bed when I'm ready. I wouldn't do it every weekend but it's cheap and way more fun than going out.

abouttobebanned

Yahew wrote: »

I have no idea what that means.

A poor attempt at humour.

Yahew

Ah, how is the next generation going to reproduce unless you are drinking overpriced jagermeister in Coopers.

I am disappoint.

ICANN

I get down when I stay in both nights of the weekend- I like to stay in on one night and go out on one. I've been spending too many weekends in the past few months because I moved to a new place and don't know anyone and I feel like an oul' bag for it!!!

Corvo

I'm 23 and I find sitting in very hard to do to be honest. I just can't sit in.

I don't go to nightclubs at all anymore, I hate the places and I always end up in an arguement or fight or there is some form of hysteria somewhere along the line. I just go to my local and drink it out with good sound lads who would never give you a bother.

Saying that, since I moved out I got the Sky Sports package and I do love sitting in, making a curry, grab a few cans and watch the match with the missus (season ticket holder at Arsenal, so loves footy) or the lads. She will watch Xfactor that night and head to bed, then I'll watch Match of Day with a bottle of red wine before nodding off myself, and I do prefer it that way. But like I said, very hard to sit in when the lads are out

If I can cut back on going to the local I should be able to save bit more, and I think I'll join a gym in the New Year to really start getting my life and fitness levels on track. I love a few pints but you can overdo it, even if only in your local.

dan1895

I work every other weekend so won't go out unless its a big occasion. The other weekends is quality time with the missus which may or may not involve drinking. But when I do meet up with the lads its like the good old days again (apart from the ridiculously harsh hangover the next day).I'm nearly 29 and can't do two nights in a row anymore though.

Having said all that, its nearly silly season which will involve random sessions starting on a tuesday afternoon and three nights out at a weekend starting this coming Friday. I'll make it up to my liver in January.

BraziliaNZ

DarkJager wrote: »

Your own comfort, music, as much drink as you want and you can roll straight in to bed when you feel like it. Beats the **** out of overpriced, overcrowded pubs and clubs and waiting for a taxi to come and fleece the remainder of your cash at the end of the night.

That sounds incredibly boring to a single person. I am 31 and go out 3 times a week maybe, I know it's too much and costs too much but I get so bored sitting at home and the nightlife in London is fantastic.
I also get severe cases of FOMO (Fear of Missing Out), it doesn't seem to be going away as I get older either.

spoofilyj

I normally go out one of the weekend nights, this last weekend I didnt go out at all though, I stayed in and chilled out with some games a good book and match of the day, I did have a few beers on Saturday so not 100% healthy but what harm.
I think as you get older (I'm 28 now) and hangovers get more unbearable then it is easier to not go out, although being single it does reduce the chances of meeting a nice girl when you dont make the effort and head out.

I'd be just as happy at a house party or having people over to mine then going out as its ofter ten times as fun and there is no restrictions on when the night ends and no overprices drinks too...

Corvo

BraziliaNZ wrote: »

I also get severe cases of FOMO (Fear of Missing Out), it doesn't seem to be going away as I get older either.

Ha! I love that. Least now I know what it is I suffer from!

Max Keller

We've saved a small fortune staying in on weekend nights . Nice to have friends over and enjoy a few drinks. Max.

anniehoo

Im 32 and still love going out on saturday nights, but just cant afford it anymore. I literally can only afford to do it every second weekend. I love love love staying in aswell, drinking vino and relaxing just as much. 2 weekends in a row staying in and im itching to go out.

The hangovers really are getting worse though...i feel like a steam roller has gone over me today from a very late one on sat night (arm wrestling my friends younger brother at 3am is not a good idea).I hurt!!

foodie66

I was never into going out every night, even when i was 18-23. Some people did make me feel bad about it, but it didn't make me change. When i did go out i really enjoyed it and had great times. I haven't been out properly in a while for various reasons but hoping to have at least one good night over xmas.

My friend was a real party animal, was out and about nearly every weekend and always on about the mad session they'd had. It was only years later she told me that she wasn't really into it at all but just tagged along with her housemates as they wanted to go ..:rolleyes:

Immaculate Pasta

It used to be a big deal for me when I was working staying in on the weekends but while I'm at uni now I don't exactly have the same routine as the 9-5ers so will often have a big night out in the week and weekends are usually pretty quiet. I'm sure when I'm back working again I won't want to stay in both Friday and Saturday night.

I think it's important to do something on a weekend night when you're working. People are always reluctant to do stuff on a weekday night and you can doss about all you like during the weekend evenings. Even if it's something quite tame like going for a meal/cinema or something it's good to get out the house.

It's good to socialise on a weekend. I like to have the habit of saying yes to every invitation. I always have the attitude if I get invited to something that I'll always regret not going to something than actually going. If it wasn't your thing then so be it at least you tried it but at least you gave it a go. :cool:

foodie66

I think it's important to do something on a weekend night when you're working. People are always reluctant to do stuff on a weekday night and you can doss about all you like during the weekend evenings. Even if it's something quite tame like going for a meal/cinema or something it's good to get out the house.

Yeah, i almost always do something like the cinema or dinner, but i do that during the week too. But specifically going clubbing is a rare thing for me. I don't feel i;m missing out on much :pac:

I hate sitting in on saturday nights as I get restless and usually have a big thirst for beer. Its often looking forward to going out on a thursday or saturday night that gets me through the week. There is of course an odd weekend when I do look forward to sitting in and relaxing but its usually been preceded by big sessions during the week or in the previous weekends.

Ive been out at least twice a week every week since the start of october and its only going to get more frequent coming up to christmas. Bring it on!

Corvo

foodie66 wrote: »

Yeah, i almost always do something like the cinema or dinner, but i do that during the week too. But specifically going clubbing is a rare thing for me. I don't feel i;m missing out on much :pac:

Dinner can be a great way to avoid going out on the weekend. Would love to keep my money and try various places around town. Plus, its not that expensive as some top class chefs (like Warren Gillen of Cistin Eile in Wexford) really serve up some really good stuff in return for what you would pay in the local Chinese. Ok, the bill will bulk up a bit when you include wine, but you could always buy just a glass (but you want the bottle dont you? )

missbelle

BraziliaNZ wrote: »

I also get severe cases of FOMO (Fear of Missing Out), it doesn't seem to be going away as I get older either.

I suffer from this terrible affliction too

I'm 25, and still like to head out most weekends if the girls are free. I don't mind sitting in some weekends, but as I'm single and living at home, I don't particularly relish sitting in with the family :eek:
Though I'm lucky enough not to suffer from bad hangovers (usually just tired) which definitely helps :cool:

Dudess

A lot depends on how much of an old fogey you want to be/think you are and how obsessed you are with your age. Some people think they're "past it" at 23 (lol - it's definitely just in their head), others are still heading out regularly at 40.

I go out pretty much every weekend and I'm 33. Although the hangovers do get worse, that is true. I get FOMO too :pac: and don't particularly like staying in, unless it's absolutely pissing down or if I've been out the night before. On those occasions I still have to do something, like drive to a friend's or invite people over.

Only reason to make it an infrequent occurrence IMO is becoming a parent.

A relationship stops people going out...?
Ok, there's the initial rush when you just want to spend every weekend with them, and after that it does perhaps put an end to going out EVERY weekend, but it has never stopped me from going out fairly regularly still.

LeeHoffmann

I went clubbing etc regularly from ages 17-21. Less regularly from 21-23. Now, rarely. I had fun at the time but I get bored just dancing around all the time. I'm in a serious relationship and, boring as it is, I want to spend most of my free time with him. Going clubbing as a couple is crap. I go out the odd time but more for special occasions or events like birthdays and Oktoberfest. I prefer to meet up with a group of friends in somebody's house, go to rugby games & pub with friends, or keep up a house game of poker.

This is my 1,100th post by the way (missed the 1000th)...should I go out and celebrate?

Dudess

Yeah I haven't been to a nightclub (apart from one-off club nights) since I'd say 2003 - not because they're "full of youngsters" but because all the good nightclubs in Cork closed around that time, and the remaining ones are utter cack.

Late bars ftw.

kfallon

Usually have an all day session of a Saturday 4 out of every 5 weeks. Sometimes tho I just enjoy getting up on a Saturday, getting what I need in shops and then closing the front door and not seeing the outside world til Sunday or Monday. Lie on the couch watching all the football and racing that's on tv!

Both can be extremely enjoyable depending on your mood!

_feedback_

Haven't gotten out much lately.

It comes down to money!

It's a bastard, cos ya lose touch with people if you're not out at weekends, but can't help it for the moment.

kfallon

LeeHoffmann wrote: »

This is my 1,100th post by the way (missed the 1000th)...should I go out and celebrate?

No!

alwaysadub

I very rarely go out at weekends, can't afford it and have gotten used to staying in now!
When i do go out, it's just to the pub, can't put up with nightclubs anymore.

Lady Chuckles

I like staying in

Ilyana

I find the novelty of going out every week wears off pretty quickly; sometimes a night out after a few weekends in tends to be more enjoyable than if it's the fourth or fifth weekend in a row.

As for the relationship argument, being in a relationship isn't a deterrent for going out in itself (with or without your OH), but trailing around after my friends when they're on a manhunt in a club is a bit of a night killer! :pac:

naasface

I work in a late bar every fkn weekend- Thurs-Sunday.

If I do ask for time off (rare) it'll be for a big birthday of my friends' or some important family event. That's the only time I'll go 'out out'.

Then there are the magical moments when I look at my roster and I'll not be down to work on a Friday or Saturday night for one reason or another (new staff training etc).
THIS.
I'll stay in. Either cook something nice from m&s food or get an indian in. Smoke a j, few cans and catch up on the good tv I miss by working. Then fall asleep on the couch all warm and snuggly.

So the answer is no, I don't feel guilty.

cena

I don't go out at all. Had an accident in a pub once and I stay away. I just feel its a waste of money

Courageous Rabbit

I love going out! And sometimes I love staying in. If I want to go out, I go out and if I don't...well..I don't!

So some people want to stay in more than going out? Big deal.

splashthecash

Put the kids to bed...takeaway....wine with the missus...film....send her off to bed....PS3....beers!

cherryghost

elviscostello wrote: »

Haven't gotten out much lately.

It comes down to money!

It's a bastard, cos ya lose touch with people if you're not out at weekends, but can't help it for the moment.

+1 on this.

I've been tight on cash this year and tbh, I've come to enjoy my weekends in far more than nights out. Still do the odd night out once a month perhaps though.

jester77

I prefer grabbing a 6 pack and heading over to a mates house than hitting the bars. Maybe it's part of getting older

Plus €3.50 for a 6 pack vs. €15 for the pub equivalent!

Love going out and do it alot.. Bar drinking and street stall drinking is great here and it's cheap. At home, it was more about drinking in the house and then spending as little out as possible.

When it gets to the weekend, it just feels like ya have to go out.. And if ya go out Friday night, the weekend feels a lot longer.

colc1

abouttobebanned wrote: »

Going our every week, IMO, is something you do when you're 18-23. After that going out is a novelty. Especially if you're in a serious relationship. You just find more important things to spend money on.

Also you realise that you just prefer a nice quiet pint in the local. The nightlife industry is on its knees.

I think youre aging yourself too quickly..different if youre in a relationship tho...I dont think many blokes would prefer the quiet pint option at the wkd at 23 or for many years after that cant speak for women tho...as am not one

pragmatic1

I love going to the pub, gigs, parties, etc. Life is really short and mostly mundane from Mon to Fri. I dont ever want to live till the stage where I enjoy Saturday night light entertainment.

abouttobebanned

abouttobebanned wrote: »

Going our every week, IMO, is something you do when you're 18-23. After that going out is a novelty. Especially if you're in a serious relationship. You just find more important things to spend money on.

I'm nearly 27 and go out just as much and probably more now than when I was 23. I could easily be out two or even three times some weeks, all the people in my group of friends would be out at least once per week too and most are my age or older, including those in long term relationships.