Partners having sex toys

stupidusername

smash wrote: »

I'd look for it myself but don't want to be branded a complete pervert by my co-workers.

that'd be the thing to make them sure yeah?

nicowa

Those dolls are really creepy looking. Those dead eyes! :eek:

I do use a toy and while I would love to use it together he a little bit put off by the idea. Make that completly put off by the idea.

working fool

smash wrote: »

stupidusername wrote: »

and they only go up to 6 1/4"

Send them an email and tell them it's sexist considering they'll do tits whatever size a man wants

Dravokivich wrote: »

I think I've got that recorded on my UPC box. Watched it for a bit, some of it was absolutely hilarious.

Did you see the guy who has like, 10 of them? He sits them around the table and shít for dinner.... and he's actually married!

I was married once !
This guy is starting to look less strange now

smash

stupidusername wrote: »

that'd be the thing to make them sure yeah?

Well it would certainly hammer the idea home.

nicowa wrote: »

I do use a toy and while I would love to use it together he a little bit put off by the idea.

It's bigger than him isn't it...

smash

smash wrote: »

It's bigger than him isn't it...

I trust you meant bigger than his equivalant part. If it was bigger than HIM we would seriously have issues.

Odd though that the size thing bothers people. I read one post on the thread where the user said he was ok with her using toys.... until the day she produced one bigger than him and he felt like it was giving her something he couldnt and he no longer was ok with it.

This to me makes no sense at all. all the toys were giving her things he couldn't. For example I imagine he is not capable of vibrating like a vibrator. Therefore that toy was doing something he could not. To avoid getting too graphic most toys perform some function that the boyfriend likely can not.

Yet such guys are ok with all those toys, until the thing that the toy is giving that he can not is girth or length. Vibrations, unachievable angles, stimulating a greater number of points... all these are ok but once it is a matter of size then there is a problem?

Either you are ok with the toys giving her something you can not, or you are not ok with that. Why is it ok with everything except size? I just do not get it.

stupidusername

Deleted User wrote: »

I trust you meant bigger than his equivalant part. If it was bigger than HIM we would seriously have issues.

Odd though that the size thing bothers people. I read one post on the thread where the user said he was ok with her using toys.... until the day she produced one bigger than him and he felt like it was giving her something he couldnt and he no longer was ok with it.

This to me makes no sense at all. all the toys were giving her things he couldn't. For example I imagine he is not capable of vibrating like a vibrator. Therefore that toy was doing something he could not. To avoid getting too graphic most toys perform some function that the boyfriend likely can not.

that's the thing though, that's the point of the thread, to see if there is that feeling of inadequacy. if there are other things that toys can do, like vibrating etc, men may be more ok with it because they see themselves as the real thing that can't be beat. it's only a matter of being replaced is the concern. i reckon guys might be ok with toys as the foreplay but if it was a matter of her not being up for the main event because she's ok with just the toy,then that's obviously an issue.

Saila

here's one for the ladies, what do you's think about those robotic ones

like this:


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you see them in the odd redtube clip, they look awesome! if I was a girl

anyone have one, looks like it has an AI to change speeds mid session :eek:

smash

Deleted User wrote: »

This to me makes no sense at all.

Really?

So if your other half walked in with a rubber vagina and said "well it's tighter than you" or "I can get it in deeper with this" or if they got one of those real dolls with a perfect body, then you wouldn't have a problem with it? I mean, it'll never replace you but it will sure as hell make him feel better when he fúcks it!

Deleted User wrote: »

Why is it ok with everything except size? I just do not get it.

Because you're basically saying his size isn't enough, and that's something that can't be changed without invasive, embarrassing, dangerous surgery.

Dravokivich

Saila wrote: »

here's one for the ladies, what do you's think about those robotic ones

like this:


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you see them in the odd redtube clip, they look awesome! if I was a girl

anyone have one, looks like it has an AI to change speeds mid session :eek:

Don't forget them Sybians.

smash

smash wrote: »

So if your other half walked in with a rubber vagina and said "well it's tighter than you" or "I can get it in deeper with this" or if they got one of those real dolls with a perfect body, then you wouldn't have a problem with it? I mean, it'll never replace you but it will sure as hell make him feel better when he fúcks it!

I am male by the way so it would be odd if they walked in and said that to me about it being tighter

But as I said all the toys make the girls feel things that I can not make them feel, from vibrations to touching areas I can not and/or an angles I can not.

At no point have I ever felt in danger of being replaced by any of the toys. Regardless of size or function I have only ever felt the toys augment the sex life I have with the girls, not replace or threaten it.

The point I am making is just that I am confused that if theres - say - 10 toys in use, each of which can do something the guy can't, then it appears not to make sense to be ok with 9 of them and be bothered by the 10th because it is bigger than you are. In other words: Why is it ok for toys to "better" the man in everything except size.... but once it gets to size then there is a problem?

For example....

smash wrote: »

Because you're basically saying his size isn't enough, and that's something that can't be changed without invasive, embarrassing, dangerous surgery.

Then why is a vibrator not saying "Not vibrating is not enough". And do not even get me started on what the surgery to correct THAT failing might entail.

Saila

Deleted User wrote: »

Odd though that the size thing bothers people. I read one post on the thread where the user said he was ok with her using toys.... until the day she produced one bigger than him and he felt like it was giving her something he couldnt and he no longer was ok with it.

This to me makes no sense at all. all the toys were giving her things he couldn't. For example I imagine he is not capable of vibrating like a vibrator. Therefore that toy was doing something he could not. To avoid getting too graphic most toys perform some function that the boyfriend likely can not.

Yet such guys are ok with all those toys, until the thing that the toy is giving that he can not is girth or length. Vibrations, unachievable angles, stimulating a greater number of points... all these are ok but once it is a matter of size then there is a problem?

Either you are ok with the toys giving her something you can not, or you are not ok with that. Why is it ok with everything except size? I just do not get it.

these are the kind of guys that think stick cock in the hole go backwards and forward.....finish, while he thinks "fcuk yeah :cool: , and she's thinking wtf you didnt even make me cum you greedy bastard! :mad:"

:P

saa

If we were living apart not a big deal at all, living together if the partner was putting in more hours building up a relationship with their toys than with you then there is a big problem, but sure if they bring them to the bedroom and included you thats alright.

Basically its grand if toys are a supplement to real sex not real sex being a supplement to your toy time

smash

Deleted User wrote: »

but once it gets to size then there is a problem?

I guess there's the fact that men don't vibrate so that could never be a threat to anyone. But If a girl was to say to a guy that she wants a big one that will reach the place he can't, or fill her better... then she's basically saying he's inadequate. Sure the sex might still be good but it will never be great for her. That's the point where the toy becomes a replacement instead of an aid.

getz

i had one of those dolls when i worked on the oil rigs ,but when i gave it a love bite it burst and flew out of the port hole

Red Hand

It's good if they consider their partner to be a sex toy. But what happens when the batteries go?

Saila

getz wrote: »

i had one of those dolls when i worked on the oil rigs ,but when i gave it a love bite it burst and flew out of the port hole

thats not what they mean when they say blow your load

smash

smash wrote: »

I guess there's the fact that men don't vibrate so that could never be a threat to anyone. But If a girl was to say to a guy that she wants a big one that will reach the place he can't, or fill her better... then she's basically saying he's inadequate. Sure the sex might still be good but it will never be great for her. That's the point where the toy becomes a replacement instead of an aid.

I guess I am lucky then in that this knowledge does not bother me. Regardless of your size there is always going to be something you can not do - reach - stimulate etc. I realise the toys the girls use, with and without me there, or with or without each other there, are things that do stuff that I simply never will be able to.

It is not just vibrating either - I just pick that as the more obvious example - but some toys have shapes and attachments and bumps and curves and all kinds that will do things and touch things and reach things no person ever will.

I do not feel threatened or replaced by this. I know I too can do things they can not also. Our sex life included toys and they are great. Everything and everyone supplements everything and everyone else. I realise the girls can likely do things for each other I can not too but I do not feel threatened by that either. At the end of the day if they are with you it is because they want to be with you.

I am not saying guys have no good reason to feel bad about such things, I am just saying that if they do then I have no idea what those reasons are and I certainly have not experienced them. So it leaves me somewhat baffled - especially with the selective application of which things to be bothered about and which not.

smash

Deleted User wrote: »

It is not just vibrating either - I just pick that as the more obvious example - but some toys have shapes and attachments and bumps and curves and all kinds that will do things and touch things and reach things no person ever will.

I know, that's why I said that this stuff wouldn't and shouldn't bother people. A guy shouldn't feel inadequate because he doesn't vibrate, or because he doesn't have crazy curves and bumps because it's not natural. But he could be made feel inadequate because he's not big enough. Same as a girl feeling inadequate if her bf brought home a tighter or deeper rubber vagina.

The Snipe

Me and my partner both use sex toys together.. Durex

nicowa

smash wrote: »

It's bigger than him isn't it...

I think he's only seen it once, recently, by accident. It's the whole idea of them that puts him off. He's a bit - and I don't want to use the words "old-fashioned" or "prudish" but they're the only ones I can think of at the moment.

I think - and someone already said this - if you're using the toys more than sharing intimacy with your partner then there is probably a problem in the relationship.

smash

nicowa wrote: »

He's a bit - and I don't want to use the words "old-fashioned" or "prudish" but they're the only ones I can think of at the moment.

Cool, you should ask him for a strap on for Christmas and tell him you got a wacky idea you want to try.

smash

smash wrote: »

I know, that's why I said that this stuff wouldn't and shouldn't bother people. A guy shouldn't feel inadequate because he doesn't vibrate, or because he doesn't have crazy curves and bumps because it's not natural. But he could be made feel inadequate because he's not big enough. Same as a girl feeling inadequate if her bf brought home a tighter or deeper rubber vagina.

So essentially what you appear to be saying is that it is not what the toy can do that they feel inadequate against... but that some toys indicate they want something that maybe another guy could perform better. The toy itself is not the issue, but the guys feeling of inadequacy towards other men, which is being vicariously stimulated via the toy.

That would at least make some sense but again thankfully it is not something I have experienced, and I am far from "well hung" myself and seem to be slap bang on what has recently been reports as "average" for this country. Even when toys bigger than I are used I simply have never felt cause to feel in any way bad. Maybe it is just me or I am somehow luckier than others.

smash

Deleted User wrote: »

So essentially what you appear to be saying is that it is not what the toy can do that they feel inadequate against... but that some toys indicate they want something that maybe another guy could perform better. The toy itself is not the issue, but the guys feeling of inadequacy towards other men, which is being vicariously stimulated via the toy.

Exactly.

nicowa

nicowa wrote: »

I think - and someone already said this - if you're using the toys more than sharing intimacy with your partner then there is probably a problem in the relationship.

Possible. Or the person themselves. It does not always have to be the relationship.

Sex, as I said before, is not easy. If it is you are doing it wrong. It takes time, effort, energy and more.

People can genuinely feel horny but not feel up to what is involved in sex. That is where toys, mastrubation and porn come in for many.

However if this is happening a lot there might be medical or depression issues influencing the persons energy levels. As contradictory as it sounds people can be horny as hell but not be up for sex.

Of course as you say it could be a relationship issue - but it is always worth exploring physical conditions too. Depression, bad diet, bad levels of excercise and more can all lead to high sex drive but low actual desire to have real sex.

smash

smash wrote: »

Exactly.

Oh well. I can not imagine what it must be like to feel that way. I know I am smack back right on the Irish average and theres likely lots of guys bigger than I am in that regard... but despite some of the toys the girls use alone, together or with me being larger than I am, I have never felt like this means they would like to be with a bigger guy.

Then again so far in life I seem to be immune to jealousy and am not sure I have ever experienced it, so maybe that part of my brain simply does not function.

It is heartening to see the results of the poll though and that my inability to be jealous or threatened by other guys does not mean I am weird in my being ok with sex toys. Seems the majority of other guys are too.

Chuck Stone

This turned from a right laugh of a thread to a completely civilised and mature debate.

FWIW I've gone out with a couple of girls who've used them and found it a turn on if anything.

As for a big thick one? Well if she was into it I say go for it. I don't think I'd feel too threatened by a big lump of rubber tbh*.





*Not unless it started attacking my bum-bum of it's own accord.

LighterGuy

Chuck Stone wrote: »

This turned from a right laugh of a thread to a completely civilised and mature debate.

This thread needs more me.

Professey Chin

smash wrote: »

I guess there's the fact that men don't vibrate so that could never be a threat to anyone. But If a girl was to say to a guy that she wants a big one that will reach the place he can't, or fill her better... then she's basically saying he's inadequate. Sure the sex might still be good but it will never be great for her. That's the point where the toy becomes a replacement instead of an aid.

Get me a case of red bull and ill prove that wrong :cool:

Chuck Stone

LighterGuy wrote: »

This thread needs more me.

Sure does.

I was sore from laughing last night.

You description of the chewed lips LOL

Classic stuff.

Svetti Arss

whatdoicare wrote: »

It totally desensitises you down there - it actually makes it harder to climax naturally. Took days to get back to normal when I used one. That was my experience anyways. Never again.

Anyways a vibrator/dildo just never seems to hit those spots in the right way.....obviously it also can't do the other nice stuff that only a fella can. :P

Yeah like buy a round of drinks for you and your mates..

orourkeda

I cant see the big deal what she shoves up her fanny when shes ****.

Once its not unhealthy of course then its all good

Svetti Arss

OP there’s a toy show on TV tonight that might enlighten you. Think its on RTE1.

Svetti Arss

orourkeda wrote: »

Sh needs to satisfy herself somehow. I wont be doing it for her

There's an easy way to do that. Just clamp on and hum for 5 minutes and you’ll be getting sunday roasts for the remainder of the week. ;-)

orourkeda

Svetti Arss wrote: »

There's an easy way to do that. Just clamp on and hum for 5 minutes and you’ll be getting sunday roasts for the remainder of the week. ;-)

There ye go.

stupidusername

Svetti Arss wrote: »

There's an easy way to do that. Just clamp on and hum for 5 minutes and you’ll be getting sunday roasts for the remainder of the week. ;-)

using the word clamp makes it sound painful

Solnskaya

I was making a machine for work, and it happened to end up looking like the worlds most awesome sex toy(wasn't intended). I decided to test the theory, and yes, apparently it is the worlds most awesome sex toy. I now have a dilemma- do I jack in work and start selling "the worlds most awesome sex toy", or do I forget about it? Problem is, it would cost about €500. Maybe €500 is too much for a robo-ride, maybe not. Anyway, I've no issues with women using toys, whatever does it for you, all's good. Why the feck would you have a problem with your partner enjoying herself, as long as you are the only fella she is enjoying herself with? Maybe I am odd in that, but whatever floats her boat, it's all good.

flutterflye

Solnskaya wrote: »

I was making a machine for work, and it happened to end up looking like the worlds most awesome sex toy(wasn't intended). I decided to test the theory, and yes, apparently it is the worlds most awesome sex toy. I now have a dilemma- do I jack in work and start selling "the worlds most awesome sex toy", or do I forget about it? Problem is, it would cost about €500. Maybe €500 is too much for a robo-ride, maybe not. Anyway, I've no issues with women using toys, whatever does it for you, all's good. Why the feck would you have a problem with your partner enjoying herself, as long as you are the only fella she is enjoying herself with? Maybe I am odd in that, but whatever floats her boat, it's all good.

Lol!!
Are you saying that you made a machine for work, and then fcuked it?!!

Solnskaya

flutterflye wrote: »

Lol!!
Are you saying that you made a machine for work, and then fcuked it?!!

Nah!:D I made a machine for work, and when it was done, it just looked like a f#cking machine! I used to jokingly call it the orgasmatron, and everyone that looked at it said it looked like some kind of sex-toy(it was meant to do somthing else altogether!) Apparently, ahem, it is the ultimate ride, acording to consumer research:D I was not the consumer:D I'd love to sell it, but I'd be morto!

Randomer.

Deleted User wrote: »

At no point have I ever felt in danger of being replaced by any of the toys.

Yeah but you somehow managed to get two women to be your girlfriends at the same time. :P Surely you can at least picture it being a possibility that , for normal men.. the idea that their girlfriend loves to use a fake penis that is bigger than his , to be a little worrying for the guy.

TBH I dunno if it would worry me or not personally, but I can certainly see it being extremely obviouse that its highly likely this would make a lot of guys uncomfortable.

Solnskaya wrote: »

Nah! I made a machine for work, and when it was done, it just looked like a f#cking machine! I used to jokingly call it the orgasmatron, and everyone that looked at it said it looked like some kind of sex-toy(it was meant to do somthing else altogether!) Apparently, ahem, it is the ultimate ride, acording to consumer research I was not the consumer I'd love to sell it, but I'd be morto!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iPUi8LmRkns

:pac:

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Hate when they do that.

billybudd

I think its effective and productive and especially when i have a good book i want to read.

Although its a bit unsettling when i hear noises from her that i dont usually hear.

LaVail

billybudd wrote: »

I think its effective and productive and especially when i have a good book i want to read.

Although its a bit unsettling when i hear noises from her that i dont usually hear.

Indeed

Randomer.

Randomer. wrote: »

Yeah but you somehow managed to get two women to be your girlfriends at the same time. :P Surely you can at least picture it being a possibility that , for normal men.. the idea that their girlfriend loves to use a fake penis that is bigger than his , to be a little worrying for the guy.

My ego prefers to think of it as they somehow managed to get me

Yes of course I can picture it. The issue I had trouble with is that size is the only thing that bothers some of them. If the toy is more X than him then it is ok for all values of X except "bigger". I think us guys have been a little too well trained to be size obsessed.

The girls and I use toys all the time - and they use them alone and on each other - and at no point have I felt threatened or jealous. I have my uses too and no toy can do some of the things I can just like I can never do some of the things some toys can. At least not without some upgrades that would make even the Million Dollar Man jealous.

Super orgasms.... we have the technologyyyyyyy.....

smash

Solnskaya wrote: »

Nah!:D I made a machine for work, and when it was done, it just looked like a f#cking machine! I used to jokingly call it the orgasmatron, and everyone that looked at it said it looked like some kind of sex-toy(it was meant to do somthing else altogether!) Apparently, ahem, it is the ultimate ride, acording to consumer research:D I was not the consumer:D I'd love to sell it, but I'd be morto!

So basically you made a sybian...

cruiser178

Solnskaya wrote: »

Nah!:D I made a machine for work, and when it was done, it just looked like a f#cking machine! I used to jokingly call it the orgasmatron, and everyone that looked at it said it looked like some kind of sex-toy(it was meant to do somthing else altogether!) Apparently, ahem, it is the ultimate ride, acording to consumer research:D I was not the consumer:D I'd love to sell it, but I'd be morto!

You cant come on here telling us you built the worlds greatest sex machine and not show us some kind of diagram. Ive got a shed full of tools, wouldn't mind a crack at it my self.

Oh ya, does it have a flux capacitor? I could be short one of those.

Solnskaya

It has become my "Plan B", for when all the non-blushy work dries up!

Solnskaya

smash wrote: »

So basically you made a sybian...

Nah, Sybians are for pussies....no, wait, what I mean is.. ahhh, feck it, mines way better(and way more portable!):D

stevethesatguy

http://www.safesex.ie/index.php?route=product/category&path=48

Plenty of sex dolls here