The Online Dating Thread Part II **Mod Warning** Read First Post/or Post 7389

VinLieger

Logged in to see 1 new message flashing at me, whats this have i got a reply?

Of course i havent its for another stupid ****ing singles night that i couldnt give a **** about but thanks for getting my hopes up

Captain Havoc

Viewed me is back working

finipops

Captain Havoc wrote: »

Viewed me is back working

I know it works on the android app but you mean it's back on the site in general? Anyway i hope it's true but i'll check later on.

Captain Havoc

finipops wrote: »

I know it works on the android app but you mean it's back on the site in general? Anyway i hope it's true but i'll check later on.

Yeah on the general site

finipops

JimBob777 wrote: »

why did you go on the date then? did you not know she had a kid beforehand?

I did know she had a child alright but when i was talking in person to her she said her kid is only four months old! She's nice but i don't think i want to get got up in any of that at the present time.

Captain Havoc wrote: »

Yeah on the general site

Cheers for that.

Dolly Daydreams

hmmm has anyone been told 'i love you' before on a dating website? :eek:

GrumPy

Been scoping out POF again today for the first real time since that girl I was dating for a while. Unfortunately, almost every profile is either:

A - Not filled in "lol, dunno what to put here so just message me"

or

B - "Just normal gal, like music and drinking with my gurls at de weekend, luv goin' out wit dem it's mad buzz. Doin' hairdressin'/make-up in college luv it, don't message me if yur a weirdo lollollol wb bbz xoxox"

Have I been looking at the wrong section or something? :pac:
Finding it near impossible to locate a girl with a completed and/or interesting/intelligent profile. Profiles still seem generally better on okcupid, but it's like tumbleweed compared to activity on POF.

Samich

GrumPy wrote: »

Been scoping out POF again today for the first real time since that girl I was dating for a while. Unfortunately, almost every profile is either:

A - Not filled in "lol, dunno what to put here so just message me"

or

B - "Just normal gal, like music and drinking with my gurls at de weekend, luv goin' out wit dem it's mad buzz. Doin' hairdressin'/make-up in college luv it, don't message me if yur a weirdo lollollol wb bbz xoxox"

Have I been looking at the wrong section or something? :pac:
Finding it near impossible to locate a girl with a completed and/or interesting/intelligent profile. Profiles still seem generally better on okcupid, but it's like tumbleweed compared to activity on POF.

Is it just profiles with pictures you're looking at? I find there's more well written profiles with pictureless ones sometimes

alibab

Back in this game again said I would give it another shot as real life romance didn't work out . I joined match.com as pof just was not for me . I still have my POF profile but no pic so not expecting responses . I have had a few winks on match.com and wondering what the protocol regarding them is . I am still very wary so treading very carefully . One guy who winked me has messaged me and seems ok the rest are just winks .

Dolly Daydreams that's a new one on me think I would be running the other way unless you have had a lot of dates and meets .

Dolly Daydreams

Samich wrote: »

Is it just profiles with pictures you're looking at? I find there's more well written profiles with pictureless ones sometimes

Maybe because the ones with pictures think that's enough to get them by :pac:

Dolly Daydreams

alibab wrote: »

Back in this game again said I would give it another shot as real life romance didn't work out . I joined match.com as pof just was not for me . I still have my POF profile but no pic so not expecting responses . I have had a few winks on match.com and wondering what the protocol regarding them is . I am still very wary so treading very carefully . One guy who winked me has messaged me and seems ok the rest are just winks .

Dolly Daydreams that's a new one on me think I would be running the other way unless you have had a lot of dates and meets .

None at all :eek: Was just explaining earlier today that we haven't actually met yet, just chatting for what seems a lifetime (well since end of Jan I think it was) I tried to put it down to my irresistable personality, but I don't think that's the answer

I think the winks is the easier option to the 'hi' I get about 5 times a day :rolleyes:

Samich

Dolly Daydreams wrote: »

None at all :eek: Was just explaining earlier today that we haven't actually met yet, just chatting for what seems a lifetime (well since end of Jan I think it was) I tried to put it down to my irresistable personality, but I don't think that's the answer

I think the winks is the easier option to the 'hi' I get about 5 times a day :rolleyes:

What age fella is he?

Dolly Daydreams

Samich wrote: »

What age fella is he?

34, could be excused if he was 18 maybe, but 34 :rolleyes:

awec

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alibab

Dolly Daydreams its a bit strange alright I would be very freaked out by that . But as you said you could be just irresistible lol . Any plans to meet him as you are chatting since jan .

Dolly Daydreams

awec wrote: »

Probably a poor choice of words on his part, but maybe he has just fallen for you?

he's said some things that would suggest he has but I've been around the block a few times before so just not sure. Hate to rule anything out but confused.com all the same

awec

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KamiKazeKitten

Dolly Daydreams wrote: »

hmmm has anyone been told 'i love you' before on a dating website? :eek:

That's a new one to me! I did get a "will you marry me?" completely out of the blue yesterday though :eek:




Everyone got their wedding hats ready? :pac:

Dolly Daydreams

awec wrote: »

I see where you are coming from, I was just trying to put another potential spin on it.

Still, gotta feel good that someone has apparently fallen for you!

I wouldn't take my word for it though! :pac:

ha ha it would be nice to think like that alright. I've not been on my profile in a while and just had a look he's still actively on it. So I'll take what he says with a pinch of salt.. As the phrase "I don't want to talk to anybody else on this but you" has been said to me by him as well :rolleyes:

Dolly Daydreams

alibab wrote: »

Dolly Daydreams its a bit strange alright I would be very freaked out by that . But as you said you could be just irresistible lol . Any plans to meet him as you are chatting since jan .

Sorry only saw this now, yeah but not for a bit yet.. Work commitments and what have ya.. Slowly losing interest

awec

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Dolly Daydreams

awec wrote: »

So cynical!

You're so right Awec. I really am such a cynical person Wish I wasn't it would make things in the dating world A LOT easier

awec

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Samich

If someone says they don't want a bf, but have fun, go on a few dates and maybe more. What does this mean? Also she adds in wants to meet people?

Dolly Daydreams

Samich wrote: »

If someone says they don't want a bf, but have fun, go on a few dates and maybe more. What does this mean? Also she adds in wants to meet people?

She could be keeping her cards close to her chest.. Maybe she's had undying love declared after one date and wants to see how the date goes? Have you 'looking for a relationship' on yours?

Dolly Daydreams

awec wrote: »

Trust me, it wouldn't make it any easier! It's hard no matter how you approach it.

Though again, I'm far from an expert! :pac::pac::pac:

Well me neither, I like to have the damage limitation at a minimum. I suppose we all do eh

awec

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Starokan

Dolly Daydreams wrote: »

Sorry only saw this now, yeah but not for a bit yet.. Work commitments and what have ya.. Slowly losing interest

It seems strange that he couldn't meet even for a few hours on a saturday or something.

Are all the conversations by text or do you skype, or speak on phone etc (sorry if that's been asked)

I shall be diving into the world of online dating in the next couple days. Looking forward to it. There is great reading in this thread, so fingers crossed ill have a story or two to add to it.

Dolly Daydreams

awec wrote: »

Ah keep the chin up Dolly!

Sure you've got a guy who's fallen for you and told you so already!

If that was the case though, he probably wouldn't be still logging on :rolleyes:

Starokan wrote: »

It seems strange that he couldn't meet even for a few hours on a saturday or something.

Are all the conversations by text or do you skype, or speak on phone etc (sorry if that's been asked)

I shall be diving into the world of online dating in the next couple days. Looking forward to it. There is great reading in this thread, so fingers crossed ill have a story or two to add to it.

It's been text, no phone call. I have to say I'm sh*** on the phone, much better after meeting someone in person. It came up about during the week, but I'm full time in work and nothing about the weekend is suggested yet. All I know is it's finished (his work deadline) mid-april and then supposedly we're meeting. Losing heart and fast. Don't know if I have a right to be peed off but the whole thing kind of sounds a little sour to be hoenst. If i stepped outside and offered advice I'd tell 'me' to move on

Starokan

Dolly Daydreams wrote: »

It's been text, no phone call. I have to say I'm sh*** on the phone, much better after meeting someone in person. It came up about during the week, but I'm full time in work and nothing about the weekend is suggested yet. All I know is it's finished (his work deadline) mid-april and then supposedly we're meeting. Losing heart and fast. Don't know if I have a right to be peed off but the whole thing kind of sounds a little sour to be hoenst. If i stepped outside and offered advice I'd tell 'me' to move on

Hey who knows it could be case off he is really up the walls with work, i think you should tell him you would like to meet earlier than April to see how you both get on, suggest a day time meeting just for coffee or something. Is there much of a distance between you both.

Samich

Dolly Daydreams wrote: »

She could be keeping her cards close to her chest.. Maybe she's had undying love declared after one date and wants to see how the date goes? Have you 'looking for a relationship' on yours?

She's a newbie :P And yes I do, not interested it seems

G-Money

Nothing happening here still. I axed my POF profile a few days ago and re-jigged my OKC profile earlier. I've mailed a few girls on OKC, one was just sending me curteousy replies which weren't going anywhere. Another girl sent one reply and sounded half interested, I responded and silence was her reply.

Been blanked by the rest.

Encountered yet another, "oh, I don't think I'm ready to meet anyone" person. Seriously, if that's the case, don't go on a dating site.

G-Money

Deleted User wrote: »

Encountered yet another, "oh, I don't think I'm ready to meet anyone" person. Seriously, if that's the case, don't go on a dating site.

Ah now, that's a bit harsh. How else was she supposed to boost her ego?? :rolleyes:

Dolly Daydreams

Starokan wrote: »

Hey who knows it could be case off he is really up the walls with work, i think you should tell him you would like to meet earlier than April to see how you both get on, suggest a day time meeting just for coffee or something. Is there much of a distance between you both.

Yes, you're right, we got a bit 'fruity' though so maybe I made myself my own worst enemy and turning it sexual :cool:

Samich wrote: »

She's a newbie :P And yes I do, not interested it seems

Brush it off so eh?

G-Money wrote: »

Nothing happening here still. I axed my POF profile a few days ago and re-jigged my OKC profile earlier. I've mailed a few girls on OKC, one was just sending me curteousy replies which weren't going anywhere. Another girl sent one reply and sounded half interested, I responded and silence was her reply.

Been blanked by the rest.

Deleted User wrote: »

Encountered yet another, "oh, I don't think I'm ready to meet anyone" person. Seriously, if that's the case, don't go on a dating site.

I don't get that at all? why do they bother, to get an ego boost?

G-Money wrote: »

Ah now, that's a bit harsh. How else was she supposed to boost her ego?? :rolleyes:

ermm you got to it first

stargazer 68

Samich wrote: »

Any chance the pics were fake and someone reported him and account got deleted?

Could be but Im sure he would have used a better looking blokes pics!

Had a couple of emails from someone yesterday - general chit chat. Then he said his business has folded but I was not to feel sorry for him (clearly doesn't know me! :rolleyes:) as he was starting it up again. Asked if I was happy with my life. So I said yeah I guess so. Then I got 'that just sounds content not happy' and he went on and on. Seriously I don't need anyone analysing me!! :rolleyes:

Honey-ec

Have a date tomorrow Been chatting to this guy for about two weeks and he seems really nice, so fingers crossed!

On the other side of the coin, I got a message off another guy I'd been chatting to last night. When I hadn't responded within 15 minutes, he sent me another really nasty one. Dog's abuse, I got! So, welcome to Blocksville, dude!

KTRIC

Dovies wrote: »

Could be but Im sure he would have used a better looking blokes pics!

Had a couple of emails from someone yesterday - general chit chat. Then he said his business has folded but I was not to feel sorry for him (clearly doesn't know me! :rolleyes:) as he was starting it up again. Asked if I was happy with my life. So I said yeah I guess so. Then I got 'that just sounds content not happy' and he went on and on. Seriously I don't need anyone analysing me!! :rolleyes:

That would be a biiiiiigggggg turn off for me. Can't stand people analysing me, even if they think they know me. I've called it a day on a couple of relationships started through online dating because of it.

That_Guy

Honey-ec wrote: »

On the other side of the coin, I got a message off another guy I'd been chatting to last night. When I hadn't responded within 15 minutes, he sent me another really nasty one. Dog's abuse, I got! So, welcome to Blocksville, dude!

What is the point in that? Seriously? Some people have issues.

I treat POF/OKC the way I do a text message. If I'm sent a text message I'm assuming it's not that important and that I can reply back at my leisure.

A phone call on the other hand must be quite important if it requires my immediate attention.

In other words... Tell him to fack off.

KyussBishop

Fewcifur wrote: »

Hah, found this profile and had to share:

I lik to go out wit my friends hav a laugh, hav a little boy , so lik to spend my time wit him, lik to go d gym nd also lik shopping.lik all sorts of music ,lik to go on holidays nd luv to spend time wit d girls nd Jst hav a laugh!!

My god.

Heh, the style of writing and spelling makes me think of the opening credits of Monty Python and the Holy Grail:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6674ozx16D0

Defiler Of The Coffin

Very rare but a stark reminder that there certainly are some psychos out there.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/relationships/online-dating/9153332/Online-dating-warning-after-woman-raped-and-beaten.html

Online dating warning after woman raped and beaten

Police have issued a stark warning to internet daters, after a woman was viciously beaten and raped by a man she met online.

The 27-year-old was left “unrecognisable” after the attack, which happened just four days after she began speaking to Peter Ramsey, 26, on plentyoffish.com.

The pair went on a first date but, after she declined to kiss him, he knocked her to the ground, ripped off her tights and raped her.

Inner London Crown Court heard Ramsey caused 21 different injuries, knocking out her front teeth and leaving her fearing she would die.

He has been found guilty of rape, wounding with intent to cause grievous bodily harm and theft following the attack, on August 27 last year.

The officer in charge of investigating the case, DC Richard Huggins, has now warned other internet daters to be cautious, and “thoroughly vet” the people they intend to meet.

He said: “He [Ramsey] posed a severe risk to other women on that internet site, which he had been using for a number of years.”

The woman, who cannot be named for legal reasons, told the court she met Ramsey on plentyoffish.com, which claims to be “responsible for more dates and more relationships than any other dating site”.

She said: “'He seemed like a nice guy. The date was going very well. I thought we had a lot in common.”

The pair met for drinks at 7pm in Brixton, south London, and went for dinner before hailing a cab to the woman’s flat in Clapham Common.
But when she pulled back from a kiss at the front door, she said, he “switched”.

The court heard Ramsey pinned her against the wall in the communal entrance hall, punching her repeatedly in the face until she slumped to the ground.

When she tried to scream for help, he put his hand over her mouth and pinched her nose shut, while continuing to hit her with the other fist.

Leaving her bleeding, he stole her handbag and used her Oyster travelcard to board a nightbus and escape.

She said: “I thought I was going to die.”

Once Ramsey had left, she managed to call for help and was discovered by a member of the public.

Her own mother, who heard the screams, came out of her home moments later to find her disfigured daughter.

The next day, Ramsey attempted to call the woman and left two voicemail messages telling her he was sorry, he had sobered up and felt something had happened that “wasn't good”.

He was arrested a week later thanks to a DNA match and CCTV footage showing him on a bus near the scene.

Initially he told police the sex had been consensual and that he had witnessed her arguing with another man who had beaten her.

During the trial, he told jurors had been out with “hundreds of women” and did not need to rape because he could “get anyone he wanted”.

He was found unanimously guilty following a trial and is now awaiting sentence on April 27.

Judge Patricia Lees told him: “It seems to me the violence meted out was frankly horrific and wholly unnecessary to commit the offence of rape.

“You face an extremely lengthy sentence of imprisonment.”

Following the trial, DC Richard Huggins said: “I feel relieved that somebody like Ramsey who had access via the internet to so many women, is now safely behind bars.

“This woman was unrecognisable after the attack, compared to the woman who gave evidence.

“'I have been in the police for 14 years and these were some of the most shocking facial injuries I have ever seen.”

KyussBishop

Christ awful stuff; rare indeed, but still a serious reminder to be careful.

That_Guy

That's a fairly disturbing article.

The bit that made me angry though was this:

The next day, Ramsey attempted to call the woman and left two voicemail messages telling her he was sorry, he had sobered up and felt something had happened that “wasn't good”.

What a dick.

Defiler Of The Coffin

That_Guy wrote: »

That's a fairly disturbing article.

The bit that made me angry though was this:



What a dick.

Indeed.

If the crime wasn't so serious I nearly would have laughed at this bit:

During the trial, he told jurors had been out with “hundreds of women” and did not need to rape because he could “get anyone he wanted”.

Absolute scum, should be hung from a tree.

Semele

I had a lovely date on Sunday! It reminded me of how fun dating can be when you actually meet someone you get on well with- there were no uncomfortable silences, it never felt like I was having to make an effort... There was kissing too:D I think we're going to meet again but despite a text or two yesterday there hasn't been any mention of it. I'll suggest it myself if he doesn't today though. We both ended up being quite drunk and I think both a little embarassed about it now. It was only because we didn't want the evening to end that we kept getting "just one more" drink in...

With delicious irony, considering my last post on here, we ended up breaking into* a park!

*In a climbing the fence rather than actual vandalism sense, I hasten to add.

Mental Mickey

Not a sausage.

hollypink

Defiler Of The Coffin wrote: »

Very rare but a stark reminder that there certainly are some psychos out there.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/relationships/online-dating/9153332/Online-dating-warning-after-woman-raped-and-beaten.html

That's horrifying, poor woman. I'm not sure why the focus on online dating though; I mean, couldn't that happen if you met someone in a pub and went on a date? And as for this advice:

The officer in charge of investigating the case, DC Richard Huggins, has now warned other internet daters to be cautious, and “thoroughly vet” the people they intend to meet.

how do you "thoroughly vet" somebody when you're going on a date?

Dolly Daydreams

Honey-ec wrote: »

Have a date tomorrow Been chatting to this guy for about two weeks and he seems really nice, so fingers crossed!

ooohhhh can't wait to hear all about it

Defiler Of The Coffin

hollypink wrote: »

That's horrifying, poor woman. I'm not sure why the focus on online dating though; I mean, couldn't that happen if you met someone in a pub and went on a date?

That's true, but I'm sure he was just reminding people to be safe in general.

hollypink wrote: »

how do you "thoroughly vet" somebody when you're going on a date?

Good question! I would say if you have a gut feeling that something isn't right then don't go ahead with it but it did seem the girl in the article enjoyed the actual date up to the attack. You couldn't be properly vetting every single potential date, not unless you were loaded, and then you probably wouldn't need a dating site anyway!

I didn't mean to derail the thread with that article, I've recently signed up to a dating site but it turns out I mightn't even need it at all! Don't want to jinx things!

roro_utd

What do people generally find are the best websites for online dating? I'm on one called tagged but it's full of weirdos (I'm in my early twenties)